Why leo needs to get in touch w/me after 2 mos—

This topic was created in the Leo forum by cassy on Friday, August 25, 2006 and has 28 replies.

Why a Leo Might Reconnect After Two Months

A Leo may reach out after two months due to a desire for validation, unresolved feelings, or to test the waters for reconciliation. Their actions are often driven by pride and a need for attention, especially if they still harbor feelings or want to regain control of the relationship. Understanding Leo's need for recognition can clarify their sudden interest.

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@cassy
20 Years

Could someone please explain to me why a male leo, who blew me off 2mos ago, is now emailing to see how I'm doing and that he is thinking about me....we went out for 6 mos and all was good, then I broke up, then he convinced me to get back together, then he blew me off, and now this. At the time he blew me off I never once tried to contact him. What is up w/this?? I had just started to forget about him.

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@balsley
20 Years

Sounds like he's just playing games. If you initially broke up with him and then he convinced you to get back together then proceeded to blow you off and is now contacting you again, he is probably just trying to prove a point, more to himself than anything. Sounds more like a guy thing, than a leo thing in particular. Or maybe he's just a control freak that likes the illusion that he is the one running the show.

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@little_sparrow
20 Years5,000+ Posts

I have heard it takes men 8 weeks to process a loss. At first they are relieved, then uncomfortable, then the loss hits them.

I think it is more like 8 months but if a man loves a woman, he will reappear at some point.

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@cassy
20 Years

Yah- I too thought he probably met someone else and believe me with his antics it probably only lasted a month or two. This is a person who needs constant attention and ego stroking too. Did I mention in his email he attached 2 pics of himself!

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@balsley
20 Years

Oh brother. How old is this guy? Sounds like he needs to grow up a little. Again, you can do better cassy.

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@balsley
20 Years

Ah well, that explains some of it. My mom always said men don't really beging to mature until they're 30 and they don't become "men" until they're 40. I think she is right, at least in most cases.

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@sophie68
20 Years500+ Posts

How about a LEO Ex husband re-appearing after 15 years....HA!

I do believe Little Sparrow is right....when men love, they will re-appear at some point, regardless of sign.

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@cassy
20 Years

Wow- 15 years is a lot of time. I still think though that this Leo, if he really wanted to be with me, wouldn't give up after one try of re-connecting w/me. Would you agree? Or is it too much Leo pride getting in the way?

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@Un le?n de Dios
20 Years

It is not about Leo pride, it is about Leo dignity.

Leos care and love so much; We are always in love, we just wont admit it until we believe you feel the same way. Know that for the time you were with him, he loved you more than anyone ever will, and that is just an everyday thing for us Leos. We love ourselves, but we love everyone else too, even our enemies.

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@sophie68
20 Years500+ Posts

Un Leon is right....not pride but dignity.
Leo's need ove int heir life but the htought of rejection is overwhelming.
He will try to re-connect again...trust me....

Any Cassy...yes, 15 years , after a bitter divorce...we are now dating again. Although we now live in seperate states. It was as if we never left each other...

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@cassy
20 Years

Un le?n de Dios thank you for your message. And believe me, I did love him and he knew it all that time. After he and I got back together the 2nd time he called me one night and I said let's get together later, he said I'll call you back in a few hours and I never heard from him again until 2 months later via his email. So that obviuosly hurt me BIG time and I decided it wasn't worth a third time trying to get back in touch w/him. It's been very hard for me to try and forget him and move on.

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@Un le?n de Dios
20 Years

We are not vengeful, so don't think he is trying to do this to hurt you. If anything, it is one of our tests. Remember, you guys not talking to each other for 2 months while still loving each other is both of your faults, because neither one of you was willing to stick their neck out for the sake of a relationship with the other. If he ever does that again, call him, show him you care and you want to see him. If someone calls me, tells me they want to see me, then doesn't call me for 2 months, it is because they were waiting for me to make the next move.

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@cassy
20 Years

I still think about him alot. If he tried to contact me again, I would respond. I really would be suprised though if he tries to contact me again after I did not reponsd to his email last month. That's just my gut feeling.

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@little_sparrow
20 Years5,000+ Posts

*** it is because they were waiting for me to make the next move.

and what is wrong with that? They left it in your hands and either you make the move or you don't. If you choose not too, wouldn't the person just assume you aren't interested?

I would.

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@Un le?n de Dios
20 Years

"and what is wrong with that? They left it in your hands and either you make the move or you don't. If you choose not too, wouldn't the person just assume you aren't interested?"

Exactly, thats why you need to make the next move.

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@little_sparrow
20 Years5,000+ Posts

Wait. All these Yous are getting me confused. lol!

Let's say I say, "Un ... I would really love to see you again. Let me know when you want to get together again."

You are saying it is up to YOU to contact me again, right?

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@cassy
20 Years

To clarify- he called me all the time and always would make the planse to get togheter. So he called me that night. We both said let's get together later. He had some things to take care of first and said I will call you in a few hours and then never called me again- ever. I think that kind of sucked and even more so he never tried to call me the next day to say, hey something came up and I couldn't call you back last night.

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@cassy
20 Years

LS,

That is what I figured as well, and even noted in my earlier post here. In the end, I told myself it was time to move on.

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@candlz
20 Years

Un leo'n de Dios....what if you have had no contact from Leo and you contact Leo asking questions that you would like answered(about relationship), asking for opinions, etc. and Leo doesn't respond? Do you assume Leo is not interested or is Leo still waiting for you to make the next move?