Help

Hi I am new on here and am looking for advise. My story is 2 / half years ago I met a guy we started seeing each other texting all the time after 6 months I became suspicious that I hadn't been to his home we argued and he admitted he was in a relationship with a son but they lived separate lives. I ended it immediately 2 weeks later he text me told me he had split up from his partner I refused to see him but we spoke by text for around a month I began to believe that he had split up and went to his home after being invited and yes it was true they had split up. So we began seeing each other again now I knew for definite he was very much single. At first it was occasional meeting up but for the last 8 months we have seen each other most days /nights i have stayed at his we cook together and he opens up to me about his troubles we do everything together except wen he has his son and then i leave him to it as his ec doesnt want any other woman involved in their sons life and at the moment i appreciate this. We have been extremely close and I fell in love with him and have wanted more however he has always told me we are best friends sometimes it's like he loves me then it's like he pushes me away says his bad relationship with his ex has left him unable to comitt or love anyone. He tells me there are others that message him and I get very jealous well as few times I have noticed him on messenger wen I haven't been with him and have asked him if he is speaking to other women his reply was if someone messages him he will not ignore them. Last night (he has his sonso I'm not with him) I saw him on messenger and sent him a text to say I was done with him and his need to talk to other women he sent me a message back this morning "get this in your head we are not In a relationship I will message who I want and I do not appreciate drunken texts I do not want to be loved and you need to keep your emotions to yourself if you want to remain friends (yes I was pissed) it was a verbal attack back from him via text. Let me elaborate this guy is so gentle but selfish I have given him all the compliments sympathy sex love and attention he needed once I knew he was single. He has told me he loves me wen drunk only to be told the next day "take no notice I love everybdy wen I am drunk" he always introduces me as his "friend" which annoys me but he says that's all he can offer. Well anyway after the message I got back today in reply to my message last night what shall I do now ? He's never promised me a future but his actions have sed different.

Well he is clearly not interested in a relationship and someone can like your company, however not see a future with you. If he tells you he doesn't want anything more, believe him. You'll hurt yourself more if you continue. After dedicating ypurself to anyone you'll feel like its unfair and try to stick it out, but how much pain are you willing to endure??

This man has made it clear that he is single and so are you. You are nice to be around in his opinion, but he doesn't want more. Accept that and move on. Or don't and be stuck.

It appears you've chosen to ignore all of the red flags here. Sounds like this guys has been very direct about his life and his intentions (or lack there of) with you. Also he's coming out of a separation and is newly single, so trying to lock him down into a commitment isn't smart right now.

You're basically a friends with benefit. Sounds like you may have assumed more about your situation though. If you're looking for a healthy relationship with a man, this guy has already admitted he can't give you what you want.

Sounds like you want a relationship, so just let him know, "Hey this has been fun, but I'm looking for a commitment. No hard feelings, but it's probably best that I move on."