How to break up with a Leo woman

Quick overview:

1. I'm an Aqua Male

2. She's a Leo Woman

3. We date (7-8 months or so), but not committed or official

4. I just moved 800 miles away

5. Now she decides to become clingy and needy.

6. Now she wants the commitment and official Title.

I'm not trying to totally remove her from my life, she is great and awesome.
I just want to let her know that what she wants isn't going to happen, without totally being the Aquarius non feeling Jerk that you Lionesses love so much. 😉

I agree with the other posts. Be as straightforward as possible, and if you really don't think it will EVER go anywhere, make sure that when you break things off you're COMPLETELY clear on that. Don't string her along. I'm a leo, and sometimes the hopeless romantic in me tends to hold onto that single shred of hope that could still be there.

I'm sure your Leo will be fine in time. prrringLeo is right.. we may take it hard, but we usually do bounce right back, or at least give the appearance that we have.

well just to let everyone know....
I have enough respect for her to not keep her as a friend with benefits.
I would like to stay friends, thats what I mean by keep her in my life.

and I know we aren't official, but It wouldn't be fair to her or me to go through the motions if we are over 800 miles away.

Good advice to those who gave it to me instead of trying to judge my motives. 😉



to proverbs:

of course we have emotions like everyone else we are just more logical about them and choose to show them with appropriate response.

and for the most part Aquas are blunt and say what they mean, unless they are trying to read others impulsive emotions. ;

oh and why so much resentment toward Aquas hmmm?
I asked an honest question no need to attack.

Airbender,

She'll probably take the hint once you've been in your new place for awhile and things don't seem to progress. It can't hurt just to state your intentions of being just friends with her when she does try to bring up the whole title thing. Be careful not to use the long distance excuse as I'm sure being a Leo and such a risktaker, she could just pack up her things and move to where you are expecting a full-on relationship. Just be honest?

I know! You ask for advice and get your head bitten off. Not only that but you're presumed to have a hidden agenda. Incredible. I think someone needs to take a chill pill.

You know, I've noticed this on other boards, not so much here on the leo board -- I guess because I'm not over here enough 🙂

Well I just did it.

I told here that she is a great person and that are time together was awesome, but I can't give her the attention she deserves. And it would be unfair to her for me to waste her time by not being up front with her.

she started crying....
then she told me that she is worth it, and the best thing that could happen to me.
I agreed because I know Leo's with your pride. 😉

but kept communicating that I know she can handle a long distance thing but really know that I cant.


so she says she will give a few days to think it over and she will call me then to see if I changed my mind.


what should my next move be?

well just to let everyone know....
I have enough respect for her to not keep her as a friend with benefits.
I would like to stay friends, thats what I mean by keep her in my life.

and I know we aren't official, but It wouldn't be fair to her or me to go through the motions if we are over 800 miles away.

Good advice to those who gave it to me instead of trying to judge my motives.

I assumed you wanted a leo's advice but why not, I'll take a stab at this. My theory on long-term relationships is that they never really workout because its hard to be with someone whose more the 2 or three hours away, let alone 800 miles or more away.

I think many were confused when you said, the relationship wasn't official or noncommital -- did you mean you haven't been dating for a long time? Thats the way I took it. However, you've been dating long enough to like the woman and you don't know how she will react if you just say, "its over", right?

I think you should just be honest enough to where is a plain understanding that you two will have to be just friends because anything more will make things way too complicated and we all know complications lead to more problems.

If you two weren't officially,boyfriend and girlfriend, then try to be friends -- email, facebook, etc. It will probably be bothersome for a while because you care about her and respest -- you wouldn't have asked this question if you didn't consider her feelings 🙂.

If this doesn't work and things seem to be getting more complex, slowly ease your way out of her life. Inform her of this first, even if you protests -- tell her plainly and then do it.

I'm a girl that like honesty, so I would appreciate, respect and have more good-feelings towards you in the end if you were do things this way instead of disappearing.

Well I just did it.

I told here that she is a great person and that are time together was awesome, but I can't give her the attention she deserves. And it would be unfair to her for me to waste her time by not being up front with her.

she started crying....
then she told me that she is worth it, and the best thing that could happen to me.
I agreed because I know Leo's with your pride.

but kept communicating that I know she can handle a long distance thing but really know that I cant.


so she says she will give a few days to think it over and she will call me then to see if I changed my mind.


what should my next move be?

Oh dear ... I'm not a leo woman so I guess I have to speak from a 'girl''s prospective. She's taking it hard, but it seems that things were not as casual as you let on 😉 You probably care about her just as much but you know thing will not work. Read my post before this one, I think the last couple of sentences should involve your next move. Like I stated in the previous post, I like honesty, even if it hurts. I can look a guy in the eyes who is upfront but I can't look at a guy who played games -- even if I indirectly want him to play the games (i.e. keeping a relationship going that will not work). No, you know she is a good person and you have to best intentions, if she will not listen, then slowly ease yourself away. Give her reasons why, but ease yourself away because she will not leave you alone if you don't.

oh and why so much resentment toward Aquas hmmm?
I asked an honest question no need to attack.

awww, I don't think the ladies were trying to attack you, I just think the words came out a bit fiery. ahahaha, it's hard to convey emotion through typing lol!!!

well i think its best you be honest with her.Just dont walk out of her life like that she will be crushed.And the only reason why she"s becoming clingy is because her pride wont allow her to realise that it really is a rap for the friendship.I been there felt that.I tell whoever im dating to keep it real.

"Good advice to those who gave it to me instead of trying to judge my motives"

Strange - how can anyone provide good advice w/o understanding your motives ? And somehow those motives are still not clear. BTW, a leo can actually be the best thing that can happen to you - but you may be looking for more variety and fun.

Hello Choco ...Am doing ok - maybe U didn't notice that I was always arnd 🙂

LOL...No I dont write much here coz U guys are ultra-sensitive. BTW, I just met one lioness whoz my flatmate's friend and it turned out to be a fantastic experience - her mannerisms were so disarming. Enchanting, simply.

Well it is done.

We talked last night, she thought I was using the long distance as an excuse for not being with her. I assured her it was not, I still wanted to be friends, she wants all or nothing. So we now have nothing

on a good note she told me that If I should change my mind, don't be prideful and give her a call. I let her know the feeling was mutual

I see her point and yours. You both are being true to yourselves. She wanted a relationship; you were being "realistic" in that you knew it would be almost impossible to sustain the type of relationship (it appears) she was looking for if you were in different states.
At least you were honest and didn't just string her along to simply appease her and/or not "rock the boat." I appreciate honesty, even if I'm on the losing end of it. Lol.

*cosmic twin waves at smoooooth Chocolate 😉*