I am a Leo woman "seeing" A Leo man..need I say more? lol Why did he come on strong and now nothing (Page 2)

I just want him to come back to me how do you get a leo man to come back lol

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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.

That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.

When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.

I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):

"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"

I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.

That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.

And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.

My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.

I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.

When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

Just wait and see what he does. I do advise that you be a bit more careful with your words in the future. Telling him not to get attached while stating that you have initimacy issues may have come across a certain way. Since he knows you are going through a divorce, he may be more understanding about your situation though.

Weird I was literally told that 2 weeks ago to be careful with my words.

"Telling him not to get attached while telling him you have intimacy issues might come across a certain way" ok so how could one take that?

Well literally the way it sounds, as if you have emotional/trust issues. Guys typically aren't looking for women with issues, especially if we've had to deal with emotionally damaged women in the past. It's just not attractive. This could lead to a guy closing himself off from you as a safegaurd. While some guys like their women a bit unhinged, most want a woman who is generally low maintenance (or "chill"). Again every guy is different, so this is all general.

Also generally speaking if a guy hasn't invested much time with you, revealing your personal problems too quickly could send him running for the hills. While it's always best to be honest, doing that too much honesty could also make you appear desperate. Desperation is never attractive. From his point of view, he won't know how deep your issues are until further down the line. In which case he may not stick around to find out.

It's the same reasons guys are told not to divlge any of their issues/fears early in the relationship with women. It may make them look crazy/needy and scare women off.

are leo men not usually texters?

Ok so wait and see what he does so just dont reach out to him at all and than if he reaches out try to get together to talk about things?

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Generally speaking we tend not to be great at it. It's just too impersonal. I personally think texting is only useful for short bursts of information, NOT a conversation. In fact I rarely take texts seriously, meaning I put very little emotion into them. If I want to have a real conversation, I'd prefer an actual phone call. I only text people because so many people have latched on to it. If I like a woman, I may engage in texting for a bit, but I'll typically only do it to set up dates.

Correct, sit back and go about your normal life. You've already reached out to him. Reaching out repeatedly will only make you look clingy.

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Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.

That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.

When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.

I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):

"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"

I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.

That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.

And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.

My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.

I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.

When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

Just wait and see what he does. I do advise that you be a bit more careful with your words in the future. Telling him not to get attached while stating that you have initimacy issues may have come across a certain way. Since he knows you are going through a divorce, he may be more understanding about your situation though.

Weird I was literally told that 2 weeks ago to be careful with my words.

"Telling him not to get attached while telling him you have intimacy issues might come across a certain way" ok so how could one take that?

Well literally the way it sounds, as if you have emotional/trust issues. Guys typically aren't looking for women with issues, especially if we've had to deal with emotionally damaged women in the past. It's just not attractive. This could lead to a guy closing himself off from you as a safegaurd. While some guys like their women a bit unhinged, most want a woman who is generally low maintenance (or "chill"). Again every guy is different, so this is all general.

Also generally speaking if a guy hasn't invested much time with you, revealing your personal problems too quickly could send him running for the hills. While it's always best to be honest, doing that too much honesty could also make you appear desperate. Desperation is never attractive. From his point of view, he won't know how deep your issues are until further down the line. In which case he may not stick around to find out.

It's the same reasons guys are told not to divlge any of their issues/fears early in the relationship with women. It may make them look crazy/needy and scare women off.

are leo men not usually texters?

Ok so wait and see what he does so just dont reach out to him at all and than if he reaches out try to get together to talk about things?

Generally speaking we tend not to be great at it. It's just too impersonal. I personally think texting is only useful for short bursts of information, NOT a conversation. In fact I rarely take texts seriously, meaning I put very little emotion into them. If I want to have a real conversation, I'd prefer an actual phone call. I only text people because so many people have latched on to it. If I like a woman, I may engage in texting for a bit, but I'll typically only do it to set up dates.

Correct, sit back and go about your normal life. You've already reached out to him. Reaching out repeatedly will only make you look clingy.

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Ok well if he has it and finds out later on his own on him than. I tried

I don't even like texting. It's always been texting with us j wonder if calling him be a different result

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Posted by Chuckcem

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Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.

That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.

When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.

I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):

"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"

I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.

That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.

And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.

My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.

I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.

When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

Just wait and see what he does. I do advise that you be a bit more careful with your words in the future. Telling him not to get attached while stating that you have initimacy issues may have come across a certain way. Since he knows you are going through a divorce, he may be more understanding about your situation though.

Weird I was literally told that 2 weeks ago to be careful with my words.

"Telling him not to get attached while telling him you have intimacy issues might come across a certain way" ok so how could one take that?

Well literally the way it sounds, as if you have emotional/trust issues. Guys typically aren't looking for women with issues, especially if we've had to deal with emotionally damaged women in the past. It's just not attractive. This could lead to a guy closing himself off from you as a safegaurd. While some guys like their women a bit unhinged, most want a woman who is generally low maintenance (or "chill"). Again every guy is different, so this is all general.

Also generally speaking if a guy hasn't invested much time with you, revealing your personal problems too quickly could send him running for the hills. While it's always best to be honest, doing that too much honesty could also make you appear desperate. Desperation is never attractive. From his point of view, he won't know how deep your issues are until further down the line. In which case he may not stick around to find out.

It's the same reasons guys are told not to divlge any of their issues/fears early in the relationship with women. It may make them look crazy/needy and scare women off.

Gotcha well i guess we will see thanks. Unless he just finally decided im too much for him to deal with being freshly out of a relationship and adding that all into his stuff too. I have not unload all my stuff on him though the not getting attached and than having a convo about the intimcy was the only thing i brought up and that i had something important to tell him Other than that its been mostly getting to know eachother. Hes asked me stuff i have asked him stuff both serious and not serious. Basically he has been just as open and honest as I have been i believe. no get wehre you are coming from though. Trying to hink of how to word it. I have no problem wanting a to get to know a guy. this guy has told me he falls in love fast and i do the same. basically if that is the case we got 2 people who jump into things. what i want is a long slow burn and getting to know someone. its not that i have trust issues but i can see where it may come off that way. What i do have is not being use to getting to HONESTLY know someone. My ex i did not like honestly nor loved it was not real love and we never had real intimacy. So yea i guess im afraid of real love at times and than afraid if i do get real love well than shit it may hurt worse than the crappy end of the stick i got with my ex if it ends. honestly there was no reason for the intimacy convo on the phone with him because we where already having real intimacy. For some reason i had to bring it up. why i dont know. maybe doubuting that it was really true that make sense? or testing it?i should have just let the natural flow keep flowing.

Low maintence and chilll i am very much those 2.

Hest been really opena nd hones twith me too and hes put some serious shit out there already too probably even more serious. unless its getting to intense period for him. again who knows id love to chat with him hopefully i can get ahold of him and do that.

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Hopefully you two are on the same page. Just wait and see.

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Posted by warriorlioness

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Posted by warriorlioness

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Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by warriorlioness

Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.

That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.

When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.

I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):

"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"

I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.

That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.

And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.

My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.

I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.

When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

Just wait and see what he does. I do advise that you be a bit more careful with your words in the future. Telling him not to get attached while stating that you have initimacy issues may have come across a certain way. Since he knows you are going through a divorce, he may be more understanding about your situation though.

Weird I was literally told that 2 weeks ago to be careful with my words.

"Telling him not to get attached while telling him you have intimacy issues might come across a certain way" ok so how could one take that?

Well literally the way it sounds, as if you have emotional/trust issues. Guys typically aren't looking for women with issues, especially if we've had to deal with emotionally damaged women in the past. It's just not attractive. This could lead to a guy closing himself off from you as a safegaurd. While some guys like their women a bit unhinged, most want a woman who is generally low maintenance (or "chill"). Again every guy is different, so this is all general.

Also generally speaking if a guy hasn't invested much time with you, revealing your personal problems too quickly could send him running for the hills. While it's always best to be honest, doing that too much honesty could also make you appear desperate. Desperation is never attractive. From his point of view, he won't know how deep your issues are until further down the line. In which case he may not stick around to find out.

It's the same reasons guys are told not to divlge any of their issues/fears early in the relationship with women. It may make them look crazy/needy and scare women off.

Gotcha well i guess we will see thanks. Unless he just finally decided im too much for him to deal with being freshly out of a relationship and adding that all into his stuff too. I have not unload all my stuff on him though the not getting attached and than having a convo about the intimcy was the only thing i brought up and that i had something important to tell him Other than that its been mostly getting to know eachother. Hes asked me stuff i have asked him stuff both serious and not serious. Basically he has been just as open and honest as I have been i believe. no get wehre you are coming from though. Trying to hink of how to word it. I have no problem wanting a to get to know a guy. this guy has told me he falls in love fast and i do the same. basically if that is the case we got 2 people who jump into things. what i want is a long slow burn and getting to know someone. its not that i have trust issues but i can see where it may come off that way. What i do have is not being use to getting to HONESTLY know someone. My ex i did not like honestly nor loved it was not real love and we never had real intimacy. So yea i guess im afraid of real love at times and than afraid if i do get real love well than shit it may hurt worse than the crappy end of the stick i got with my ex if it ends. honestly there was no reason for the intimacy convo on the phone with him because we where already having real intimacy. For some reason i had to bring it up. why i dont know. maybe doubuting that it was really true that make sense? or testing it?i should have just let the natural flow keep flowing.

Low maintence and chilll i am very much those 2.

Hest been really opena nd hones twith me too and hes put some serious shit out there already too probably even more serious. unless its getting to intense period for him. again who knows id love to chat with him hopefully i can get ahold of him and do that.

Hopefully you two are on the same page. Just wait and see.

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Ty so much!