Leo woman who's in love with an aries man

I've posted this on the aries thread earlier, but thought it would be okay to post it here for some female leo's opinions as well.

"We met a few months ago. Things started off so quickly, we were seeing each other, and when we weren't, we were texting from the start of the day till night. We clicked, we acknowledged that, and promised to be open about our feelings to each other. We spent a lot of time with each other, and grew intimate.

Somewhere along the lines, he started to behave coldly. I'm quite sure I became too easy to be around, because I gave him all of my time. Whenever he called me up, I'd be ready to meet him whenever, to be his listening ear and best friend/cuddle friend. It's still the case right now, except I'm trying to detach myself from him, slowly. Though, to be honest, he's on my mind the whole day. We have established that we are merely friends, and he has told me multiple times that "I have no romantic feelings for you", but it seemed that wasn't the case at the beginning.

Here's the part I really can't leave out: He has a girlfriend who is currently overseas, but will be returning soon. He is also seeing someone else at the same time, and I've met her and seen them interact. I was only allowed to because I told him "i don't have feelings for you anymore", which was true, until recently I started faltering again. I don't know what "courage" caused me to be involved in something so sinful and unhealthy, but I guess I am trying my best to detach from him already. Our "best friend" dynamics makes me so happy but kills me at the same time. I just don't know how to make it easier, or faster for me to.

I'm new here. I've been reading so much on the forums that I decided to just give in and have an account, because I'm desperate for help. I know the context of our relationship is so screwed up and wrong, but my irrational heart cannot stop but feel so much. I just need a slap in the face, some advice that I can read over and over again to drill into my stubborn head. I tell myself "maybe we're not good for each other now, but we could be next time, a long time later." Idealistic, isn't it?

Aries men. I know how you work... some of you are manipulative, some of you perfect beyond description. He's somewhere in between, so insecure, so needy, but appearing so strong and so intrepid. And I have really fallen in too deep. Please help me out of this... ?"

Leo woman/men out there... please help 😭

Leo female here,

I am sorry I am not at all qualified to give any advice where relationships are concerned.Hang in there, more knowledgeable, wise and experienced Leos would be coming to advise you.

The only thing I can say with surety is that a if a Leo can't stand up for his/her pride and self-respect than he/she can't take stand for anything and anyone.

Besides, there are friends and friends in this world, why to go for one who is stripping you of your self-esteem, pride and propriety?

Love/ Friendship for the good person makes us a better person, and friendship/Love for the wrong person demeans us in someway and robs us of our dignity and pride.


A prideless Leo is a useless Leo.

He has a girlfriend. I'd say that's motivation enough to back off.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
He has a girlfriend. I'd say that's motivation enough to back off.

beyond doubt and debate,

Hey there, he's using you for sex which I think you already know. Aries men are pretty straightforward as he has been with you, from the start he behaved like a typical aries, hot hot hot, wanting it right now and feeling it right now, they fall fast in passion, then it gets boring - that's what happened with you. You need to completely stop having any contact with him, seeing or speaking. Your heart will become more broken the longer you are around him. he does not deserve you as a friend - it will hurt you to see him with other women. So stop seeing him - you will get stronger the longer you go without contact with him but in the beginning it will be hard for you.

Have you ever looked at this website: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk. Please do if you haven't, it will give you strength, spend hours reading it and in particular the replies to the blogs that women leave, read it everyday and reaffirm with yourself that you are better than this, when you falter read it again, post here and get self-esteem and self-respect back, it will happen.

Fecking Aries men 😢

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Fecking Aries men 😢

Oh, Celtic I am so sorry,😢

you are looking stunning by the way !

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Fecking Aries men 😢

Oh, Celtic I am so sorry,😢

you are looking stunning by the way !

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Thanks Shahbano 🙂 God I wish I could just cry, I feel like a man sometimes I find it so hard to cry, I think a good long cry is what I need to put the lid on all of this.

Ah,
when I want to cry and I can't, I read " It" by Stephen King---the part where a 4 years old boy was bludgeoned to death by his father. It removes the emotional blockade and helps me to a good long cry. Just lock the door,with keys/ spare set inside, so no one can come to disrupt the crying.😢

lol, thanks again, I shall give it a try! I hope you don't need to cry so much though.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
He has a girlfriend. I'd say that's motivation enough to back off.

beyond doubt and debate,

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consistently surprising myself with how i can attach feelings to someone i should not have feelings for!

Posted by celticlioness
Hey there, he's using you for sex which I think you already know. Aries men are pretty straightforward as he has been with you, from the start he behaved like a typical aries, hot hot hot, wanting it right now and feeling it right now, they fall fast in passion, then it gets boring - that's what happened with you. You need to completely stop having any contact with him, seeing or speaking. Your heart will become more broken the longer you are around him. he does not deserve you as a friend - it will hurt you to see him with other women. So stop seeing him - you will get stronger the longer you go without contact with him but in the beginning it will be hard for you.

Have you ever looked at this website: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk. Please do if you haven't, it will give you strength, spend hours reading it and in particular the replies to the blogs that women leave, read it everyday and reaffirm with yourself that you are better than this, when you falter read it again, post here and get self-esteem and self-respect back, it will happen.

Fecking Aries men 😢

Okay, I'll definitely try my best. Yea, it's mentioned everywhere isn't it? wanting it hothothot and then dropping it cold. The difference is he still wants to be friends, because we click so well and he's never been so comfortable telling anyone as much as he's told me. He's told me so many horrible things that he's done, how he feels towards it etc, but sometimes his actions make it seem like I'm just here to fill a day when there's no one else free to entertain him.

I surprise myself, because my first relationship was with an aries, and he was the ultimate dream guy. Loyal, passionate, he would shake mountains for me. But this guy is such a player, a gameplayer too, and he's hurting so many women. I'll read the website and update you about it goes!!!

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Leo female here,

I am sorry I am not at all qualified to give any advice where relationships are concerned.Hang in there, more knowledgeable, wise and experienced Leos would be coming to advise you.

The only thing I can say with surety is that a if a Leo can't stand up for his/her pride and self-respect than he/she can't take stand for anything and anyone.

Besides, there are friends and friends in this world, why to go for one who is stripping you of your self-esteem, pride and propriety?

Love/ Friendship for the good person makes us a better person, and friendship/Love for the wrong person demeans us in someway and robs us of our dignity and pride.


A prideless Leo is a useless Leo.

a prideless leo is a useless leo, and now i just feel so down all the time. is it too romantic to say that when i am with him i feel happy? but of course i have self respect, and i will stand for my pride. but often i falter, and drop into a dark hole of sadness and wishing, longing and needing. Perhaps more time with friends will help. Plunging into something is a very leo (i hope?) thing as well, and the only difference was I never got bored of him because i never thought of him as just a day-filler anyway. i respected him, and started to feel so much for him.

but he has a girlfriend, and above that HE IS A SLUT.

Thanks a lot. I can really relate to everything. everyone has been so nice 🙂

Posted by celticlioness
lol, thanks again, I shall give it a try! I hope you don't need to cry so much though.

i can understand the bit about not being able to cry but needing some way to release all the built up emotions. OMG, are we all so similar? i find it easiest when i am directing the emotions towards the person that is causing me to feel that way. there was once he called, and i just cried for twenty minutes or so, without explaining why, and he just let me. i was surprised how i could finally feel a kind of release, even for just a while.

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Hey there, he's using you for sex which I think you already know. Aries men are pretty straightforward as he has been with you, from the start he behaved like a typical aries, hot hot hot, wanting it right now and feeling it right now, they fall fast in passion, then it gets boring - that's what happened with you. You need to completely stop having any contact with him, seeing or speaking. Your heart will become more broken the longer you are around him. he does not deserve you as a friend - it will hurt you to see him with other women. So stop seeing him - you will get stronger the longer you go without contact with him but in the beginning it will be hard for you.

Have you ever looked at this website: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk. Please do if you haven't, it will give you strength, spend hours reading it and in particular the replies to the blogs that women leave, read it everyday and reaffirm with yourself that you are better than this, when you falter read it again, post here and get self-esteem and self-respect back, it will happen.

Fecking Aries men 😢

Okay, I'll definitely try my best. Yea, it's mentioned everywhere isn't it? wanting it hothothot and then dropping it cold. The difference is he still wants to be friends, because we click so well and he's never been so comfortable telling anyone as much as he's told me. He's told me so many horrible things that he's done, how he feels towards it etc, but sometimes his actions make it seem like I'm just here to fill a day when there's no one else free to entertain him.

I surprise myself, because my first relationship was with an aries, and he was the ultimate dream guy. Loyal, passionate, he would shake mountains for me. But this guy is such a player, a gameplayer too, and he's hurting so many women. I'll read the website and update you about it goes!!!

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Of course he still wants to be friends, that way he'll feel good about things, no guilt about how he treated you - you will allow him to feel this is you continue to be friends with him. Being friends doesn't hurt him (and also somewhat keeps you hanging on a little string for him just in case...) but it does hurt you, you are number 1 - look after yourself, fuck him, let him tell his girlfriend all about the horrible thing

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lol, thanks again, I shall give it a try! I hope you don't need to cry so much though.

i can understand the bit about not being able to cry but needing some way to release all the built up emotions. OMG, are we all so similar? i find it easiest when i am directing the emotions towards the person that is causing me to feel that way. there was once he called, and i just cried for twenty minutes or so, without explaining why, and he just let me. i was surprised how i could finally feel a kind of release, even for just a while.

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Oh you poor thing, you really need to block him now.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
He has a girlfriend. I'd say that's motivation enough to back off.

beyond doubt and debate,

consistently surprising myself with how i can attach feelings to someone i should not have feelings for!

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feelings are feelings, they happen, its how we learn to deal with them is what's important.

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Posted by ShahBano
Leo female here,

I am sorry I am not at all qualified to give any advice where relationships are concerned.Hang in there, more knowledgeable, wise and experienced Leos would be coming to advise you.

The only thing I can say with surety is that a if a Leo can't stand up for his/her pride and self-respect than he/she can't take stand for anything and anyone.

Besides, there are friends and friends in this world, why to go for one who is stripping you of your self-esteem, pride and propriety?

Love/ Friendship for the good person makes us a better person, and friendship/Love for the wrong person demeans us in someway and robs us of our dignity and pride.


A prideless Leo is a useless Leo.

a prideless leo is a useless leo, and now i just feel so down all the time. is it too romantic to say that when i am with him i feel happy? but of course i have self respect, and i will stand for my pride. but often i falter, and drop into a dark hole of sadness and wishing, longing and needing. Perhaps more time with friends will help. Plunging into something is a very leo (i hope?) thing as well, and the only difference was I never got bored of him because i never thought of him as just a day-filler anyway. i respected him, and started to feel so much for him.

but he has a girlfriend, and above that HE IS A SLUT.

Thanks a lot. I can really relate to everything. everyone has been so nice 🙂

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I know how you feel, i've been there with an Aries man myself for over a year (except we are both free from other people), I'm slowly detatching myself now and have had no communication with him in over a month nor been with him since January - feelings don't just disappear though but you do need to work on them, being with friends helps a lot. Tonight I'm going to write a long long letter to the Aries and hope to purge him that way and also get a few tears going for myself to help cleanse - I won't send it to him of course! Yes plunging is very Leo 🙂

-swoon-

Oh Aries men. Such tempting creatures.

Oy.

Stop having anything to do with him and get on with your life. No person is worth it.

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Posted by ShahBano
Leo female here,

I am sorry I am not at all qualified to give any advice where relationships are concerned.Hang in there, more knowledgeable, wise and experienced Leos would be coming to advise you.

The only thing I can say with surety is that a if a Leo can't stand up for his/her pride and self-respect than he/she can't take stand for anything and anyone.

Besides, there are friends and friends in this world, why to go for one who is stripping you of your self-esteem, pride and propriety?

Love/ Friendship for the good person makes us a better person, and friendship/Love for the wrong person demeans us in someway and robs us of our dignity and pride.


A prideless Leo is a useless Leo.

a prideless leo is a useless leo, and now i just feel so down all the time. is it too romantic to say that when i am with him i feel happy? but of course i have self respect, and i will stand for my pride. but often i falter, and drop into a dark hole of sadness and wishing, longing and needing. Perhaps more time with friends will help. Plunging into something is a very leo (i hope?) thing as well, and the only difference was I never got bored of him because i never thought of him as just a day-filler anyway. i respected him, and started to feel so much for him.

but he has a girlfriend, and above that HE IS A SLUT.

Thanks a lot. I can really relate to everything. everyone has been so nice 🙂

I know how you feel, i've been there with an Aries man myself for over a year (except we are both free from other people), I'm slowly detatching myself now and have had no communication with him in over a month nor been with him since January - feelings don't just disappear though but you do need to work on them, being with friends helps a lot. Tonight I'm going to write a long long letter to the Aries and hope to purge him that way and also get a few tears going for myself to help cleanse - I won't send it to him of course! Yes plunging is very Leo 🙂

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how did the purging go? i can only imagine the hurt and pain you've had to deal with. but a month is such a long time, in leo-time, and i'm sure you have grown so much stronger and wiser. i wish

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celticlioness: i wish you well, and hope that you'll recover from it soon. hang in there! a large bit of my life fell out of place when many of my close friends went overseas to study, or we lost contact, and i know it strange, but i am a social butterfly but one without a comfortable spot to attach to. so i grow close to people who are the same - like him - and that's how the attachment became so intense, and the detachment now so painfully difficult.

i understand the bit about friends, where his guilt may be reduced because i appear to be alright with him. but i was wondering if he'd even feel bad at all if i broke off our friendship. he has mentioned many times that he has an emotional switch, on and off, whenever he wants to, like a defence mechanism that keeps him from getting hurt. i know this isn't an aries forum, but is that humanly possible? how can someone, who is an aries at that, be so emotionally detached from the things he engages in? i suppose he is just incredibly insecure to require so much female attention.

capriquoise: slowly and surely. the strength in your statement gives me the impression you're a really respectable figure, in that you respect yourself.

sheathedclaws: painfully addictive 😢

my first boyfriend was an aries, and we had the most amazing relationship ever, until he became incredibly insecure and possessive. i know i'm not supposed to think this way, but it's such a fantasy relationship to me, and aries and leo combination. there's just something about aries men, their spontaneity, their passion and drive and sense of humour and child-likeness that a leo like me is weak for. i would have hoped that this attraction would be mutual, that he would desire a leo girl like how i naturally desire a cliche aries boy.

not much has changed since i last posted! i'm going to keep trying... to let the attraction die.

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-celticlioness: i wish you well, and hope that you'll recover from it soon. hang in there! a large bit of my life fell out of place when many of my close friends went overseas to study, or we lost contact, and i know it strange, but i am a social butterfly but one without a comfortable spot to attach to. so i grow close to people who are the same - like him - and that's how the attachment became so intense, and the detachment now so painfully difficult.

i understand the bit about friends, where his guilt may be reduced because i appear to be alright with him. but i was wondering if he'd even feel bad at all if i broke off our friendship. he has mentioned many times that he has an emotional switch, on and off, whenever he wants to, like a defence mechanism that keeps him from getting hurt. i know this isn't an aries forum, but is that humanly possible? how can someone, who is an aries at that, be so emotionally detached from the things he engages in? i suppose he is just incredibly insecure to require so much female attention.

Hey, the purging didn't go so well, an ex (libra) came back and distracted my head so I spent a good bit of time ranting at him about his disrespect.

Honestly, I do think some people can switch it on and off, my Aries can - but he has an Aqua moon, so detatached and aloof aren't big enough words for him. I don't think yours would feel bad, maybe ego-bruised, but not bad.

I love Aries men too, have a few of them in my life, platonically, never thought I'd meet one romantically and end up feeling so attached to him, but you're right, the time and distance is helping - just wish I could put more distance, seeing him now and again accidently just causes setbacks, and his house backs onto mine to make matters worse, but I grit my teeth through it all. You will too - cut him off and out, its the only way 😢

Meant to say, he's your number 9 sign - you're a 5-9 compatibility, hard one to get over 🙂

Oh just read elsewhere that his Mars/Venus is in aquarius, ugh - if it's possible to be worse than aqua moon this one is it, yes he can shut off his emotions, quite easily, so don't you worry about him being hurt by the removal of your friendship, he won't be.

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Oh just read elsewhere that his Mars/Venus is in aquarius, ugh - if it's possible to be worse than aqua moon this one is it, yes he can shut off his emotions, quite easily, so don't you worry about him being hurt by the removal of your friendship, he won't be.

Imagine dealing with a person who has sun, moon, Venus and Mars ( not to mention Juno and Lilith as well ) in Aquarius.😢

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-celticlioness: i wish you well, and hope that you'll recover from it soon. hang in there! a large bit of my life fell out of place when many of my close friends went overseas to study, or we lost contact, and i know it strange, but i am a social butterfly but one without a comfortable spot to attach to. so i grow close to people who are the same - like him - and that's how the attachment became so intense, and the detachment now so painfully difficult.

i understand the bit about friends, where his guilt may be reduced because i appear to be alright with him. but i was wondering if he'd even feel bad at all if i broke off our friendship. he has mentioned many times that he has an emotional switch, on and off, whenever he wants to, like a defence mechanism that keeps him from getting hurt. i know this isn't an aries forum, but is that humanly possible? how can someone, who is an aries at that, be so emotionally detached from the things he engages in? i suppose he is just incredibly insecure to require so much female attention.

Hey, the purging didn't go so well, an ex (libra) came back and distracted my head so I spent a good bit of time ranting at him about his disrespect.

Honestly, I do think some people can switch it on and off, my Aries can - but he has an Aqua moon, so detatached and aloof aren't big enough words for him. I don't think yours would feel bad, maybe ego-bruised, but not bad.

I love Aries men too, have a few of them in my life, platonically, never thought I'd meet one romantically and end up feeling so attached to him, but you're right, the time and distance is helping - just wish I could put more distance, seeing him now and again accidently just causes setbacks, and his house backs onto mine to make matters worse, but I grit my teeth through it all. You will too - cut him off and out, its the only way 😢

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Oh my, libras can be quite insensitive sometimes. I'm sure the aries man has hurt you so much from his detachment and aloof behaviour too. I guess the importance is not about whether or not he'd feel bad at all, but about how we feel.

Oh dear, talking about setbacks. I met him today, I practically allowed myself to be around him and despite all the "i can totally do this" in my head, here i am, half ins

half insane and half holding myself down. and wanting to call him and asking him over to provide me attention .

i am really back at square one. i am going mad. i am losing my mind right now

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half insane and half holding myself down. and wanting to call him and asking him over to provide me attention .

i am really back at square one. i am going mad. i am losing my mind right now

Ah you poor thing, the thing is you HAVE to distance yourself from him, so go out of your way to ensure you don't see any sight of him for a long time, i've done this for the last 5 weeks, I know where he is and when he will be there so I avoid those places, difficult as it is, I have to reorganise my timetable until I am completely sure I am in a don't give a fuck place. Otherwise you will keep going back to square one again and again, my biggest mistake with the Aries was letting my guard down after so long of his games and letting him in, when I really knew he was playing all along.

Keep posting, getting it out is the best thing, and the friends can only listen to so much 🙂

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-celticlioness: i wish you well, and hope that you'll recover from it soon. hang in there! a large bit of my life fell out of place when many of my close friends went overseas to study, or we lost contact, and i know it strange, but i am a social butterfly but one without a comfortable spot to attach to. so i grow close to people who are the same - like him - and that's how the attachment became so intense, and the detachment now so painfully difficult.

i understand the bit about friends, where his guilt may be reduced because i appear to be alright with him. but i was wondering if he'd even feel bad at all if i broke off our friendship. he has mentioned many times that he has an emotional switch, on and off, whenever he wants to, like a defence mechanism that keeps him from getting hurt. i know this isn't an aries forum, but is that humanly possible? how can someone, who is an aries at that, be so emotionally detached from the things he engages in? i suppose he is just incredibly insecure to require so much female attention.

Hey, the purging didn't go so well, an ex (libra) came back and distracted my head so I spent a good bit of time ranting at him about his disrespect.

Honestly, I do think some people can switch it on and off, my Aries can - but he has an Aqua moon, so detatached and aloof aren't big enough words for him. I don't think yours would feel bad, maybe ego-bruised, but not bad.

I love Aries men too, have a few of them in my life, platonically, never thought I'd meet one romantically and end up feeling so attached to him, but you're right, the time and distance is helping - just wish I could put more distance, seeing him now and again accidently just causes setbacks, and his house backs onto mine to make matters worse, but I grit my teeth through it all. You will too - cut him off and out, its the only way 😢

Oh my, libras can be quite insensitive sometimes. I'm sure the aries man has hurt you so much from his detachment and aloof behaviour too. I guess the importance is not about whether or not he'd feel bad at all, but about how we feel.

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yes they can, well he came back to make himself feel better a

yes they can, well he came back to make himself feel better about the whole thing and rebalance himself, so he's left feeling even more unbalanced and it feels good to have kicked ass for once 🙂

Bloody site, they go offline for hours every weekend to do whatever it is they think needs doing, and still can't fix little glitches like cutting posts off.

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Oh just read elsewhere that his Mars/Venus is in aquarius, ugh - if it's possible to be worse than aqua moon this one is it, yes he can shut off his emotions, quite easily, so don't you worry about him being hurt by the removal of your friendship, he won't be.

Imagine dealing with a person who has sun, moon, Venus and Mars ( not to mention Juno and Lilith as well ) in Aquarius.😢

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Not good 🙂 The aqua Sun is fine, its all the other aqua that I'd imagine is hard to handle. How do you do it?

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yes they can, well he came back to make himself feel better about the whole thing and rebalance himself, so he's left feeling even more unbalanced and it feels good to have kicked ass for once 🙂

Bloody site, they go offline for hours every weekend to do whatever it is they think needs doing, and still can't fix little glitches like cutting posts off.

good job kicking ass it must be such a boost to you 🙂 can only imagine how it feels after. no one should seek to do things solely for themselves i think that's so selfish.

i know what you mean about distancing, and avoiding to the extreme, and that's so effective and helpful too. i can imagine. i've been reading baggage reclaim and it's helping me a lot, except for my slip up today. the main problem is, he still wants to be friends, he's said it once that i have actually changed his life. and to be honest, i want to be friends too, because hell he's changed mine and i'm sentimental (probably a bit insane now too, pardon my extremities). i don't want to be with him, i just want to stop loving him...

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yes they can, well he came back to make himself feel better about the whole thing and rebalance himself, so he's left feeling even more unbalanced and it feels good to have kicked ass for once 🙂

Bloody site, they go offline for hours every weekend to do whatever it is they think needs doing, and still can't fix little glitches like cutting posts off.

good job kicking ass it must be such a boost to you 🙂 can only imagine how it feels after. no one should seek to do things solely for themselves i think that's so selfish.

i know what you mean about distancing, and avoiding to the extreme, and that's so effective and helpful too. i can imagine. i've been reading baggage reclaim and it's helping me a lot, except for my slip up today. the main problem is, he still wants to be friends, he's said it once that i have actually changed his life. and to be honest, i want to be friends too, because hell he's changed mine and i'm sentimental (probably a bit insane now too, pardon my extremities). i don't want to be with him, i just want to stop loving him...

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Ya know what I think - he doesn't "want" to be your friend, he "needs" you to say you will be his - so he will feel better and then he'll be nice n happy and move on without giving you a second thought. Just my take on it, I could be wrong, but I don't think so.

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Oh just read elsewhere that his Mars/Venus is in aquarius, ugh - if it's possible to be worse than aqua moon this one is it, yes he can shut off his emotions, quite easily, so don't you worry about him being hurt by the removal of your friendship, he won't be.

Imagine dealing with a person who has sun, moon, Venus and Mars ( not to mention Juno and Lilith as well ) in Aquarius.😢

Not good 🙂 The aqua Sun is fine, its all the other aqua that I'd imagine is hard to handle. How do you do it?

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yes, how do you do it? i have a really good friend of mine that's aqua sun, and she's sensitive, caring and plants herself into my life despite disappearing for long times. we've understood this to be our dynamics, and her passion for our friendship is what keeps me holding on.

aqua in everything else is just so distant :O maybe i should go to the aqua boards...

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yes they can, well he came back to make himself feel better about the whole thing and rebalance himself, so he's left feeling even more unbalanced and it feels good to have kicked ass for once 🙂

Bloody site, they go offline for hours every weekend to do whatever it is they think needs doing, and still can't fix little glitches like cutting posts off.

good job kicking ass it must be such a boost to you 🙂 can only imagine how it feels after. no one should seek to do things solely for themselves i think that's so selfish.

i know what you mean about distancing, and avoiding to the extreme, and that's so effective and helpful too. i can imagine. i've been reading baggage reclaim and it's helping me a lot, except for my slip up today. the main problem is, he still wants to be friends, he's said it once that i have actually changed his life. and to be honest, i want to be friends too, because hell he's changed mine and i'm sentimental (probably a bit insane now too, pardon my extremities). i don't want to be with him, i just want to stop loving him...

Ya know what I think - he doesn't "want" to be your friend, he "needs" you to say you will be his - so he will feel better and then he'll be nice n happy and move on without giving you a second thought. Just my take on it, I could be wrong, but I don't think so.

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aquarius in venus and mars disproves the need for wanting to tie anyone down, even friends. i don't think he needs me at all...

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Oh just read elsewhere that his Mars/Venus is in aquarius, ugh - if it's possible to be worse than aqua moon this one is it, yes he can shut off his emotions, quite easily, so don't you worry about him being hurt by the removal of your friendship, he won't be.

Imagine dealing with a person who has sun, moon, Venus and Mars ( not to mention Juno and Lilith as well ) in Aquarius.😢

Not good 🙂 The aqua Sun is fine, its all the other aqua that I'd imagine is hard to handle. How do you do it?

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by staying away 🙂 as much as possible,
Too much air is not good for long-haired girls anyways,

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half insane and half holding myself down. and wanting to call him and asking him over to provide me attention .

i am really back at square one. i am going mad. i am losing my mind right now

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Have you read "Harry Potter" ?---all seven books ?

If you haven't than read them----He is a quintessential Leo Hero created by a Leo author.

It's all about the journey of self-empowerment, which , in order to grow up , a Leo person has to go through; do read it.

Aries woman here... I've got to say, I'm pleased to see Leos infatuated with Aries too...
I'm sooo infatuated with a Leo guy.... *sigh*

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Aries woman here... I've got to say, I'm pleased to see Leos infatuated with Aries too...
I'm sooo infatuated with a Leo guy.... *sigh*

Why this * sigh * Lotuslily ?

Is your Leo proving problematic ?

No... We have an understanding but I have to wait to see him for so long again. He got under my skin and I like it... He's a very bad boy tho... Which I also like! I just can't wait for the day I get to see him again. The sigh was because I'm always daydreaming about him!

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half insane and half holding myself down. and wanting to call him and asking him over to provide me attention .

i am really back at square one. i am going mad. i am losing my mind right now

aliasidealist

Have you read "Harry Potter" ?---all seven books ?

If you haven't than read them----He is a quintessential Leo Hero created by a Leo author.

It's all about the journey of self-empowerment, which , in order to grow up , a Leo person has to go through; do read it.

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that's really interesting. I'll go get the first book now and start all over. I can't remember so much from it!

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No... We have an understanding but I have to wait to see him for so long again. He got under my skin and I like it... He's a very bad boy tho... Which I also like! I just can't wait for the day I get to see him again. The sigh was because I'm always daydreaming about him!

sweet sweet aries leo unison. or rather explosive fire!

i never imagined an aries to be sitting around daydreaming about anyone... 🙂

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No... We have an understanding but I have to wait to see him for so long again. He got under my skin and I like it... He's a very bad boy tho... Which I also like! I just can't wait for the day I get to see him again. The sigh was because I'm always daydreaming about him!

sweet sweet aries leo unison. or rather explosive fire!

i never imagined an aries to be sitting around daydreaming about anyone... 🙂

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But isn't it nice to imagine that they might be 🙂

Leo/Aries, such an attraction, fatal perhaps - it's the 5-9 compatibility, never to be forgotten if you ever get it. aries is leo's number 9

YOUR # 9 SIGN

Your # 9 sign is one of the most pleasant experiences you'll ever meet.

# 9 will first approach you on a mental, conversational or "easy charm" level. Even if you're meeting a # 9 who's going to become the love of your life, it's likely that at first you won't feel a strong attraction. You only feel comfortable, charmed, bemused - yet somehow, you don't leave, and the hours fly by. Slowly, and often with gentle humor, this sign takes your mind, and leads it into the forests of love. (Your body willingly tags along, too.)

A relationship with # 9 will expand your horizons, broaden your understanding, and often lead you into far travel or higher education. You "grow up" after an affair with # 9. But a #1-# 9 relationship has the same potential weakness as a #1-#5: the love can flare too intensely to burn for decades. It surrounds you, it throws your life into a conflagration, it burns all its fuel away. Then lassitude comes. If this combination is to succeed as a marriage, the two of you need some "friction providers" - some planetary obstacles to keep you from enveloping (and eventually suffocating) each other. "Intensity providers" (planetary aspects that promote roman tic/sexual intensity) are unfortunately not always a solution, as these might 1) burn the flame out sooner, or 2) send this love past the bounds of realism, even of reality, leaving both lovers "lost in space."

A # 9 child, parent or friend is a true joy, as understanding, compassion and similar interests accompany a natural, clean feeling of love. Pick your # 9 if you're seeking a lawyer, teacher, religious, moral or philosophical guide. But don't be too q

and Leo is Aries number 5 sign:

YOUR # 5 SIGN

To find your # 5 sign, count your own sign as # 1 in any horoscope column, then label the next sign # 2, and so on. For example, Aries' # 5 sign is Leo, Taurus' # 5 is Virgo, and so on.

# 5 is your romance sign. This is the sign you're most likely to put on a pedestal, to adore. A mystery and awe, a deep, innocent feeling will overcome you when you fall under # 5's spell. This is your sign of beauty and pleasure, and often the love you feel toward your # 5 is returned, because you're your # 5's # 9, another strong love sign.

The massive potency of a # 1 - # 5 relationship will not happen every time these two signs meet - if you meet twelve new people per week (including the gas station attendant, bus driver, etc., etc.) then you will typically meet over 50 representatives of your # 5 sign every year - 500 in a decade. For the average person, even one major love per decade is a "feat." So nature itself prevents us from being vulnerable to every # 5 acquaintanceship. But when you're ready to fall, # 5 is more likely than any other sign to paint your life with love's sweet, luminous sting. A beauty emanates from him or her; it surrounds you and paints your world with magic's trance; the most impoverished room, the dingiest factory corner, is bathed in deep splendour.

This is the sign you're most likely to put on a pedestal. At first, at least, it is very hard to see # 5's flaws. (Which might make you resent them more deeply when they do show.) The kind of passions # 5 triggers often wear out or grow suffocating after a year or two - it's just too much for the human organism to sustain. A #1 - # 5 relationship, to endure, needs some refreshing excitement, some outside socializing, lightness and air. With these, a # 1-# 5 can last forever. You will never forget a # 5 relationship, whether it was reciprocated or not, for it opened your eyes to an unexpected, overwhelming beauty.

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and Leo is Aries number 5 sign:

YOUR # 5 SIGN

To find your # 5 sign, count your own sign as # 1 in any horoscope column, then label the next sign # 2, and so on. For example, Aries' # 5 sign is Leo, Taurus' # 5 is Virgo, and so on.

# 5 is your romance sign. This is the sign you're most likely to put on a pedestal, to adore. A mystery and awe, a deep, innocent feeling will overcome you when you fall under # 5's spell. This is your sign of beauty and pleasure, and often the love you feel toward your # 5 is returned, because you're your # 5's # 9, another strong love sign.

The massive potency of a # 1 - # 5 relationship will not happen every time these two signs meet - if you meet twelve new people per week (including the gas station attendant, bus driver, etc., etc.) then you will typically meet over 50 representatives of your # 5 sign every year - 500 in a decade. For the average person, even one major love per decade is a "feat." So nature itself prevents us from being vulnerable to every # 5 acquaintanceship. But when you're ready to fall, # 5 is more likely than any other sign to paint your life with love's sweet, luminous sting. A beauty emanates from him or her; it surrounds you and paints your world with magic's trance; the most impoverished room, the dingiest factory corner, is bathed in deep splendour.

This is the sign you're most likely to put on a pedestal. At first, at least, it is very hard to see # 5's flaws. (Which might make you resent them more deeply when they do show.) The kind of passions # 5 triggers often wear out or grow suffocating after a year or two - it's just too much for the human organism to sustain. A #1 - # 5 relationship, to endure, needs some refreshing excitement, some outside socializing, lightness and air. With these, a # 1-# 5 can last forever. You will never forget a # 5 relationship, whether it was reciprocated or not, for it opened your eyes to an unexpected, overwhelming beauty.

oh wow. i love how the descriptions make it seem so personal - as though it is specifically speaking only about the aries and leo connection, though i understand it to be unique for every sign. thank you so much for the long descriptions, i do feel everything that's described to my 9.

i last saw him a few days ago, with a bunch of friends. he was out doing his thing, being friendly to every girl in the room, attra

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attractive or not, much sweeter to them than he was to me even though we are much closer friends to one another. i discussed this with a friend the day after and it just seemed really out of sorts for someone to behave this way, even if his venus and mars was in aquarius - it appears that he is unable to handle how he feels towards me (i'm not indicating anything romantic) that he is behaving in such a cold, distant manner, while we are both in the presence of other people. it's alarmingly obvious, and he does not try to hide it - for e.g. inching towards other people and holding them while avoiding my physical closeness like a plague. Of course, i did not put myself out there and try to be close to him, i just respected the space he wanted to give. I read online that if a man has venus (or was it mars) in aqua, he'd most likely shy away from someone he might actually have some sort of connection with simply because it is somewhat conventional, or too normal, the fear or being vulnerable and tied down to someone else emotionally. Then again, this is just me wondering, and I've had pretty enough of wondering as it is.

I've been hospitalized since (blame those late nights...), and have had no physical interaction with him. He would text me first - the morning after our hang out he did, and since then we've had one liner conversations that are separated by 5 hour or more intervals (when i am sleeping/when he just does not reply), but he has been replying me in this manner for two days, asking me if i am fine, if i have left the hospital. i am somewhat puzzled by this behaviour. why pretend that i don't exist when in front of other people and why appear to care (or is this just some obligatory thing?) in private? my responses haven't been exactly friendly. just very obligatory. he's just been asking me the same question all day...

i am not trying to think too much into it, as i have probably crossed a certain tolerance for his insane, hurtful behaviour that i am rather aloof now. where our mutual activities come to a stop (they are too taxing for my body), and the distance that will come where we will both be travelling to different locations for quite some time... i have a good feeling that the only way to go from here is up. i guess i can't keep him as a friend, after all.

last puzzling bit:

him: home already?

half an hour -
me: home.

3 mins -
him: not okay enough to text?

an hour -
me: hi?

an hour -
him: do you need to talk?

an hour -
me: you asked if i'm not okay enough to text?

no reply since, he's probably asleep. this miscommunication drives me nuts cause i analyze things to death.
still has a grip on me. LETTING IT GO MORE AND MORE EACH DAY!

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No... We have an understanding but I have to wait to see him for so long again. He got under my skin and I like it... He's a very bad boy tho... Which I also like! I just can't wait for the day I get to see him again. The sigh was because I'm always daydreaming about him!

sweet sweet aries leo unison. or rather explosive fire!

i never imagined an aries to be sitting around daydreaming about anyone... 🙂

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Linda Goodman wrote a good description of the Aries woman. Something about wasting no time getting over hoards of men, but there will always be that one we dream about on days when rain is pouring down and there is nothing for us to do excet sit and daydream about the one we can't have for some cruel reason. She said it's like Scarlett Ohara and Rhett Butler.

We can have any man in our vicinity, but we'll yearn for the one a million miles away.

I liked that 5/9 thing too! Very cool. It does feel like its exactly how it is with me and Leo! So intense when we do connect with each other but if we're in contact too much, we start getting frustrated. Then we don't speak for a while... Go on our own missions for months sometimes, then it's back to intensity when we reconnect. And it's unsaid that we'll reconnect again. It's like an unspoken understanding, like it forms a part of the magic. We have to go away so we can realize how cool the other is compared to other people. Sounds weird, but we're both cool about it. We both need our freedom and we both know it. He's said before that if he were a woman, he would probably be me! Haha...

aliasidealist..you told my story when you blogged this almost exactly for a moment I thought I wrote it. How are you? I was googling and came across your post. I will email you and hope that you are still checking this website. I also hope all is well. You are a very special lady even though you didn't have intentions to fall in love with an Aries that was attached. No Leo does that. We are women who are one man women. It happened. It's better to have found love than not to have loved at all is more than a cliche but a reality and a very beautiful one. The difference in my story is he was not attached but a lonely Aries. I will try and share a snapshot of my love affair with my Aries. It was quite a surprise. But a beautiful surprise.

I didn't even want to be bothered with him once I found out he was an Aries (March 31st) because of 2 previous bad Aries encounters. But,I was attracted to his intellect & approachability of course he was hot. He was a professor of mine. From there I ask for his help with a project in my professional life & because it was interesting & filled with lots of potential to do good he accepted. We looked at it as a mentor/protege relationship...his expertise &my noviceness. Then we moved to friendship which was fantastic & a surprise because like I stated earlier I never wanted anything else as a matter of fact we stated that we would be just platonic friends.
We had a lot of fun when we "hung out" beer/appetizers thai/indian conversations about our life. We took turns paying for our hang out sessions. Just general good times. Then we both started to do nice things for each other(buying gifts). We even came up with our special word & finding things like food that was a 10. After 2 mos. he started cooking for me & wanted to introduce me to wine & his parents. The first time he cooked for me he baked me a key lime pie & I purchased his favorite fish Halibut all the way from Alaska at $ 26 a lb. We continued to work on the professional project & spend even more time together. Either I was at his house or he was at mine. His 12 yrs old dog & I also clicked which I even babysat while he was out of town at a conference. Hello &goodbye hugs that turned into holding each other.After 6 months of this & him leaving a message that he ended with talk to you babe I felt like it was time to see if he wanted more than a platonic relationship. Although we had run into this issue a couple of times during the 6 months, like when he baked/ wined/dined me(with flowers & candles throughout his house) & wanted to introduce me to his parents & after I sent roses & chocolate dipped strawberries (which he said he loved & no one had ever done for him & he knew it was me before he read the card).But when I ask if he wanted more & I told him I loved him he told me we could only be friends that he didn't have that emotion for me but could. I need to mention the hard-ons that went unacknowledged. We haven't communicated since our last conversation when he had another rude episode of tactless words which he always apologizes for. I miss & still ache for him. My strong Leo won't let me reach out because I am a lady that he says I am. So I wait to see if he will.