Are you afraid of what you feel

when someone ask you are u mad what is your response and why? what is your response to any emotional situation? Do you repress or control?

Do you repress or control?

I would say I express. Of the two options given, control. It depends who is asking and what they are asking. Even if I don't communicate my thoughts or feelings I still have them and I think about them. It takes a lot to make me mad though so that one is usually an easy no.

I don't really experience emotion in the moment. It takes me a lot to figure out what I feel. I am very removed from my feelings.

I do a lot of "should I be angry?" thinking. I definitely rationalize my emotions.

i have no problem knowing how i feel. expressing how i feel is a different matter. do they need to know how i feel? what's the best way to express how i feel and why i feel that way? will telling them give them ammunition they can use against me? or what if they want to talk about it? if i'm particularly sad or pissed off, i don't want to talk about it. at least not til i can calm down and get some perspective.

usually i'll deny whatever i'm being accused of feeling, whether it's true or not. but especially anger. i'll say i'm hurt. but i'm not hurt. what i mean is that i want to hurt you for pissing me off.

yeah.

Posted by curious visitor
i have no problem knowing how i feel. expressing how i feel is a different matter. do they need to know how i feel? what's the best way to express how i feel and why i feel that way? will telling them give them ammunition they can use against me? or what if they want to talk about it? if i'm particularly sad or pissed off, i don't want to talk about it. at least not til i can calm down and get some perspective.

usually i'll deny whatever i'm being accused of feeling, whether it's true or not. but especially anger. i'll say i'm hurt. but i'm not hurt. what i mean is that i want to hurt you for pissing me off.

yeah.

Wow, I actually get ex Libra from eons ago now .. why didn't you say this decades ago?

im very expressive with my feelings, as in anger or joy but i try to control them cuz they tend to be extreme in expression and overdone and then i feel embaraased out of rejected vibes i get from people. I do rationlize the result of my emotions as they are immediate impulsive and quick but when i percieve my self as being outcasted away from others, i get quiet and withdrawn putting further attention on my mood changes. my emotions when they are strong and intense czuse me to self destruct, i do repress them some what regretting not being honest about them to myself

i tend to brood a little bit over them and tend to get hung up in the past. If someone hurt me and i was silent to them at that time, then i will always be resentful towards them until i can exact some type of revenge. Thats why i rather get my feelings out in the open, be honest and tell people what i feel and why and that nothign can be done from that point. that way i wont hold grudges.

i guess what iaying is that when it comes to my needs how i feel and my emotions, im very directive with them preferring to direct my anger at the one that made me angry and because what i feel is so quick and immediate i have to get it off my chest as soon as i feel it or i will feel defeated emotionally and gravitate towards hate and anxiety

I do tend to deal with how i feel on my own and alone where i can sort them out, put them where they belong, as in"so and so mad me feel this way so for now on i will treat and view them this way" "so and so made me feel neglected so i know now notto depend on them"

My natural reaction is to deny it, but I usually don't go with this option.

Unless I really put an effort forth, which I don't normally, I have a really readable face. Especially in the eyes. So I usually opt to be straight up with someone if they're taking the initiative to ask about how I feel... seeing as my face is probably telling most of the story anyway.

Posted by little_sparrow
I don't really experience emotion in the moment. It takes me a lot to figure out what I feel. I am very removed from my feelings.

I am the same as this. Because of this people think I dont care. I care more then a lot of people think...

But also feelings do scare and confuse me especially when I dont want them to be there. People see me as cold but I think its more of a defense mechanism, allowing to feel is allowing myself to be vulnerable.

I think a lot of it can depend on what it is too. How strong the emotional response was. Control is still my answer because I will take it over and sort it out (usually pretty quick) then I can express what needs to be expressed. If I'm not ready to talk about it I will say so and I expect the person to accept that.

Unless I really put an effort forth, which I don't normally, I have a really readable face. Especially in the eyes. So I usually opt to be straight up with someone if they're taking the initiative to ask about how I feel... seeing as my face is probably telling most of the story anyway.
I am the same, I couldn't lie if I wanted to. My eyes would give me away. I have been told some really weird stuff about my eyes over the years but people are always focused on them when we talk. I read other peoples eyes too so I guess I can't really complain about it.

* I am the same, I couldn't lie if I wanted to.

Me too! I look itchy and guilty when I lie. LOL! It isn't even my eyes. I think it is my whole self. 🙂

My virgo ex, however, could lie to God himself and say he was always a believer. The man was a shameless liar. He actually convinces himself that the lies he tells are the truth.

I wish I had a 1/3 his skill.

Posted by curious visitor
i have no problem knowing how i feel. expressing how i feel is a different matter. do they need to know how i feel? what's the best way to express how i feel and why i feel that way? will telling them give them ammunition they can use against me? or what if they want to talk about it? if i'm particularly sad or pissed off, i don't want to talk about it. at least not til i can calm down and get some perspective.

usually i'll deny whatever i'm being accused of feeling, whether it's true or not. but especially anger. i'll say i'm hurt. but i'm not hurt. what i mean is that i want to hurt you for pissing me off.

yeah.

That's how I feel too, If someone has pissed me off I can literally feel my blood boil over but striking out before I've had time to think about it generally ends badly and I can be vicious in my attack so I've learnt to think it through before approaching it and when I'm good and ready!