Leo men: FWB to lovers - is it possible?

I've fallen for a Leo man... it has taken a long time - we met via online dating app, messaged each other intensely for weeks, before meeting up. We clicked immediately but due to our geographical distance (around 1 hour) and that I'm a single mum (1 child, 4 years old) it turned into a FWB relationship. I was not willing to let my guard down at all during the past 9 months due to a number of things - recent broken marriage, running my own business, finances, looking after my child, etc - and made it super clear I didn't want marriage or children.
Our "relationship" is so pure and honest. We have amazing sex and sex sessions pushing mutually desired boundaries (think S&M) etc, and trust each other without question.
He never referred to any other girls - ever - I did refer to other guys I had dated or had "fun" with. We only ever met at his place - very relaxing and included drinks, dinner, chats on the sofa, music, plus sex. He texts me or speaks to me with absolute affection and sincerity.
In July, our last meeting, he asked me if I'd ever see him as his boyfriend. I replied with a question "would you ever see me as your gf?" to which he replied "ha, no you're too crazy!" before laughing. He went on to say that he was getting ready to have an exclusive relationship - that he was ready for that now.
Fast forward 3 weeks and I texted him to say hi - he replied hi and revealed he had recently met someone and as he never cheats he wouldn't see me again unless he was single again. He said that maybe I'd already met someone too... I replied very enthusiastically to say well done, so happy for you that you found someone. that's great news... his reply was that maybe one day I'd meet someone and commit to one person. and we then agreed to be friends.
The next bit sounds so immature, but think it's worth adding: I happened to be on holiday at the time of finding out about him having a gf, so 2 weeks later I messaged him just a "hi" text. No reply. I then noticed he had unfollowed me on instagram (only social media link) so I sent him another message just to ask gently if being friends wasn't working. He came back a little arrogant with the chat that he was bored with the IG photos posted so unfollowed me for a while, and didn't realise I was checking if he was following daily - 😉
I replied I wasn't and that I was done with this - good luck with everything, bye. HE didn't reply.

Of course I analysed all of this to the hilt and being Libra needed to discuss with anyone who'd listen. Sometime being a Libra sucks!! So the feedback I got from the majority of people was that I was stupid in not realising that this guy had liked me for months and that every time he sent a really sweet message or was genuinely giving out signs that I didn't pick up on them. The gf was probably real, and that he decided to tell you expecting a reaction - other than "yay, so happy for you" which is what I sent. The only mutual friend told me that he thought t

The only mutual friend told me that he thought the guy really liked me and probably liked me too much - that the IG photos of me having an amazing time on holiday were killing him and that unfollowing me was definitely what he'd do too. He then went on to challenge me asking why I wouldn't consider this guy as he is such a nice guy (honest, reliable, hardworking, etc). and I didn't have an answer.

Obviously now I've fallen for him - I texted him one week ago a cheeky text - thinking that he'd either laugh or delete. He laughed and warmly asked if I fancied meeting back up again as he was single again. We texted literally the whole night and at one point he said "your mouth is perfect for me..and you knew it!" in reply to me saying I wasn't sure how he'd react when I texted him after a few months break.

Now - I want to be honest with him and tell him that I've fallen for him. My friends say yes, that is definitely the right thing to do. I'm terrified of dropping my guard down and exposing myself. I have no idea what he feels. We have been so honest, so intimate, so sexual, but I can't read any of the messages without truly seeing two different versions - either he's genuine and I've missed the heads up, or actually he's just being nice.

Leo guys - are you into FWB relationships that last for almost a year? Are you able to move from FWB to love? If you had fallen for me but were totally put off by my confidence (not arrogance) in saying "no I don't want marriage or children!" ? And should I just be honest with him and tell him how I feel now?

Thanks, and sorry for the super long post 😉

aking as a leo with a libra mars, even if it's just for fun I can lay on the charm. For some reason the chase adds to the fun of it all.

It's possible to develop feelings with a FWB but it's also just putting the minimum effort to keep things going. If I was in your situation and I had someone confess something so bold so quickly after restarting I'd be a little scared. If I had any bit of nervousness then I'd step back.

I think the way I'd get hooked is hang out have a good time (non sexual), have the ego stroked, a little bit if teasing, great conversation, and of course.... Have all that together and if she confessed this I'd be so intoxicated with that libra charm I'd reciprocate. Take your time and have fun. Don't jump the gun but play off his mood.

I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt about him actually liking her. If he did/does then it's possible. If it's just for fun then it's just fun.

Thanks guys.
I don't know what my gut instinct is here. I actually have no idea how he may feel. From reading his texts it could either be someone being really sweet or someone laying down heavy hints.
I'm a typical libra - completely free spirited, not jumping around everywhere, reluctant to commit. My friends reckon I've given him no hint in any way that I'd ever be interested other than just sex.
Probably right.
I think the advice of getting reaquainted and chilling out a bit is probably the best.
We don't live in the same town and it's never a booty call type hook up. If we meet up at his it's usually planned a few days in advance. This guy cancels gym, friends, meetings at work for our rendez-vous to work out.
We don't meet in bars - we like to hang out together at his. It's calming and a haven for me ! My life is super hectic.

Oh, and he's French... If you've never done Leo Frenchies you're missing out!!! 😉

*jumping around (remove the "not"!)

My personal experience with Leo....you're just one of the harem. Leos have women throwing themselves at them so they tend to just be one of many. The only ones they fall for are the ones that are completely different from the rest (or they only fall for the ones that treat them like sh*t).

Don't ever FWB with them unless you absolutely know 100% there is no way you'd ever want to have anything more with them. . They are so charming and so charismatic you can't help falling for them and they don't take FWBs seriously as a relationship potential.

I know I generalized and I can't say ALL Leos are like that, but the Leo men I know are.

Posted by bellelibra
Thanks guys.
I don't know what my gut instinct is here. I actually have no idea how he may feel. From reading his texts it could either be someone being really sweet or someone laying down heavy hints.
I'm a typical libra - completely free spirited, not jumping around everywhere, reluctant to commit. My friends reckon I've given him no hint in any way that I'd ever be interested other than just sex.
Probably right.
I think the advice of getting reaquainted and chilling out a bit is probably the best.
We don't live in the same town and it's never a booty call type hook up. If we meet up at his it's usually planned a few days in advance. This guy cancels gym, friends, meetings at work for our rendez-vous to work out.
We don't meet in bars - we like to hang out together at his. It's calming and a haven for me ! My life is super hectic.

Oh, and he's French... If you've never done Leo Frenchies you're missing out!!! 😉

Planned or spontaneous.. makes no difference....a hook up is a hook up. ... it's still a booty call if you have sex every time you meet up.

But really. In your situation, I'd tell him what you're feeling and thinking. Be honest with him and see what happens. What have you got to lose?
It either develops into a relationship or it doesn't. Worse case scenario, he moves on. Sounds like he's about to be moving on anyway...so really, you have nothing to lose. And being Leo, if he turns you down, he'll be nice about it and not think anything negative about you.

There is no such thing as 'hint' in a Leo man's dictionary.

If he wanted you, he would have said so.

And he's French. Do you see French men cowering ever?

If you go tell him your feelings - which you haven't even once mentioned here - he will most likely cut you off like a bad habit.

Move on. You just like the sex; not the man.

Honestly, I've never met a Leo guy who only wanted an FWB relationship. Wow. You were blessed to have all of that affection, attention, and passion with NO strings attached.

I almost feel like I missed out on something in life. Lol

You must be kidding. You waited for the man to commit to someone

Talk about delusional.

Thanks everyone!
Looks like I'll ride this one out. See how the next few weeks go... Like I've said, I've no idea how he feels. I have the guts to ask him as for me this long being a FWB is only going one way - to boredom. We've had about 3 months break when he had a gf, now if we do meet up agsin I'll be more aware of how he acts as I'm more interested in how he acts!! Then I should know.
I'll hedge my bets then. But as was suggested earlier: no rush. It's a guy I really like and would love to have something more with, but at the same time I believe in what's for you won't go by you.
First time I've posted on here and appreciate the comments. We're both nice people and honest so it shouldn't be that difficult to get this going one way or another 😉

If he does come back around, after the gf, then don't go right back into FWB if you want more. If he comes back around, tell him you'll only see him if he's serious about having something more with you.

If he doesn't want more, then don't sleep with him. Otherwise, you're just FWB until he finds another girl to take serious.

thanks guys (truecap & cheekyfaerie)
My life has been crazy the past 3 years since separating from my ex husband. We've had financial battles, custody battles, and I've been running my own company whilst bringing up my son (he does see his father regularly though so thats good). I was not in any position or had any desire for anything other than messing around. I've done that for the past 2 years - nothing serious and no desire for anything serious. The first date with this Leo guy was a proper evening out together in a nice quiet bar. We had great chemistry and lots of chat. He is very attentive and tactile. I don't see him as a player at all - I've read up on Leo's and I just haven't seen some of the typical 'player' behaviour... however... after that initial date it was just easy for us to meet at his place. It's nothing to do with showing off or meeting friends. He is busy in his work and works weekends throughout winter, I am running a crazy busy life. I can see it sounds like a sleazy booty call at his place, but really it's nothing further from the truth. I'm a Libra - I LOVE socialising and love being centre of attention - but seriously we have a really amazing time chilling at his place. I believe we were and are friends. We can talk about absolutely anything - including our work, family, lives - and we value each others opinions on everything too.
The distance and single mum thing is definitely an issue - as I literally can't be available to do typical dating things (not in my home city).
The times we meet up are every couple of weeks... it's not more frequent than that.
Anyway - I think the biggest issue here is that he has no clue about how I feel - at all. I haven't given any hint that I'd be interested in anything other than FWB... nothing... but now that he's single and I feel ready to go down an exclusive relationship route I'm clueless as to how to approach him. I have no idea what he'll say or how he'll react. There's only one thing to do - and thats to be honest with him and talk to him. I'll find the right moment and do that... and if it's not for him, then that will be sad, but I'll accept it.

I went through the same thing after my separation from my exhusband. Met up with an old boyfriend from 20+ years previous, who happens to be a Leo and also going through a divorce. We fell into a FWB thing for a while. For me it was safe. Kind of a been there, done that kind of thing. I had hoped it would be more, but I soon realized we were just not really compatible.

Thing about Leo's is, they seem so sincere and honest and just don't come across as players. It's easy to fall for them.

Posted by truecap
I went through the same thing after my separation from my exhusband. Met up with an old boyfriend from 20+ years previous, who happens to be a Leo and also going through a divorce. We fell into a FWB thing for a while. For me it was safe. Kind of a been there, done that kind of thing. I had hoped it would be more, but I soon realized we were just not really compatible.

Thing about Leo's is, they seem so sincere and honest and just don't come across as players. It's easy to fall for them.

I managed to resist for quite some time. I think when he told me he had a gf that was the cold water thrown on my face to wake up. Our mutual friend said that he really didn't understand why I wouldn't want to be with the Leo... I just said that my life was too complicated at the moment and for me the time wasn't right to try to be in a relationship - that I really didn't have anything (other than the occasional evening / night) to someone, and that really I was happy with that. I had a long holiday in August and a bit of an epiphany - I met so many great people and gave them some advice and took some myself. It was an amazing time. The short story is that my hopes and dreams with my ex husband that didn't work out have tarnished me and made me harder - that's where the "I don't want marriage or kids again" chat comes from. I gently learned from others in August that I shouldn't be so direct and final about that... it made me a little calmer and a lot more focussed on what I want. I came back with ideas about getting back into my corporate profession (put my business to the side. Earn better money to be more financially secure) and to stop messing around with lots of different guys (which I've done without any issue), and to give myself the chance to meet someone new (by networking and socialising more in professional networks). This lead me to think about the Leo guy and what I could have had with him, what is potentially possible and here I am now a couple of months later and I'm ready to reveal to him that I'd like him to consider more that FWB. It has taken a long time for me to get to this point - and that's why it's really important about timing. If I thought that he was not interested at all then I wouldn't even tell him. But his messages and his actions when we're together make me think he may feel the same.