Confused

Saw my libra ex after a good 6 months at a gathering last night, and he was acting so awkward. We sorted out our differences just over a month ago so I thought everything was ok.

I was sat in the car when he had first arrived, he came over and asked me if I'm kl without even looking at me in the face then went and spoke to everyone else. There was literally about 15 ppl at most and he was engaging with literally everyone but me.
The whole 3-4 hours he was there not once did he come over and talk to me like he usually would, but I could see him watching me at times from the corner of my eyes.
He started making me feel like I couldn't approach him so I just left him to it.

When he was leaving he had come over to say bye to me and asked for a hug. I was already annoyed by that point and told him how I felt.
He said its because I was sat in the car most of the time which was a blatant lie, he tried to force a hug on me and was like 'smile I want to see you smile' started touching my face, I was not in the mood so he just ended up walking off.
I was just trying to move on from us and trying to be friends, he was flirting with some girls there that I knew at one point in front of my face.


Any particular reason why he was acting like such an arsehole and extra awkward?

Because his immature little self is still coping with his own internal issues in the situation.

My ex did the SAME thing to me the first time I saw him after, what I thought, was something that cleared the air and I thought we were good.

It'll drive you nuts because it's so neurotic and doesn't make sense, but do your best to not think much of it. It's all him and his internal emotional battle with himself.

I grew tired of wondering why mine acts a fool, but since I've been able to learn more about how he ticks based on what mutual friends have shared about him and current/past behaviors, he just... has problems.

Knowing that, all of it- the weirdo behaviors, the crap he says, etc, just stopped mattering awhile ago.

Could very well be the case with this guy, tbh. That nicey, fake bullshit to your face, but the behavior saying other wise is a major character flaw on his part. Try not to let it take up too much head space.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Because his immature little self is still coping with his own internal issues in the situation.

My ex did the SAME thing to me the first time I saw him after, what I thought, was something that cleared the air and I thought we were good.

It'll drive you nuts because it's so neurotic and doesn't make sense, but do your best to not think much of it. It's all him and his internal emotional battle with himself.

I grew tired of wondering why mine acts a fool, but since I've been able to learn more about how he ticks based on what mutual friends have shared about him and current/past behaviors, he just... has problems.

Knowing that, all of it- the weirdo behaviors, the crap he says, etc, just stopped mattering awhile ago.

Could very well be the case with this guy, tbh. That nicey, fake bullshit to your face, but the behavior saying other wise is a major character flaw on his part. Try not to let it take up too much head space.

Yeah I think your 100% right. From when I first started to get to know him I realised he has got a lot of underlined personal issues that I know he'll probably never deal with.

Im trying not to think about it too much because deep down I know that the more he tries to make it seem like his life is so together the more I know hes struggling deep down.

People are starting to see through his facade that its like they just tolerate him for the sake of it. Those that have grown up with him from young say he's not matured in the slightest, he's turning 24 this september so its a little worrying.

I feel for the next woman in his life.

Posted by AnieshaAries
Yeah I think your 100% right. From when I first started to get to know him I realised he has got a lot of underlined personal issues that I know he'll probably never deal with.

Im trying not to think about it too much because deep down I know that the more he tries to make it seem like his life is so together the more I know hes struggling deep down.

People are starting to see through his facade that its like they just tolerate him for the sake of it. Those that have grown up with him from young say he's not matured in the slightest, he's turning 24 this september so its a little worrying.

I feel for the next woman in his life.

Haha, wow. That's what happened within our circle of friends, too- he's tolerated, but so many dislike his behavior and attitude toward others.

The dude in your situation is only 24. Don't expect him to grow up any time soon, tbh. It's almost kind of expected to see such bs behavior at this age. Hell, I've been involved with guys in their late 20s and they still behave like immature assholes.

Any particular reason why you still care enough to come here to write about it?? Feelings still?

Posted by sweethearts
Any particular reason why you still care enough to come here to write about it?? Feelings still?

Yeah I do still have some feelings for him but nothing like I used to.

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Posted by AnieshaAries
Yeah I think your 100% right. From when I first started to get to know him I realised he has got a lot of underlined personal issues that I know he'll probably never deal with.

Im trying not to think about it too much because deep down I know that the more he tries to make it seem like his life is so together the more I know hes struggling deep down.

People are starting to see through his facade that its like they just tolerate him for the sake of it. Those that have grown up with him from young say he's not matured in the slightest, he's turning 24 this september so its a little worrying.

I feel for the next woman in his life.

Haha, wow. That's what happened within our circle of friends, too- he's tolerated, but so many dislike his behavior and attitude toward others.

The dude in your situation is only 24. Don't expect him to grow up any time soon, tbh. It's almost kind of expected to see such bs behavior at this age. Hell, I've been involved with guys in their late 20s and they still behave like immature assholes.

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Lol damn its a shame. I just feel like most of them have so much potential if they just got they shit together. Ahh well

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Posted by sweethearts
Any particular reason why you still care enough to come here to write about it?? Feelings still?

Yeah I do still have some feelings for him but nothing like I used to.

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Well, you're already 6 months ahead of the game, so do what you've been doing and keep it moving.
If you guys run in the same circles, you're bound to keep running into him.
Some folks either grow out of azzhole-ness or make a career out of being one..MOST men are usually the latter.

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Posted by sweethearts
Any particular reason why you still care enough to come here to write about it?? Feelings still?

Yeah I do still have some feelings for him but nothing like I used to.

Well, you're already 6 months ahead of the game, so do what you've been doing and keep it moving.
If you guys run in the same circles, you're bound to keep running into him.
Some folks either grow out of azzhole-ness or make a career out of being one..MOST men are usually the latter.

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Yeah I agree with you, life is one big party to him so he doesn't necessarily take a lot of things serious including women.

Iv seen him twice since the last post so this running into him is actually bringing up past feelings instead of making them go.

Are Libra men insecure? I know a lot of them personally and they always seem to want to fit into the 'cool crowds' and want to be socially accepted but by putting up a front pretending to be something that they're not.

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Posted by AnieshaAries
Yeah I think your 100% right. From when I first started to get to know him I realised he has got a lot of underlined personal issues that I know he'll probably never deal with.

Im trying not to think about it too much because deep down I know that the more he tries to make it seem like his life is so together the more I know hes struggling deep down.

People are starting to see through his facade that its like they just tolerate him for the sake of it. Those that have grown up with him from young say he's not matured in the slightest, he's turning 24 this september so its a little worrying.

I feel for the next woman in his life.

Haha, wow. That's what happened within our circle of friends, too- he's tolerated, but so many dislike his behavior and attitude toward others.

The dude in your situation is only 24. Don't expect him to grow up any time soon, tbh. It's almost kind of expected to see such bs behavior at this age. Hell, I've been involved with guys in their late 20s and they still behave like immature assholes.

Lol damn its a shame. I just feel like most of them have so much potential if they just got they shit together. Ahh well

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Agreed.

It's why I gave it a shot with one last year, despite my bad experiences. It's worth a shot to see if they're actually sane, haha.

I would keep my distance from a aries 2

Posted by tiziani
Oh and I've never had to front in the last few years. Most people appreciate it more when you are yourself and they get to see your mistakes. When I was younger I didn't really get that part.

Yep they well and truly do, is it a thing of not being able to accept yourself for who you are yet? Or maybe not knowing yourselves yet?.

Why do/did you care so much what people think/thought of you?

I only care about what my close friends/family think of me if not hardly anyone, I guess I'm too comftable in my own skin and who I am to care about what an individual who isn't fucking me, financing me or feeding me is thinking. Just saying

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Posted by AnieshaAries
Yeah I think your 100% right. From when I first started to get to know him I realised he has got a lot of underlined personal issues that I know he'll probably never deal with.

Im trying not to think about it too much because deep down I know that the more he tries to make it seem like his life is so together the more I know hes struggling deep down.

People are starting to see through his facade that its like they just tolerate him for the sake of it. Those that have grown up with him from young say he's not matured in the slightest, he's turning 24 this september so its a little worrying.

I feel for the next woman in his life.

Haha, wow. That's what happened within our circle of friends, too- he's tolerated, but so many dislike his behavior and attitude toward others.

The dude in your situation is only 24. Don't expect him to grow up any time soon, tbh. It's almost kind of expected to see such bs behavior at this age. Hell, I've been involved with guys in their late 20s and they still behave like immature assholes.

Lol damn its a shame. I just feel like most of them have so much potential if they just got they shit together. Ahh well

Agreed.

It's why I gave it a shot with one last year, despite my bad experiences. It's worth a shot to see if they're actually sane, haha.

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Miss rocky curiosity is killing me lol!!

Posted by staelz
I would keep my distance from a aries 2

Bitter much?

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Posted by tiziani
Oh and I've never had to front in the last few years. Most people appreciate it more when you are yourself and they get to see your mistakes. When I was younger I didn't really get that part.

Yep they well and truly do, is it a thing of not being able to accept yourself for who you are yet? Or maybe not knowing yourselves yet?.

Why do/did you care so much what people think/thought of you?

I only care about what my close friends/family think of me if not hardly anyone, I guess I'm too comftable in my own skin and who I am to care about what an individual who isn't fucking me, financing me or feeding me is thinking. Just saying

I never cared so much. I just care.

I realise it's popular not to care nowadays but truth of the matter is I'm trying not to fall into such an insular life and I would like to continue giving back to people. For that, you have to care.

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For sure, sympathising and all that good stuff is where I draw the line for caring for strangers but I do hear what your saying.