I don't get along with my dad

Hi I'm a pisces born on february 20 and I'm 21 years old, my father is a leo (august 7).

All my life I haven't been able to connect with my dad, don't get me wrong, I love him to death, and he is a good father. BUT, we are always fighting, about every little thing.

We are extremely different and we cannot understand each other. He haves the worst temper and snaps at me about everything I say, on the other hand I don't have patience to put up with it and I snap back at him, we always end up yelling at each other and saying terrible things that we both regret later.

I've always had the feeling that no matter how hard I try I will never be good enough for my dad. No matter what, there is always something to criticize about me. Everything I do is to make him proud of me, but it just never happens. I've made mistakes, but in general I'm a good person, I'm an excellent student with outstanding grades, and I have a healthy life style and no bad habits. But still, he always sees something wrong in me.

My mom is also a fire sign,she is an aries, but my relationship with her is excellent, we have developed a beautiful friendship and I trust her so much, and she knows me so well. My dad on the other hand thinks he knows me sooo well, but he doesn't know the first thing.

Sorry for the long rant, I just needed to vent after an argument I just had with him.

Are there here any other pisces with leo parents? or any leo parents with pisces children? how was/is your relationship with them? any advices on how to improve my relationship with my dad? Any astrological explanations about our complex father-daughter dynamic?

I swear I do love him and I'm very proud of him, but we can't stop fighting and we don't understand each other at all.

Hello

I'm a pisces with a Leo moon. My mother isn't a Leo but I know a lot about Leo's.

Leo's are very protective and territorial, I don't know the whole situation so I can't comment too much. The next time you guys have a disagreement let him speak first and explain his point of view. That way you can get a good understanding of his point of view and also respect your father. After your done listening say "I agree with you on this part BUT, than explain".

I don't raise my voice when I'm having a disagreement. I make my point and leave it at that.

Also don't allow ANYONE (not even your parents) the authority to change your mood. No one can make me mad, it's MY decision if I want to be mad or not!

Good Luck _??_

Posted by camim20


We are extremely different and we cannot understand each other. He haves the worst temper and snaps at me about everything I say, on the other hand I don't have patience to put up with it and I snap back at him, we always end up yelling at each other and saying terrible things that we both regret later.

you having no patience to put up with it means you have a fire sign in you. what is your moon? your ascendant? generally speaking, pisces people tend to just not argue, to just give in.

Posted by camim20

I've always had the feeling that no matter how hard I try I will never be good enough for my dad. No matter what, there is always something to criticize about me. Everything I do is to make him proud of me, but it just never happens. I've made mistakes, but in general I'm a good person, I'm an excellent student with outstanding grades, and I have a healthy life style and no bad habits. But still, he always sees something wrong in me.

that is, he can't control you. leos are control freak like that. (guilty person here) if they get mad for no apparent reason, either you ignore what they say or what you do is different from their expectations of you. i know, that is just mean. but that is how leos are sometimes.

Posted by camim20

My mom is also a fire sign,she is an aries, but my relationship with her is excellent, we have developed a beautiful friendship and I trust her so much, and she knows me so well. My dad on the other hand thinks he knows me sooo well, but he doesn't know the first thing.

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maybe you have aries in you? if you do, then you must get along with your dad as well. hmm. this got me confused. maybe he has a different moon or ascendant.


have you tried being sweet to him? or approaching him about things that matter to you? maybe he just wants to be NEEDED, to feel that he can be in control of a part of you somehow. Include him in some of your decisions in life (but oh not from every single thing). that way, he might soften his heart and give you more than what you expect from him.


cheers!

@osiris626

1) You having no patience to put up with it means you have a fire sign in you. what is your moon? your ascendant? generally speaking, pisces people tend to just not argue, to just give in.

My moon: Aquarius, ascedant: Pisces, my only fire placement is aries in Venus.

oh and my mars is in cancer

Posted by camim20


My moon: Aquarius, ascedant: Pisces, my only fire placement is aries in Venus.

On Aquarius moon: With the Moon here, you may find that your need to rebel, or break away from what you see as stagnant conditions can be very strong. This is the position of one with an instinctive need for freedom. You may tend to move around quite a lot, for this position can suggest a person who needs to experience great change and fluctuation in their life.

-- this is where the two of you most likely collide 🙂

have you tried being sweet to him? or approaching him about things that matter to you? maybe he just wants to be NEEDED, to feel that he can be in control of a part of you somehow. Include him in some of your decisions in life (but oh not from every single thing). that way, he might soften his heart and give you more than what you expect from him.

Once we settle things with ourselves, we easily settle them with others. Perhaps that's what your dad is stuck on. Seems to me that after a certain point in your kid's lives you can really just watch them do their thing and be happy if they're happy. You've done what you've done.

btw. as a fellow Aquarius Moon, I can tell you that regardless of how "good" you might be, your grades, your life style , your behaviour, there will always be a subtle hint of an unpredictable, rebellious streak you have, that others might pick up on. Maybe you and your dad have Sun opposition Moon.

I am Aries and have a Leo dad. I spent many years arguing and sneaking around doing the opposite of what he told me because he was so controlling and critical; it would depend on my mood as to whether I wanted to argue back or just do my own thing anyway and just not tell him!
When I was younger I could never understand why his reaction to the things I did bothered me so much and then I realised it was because I wanted him to be proud of me and my achievements; but like you nothing was ever good enough..
Most good parents spend very waking moment worrying that their children make the right choices; some parents - like Leos (but not exclusively) do try and control the choices you try and make.
With my Leo dad I think it was a combination of his youngest child growing up and asserting her independence by making my own choices without asking him.
Leos want to feel useful, as in they really respond if you need to ask them for help or advice. It makes them feel good/involved that you have sought their point of view on something.
So maybe try and harmonise by asking his opinions/thoughts on things before you go ahead and do something. Not every little thing but some things..it works for my relationship and although we have our disagreements we are a lot calmer.