Another elusive Libra man

I had completely given up on this Libra man who suddenly vanished but after reading so many threads here all saying the same thing I'm starting to think it's not lost, that he's just regaining his balance or whatever.But I still feel deluded for believing that someone who was so intense and suddenly vanishes wasn't just giving me the brush-off.
Basically met him on holiday (yes, yes, I know!) so thinking it was just a couple of (amazing) nights. I'm Pisces. I swear I never felt such an animal attraction to anyone as to this guy and he's not even my usual type. So anyway I gave him my full name and said if he's ever in my country to look me up. I get off the flight home and have a FB friend request and as soon as I accepted it he messaged immediately. It was really friendly and flirty; he said he'd never met anyone who turned him on so fast, that I should have stayed longer and all this. I was loving the attention and flattered he'd wanted to stay in touch. It was just messaging and sexting for a cpl of weeks. One day out of nowhere I must have said something wrong because he got so touchy, told me several times to leave him alone even though I was just like 'But wtf is wrong??', he said I only wanted to talk dirty with him anyway so to leave him alone. I just replied that I don't only talk to him for that, that I like him and if I'd had more time to spend with him I would have had. He immediately says I haven't pissed him off at all (??) and can we Facetime as he wants to see me. So we did and it was a lot of fun and next thing he's calling me almost every night when he finishes work. Once didn't hear from him for 3/4 days so assumed he'd gotten bored but then up he popped again and lots more calls. So by now I'm completely crazy about the guy, always looking forward to hearing from him, fantasising like a lunatic, as us Pisces will do. Now it's been a week since I heard a word. I really feel like he got all awkward all of a sudden, he'd called 2 days in a row but had been quite flinty and different, the calls were really short and I'd sent him a few texts after which weren't replied to (they weren't questions but he'd always replied before). This might sound mad but I'd been having a lot of (my usual as they are old friends) banter on my FB page with a few lads I know. It really felt like he'd have seen that and been thrown by it and it unsettled him and that's why he got different and stopped calling. That was before I read this stuff about Libra needi

That was before I read this stuff about Libra needing to balance. I stupidly messaged him just before he vanished saying his walls were gone up (as he'd gotten so flinty) and he said 'They never came down', so I felt a bit dumb.
So after a week of nothing I did message him yesterday just saying Look, I've been so enjoying getting to know you and am just wondering what I said or did to make you just vanish and that if I did I didn't mean to. He responded that I did nothing, he was meaning to get back to me but was just busy and he hopes I am well.
Obviously i took this as the royal brush-off. I mean it was nice but annoying - as if you have no time to text someone after having time to Facetime so often before. I also thought he probably met some girl but wasn't going to burn his bridge with me by outright finishing 'this' (whatever it is) Then I read this forum and just can't ignore all the Libras saying they often will pull away even though they still like the person a lot. I am seriously weak for this guy, want him OUT OF MY HEAD but he won't go away!! I still hope every day he'll call and am disappointed when he doesn't. Am I deluded?

It's driving me mad. He came on so intense and I got all carried away and then 'poof', he's gone and I'm thinking of all the ways I screwed it up. It hurts.

...let me get this straight.

You read around and found that this behavior isn't "unusual" and it's a REASON as to why you should WAIT on this douche?

Honey, you're missing the point and have no standards for yourself.

I'm not 'waiting', honey. I'm not turning down dates left and right in the hopes that he'll call. I'm expressing myself and my situation in THE LIBRA FORUM ABOUT LIBRA BEHAVIOURS. You can F*ck right off. I've seen the way you talk to people around here, angry little man.

Have you tried facetiming or txting him any more since his last response? It could be that he truly has been really busy lately. Maybe try sending him a text explaining how you feel about him. At this point you have nothing to lose, right?

You can read my post too 🙂 What happened to you now, is just the beginning dear... If you continue to want to be with him and give him chance again and again, you are at risk to become his victim ... Libra go away even all the things are great ! even there is nothing you said wrong or to make him angry... He go away without reason at all ! He just need space to think clear if he wants you or he feel too close of you and he need space to see what other option he has around, because Libra always want to find the perfection that does not exist ! but he still want find it (her)...
I suggest you just give him peace and yourself too . Don't text, don't enter more in his games, because he will hurt you more . Seeing you want him so much and you miss him so much, he will start playing and he will care his needs only ( you , your body, your words to exciting him, etc..) .
I can't understand what's wrong with this sign of Libra , but all have something very strongly in common . It is very strange.....

Expressing in text messages about how you feel about him, in special if you add some nice sweet words also, this will make him reply to you in a nice way ( if he will not decide to continue ignore you) and your conversation can re-start, but Libra do this just to show to others how nice he is ... Once you do this step, you open his door . He can come in again, but remember, it is because YOU did this step, not him. Next time when he ignore you, again he will waiting for you to do this. At the end ( to say later after some time when you really want some serious things with him), you know what he will tell you ? He may tell you " You was waiting for me because you wanted this " . I got this reply from my Libra . It is very, very hurt to hear this. After that he said " I am sorry, anyway I love you !" . So, Libra makes you wasting time and then he say it is you who did this ! This is why I suggesting you do not text, do not do this step , let him come back if he wants you ! Let him proof he wants you ! Look at his actions, not at his words ! He already have a action which you don't like, right ? His disappearing act and this is not the single one ! Once you do the step , but not him, he will continue with this kind of actions because he know you will let him come back next time too. Be careful ! Better let him do the step if he wants you. I speak from a experience of almost 4 years with a Libra.

Thank you. I was kicking myself for just messaging him at all, but he just sent me a clip of a song, so I guess he hasn't walked off into the sunset just yet. The song was 'Lean On'. It's sweet. IS IT A HIDDEN MESSAGE? (that's a joke - I'm not that bad!)

Posted by piscesgirl77
I'm not 'waiting', honey. I'm not turning down dates left and right in the hopes that he'll call. I'm expressing myself and my situation in THE LIBRA FORUM ABOUT LIBRA BEHAVIOURS. You can F*ck right off. I've seen the way you talk to people around here, angry little man.

Well given your response, I can see you're aware of how stupid your post came off then. You basically want validation in hoping that this man isn't the troll he really is.

That said, don't come here whining if you're going to be a dumb cunt about it. Ain't nobody got time for your tantrums.

Posted by piscesgirl77
I'm not 'waiting', honey. I'm not turning down dates left and right in the hopes that he'll call. I'm expressing myself and my situation in THE LIBRA FORUM ABOUT LIBRA BEHAVIOURS. You can F*ck right off. I've seen the way you talk to people around here, angry little man.

Also, just for shits n giggles since you're so easy to get riled up like a child-

Funny that you used the word 'troll' since that's exactly what you're doing here. What kind of reaction were you expecting to telling me I have no standards? A 'thanks for the insight'? You know nothing about me, absolutely nothing but that I fell for a guy. I'm far from the first person here to tell you to get fucked and I won't be the last. You come off as quite pathetic and you project your issues on to EVERYONE.


Now, back to me because this is my thread. I have heard from him, which is nice but I am being realistic and listening to you all (except that angry little fool Rocky).

@Delia what is your sign and what was your situation with the libra? are you guys still together..?

mysteriousTaurus I am Leo . SORRY TO THE POSTER HERE FOR USING HER SPACE TO TELL MY STORY FOR YOU ! But just for you to understand. Together ? ... Hm, is hard to say yes or no 🙂 He is still keeping me in his messenger list, after I asked him to come to meet for the last time and to say good bye in a beautiful way, because I care so much of his happiness and I decided to let him find his match ! I told him this, after we had a talk about future and marriage and he don't want to marry any woman again after his failed marriage and he came up with words that hurt me much, saying I am not his match in the bed ( even we was perfect in everything and he said this also at that moments ) , then he said we are not the same ..... I asked him what is not the same ? He said " you want to marry, I don't want, I want to be free ", then I said ok, then I let you find your match, so let us say good bye in a nice way, to spend some nice moments for the last time ( not about sex I talk , about going out somewhere as before or something like this ). Then he said " I don't want to say good bye ! I hope we are good friends all life !" I told him, " Sorry, I have good friends and for me love is love, friendship as simple friends is different, never mist this two". Then he agreed to meet on 30th March to say... good bye .... as we took. But he did not come to this meeting ! SO, now he keep me still in his messenger list, but continue ignore or not talk at all. I also don't delete him , but not talk at all after he did not come to meet me. So, what he wants ? He said he want be free, I left him be free . But he can't break up at all. I am keeping my promise to let him find his "match" , right ? When he want to pull away, he always said words that is not true from his heart , but just to pull away. Then every time he back to say sorry and again started with sweet and lovely words. This was the maximum limit I can admit. So, I let him do what he wants now, but I can swear he will come around saying sorry again and who know what else to surprise me again and to try to make me not leaving him. He knows nobody understand him better than me , but now I have to think about myself and to be sorry for myself for how much he made me crying . I keep not talking , no action. I let him see what he do next. I don't do this from my Ego, but because I really can't accept much game .

I am Leo. 🙂

That's really sh!tty, sorry for you. Though I totally understand the 'long goodbye' of not being able to let go of someone, I think if I man told me I wasn't his match in bed I'd have to accept that we couldn't possibly work and I'd certainly never sleep with him again.
Whether he said it to be harsh or just trying to explain to you that even though he wants you in his life the sexual chemistry isn't there for him, either way the end result is that if the sex isn't fully working for both of you and you aren't a solid couple who could maybe work on that then you've got nothing to work with. He wants to be friends but that's only going to leave you wanting more. Forget this Messenger list, that means nothing, absolutely nothing. Take control and delete him.