No sense...

I have been "friends" with a leo male for 3 years & I've had feelings for him this whole time. Both he & I had been in serious long-term relationships prior. I didn't mind the pace at which we were getting to know one another because I had been deeply hurt in my last relationship of 8 years (his was around that length too). Leo & I had our disagreements and gone without speaking to one another for months but end up seeing each other again. We haven't slept together & he respects that I won't sleep with anyone without a commitment. We have kissed/heavily madeout on occasion. He would come over and bring wine while I'll make dinner & we'll talk about our pasts, family & future. He knows how I feel about him but hasn't said a word about his feelings. In October, he started to refer to me as his baby & woman, I would respond as I normally would while still being attentive & caring. I saw him twice after that, and then communication began to dwindle. In February, we had a huge argument about him being distant and he told me he has decided to go in a different direction, when I pressed him for an answer he said he was seeing someone. He told me we couldn't speak anymore; depite being hurt I respected his wishes. A few weeks ago he tried to come back into my life again, being excessively nice *rolls eyes*...although he may have been joking, he asked why I never gave him a key. He was very persistent about seeing me, I was reluctant at first then I agreed and told him I was very hurt but that I had missed him. He came over, we spoke & laughed as if nothing happened (which I'm sure he was happy for)... He told me I had been good to him and that I was a good woman. I was so caught up that I almost let go of my morals by thinking I could ignore everything, he seemed content to think I was going to stay around. The next day I sent him a msg and expressed my feelings, again. I asked him if he was still with someone... I told him that despite how painful it will be, if he is, I will step aside. It took a while for him to respond but he did. All he said was "I am". I said goodbye.

Most of me, as crazy as it is, was hoping when he initally dropped the bomb, said out of anger. I know he's waiting to hear from me. He won't.
I just honestly don't get this guy.

I really love how you've stayed true to yourself and your values through this.
I'm sorry it hasn't seemed to work out, but RESPECT dude - definitely x

Posted by wagtail
I really love how you've stayed true to yourself and your values through this.
I'm sorry it hasn't seemed to work out, but RESPECT dude - defiinitely x

Thank you, I appreciate it. Š

Posted by GiveMeAqua
This is the best I can muster up at the moment, considering the brief synopsis of the relationship and events leading to this "breakup" of sorts. Hope you find it, at least mildly helpful. Good luck.

I have thought of that instant on a number of occasions. At this point im going to leave it where it is, this one cut deep but I'm resilient & despite my cautious ways I won't let it get the better of me. No fair to the next Š
& Thank you.

Posted by AriesLove
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You may be right, he referred to me as "his baby & his woman" that was the first & last time he addressed me as such & we are very close at this point. He never really was one to verbally expresse his feelings. When I was referring to "morals" in the last bit, it had nothing to do with sex but that fact that I was going to respect his situation and myself by not staying around. In regards to sex, I didn't have to repeat myself or trick my way into anything or nor did he pressure me to do anything. He enjoyed my cooking, he would constantly ask to come over & for me to cook for him, we spent most of our time talking, watching shows/sports... I was going with the flow of things..& this is where it led. That's it.

I respect your opinion as you are going off of what little I chose to disclose. I did mention that I won't be contacting him. But thanks for your input.

No need to apologize for your opinion, that would defeat the purpose of posting the situation. Lol thanks again.

Well b glad u didnt sleep with him. Ur better off without him sucjin ur energy and wastin ur time!
Also, u shouldnt give a guy a chance if he really aint interested in committin to u. Full stop. Resist the temptation.

Thanks, I completely agree with you. There's No temptation, I really needed to vent & I've already set my mind on cutting all ties & there's nothing more to it.