Leo Advice

So background; I am a Virgo technically with my birthday being at the end of September but I swear most of the time I am more of a Libra. I had a really crazy painful ending to a previous relationship a couple of years ago. After that I swore off dating for a while.

I've been hanging out with a Leo for a few months now. Let me tell you... Leo's are a whole different ballgame.

I moved to a new city and this guy was my first friend. At first I am going to be honest... I didn't find him attractive but then I started getting to know him more and I always just thought there was something about him. We became good friends, got to know each other and got along. About 5 months later things started progressing. When our whole friendship/relationship started my honest intentions were to keep things kind of casual. I'm in a new city and I don't plan on staying long. From the beginning he liked me... I was sort of unaware because he never exactly expressed anything to me. When we started hanging out more I started developing feelings to my surprise. (I was loving my single life and I am super dedicated to my career) It scared me so much and one night I freaked out and I tried to end it. I immediately regretted it and backtracked. We continued to talk and continue to hang out. We talk everyday.. see each other a few times a week. He always brings me around his friends, his brother, and continuously says he wants me to meet his family but it hasn't happened yet for reasons because of timing. He said numerous times he liked me but still how he acted distant and didn't seem like he cared drove me insane. Sometimes he would say he just doesn't feel like talking. So the most prominent Virgo trait I graciously gained was my over analytical thinking combine that with my pride eating at me and the pain from my past nagging at me, I kept thinking if he really liked me he would do this... if he really cared he would do that. I thought the way to get him to understand was to point out the things I thought he was doing... I honestly thought I was being helpful. I know now that probably was the worst thing to do to a Leo because he just thought I was point out what I didn't like about him. He always said I was overreacting when I got upset but would calm me down. There have been a few times after i've threatened to end in fear of being hurt, the fact that I didn't think he wanted me to stay around; but he would always talk me out of it. I then realized, to my surprised, I wanted a commitment. I wanted to know we weren't going to be with anyone else. He didn't agree and later I found out he felt like I was forcing him into it. Which I wasn't. We bicker here and there. He's very busy with his job working crazy hours a week so sometimes it's hard to think his intentions weren't elsewhere when I wanted to see him.

Background on him: He's been single for a long time. He loves his freedom, loves being alone, loves the attention he gets, he's not ready to settle, he likes doing what he wants, and not answering to anyone. I've questioned the settling and the boyfriend situation and he said it doesn't mean he'll never be ready just at this moment and point in his career he's not looking for that. He follows that with but I like you, I like hanging out with you, I don't want to hurt you, and I don't want to lose you.

Recently we were arguing and it brings great stress to both of us when we do. We had a long hard conversation over texting pretty much summing up that he doesn't know if we'll ever get along well enough for us to go anywhere. I realized that it truly was me sabotaging myself and picking these fights and not being understanding of him. I was acting immature and was thinking in a way that I thought he should be. He continued to carry on the conversation by saying he didn't want it to be over but he couldn't handle the stress anymore. The arguments and situations that bother him he said wasn't anything that couldn't be fixed. I still knew that it was my fault. He went on to tell me that not long after we started hanging out that he thought he was going to just get past everything and date me he just wanted to make some money first so we could do things. He said he didn't want a girlfriend but he liked me so he wanted to give me a shot. He then said when I tried to end it, couple other situations, and the feeling of forced commitment scared him so now he says he just knows he wouldn't be a good boyfriend and he wanted to work on himself first. We kind of left the conversation at a stand still and I am very confused what to do.

My question is: Did I royally mess this thing up and we can't go back? Did I mess this up too bad that he won't forget it and he's not officially never going to commit and we will continue to be where we are?

I truly care about this kid and he knows that. I realized where I was wrong but I hope it's not too late. He has said he doesn't want to hurt me because he's not ready to be a boyfriend and hurt the best person he's ever met in his life.

Sincerely,



Confused but hopefully.

Are you sure you're not a Libra?

That's the extent of my contribution. Sorry. Got hung up on your first paragraph.

Not even sure it matters.