News @ 11: Sagittarius mauled by Leo

It was my own fault for going in the cage unprepared.

Hello forum,

First sharing my problems/feelings, even over the internet, is something new for me. I've recently joined several forums looking for answers, opinions, or maybe just an eager ear. I figure the law of numbers is on my side and eventually someone will be able to help/guide me. Secondly, well there isn't a second, but I'm of the opinion that if you start with "First" you have to follow up with "second or secondly".

Now on to good bits(the back story and issue).

A little over a year ago I was dumped by my girlfriend, she was a Leo...hence the topic title. Even after a years time I'm still missing a chunk of myself. The first few months of the break up I tried to reconnect with her, but she wasn't having anything to do with me. Now I consider myself pretty stable, but even a stubborn, prideful, asshole such as myself can only take so much rejection. I won't go into details but it was a wild ride and I'm glade I came out alive. Here I stand(sitting really)a changed man, nothing dramatic, but positive changes none the less.

I once asked her "if she loved me, why'd she break up with me?". Her response was "she loved the person she thought I was". So now with a well paying job, positive feelings about myself, and a new found respect for love how do I get my Leo back? My life has changed so much in a year, and my future has potential. I just want to be able to show her what I'm capable of and what I've accomplished in a short amount of time.

I honestly just miss her, and for some reason that feeling has been intensifying over the past week. I feel this sense of urgency, a feeling of now or never.

Sigh, I just want my soul, self, or whatever is missing to back.


Thanks for letting me vent, and if you have anything helpful please share.

i don't know about this one. it's a toughie for sure. i know that, being a leo myself, once i let go of someone it is a done deal. no going back. i will wish them well, and be happy of all their successes in life, but no amount of them changing will make me swoon like i once did.

of course, it really all depends on the fine details of the situation.

Posted by ninjamu
i don't know about this one. it's a toughie for sure. i know that, being a leo myself, once i let go of someone it is a done deal. no going back. i will wish them well, and be happy of all their successes in life, but no amount of them changing will make me swoon like i once did.

of course, it really all depends on the fine details of the situation.

Sadly, I'm sure this is how she feels as well. She isn't the type of person to go backwards, but I'm also not the type of person to give up either. At this point I would be happy just to have her back in my life as a friend and just be able to enjoy her company.

Ultimately what I'm looking for is advice on how to reintroduce myself. I hold no illusions about us getting back together, that at this time is out of the question.

oh! friends is another thing entirely! i've gone back to old lovers trying to reconcile a friendship definitely. after enough time has passed of course. i need to make sure they're back in the neutral zone first (where there is no more feeling toward them one way or the other; kinda like a stranger) before i reconnect but i'm not opposed to having more friends in my life! i much prefer to stay friends because once i genuinely care for someone then that never fades.

some ppl might disagree but i prefer any form of direct contact by way of email, phone, text or something. not up front. just a simple and honest one. nothing pushy. i'd want to feel i had the upper hand to call the shots as to what happens next. yeah, it's gotta be on my terms in the beginning. if i feel it out, and it feels ok to me, then i can easily start up a platonic relationship. indefinite boundaries will be set in place. for if he ever hinted at a hidden agenda to try and "win me back" then i'll not hesitate to drop it again. i just wanna be cool with each other, hang sometimes, and be happy for the other. even better if we end up in relationships with other people.