Making sense of an ANGRY LEO?

So to make a long story short, this Leo and I had a fight (it was my fault, I pushed him away through mean comments), we haven't spoke for 10 days because he left the next day for a trip. I left a VM apologizing, still no communication. I receive a text from him yesterday (he comes home today) saying :" Your slowly but surely creeping into my good graces.Well maybe not surely, but I think u get my point, thank you!"

Um, .."but you're slowly but surely creeping into my good graces...." Then "well maybe not surely but you know what I mean"--sounds like he's trying to be controlling/play games/"punish" me stop or keep me guessing? Like he's enjoying it? He comes home tomorrow. Any thoughts?


and I am confident he will talk to me, he wouldn't have lasted this long and I am pretty sure he's not deliberately ignoring me. He left for a trip the next day after our initial fight for about 11 days, and it would be typical, at least if I were in his shoes, to not deal with things until I get home because what would the point be?

Well it's basically done! I messed up. Took the advice and reached out to him by asking "How was your trip, love?" No response for five hours. Typically I would not hound , as I realize someone is busy, however, I realized at this point he was purposely ignoring me.

I snapped. I then proceed to send a text hours later saying " Alright, love. Let's state the obvious...it's clear to me that you do not want to make conversation and I respect that. However, I am also not one to beat a dead horse. Hopefully we can be friends one day. I do have two studly shirts that you left behind, let me know if you need them".

He then responded 30 seconds later saying "I do, I'll meet you for drinks next week to grab them". I then respond (which I shouldn't have) saying "I'd be lying if I said your response didn't make me laugh, punk (a name we use), ...but i'll be out of town next week. I get it--lol---I'll drop it off before I leave, no worries. Sound like a plan?"

(No response). I then proceed to go a little, well crazy, because it's clear he's ignoring me. At this point, I lost self control and didn't care. I then say " Alright, you're too much of a hard ass, you win. I don't want to play games nor do I want to drag this out---no hard feelings". (no response). I then send a final message (yes I know I went over board, but I've been silent for 2 weeks)

"Joe,You're killing me, Smalls! At the very least, I'd like to hear in your own words and move forward, regardless if you do not want to speak. It has been bothering me---I'm only human. Enough games, already. If you do not want to give me the opportunity, just tell me and I'll send your things".

NO response! UGH!

Posted by Justsomeguy
It sounds like you are asking for confrontation, yeah if he's over you then he should man up and tell you, but because he didn't he's not over you, he just needs his time.

Great Advice! and you're right, I knew what I was doing, but I got caught up in the situation, let my emotions get the best of me and lacked patience. So what you're saying is, you think he's not over me? It's funny because I was thinking the exact opposite...I was shocked, and was thinking "wow, he really is over me."

Just a little background info---we've only been dating for 2 months but he fell really hard, admitted himself. I hate to say it , but it was obvious he was more into me than I was him. He liked the chase. His friends and even work colleagues were saying "I've known him for 10 years, I've never seen him like this!".

He also made future plans with me (as far as August for his Birthday) and even weeks ahead (come to think of it this Sunday we have an event, obviously I'm not going!) but used a lot of "we". He'd even say things as far as " well let's say we got engaged, I'd want to do this first....".

So I was quite surprised. I assumed he was over me?

UPDATE: So oddly enough, the Leo reached out and texted me this: Maybe one day you'll get off that high horse of yours cause right now your butter stinks! Have a great life!"

WHAT!? Beyond confused. I thought he was done for good (as far as expecting him to respond). What is he looking for?

zut alors!!

Sounds like someone likes to snap and then play a sad little *fkng" pussy...

That might have driven your fella away. On the contrary, if he throws sentences at you, he is balancing on the scale of "I don't give the tiniest of dicks" AND "Well, I don't really want to be THAT bad of a person".

To make the long story short, he has something/someone that makes him feel good or at least not feel shitty, so he reeeeaaaaaally does not care AT THIS POINT, because if he did he would run to you like a little biach.

I suggest you re-evaluate your approach to relationships, and if he is back and not rejecting you (since it is the only reason you even wonder about him right now), don't give him hard time.

Love and tenderness,

Leo

fyi... love how the auto correct switched pu ssy to kitty and sh itty to butterty..: D

Thank you for your advice! So I do have an update which is quite interesting, although not the best news, it does feel good to hear him open up and gain some closure.

I had several nice dress shirts of his that I had to return. Since he lives so close, there was no point in sending it. Up until this point keep in mind we have had limited contact. I have not even heard the sound of his voice in three weeks, all text messages. He has been bouncing back between "hot and cold", saying we can meet next week for "dinner and drinks" then back to being angry.

Yesterday, I had a date for V day (nothing serious, just a casual guy friend) near LEOS house. I did not tell him this obviously but I said I would be in the area and I could drop off his things. I know every Thursday at 7PM he has an obligation which he has to attend to which is why I had planned on dropping things off then being that I thought he wouldn't want to see me. He said "K not sure if I'll be around or not, I have so and so, and I was planning on leaving around 7...?" I simply replied "Okay.". He said "Unless your coming over naked?" (Typical). Being that it was Valentine's Day, I replied "no hot date tonight?" He said, "No the girl I'm dating is in San Diego" (Yeah right). I decided to flatter his ego and said "Knowing you, I'd figure you'd have a backup plan, studdd!!" He said, "Well you could have been my original plan, if you weren't so stupid". (ouch).
So I also had a pizza that I had shipped (you can only get it out of state frozen); it was kind of "our thing", a memory we made on a trip. After my date, I said I wanted to drop it off since it has to go in the freezer immediately and it can't be left outside. I decided to say "I'll be done with dinner around 9:30, getting dinner with a friend, since I have to drop your things off, I'd love to kiss your face." He said, "Text me when you're done, we'll see!"

He was hesitant but said (and it hurt) "Sorry I'm good. I entertained the thought for a minute, Sar, but honestly I am not interested. I've moved on, you should do the same. Thanks for returning my things 🙂" I replied, "No problem! No worries, I respect and appreciate the honesty. I wanted to give you the gift regardless, make sure you put it in the freezer tonight. I'll drop it off and text you when I do, so you can open the door! Enjoy!" I then text him "Just dropped it off!" (I could see him inside his house watching TV). He goes, "YOU were just here? I was on the couch watc

CONTINUED.

"YOU were just here? I was on the couch watching TV. Phone was plugged in on the counter". I said, "I saw! How could you miss that TV! Of course I would have said hello, but I want to respect your wishes." (HERE IT COMES) He goes " Well I appreciate the gesture but Sara, you f*cked up bad that night. I don't know where you get off thinking you are better than me but now you get to live with it. I will never be able to fully respect you after that evening. My advice to you, don't drink so much but lets be honest...its not really your drinking, its your attitude. There's nothing left to say but know this...I could always tell you were lying. You have a horrible poker face. You thought you were smarter than me all the while I knew what was up. Again, you're not as smart as you think. It's never going to happen now. You disrespected me in a way that has no justification other than the fact that you are a snot. I'm not into snots. Hopefully you'll learn from this. I'll be cool with you if I see you out but theres no reason for us to talk anymore. Goodbye .We could have been SO GREAT, you knew it, and now you'll never know! Happy V-DAY! 🙂 "
I replied, " And I can respect that, Mike. I promise you I did not fool you. What you did get to know of me, was the real me, other than the one night. I can tell you it is a shame because I am the furthest thing from a snot, I am the opposite. Hurt people hurt people to be honest, and I was in a bad place that day. Yes I just ended a 4 year relationship, but did I want to bore you with that drama, no...because I did like you. I think maybe you're right, I acted like a snot, you saw bits and pieces of the real me but my guard was never down, and I'm sorry for that. I can tell you though your gut instinct was right about me...I think your a smart guy, you went with your gut, and I ruined it because I didn't process what had happened recently. It's a shame and I do wish I was just myself
I was scared in general, so I sabotaged something good and acted out in a way that was not myself. I am not perfect by any means, but I am human. I go hard with everything, love hard, work hard, hurt hard. I shouldn't have dragged you into that if I knew I wasn't ready but life happens. You can't plan shit. The heart wants what the heart wants and I went with it. But I respect your feelings and I do wish you the best, I've moved on as well. I don't care what you say though, I wanted to kiss you one last time.

I finished by saying ( and this was back and forth, all lumped into one paragraph)
"There was a reason you told me "Don't F*CK this up, Sara, we have something so good.", because it was timing. I know it was , 200% . Just know that I was 200% , I liked what we had, alot, Mike ...Life's too short to wonder, especially when you know something can be good but I don't expect you to feel the same afterwards."

I now see that he's still a bit hurt and at least I can have closure now knowing how he feels even though its not face to face. It's clear he's over me. Any WAY I can get him back? It's like my relationship went from CLASSY TO TRASHY. He used to say that I set the "bar so high, he's never met a more refined, driven, independent and classy woman". I was just going through the emotions of a breakup months later and it was unexpected.

Posted by pinkstarsxx
I finished by saying ( and this was back and forth, all lumped into one paragraph)
"There was a reason you told me "Don't F*CK this up, Sara, we have something so good.", because it was timing. I know it was , 200% . Just know that I was 200% , I liked what we had, alot, Mike ...Life's too short to wonder, especially when you know something can be good but I don't expect you to feel the same afterwards."

I now see that he's still a bit hurt and at least I can have closure now knowing how he feels even though its not face to face. It's clear he's over me. Any WAY I can get him back? It's like my relationship went from CLASSY TO TRASHY. He used to say that I set the "bar so high, he's never met a more refined, driven, independent and classy woman". I was just going through the emotions of a breakup months later and it was unexpected.

sorry but the last talk yall had seem to me nagging and just drama. I think u will get nothing frm him because he believe and fix on that u are wrong. I hate pointless arguments. Telling a person they wrong in 7 different ways doesnt change anything. I think his running on the fact that u really sorry.hes pushing further and further. Leave him alone. I have a feel that as soon when u act like him, u will see another response thats only if he want u badly enough.

please, re-read my message from 2/13/13.

Hugs and kisses,

Leo