How to regain scorpio man

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eezyxbun
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Hello, well me and this Scorpio male used to talk just as friends since his sister is my best friend and well he asked me to homecoming dance and a couple days before that I got back with my ex and he asked me RANDOMLY! I was not expecting this AT ALL and I said yes. The thing is I told him I couldn't go since I had a boyfriend now. He replied with " It's cool." I'm not sure if he was hurt or really didn't care. Also I wasn't too sure that he had feelings for me cause he would ask me out on little dates and stuff but I'd always say I was busy. But man was this guy persistent. He really must have cared for me. I remember one day he called me because I posted on social media that I was a sad and he called. I answered crying asking whos this and he said his name and proceeded with asking me if im alright. He seemed worried but I didn't want to talk about it and then he said that he was always there for me if I ever needed anything, then he hung up. Sorry a little off but after I texted him that I couldn't go his sister texts me saying "why would you do that to him, especially the way you did it." I was confused because I didn't mean anything by it I just thought I'd let him know. She said I basically brushed him off as if he was nothing and that if I would've done it in person he wouldn't have been so devastated. I did see him after school but I didn't tell him. I waited till about 11PM to tell him. Then we both started to argue about the whole situation and then he confessed that he did indeed have feelings for me and that he was trying to spend time with me but he said that I was always busy. I told him I didn't find it appropriate since his sister is my best friend and that would be weird...right? Well then we basically agreed to distance ourselves and HE did. I always check on his social media but I think I really did hurt him badly, and I mean BADLY. He hasn't texted me, called me, he doesn't even look at me when we pass each other in the halls. It's literally like I never existed to him and that he doesn't know who I am. I don't know what to do. It's been a month and I havent texted him and vice versa. He hasn't even check my social media! Then me and my boyfriend broke up and now I REALLY don't know what to do because he really is a nice, sweet, generous, caring, and such a gentleman kind of guy. He always respects me and makes me laugh. I don't know whether to initiate a conversation with him because I'm scared he will ignore me and totally blow me off as the same I did to him in a way. I hope he still cares for me really. I want to go back to him but I'm affraid he will say "I'm never second choice. Goodbye." I feel thats just how cold he will be. PLEASE I NEED HELP!
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MsTeeq1974
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Posted by Montgomery
Posted by eezyxbun
... and well he asked me to homecoming dance and
What's your dress look like?
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LMBO!!!!!! ha ha ha ha

Ok, laughter aside, it's better to leave it alone. If you try to engage with him now, it will look like you're only doing it because your relationship didn't work out. Regardless if a person is a Scorpio or whatever sun sign, you should really evaluate how you cut ties with people or your dating decisions and learn how to handle them with more diplomacy. You never know what kind of bridges you're going to burn or how you'll feel a month later...hence what you're going through right now. Always treat a love interest as if you're going to face them again. That's my rule of thumb. My female friends often think I'm too generous with the level of respect that I show, but I'd rather err on the side of caution and respect someone just like I want to be respected than to eat my words later. There's a lot to be said for handling people with diplomacy and handling someone like you'll never see them again, because you think your life has entered the "Pie in the Sky" mode, isn't it. I'm not saying that you did him dirty, but one of the reasons why you're bothered right now is because you know that you SHOULD have handled the situation better to begin with. Don't make that his problem. Learn your lesson internally...take your losses and be accountable for the outcome without involving him. The reason why I said this is because if you reach out to him and you don't get the desired response, next thing you know...he's going to be the bad guy and that's just not fair. Not at all.
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''...he doesn't even look at me when we pass each other in the halls.''

Rejected a Scorpio guy before and he did the exact same thing. He must be really hurt that he showed you how he felt and you just ''brushed it off'. I read somewhere that they don't usually let it be known to people that they like them if they aren't confident enough that they'll get good feedback so in cases like ours, when things go left, they probably feel stupid. This is especially if they were hesitant or were plotting on you for a while. But idk, he's definitely hurt or embarrassed maybe.

If you got back with your ex before he asked, I'm not understanding why you accepted his invite and didn't let him know that from the beginning? That's probably what really turned him off. I think you would have been better off telling him that from the beginning. I know if I had a bf, I wouldn't be accepting any invites to homecoming from any other guys.
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Posted by Montgomery
Posted by eezyxbun
Its a long red dress to display compassion and sexy power!
Red doesn't denote compassion.

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Anyway... even though the dress still takes center stage -.-

you owe the guy an honest apology.


And leave it at that... it's the right thing to do.

Let him decide from there.


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lol your virgo is working. ๐Ÿ˜†


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I'm not a Scorpio but I'm a Scorpio moon. I can tell you that when I like someone it's pretty full on. I think if he goes out of his way to check up on you then he must really like you. I find scorpios don't particularly like putting themselves out there. So the fact he did that speaks volumes.
Anyway I have a fair bit of Scorpio in my chart and I've dated and most of my family have dominant Scorpio placements. I can tell you that if you don't reciprocate how they feel then they're gonna feel extreme rejection. It's like there is no middle ground it's all or nothing with them. I can tell you if I get rejected by someone I find it incredibly difficult to be around them, it's litteraly like being burnt and then fearing the flame. I think because we have such intense feelings we try and rationalize them and one way of doing this is by taking a step back so we can really work out what's going on. Either that or you could be being punished. I know when scorpios get hurt some of them will just withdraw and be silent about their feelings, but they will punish you in other ways by ignoring you or being cold with you. Depends on the person and how evolved they are. Also I know scorpios who get this way with friends and family. It's like they care so much and they can get hurt easily.

If this happened to me I'd want the person to reach out to me and tell me the truth, tell me how they felt. Like if you want to just be his friend let him know you value his friendship and that you care and leave it as that. If someone took the effort to do that for me id appreciate it.
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eezyxbun
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So about 2 days ago he texted me saying basically explaining how that he is sorry for what happened and that he still cared for me and he just needed time to rejuvinate himself. Now when we see each other in the halls he waves and so do I which makes me happy buy I feel there is something that still bothers him. I'm not sure what it is but i dont know. Im happy he still cares for me thats a most def. I just dont know what to do now.