leos emotions

Do any other leos find it hard to express emotions? When do you know a person is worthy enough to see those emotions?

I think for myself there's a difference between being capable of expressing feelings and being uncomfortable with expressing.

It takes me a long time to feel comfortable expressing the outgoing, warm and bubbly side of Leo but it's easy to express that side of myself.

On the flip side anything that is below surface level is extremely difficult for me to express and I'm -always- uncomfortable when I do, and the deeper the feelings the more difficult and uncomfortable it is. I always feel vulnerable and exposed in a way that I've never gotten used to. I now force myself to express feelings when I think communication is necessary and appropriate, but I've never felt comfortable with it.

I like to keep my cards extremely close to my chest and although I have a couple really close friends in my life, I don't know that I fully trust anyone but myself. I've always attributed that to my Scorpio moon though, as I've noticed it's the gatekeeper to how and when and to whom I express myself.

As for when someone's worthy... on the rare occasion I 'click' with someone and I instinctively know that they're safe and trustworthy. But most of the time it takes a lot of time, interaction and observing (creepering) them to find out.


TL;DR Happy fun times are easy, everything else is hard lol

At the risk of boring people (sorry)..today I told the Leo i'm interested in that i needed a "time out", not a permanent one, just that I feel as though life is coming down on me from all sides and i'm feeling a little overwhelmed. He said "i cant see the logic in that, but hey ho. Take care". HUH?!!!! I've supported him through some heavy shit these last 3/4 months and that's the best he can do.

So, would like to know more about this too! Maybe he sees it as a rejection, but i told him i needed a little bit of space without pulling the disappearing act.

Posted by Sola
At the risk of boring people (sorry)..today I told the Leo i'm interested in that i needed a "time out", not a permanent one, just that I feel as though life is coming down on me from all sides and i'm feeling a little overwhelmed. He said "i cant see the logic in that, but hey ho. Take care". HUH?!!!!

I've supported him through some heavy shit these last 3/4months and that's the best he can do.

So, would like to know more about this too! Maybe he sees it as a rejection, but i told him i needed a little bit of space without pulling the disappearing act.

Okay


LEO: *going thru Heavy Shit, keeps Leebgirl by side*

Leebgirl: *going thru Heavy Shit, tells LEO GTFO*



smh

It's a mystery. 😐

I find it hard to express my emotions irl.

The Scorpio moon makes it worse because the emotions I do have are always to the extreams.

It's hard for me to release emotion or find an outlet, yet is a constant build up. I usually turn to creativity as an outlet but everyone sees me happy and loving, yet my true emotions are dark and depressing.

I'm also terrified expressing to others how I truly feel or who I truly am. It's in fear of exposing any of my weaknesses or making myself seem pathetic.
Unfortunately my only creative outlet makes me do exactly that.

I feel stuck or trapped within my emotion and feeling the majority of my days, yet the world in my life has no clue.

This is a serious problem..he was not told to GTF, only that i need to take some time out. Why cant people deal with their shit in their own way.

When i was there for him, I was really there..listening and accepting limitations of the circumstances etc. Now that is my turn to maybe need somebody to get me through he takes the humph and makes it all about him. Why cant he just wait a week or 3 until im ready to be myself again? I cant ask him, hes angry right now 😢

I do not express emotions very well. I am either nonchalant or all in your face. LOL

I tend to say things like I am so excited in a the same tone that I would use to say can you pass the ketchup. I am excited though. My friends make fun of me all the time about it.

People always call me laid back which is true I guess. I know I come across different in my writing style but really I don't care about a whole lot of STUFF. Is that bad? I really just don't care.

I don't care about politics or gay marriage or what celebrity is doing who or what religion is waging war or the planet and its eventual demise. I am not really interested.

I think it's my Venus in Virgo. Venus in Cancer people will love you even when you don't love you.

I also have a venus in virgo (as does the Leo)..i hear you on all that!

Posted by Sola
This is a serious problem..he was not told to GTF, only that i need to take some time out. Why cant people deal with their shit in their own way.

When i was there for him, I was really there..listening and accepting limitations of the circumstances etc. Now that is my turn to maybe need somebody to get me through he takes the humph and makes it all about him. Why cant he just wait a week or 3 until im ready to be myself again? I cant ask him, hes angry right now 😢

I feel like either there are plotholes in this story from details not yet shared or a gap between was communicated to the Leo and what was actually EXPECTED of the Leo.

What did you communicate to him and what did you actually want from him? How is he not meeting any of it?

It's like Montgomery said, Leos keep their loved ones close during a crisis. Not being allowed to reciprocate that support, being pushed away or shut out from people we care about kills a Leo.

I understand that everyone functions differently but how is your being upset at how he feels any better than him being upset at you pushing him away? It's the same thing isn't it? An incompatibility or opposition that is simply a part of who you each are. Either you communicate it and try to work with or around each other or you're at a standstill.

Its because i think i might maybe love him and i'm sure he doesn't feel the same way. And i don't actually really need his help, I just didn't expect that he would be defensive and make it look like I was ending it..which i totally am not doing. He may tell me to fuck right off and i will be sad about that.

He doesn't know what i expect because I haven't asked, because my view is that I shouldn't have to. Maybe i'm wrong about that philosophy in this case?

Posted by Sola
This is a serious problem..he was not told to GTF, only that i need to take some time out. Why cant people deal with their shit in their own way.

When i was there for him, I was really there..listening and accepting limitations of the circumstances etc. Now that is my turn to maybe need somebody to get me through he takes the humph and makes it all about him. Why cant he just wait a week or 3 until im ready to be myself again? I cant ask him, hes angry right now 😢

o_____O


Let's go back and read what you just wrote.


Now that is my turn to maybe need

somebody to get me through??_


What the hell... that's not what you're asking.

He could just "check in" rather than give me a psychological dissection! You know, show me that he "gets" it, my quirk.

He doesn't know what you want, he has NO way of knowing what you want... but it's okay to hold him to your expectations? To be upset with him when he doesn't meet them?

And you don't feel you should have to ask? Really?

The standard definition of a 'break' means more distance and less communication. If this is NOT what you what you wanted, then using that word creates a gap in understanding. And it is YOUR responsibility to bridge that gap and clarify, because they are your wants, needs and expectations, NOT his. Just as it's everyone's responsibility to communicate clearly what they want and need.

There is expecting people reading between the lines and then there's expecting someone to navigate an emotional minefield. In the dark.

No one is built for that so if you want someone to venture in, give them a flashlight and a map for goodness' sake 😆

ooops!!! Fine, i might just go and eat some humble pie.. right now. And maybe ask for some make up sex?! Hhahaha 🙂 Thanks guys!

LOL

I would suggest first figuring out what you want clearly for yourself. When you've done that take the leap and share it with him in no uncertain terms. If he cares about you he should have NO problem being there for you, Leos can be incredibly protective and WANT to be there for our loved ones.

When you've done that... ask for make up sex.

... and maybe expect a lot of it.

😆

I want him, more him..and then some more 🙂 He says he only tried to be there for me and how would I feel if he said that kind of thing to me. Ok he has a point! i THINK THE SEX IS IN THE BAG, WHOOP!

I think that's what I appreciate about Libras the most, you know. That desire for balance and fairness helps you to be open to see all sides of a situation. It's awesome that you managed to clear that up so quickly, I'm glad I was right about him wanting to be there for you and being upset at feeling shut out.

Sex is definitely in the bag, have fun trying to walk for the next few days 😆

He's far too soft on me you know. He could have easily sent me on my way to hell.

It's not about being soft, it's about everyone's innate desire to be heard and understood. You took the time to do that, sounds like he did too so you now you're both on the same page. Thus make up shmexy times.

If you hadn't ... yeah, he might've told you where to stick it lol

I'm glad you started this thread MoonshineLeo, else I would have done it myself!

It seems to me that leos can be incredibly affectionate and considerate with their actions. They can make you feel very special and loved. But when it comes to talking about emotions, especially the loving ones, they just look confused and lost 😄 I'm quite forgiving on this though, because I am really bad at talking about my emotions as well. Can't blame them, it's hard..

Posted by safire
I'm glad you started this thread MoonshineLeo, else I would have done it myself!

It seems to me that leos can be incredibly affectionate and considerate with their actions. They can make you feel very special and loved. But when it comes to talking about emotions, especially the loving ones, they just look confused and lost 😄 I'm quite forgiving on this though, because I am really bad at talking about my emotions as well. Can't blame them, it's hard..

it is hard and its even harder to tell who is worthy of seeing them :/ sighhh

My Leo Dad was like that, very little outward emotion. Absolutly no touchy feelly stuff for him. I know he loved and cared for me very deeply, which was good since he never said it with words. He was warm,kind, and very considerate all shown with actions. I think between him and my emotional Libra Mother it was a balanced childhood.

Posted by seraph
Why the special interest in having to talk about them, though? Why the requirement? Why even call it "hard" or "easy"? They are no different than anything else that arises in the same space that your *thinking* occupies.

Just accept emotions for what they are. If they arise and there's an interest in talking about them or exploring them openly, then that's fine. That will happen. Or it won't. But whether it happens or not, why judge it as bad or good? If they don't come up for expression, they don't. That too is accepted and life continues. Having and not having, expressing and not expressing... these too are witnessed.

Why keep trying to poke at emotions like they're objects, in order to make them do things?

Are you looking for something from the other person? Are you attaching to a certain emotional state and then chasing that in others?

Doesn't it sound completely absurd? Talking about emotions. Why this need talk about them when you can simply express them naturally when they arise? What is there here that needs talking about? What are you looking to gain from it? What place in you are you looking to fill?

Very well said Seraph. When you write it is completely absurd -talking- about emotions, I do, for the most part, agree with you. I think talking about emotions is not necessarily just objectively talking about them, I think some emotions are much better expressed with words than with non-verbal communication. I view expressing of emotions as a positive act, so when I am unable to express mine, I feel like I am bad at it and it is hard for me. Even if it was physically expressing them which I find hard, with those emotions I am usually rather uncomfortable talking about them as well. When I fail to express my emotions, it often leaves others in confusion about my emotional state. They tend to initiate a conversation about my emotions, maybe asking questions like "Are you upset with me, have I done something to offend you?" or "Are you enjoying yourself right now?". I do the same when I am confused, with good intentions, trying to understand what is being communicated to me.

@Seraph:

When you wrote "Why keep trying to poke at emotions like they're objects, in order to make them do things?" and "Are you looking for something from the other person?" and "What place in you are you looking to fill?" it really hit home with me and you got me thinking. If we can regard love as an emotion, then yes, I do think I am trying to make it do things. I am looking for it from another person and trying to fill some kind of a void within me, too. Not such an ideal situation, but rather human, I guess. I don't do it intentionally, but I recognize I still do it. I am learning to love, trust and appreciate myself, but I think it might be a life long journey. If I cannot feel the love from a partner, or trust what I'm feeling, I need verbal emotional validations from them.