Me Leo, Him Leo!!! Advice?

Hello all,

this is my first post. I stumbled here while trying to find infor on Leo men...


Here is my situation: Been with current BF who is a Libra for 6 years, we have reached the end of the relationship. I am working the courage to end it. However my boss at work is the object of my desire at the moment. He is aroun 9 or 10 years older than me. Although he hasnt said or done anything to show he is 100% interested in me, I picked up a few signals.

My problem is that I have no idea how to seduce him, how to let him know i want him but not be too in his face... He is single and has been repeating that to me for ages in little cheeky emails we send to each other every now and then. He knows that i have been with current BF for 6 years, he doesnt know how bad it is, but he does know we are unhappy.

I will not see him now till the 4th of August (our birthday) and i might not see him then either, as I plan on sneaking into the office before he arrives and leaving a suprise there for him, thanking him for all his lovely help and of course wishing him a happy birthday.

I have put on quite a lot of weight in the last few years being unhappy and all... and have a tendency to hide in black clothes. That's what my Leo man has always seen. I take care of my hair though, that is the only thing i have carried on doing. Is there a chance that I have blown it with him because i look like and a $ $ always in black? I am losing weight now, so I plan on surprising him at the end of August by going to his office and saying hello, wearing some nice top and a little make up too.


I feel he is the one for me, I never wanted children, but when i think of him, i picure us having 3 children and being a happy family... I know Leo and Leo can be hard work, but I tend to choose not to be the dominering one! I compromise quite a bit....


Help please, is there any chance he could go for me?


thanks :-)

That seems like a recipe for drama. Are you sure you want to go there? This situation could get VERY, VERY ugly.

End your current relationship and jump in...

And brush up your resume, just in case...

sagitTAURies..sometimes the things you say make sense.

😄

Yeah it could be a recipe for disaster but i am willing to take the risk because I have never felt like this before, he is the stron man I have always been looking for in my life. Never wanted children before NEVER EVER!!!!! EVER! 😛 but I see him and a happy life of wine, lazy summer afternoons and children starts racing through my mind lol


I should clarify, He is my direct boss but we work at two different sites about 15 minutes walk from each other lol do I still need to brush up my resume?


Do Leo men play hard to get? (he says he wants to find the "one" to have a life with etc)

AAAAAAARRRGGGGGHHHH I am becoming anxious and I am having sleepless nights hahahah

Carry on with advice and insights please if you can as i need all the help i can get.



PS: this is a kewl forum 😄

Leo men sometimes play hard to get, but I think in this case, he's being honest about wanting to find "the one"..
Fortunately, if you are a typical Leo in the areas of a "sunny" outlook, genuine personality, and big heart, and he gives you a chance, then you could be "the one" for him. For serious.

Leos make some of the best sentimental partners (aka "the one") assuming they're mature.

little sparrow, why do you sound so jealous to me??

Because you lack comprehension into who I am.

hey, how do you know what a Leo wants?
I mean, you're right, but how did you know?

i could say the same about you.

So?

I never saw anything about your birthday :oP
And your profile says you're a Taurus. they're supposed to have good intuition about things. also quite similar to Leos in a lot of ways. maybe you just understand us.

sagitTAUries
Yeah my direct boss heheheh, it's a weird and wonderful situation I am in, he is my boss but he doesnt tell me what to do. See, he is the IT manager for a high school and I am his equivalent-ish (much less experience and knowledge) at the High School's Prep school. So basically he is my boss only when there are huge decisions to take or I am stuck (hasnt happened yet :-) )
I think it would be so cool, if we hit it off well, I mean, we dont work at the same place, but we could go out after work, maybe sleepover and then go to work together next morning....... ohhh I have such a crush on him. And if you are referring to Boss-Underling office problems, there is no problem. There's Husbands and Wives working at both schools...

As for the signals, he tries to let me know that he is still single and aloooone whenever he gets a chance, he was very shy about me attending one of his plays, so iffy about it that he said: oh well, you can come but I wont be in it! When I complimented him, he was sooooo happy. I even got to see his gorgeous legs, he was wearing a little skirt in the play (dont ask lol) so when I said: Nice legs, he replied: Nice a $ $ too! hihihi
Lately he's been calling me almost everyday on my mobile (Im on holiday) to ask me about work related things yet he already knows the answers!!!

He came over to my school on Wednesday with the excuse that he had to check on something.... He waited by the door for me to go with him, but I didnt. He was a little uncomfortable then he went on his own.

When he got back he could have popped his head round the corner and said: I'm going, but instead he came into the office, sat opposite me, started fiddling with his beautiful wavey hair and talking (very nervously) about my cats and what I was in the middle of doing...

There's more... does any of the above make any sense to any of you?

yeah, pretty sure he likes you. and Leos do have great legs.

Oh so he doesn't sign your pay cheques?

I thought he was your boss-boss.

When are you breaking up with Libraboy?

little_sparrow

nah, that would be the Bursar of the school. He is just my boss... you know? my superior 8-D

There are too many implications with my Libra. We've been together for 6 years, I love him but not that way anymore. It hurts to think about that. We live together, Im scared of how I will manage to live (financially) on my own... Dont want to share a house/flat with anyone again, but i wont be able to afford rent on my own....

I dont know when I'll break up.

I agree with wheel. He sounds like he is interested in you. He sounds more like a Senior in your department than a manager, so you are pretty equal. Less chance of someone getting fired.

But you have a moral obligation to Libraboy. He must be dealt with first.

I understand. I broke up with a live-in once upon atime. Best decision of my life. I ended up with a flatmate for a few years. Lived on my own in a really cheap apartment and am back with a flatmate. I prefer living with someone else though. More fun that way.

🙂

Little Sparrow

I know I have a moral obligation (though i think he too has a crush on someone at his work place, but funnily enough I have stopped being jealous and possessive with him... I'm tired of the relationship...) I wouldnt get involved with someone else till I had ended the Libraboy story.

I would just like to know if am going in the right direction with my Leo before I actually cut the breakup (and healing) period short...


I am actually losing weight now (thank goodness i found the strength) so Im thinking maybe being all sexy and stuff at the end of August when i will see him again, could do the trick (or part of it hehehhe)

😕 I want to make him know I want him... but dont want to sound desperate.

Hihihi so you are suggesting it would be cool to share with someone? really? i actually was grateful for the flat we are renting now, not sharing with anyone... Just us (and our 2 cats and our problems)

Well, I;'m sure I'm gonna have to do something about the situation. Dont want to end up living unhappy forever because I didnt have the guts to face life.

Depends.

How good is your friendship with Bossboy?

What if you just said to him that you are thinking of ending things with Libraboy?

Just remember all relationship eventually go stale. Finding compatibility is hard. Don't leave Libraboy for Bossboy ... leave for yourself. You can't go wrong that way.

🙂

Little Sparrow,

Yep that's very wise what you said, I wouldnt be leaving Libraboy for Bossboy 🙂 I will be leaving him for me. But if there was no Bossboy in sight, I would take forever to break up. But with Bossboy in sight, I am tempted to move things a little quicker 😕


Thanks also for the suggestion of letting him know Im thinking of ending things with Libraboy :-) will do that in August!

Would love for him to show me he is interested a little more than now 🙂

*** Well, I;'m sure I'm gonna have to do something about the situation. Dont want to end up living unhappy forever because I didnt have the guts to face life.

I KNOW where you are coming from. That was me when I left my live-in. When I left him 4 yrs ago, it kick jumped my life into a wonderful series of adventures. Hands down best decision I ever made. 🙂

As for the roommate thing ... I actually love living with someone. I am a Libra and very social. When I lived by myself I was out at least 5 nights a week because I wanted to chat to people. I picked the perfect roommate for me, another Libra who is in a similar place in her life. We have so much fun!

Oh and our Friendship is slowly growing.....

Good!

Just do it as a really light airy thing not a heavy talk. Just matter of fact. "I have been thinking about leaving Libraboy." Then say nothing and watch his reaction.

Just keep it light and you should be okay.

Let me know how you get on! I am totally invested at this point. lol!

lol ooooh cant wait, fingers crossed, would love to let you know how it goes especially if it goes well 😄

LR
You're right, the living situation could become a bit hairy. You should just sit down and have a direct talk with your boyfriend and tell him that you think you both should start seeing other people. But that you think that you are both mature enough to still live together for awhile, at least until you can afford a place of your own. It would probably be relief to him as well, it sounds like he already has one foot out the door anyway. But at least there wouldn't be any pressure on either of you to have to move right away.

Your co-worker is deeply into you. Do you need him to erect a billboard to be more obvious? You have time to get back into shape before school starts. He's 37 and single...he'll definitely still be interested at the end of summer. You'll knock his socks off with the new you, then you can sneak off to the "teacher's lounge". I dated a teacher once, I know what really goes on in there...

SoftCookie ROFL

I liked the:"then you can sneak off to the "teacher's lounge". I dated a teacher once, I know what really goes on in there..." hihihihi

I wish I could tell you all about what the situation is with Libraboy without having to write a book. We used to have bi-monthly discussions about trying to fix our relationship etc... I was the one who always wanted to try and fix but he never eve budged an inch. Now that I finally made up my mind he started kissing me (on my forehead) on his way to work and on his way back....

Arrgghhhh! so confused. I will try to have a different kind of talk with Libraboy sometime soon (after my holidays though as I really need to relax for a couple of weeks)

Man-radar. (sparrow shakes head)

They know when we pull away emotionally (stop talking and trying to fix things) they are in trouble and start pulling their weight. As long as we keep talking, they feel safe. Or so it seems.

LS
It's because women are always talking...we only know there's a problem when the white noise stops... 😉

lmao!

That is kind of what I am getting at. HAHAHAHA!

SoftCookie: lol that is true, but I was always talking because I really really wanted things to work 😄

sagitTAUries: no no no! please no! I dont want a nasty break up. I care about him, I love him, he is a great friend... I dont want to have nasty memories :'-(

What kind of a Leo am I?! Scared of hurting people, scared of the unknown 😕

When I broke-up with my live-in, it was terrible. He was devestated. The fact that I told him 6 months prior that if things didn't change I was gone ... he didn't take it serious and I used that 6 months to decide what I wanted and if I could live the life we were living .... he just kept on keeping on. It totally took him by suprise. It took him a LONG time to get over it, but really there was nothing else I could do.

I don't know if that is the problem sag.

I think women are very vocal about their wants. I think the problem is they are too vocal about their every want. Men don't know when to listen and when to ignore.

Women and men also have a different capacity for language. Women usually make communication more complex than it needs to be. I have found men seem to respond the best when I am brief and to the point.

The one/two sentence method:

"I would prefer you not to leave your underwear in the livingroom. Please don't do it again."

The multiple feeling method:

"I am so frustrated with you. Why am I always picking up your underwear? Why can't you do it? Am I your maid? Don't you care about my feelings? yadda .... yadda."

Just some thoughts.

LS you're spot on. "Just the facts, ma'am" is what every man WANTS to say when he hears something like that.

I blame hormones, I have a great respect for women for having to put up with the monthly cycle. It takes a strong woman not to lose it completely for a couple of days. Like teenage boys and testosterone.

And don't get me started on menopause, I was thinking about disappearing for a few years when my mom went through. I think that's why alot of men keep trading in their wives for younger models. They think they can put it off until they're dead, instead of going through it by proxy and wishing that they were dead... 😉

Little Sparrow...what you just wrote about communication was hilarious!!

Leo Roar: New relationships are always fun but let's say you get with the Leo guy...eventually, you'll find out his faults and you'll find new frustrations. In a couple of months, you might find yourself back in this board talking about the new Gemini guy you just met and that you're sick of your Leo guy. :-) The grass is always greener on the other side. Crushes are cute but yeah, talk with the Libra first. Best of luck to you. Sounds like you're having fun!

(cuffs Sag in the back of the head)

Just trying to make you feel at home Sag. 😛

On that note, I am out of hear kids!

Play safe and keep your sticks on the ice. 😉

Roar, let me know how it goes.

Heeeyyy...I resemble that remark...

Taurus isn't exactly a bed of roses either
http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/dating/men/articles/0,,139_572742-3,00.html

You definitely have Mercury in Gemini...you're a posting machine... 🙂

I've wanted to bash my Leo ex in the head with a blunt object. Actually no, any object would have been fine with me. Now, I'm glad I didn't. He wouldn't have been worth going to jail for.

LOL you guys are cracking me up, making me think 10 billion times before even thinking of getting with my Leo... Do I really want to get myself into that? Hahaahhaha

Anyhoo... I will let you know how it goes/ if it goes/ how far it goes and if it's great, cool, if not... oh well! :-)

LeowithCap:

Yeah that is true but what would you do in my place? Stay in a highly unhappy relationship where chances are we are miserable together but would be quite happy apat? or just end it with the Libraboy and move on, maybe (just maybe) get with Leoman and take a chance?

I know the grass is greener and I bet he's got around a million faults (I'm a leo, I know I have approximately that many) but we all have faults. :-) I think that things havent been good with Libraboy due to us growing apart, we want different things, me compromising too much, him not even trying to compromise....

:-) Will keep you posted, and if he (Leoman) shows any more signs (positive or negative) I'm sure I will run back here and ask for more help :-)


Thank you all xx

sagitTAUries

He used to be a wonderful Libra 😢 (though he always kept it all inside) around 3 ot 4 years ago he flipped, life has been tough on us, money problems, we had recently finished university, all of the responsibilities that hit us made things worse. He literally pulled a 180 on me. I had imagined us growing old together. I am very upset and sad about this whole thing but 3 years of unhappiness and me about to turn 28, and i think im ready to move on.

Dunno , 😄 it was so funny when we found out, i was giggling like a school girl and he was laughing and giving me his beautifully sensual smile 🙂

OOhh if we get together we can have one massive birthday party hihihihi

*daydreaming about Leo again*

Leo Roar, that's sad about the Libra. I dig libras. Very cool group of folks, but you are right. You can't stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy. Ah well, follow your heart! Keep us updated!

Why?

sag

I was talking to you 🙂 You said you'd say !! to the whole have one big birthday party together thing. So I was wondering why you'd say !! instead of hihihih

LOL if someone reads this thread from here they will understand nothing! hahaha

***UPDATE***

So, I was talking with my Libraboy yesterdat and we somehow got to the discussion aboutus and if we had come to the end of the road, and he said: Maybe we have, but anyway we had a good few years.

😢 so i guess he too sees that we might be over, though he is being extra sweet to me which is confusing me and the whole thing makes me cry as soon as i think of it or talk about.

Anyhoo, I called Leoman today with regards to work. He wouldnt pick up his phone for ages (i assume he was in a meeting or just busy, anyway he couldnt see who was calling him as number says : PRIVATE from the school) I got hold of him about 2 hours later. I asked : Have you got 2 minutes? and he said with his deep se)(y voice: I always have 2 minutes for you!

Anyway, we discussed work and then at some point I had ask something that lead him to ask: Why? and hte answer to that was, Because me and Libraboy are in the middle of breaking up.

He was very sweet about it all, asked me why and if I wanted to talk about it, so I briefly told him the reasons etc... he was really nice and supportive and sweet and I'm all confused undecided and tired.

I am glad you had the conversation roar. Even if it was hard. Sometimes it isn't a case of not loving each other but a case of the relationship has served its purpose for all involved.

How did Bossman react to your break-up? Did he betray feelings one way or another?

leo roar
I think your Libra's being sweet because he sees the light at the end of the tunnel. Both parties in a bad relationship are usually relieved to see that there will be a resolution. Even if you two break up it doesn't mean that you couldn't get back together someday, maybe time and perspective will make you both realize how to fix things...if they can be fixed.

Meanwhie, if I were you I wouldn't spill all of the intimate details of your crumbling relationship to Leo. There's no bigger turnoff than having to hear all the dirty laundry of someone you're interested in. Call one of your best girlfriends and give her an earfull. And then DO something about your current relationship. It sounds like you've already spent 3 years being wishy-washy. Would you really consider ending it if Leo didn't come along? Are you a serial monogamist? Maybe you need some time on your own to really figure out what you want from life...

Little Sparrow
Bossman was sweet to me even before we got to taking about that. As soon as I called I asked if he had two minutes, and he said I always have two minutes for you. When he found out about the imminent break up, he was curious about why it had happened, but was very supportive and at the end of the conversation he said: I will speak with you very soon. He was very sweet and very nice throughout...

SoftCookie
I have no intention to talk about my relationship with Leo in detail. I just gave him the overall insight. Thanks for the advice 🙂
I am on the phone with my friends and my mom all the time hehehe so yeah, I know what you mean. I would consider ending it with or without Leo. I am unhappy, we are unhappy and we are just watching life pass us by. We will be better off finding ourselves, and then if it's meant to be, we will get together again in the future. However I will try not to rush into anything.... I need to find myself. We were too young when we got together, we didnt have time to grow up, and that's exactly what i intend doing. 🙂

sagiTAUries
I think we have already kept this relationship going for far longed that is healthy by most people's standars... However, we haven;t had the final and decisive conversation yet. I am on holiday now till the 7th of August. I want to relax and not think about a break up and moving and splitting stuff. We are going to chat after my birthday... and Im sure we will both know we must break up but both will want to keep on going. It's gonna be very painful, but I want to keep it friendly because we dont hate each other, we are just not supposed to be together just now.


If anything else happens tomorrow, i will let you know 🙂

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