Weighty issues

This must be one of the hardest things to help anyone out with but I'm worried and someway someone has to get through to her.

My 19 year daughter is gaining weight rapidly, I mean I saw her last weekend and 7 days later when I see her again it looked like she had put on a couple kilo's! It was that visible, when I bought it up to my bf he even agreed and said he had thought it may have only been him that noticed. She is roughly 165 lbs, 75 kilos and only 1.52 (5 ft)

I can't say anything, I'm slim built and maybe I'm part of the problem because I've looked after myself physically and always eaten well. I think my girls think it's all too easy for me but No it's not, I work hard at keeping fit and healthy as do most females. I've always supplied good healthy food at my table and taught them to eat healthily as well as indulge on occasion. The other two are fine but this one has the worst eating habits, preferring fried foods, bread with most meals and a very high carb diet. Now she and her partner are in their own place and cooking their own food (which I imagine is lacking in vegetables and mostly fried and cheap fatty meat) Her weight is escalating and so is his! Should I say something to him?

No one in both her dads and my family are obese. His mum is a large woman and mostly due to unnecessarily over eating as with the problem that my girl has.

What are the ways in which I can approach her. She has tried weight drugs from the doctors which had the reverse effect once the pills are stopped. She is mindful of her weight and has talked about the lemon detox and ordering in food diets which are very expensive and she really can't afford them. She refuses to go to weight watchers or Jenny Craig when I mentioned that to her once. She will talk about it but only if she brings it up, I can't approach the subject ( or rather should I say I haven't learnt how to approach the subject without offending her) so in saying that she is aware there is a problem but lacks the strength and commitment it takes to fix it!

Is there any way to get through to someone that they need to seriously look at their weight? Family members? Friends? Boss (whom she likes and respects a lot)?

@ Dazed

We had her thyroid checked out when she was put on those diet tablets. Thyroid isn't a factor. Diet tablets were great and killed any appetite however only short term and her weight has plummeted and without exaggeration double in the year since the pills!! The doctor has seen her since and put her on the birth control pill but hasn't mentioned or made mention as far as I know to her weight problem.

@ split

I understand it is a very sensitive issue, especially coming from someone that looks like they easily manage their weight. And yes there are underlining self esteem issues and emotional roots BUT we all have those! She really has the "don't care" attitude...got my man and he loves me the way I am, which in one sense is great BUT in another doesn't help the situation one bit!

I've just had an idea...tell me if you think it may work...

The other week she was wanting to take my recipe book home, you know how you love your mother's cooking and miss it when you move out of home, so for Christmas I decided to make her a book with all her favourite recipes in it.

Now I'm thinking that I should go back to it and add a healthy eating plan into it. You know breakfast, lunch and dinner ideas or a weekly healthy eating program that I know they can cook and follow or choose simple dishes that will help...

The thyroid isn't a factor, no problems there and she lives with her partner who buys and cooks the food. He also is putting on weight.

I will write down a healthy eating plan...I'm thinking that maybe they just don't know how to cook anything but fried fatty foods, of course, this isn't the only problem because they do tend to gravitate towards the worst kind of foods. And probably the worst that they do do is drink gallons of sugary drinks like lemonade and orange juices!

@ split

I forgot to add that they stayed with me for 6 months and I live in an area where we have a communal gym and 25 metre lap pool. I work out regularly and they had an easy option to use these facilities and didn't take the opportunity...at all really! So gym membership, I don;t think that will work! They could still use mine if they wanted.