ladylibra21
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Posted by gemguyaz34Ugh you know I hate being direct lol Maybe he will cook for me like he said and we can talk then, but like I said last night Cancer Venus is full of shit 😛 THANKS! LMAO!
-and I might add, a Gem can be very sharp at figuring out and then you could get confronted on why, which I know you Libras do not like confrontation. So if you want to know, just ask him. 🙂
Posted by ladylibra21He's your FWB, you can't expect him to text you if you're not meeting after.
I find I do this a lot. Maybe Scorp energy from being on the cusp? For example. I am starting to like my Cancer FWB. I wasn't expecting to have one but shit happens. He has Gemini moon so I wanna see how flighty he is before I start liking him too much. So he popped back up yesterday after almost a week of not talking which didn't really bother me, but I did wonder where he went, but he started the convo then started short answering me like he was annoyed I had not reached out to him so I told him I missed him and I did but I wanted to see how he would react if I let me guard down and he got more talkative but when I got too mushy he was like "Thanks" LOL( @gemguyaz34 insider) but I was testing him to see how he would react when he got back from vacation tomorrow I wanted to see if he got distant or picked up more conversation.
Do you guys do this? I give stupid little test all the time.
Posted by PalerioI don't expect him too but we were talking a lot and then I hurt his feelings. I apologized, but he got guarded after that so I am just curious about why his feelings got hurt if he doesn't like me like that.Posted by ladylibra21He's your FWB, you can't expect him to text you if you're not meeting after.
I find I do this a lot. Maybe Scorp energy from being on the cusp? For example. I am starting to like my Cancer FWB. I wasn't expecting to have one but shit happens. He has Gemini moon so I wanna see how flighty he is before I start liking him too much. So he popped back up yesterday after almost a week of not talking which didn't really bother me, but I did wonder where he went, but he started the convo then started short answering me like he was annoyed I had not reached out to him so I told him I missed him and I did but I wanted to see how he would react if I let me guard down and he got more talkative but when I got too mushy he was like "Thanks" LOL( @gemguyaz34 insider) but I was testing him to see how he would react when he got back from vacation tomorrow I wanted to see if he got distant or picked up more conversation.
Do you guys do this? I give stupid little test all the time.click to expand
Posted by ladylibra21The point at issue here is another one:Posted by PalerioI don't expect him too but we were talking a lot and then I hurt his feelings. I apologized, but he got guarded after that so I am just curious about why his feelings got hurt if he doesn't like me like that.Posted by ladylibra21He's your FWB, you can't expect him to text you if you're not meeting after.
I find I do this a lot. Maybe Scorp energy from being on the cusp? For example. I am starting to like my Cancer FWB. I wasn't expecting to have one but shit happens. He has Gemini moon so I wanna see how flighty he is before I start liking him too much. So he popped back up yesterday after almost a week of not talking which didn't really bother me, but I did wonder where he went, but he started the convo then started short answering me like he was annoyed I had not reached out to him so I told him I missed him and I did but I wanted to see how he would react if I let me guard down and he got more talkative but when I got too mushy he was like "Thanks" LOL( @gemguyaz34 insider) but I was testing him to see how he would react when he got back from vacation tomorrow I wanted to see if he got distant or picked up more conversation.
Do you guys do this? I give stupid little test all the time.click to expand

Posted by ladylibra21So is a Sag Venus..Posted by gemguyaz34Ugh you know I hate being direct lol Maybe he will cook for me like he said and we can talk then, but like I said last night Cancer Venus is full of shit 😛 THANKS! LMAO!
-and I might add, a Gem can be very sharp at figuring out and then you could get confronted on why, which I know you Libras do not like confrontation. So if you want to know, just ask him. 🙂click to expand

Posted by PalerioExactly! Each has to give a little bit. Delicate dances don't get you nowhere..Posted by ladylibra21The point at issue here is another one:Posted by PalerioI don't expect him too but we were talking a lot and then I hurt his feelings. I apologized, but he got guarded after that so I am just curious about why his feelings got hurt if he doesn't like me like that.Posted by ladylibra21He's your FWB, you can't expect him to text you if you're not meeting after.
I find I do this a lot. Maybe Scorp energy from being on the cusp? For example. I am starting to like my Cancer FWB. I wasn't expecting to have one but shit happens. He has Gemini moon so I wanna see how flighty he is before I start liking him too much. So he popped back up yesterday after almost a week of not talking which didn't really bother me, but I did wonder where he went, but he started the convo then started short answering me like he was annoyed I had not reached out to him so I told him I missed him and I did but I wanted to see how he would react if I let me guard down and he got more talkative but when I got too mushy he was like "Thanks" LOL( @gemguyaz34 insider) but I was testing him to see how he would react when he got back from vacation tomorrow I wanted to see if he got distant or picked up more conversation.
Do you guys do this? I give stupid little test all the time.
- he's willing to cook for you;
- you miss him if he doesn't text you.
Why can't the two of you be in a normal relationship?click to expand
Posted by PalerioBecause I cant tell if he is full of shit or not lol.Posted by ladylibra21The point at issue here is another one:Posted by PalerioI don't expect him too but we were talking a lot and then I hurt his feelings. I apologized, but he got guarded after that so I am just curious about why his feelings got hurt if he doesn't like me like that.Posted by ladylibra21He's your FWB, you can't expect him to text you if you're not meeting after.
I find I do this a lot. Maybe Scorp energy from being on the cusp? For example. I am starting to like my Cancer FWB. I wasn't expecting to have one but shit happens. He has Gemini moon so I wanna see how flighty he is before I start liking him too much. So he popped back up yesterday after almost a week of not talking which didn't really bother me, but I did wonder where he went, but he started the convo then started short answering me like he was annoyed I had not reached out to him so I told him I missed him and I did but I wanted to see how he would react if I let me guard down and he got more talkative but when I got too mushy he was like "Thanks" LOL( @gemguyaz34 insider) but I was testing him to see how he would react when he got back from vacation tomorrow I wanted to see if he got distant or picked up more conversation.
Do you guys do this? I give stupid little test all the time.
- he's willing to cook for you;
- you miss him if he doesn't text you.
Why can't the two of you be in a normal relationship?click to expand
Posted by gemguyaz34Posted by PalerioExactly! Each has to give a little bit. Delicate dances don't get you nowhere..Posted by ladylibra21The point at issue here is another one:Posted by PalerioI don't expect him too but we were talking a lot and then I hurt his feelings. I apologized, but he got guarded after that so I am just curious about why his feelings got hurt if he doesn't like me like that.Posted by ladylibra21He's your FWB, you can't expect him to text you if you're not meeting after.
I find I do this a lot. Maybe Scorp energy from being on the cusp? For example. I am starting to like my Cancer FWB. I wasn't expecting to have one but shit happens. He has Gemini moon so I wanna see how flighty he is before I start liking him too much. So he popped back up yesterday after almost a week of not talking which didn't really bother me, but I did wonder where he went, but he started the convo then started short answering me like he was annoyed I had not reached out to him so I told him I missed him and I did but I wanted to see how he would react if I let me guard down and he got more talkative but when I got too mushy he was like "Thanks" LOL( @gemguyaz34 insider) but I was testing him to see how he would react when he got back from vacation tomorrow I wanted to see if he got distant or picked up more conversation.
Do you guys do this? I give stupid little test all the time.
- he's willing to cook for you;
- you miss him if he doesn't text you.
Why can't the two of you be in a normal relationship?click to expand
Posted by daydream_achieverSame here I just recently stopped myself in the middle of doing and I asked myself if it was at least a good test to try and I thought it would be.
I do test but I often don't realize I'm doing it until I'm actually in the middle of doing it. It starts from a place that I'm not consciously aware of.
Pluto rules my chart, conj Asc. Venus Scorp 1st house.
Posted by ladylibra21What makes you skeptical?Posted by PalerioBecause I cant tell if he is full of shit or not lol.Posted by ladylibra21The point at issue here is another one:Posted by PalerioI don't expect him too but we were talking a lot and then I hurt his feelings. I apologized, but he got guarded after that so I am just curious about why his feelings got hurt if he doesn't like me like that.Posted by ladylibra21He's your FWB, you can't expect him to text you if you're not meeting after.
I find I do this a lot. Maybe Scorp energy from being on the cusp? For example. I am starting to like my Cancer FWB. I wasn't expecting to have one but shit happens. He has Gemini moon so I wanna see how flighty he is before I start liking him too much. So he popped back up yesterday after almost a week of not talking which didn't really bother me, but I did wonder where he went, but he started the convo then started short answering me like he was annoyed I had not reached out to him so I told him I missed him and I did but I wanted to see how he would react if I let me guard down and he got more talkative but when I got too mushy he was like "Thanks" LOL( @gemguyaz34 insider) but I was testing him to see how he would react when he got back from vacation tomorrow I wanted to see if he got distant or picked up more conversation.
Do you guys do this? I give stupid little test all the time.
- he's willing to cook for you;
- you miss him if he doesn't text you.
Why can't the two of you be in a normal relationship?click to expand

Posted by PalerioI am a certified stalker and I notice dates and times on things. There is this girl who could just be a friend, BUT they went hiking 16 weeks ago. Yeah could jus be a friend thing. He is super close to his family they do live 5 hours away but he made Thanksgiving dinner with her. I know this because I stalked her page and there is a picture of him watching tv smiling with a thumbs up as she takes a picture. She takes a picture of the table and there are only 2 plates. So its not like it was a friendsgiving or something it came off as an intimate thing to me. Mind you it wasn't snowing around Thanksgiving here so it wasn't like her couldn't go see his family. He willingly stayed behind. Also he sent me 2 pictures yesterday while he was out of town visiting family and he captionPosted by ladylibra21What makes you skeptical?Posted by PalerioBecause I cant tell if he is full of shit or not lol.Posted by ladylibra21The point at issue here is another one:Posted by PalerioI don't expect him too but we were talking a lot and then I hurt his feelings. I apologized, but he got guarded after that so I am just curious about why his feelings got hurt if he doesn't like me like that.Posted by ladylibra21He's your FWB, you can't expect him to text you if you're not meeting after.
I find I do this a lot. Maybe Scorp energy from being on the cusp? For example. I am starting to like my Cancer FWB. I wasn't expecting to have one but shit happens. He has Gemini moon so I wanna see how flighty he is before I start liking him too much. So he popped back up yesterday after almost a week of not talking which didn't really bother me, but I did wonder where he went, but he started the convo then started short answering me like he was annoyed I had not reached out to him so I told him I missed him and I did but I wanted to see how he would react if I let me guard down and he got more talkative but when I got too mushy he was like "Thanks" LOL( @gemguyaz34 insider) but I was testing him to see how he would react when he got back from vacation tomorrow I wanted to see if he got distant or picked up more conversation.
Do you guys do this? I give stupid little test all the time.
- he's willing to cook for you;
- you miss him if he doesn't text you.
Why can't the two of you be in a normal relationship?click to expand
Posted by TheLibraMudraYes! I have been hurt way too many times! I know this guy is a FWB, but I don't want to mess with him if he has a girlfriend. That is not my game and it is just the principle of the matter that I have to serve justice to people. Even though I hate being hurt I love catching people in lies.
Haha well I leave my leo alone with the tests now. In the beginning, it must have been grueling for him. I've had nothing but jackasses in the past and pushed all the good guys away. To my surprise, he kept blowing me out of the water, passing all my retarded little tests to see if he's full of crap LOL. Through my little attitudes and expectations, he continued to be a steady, good man. It feels so good to not have to test someone I'm into. We've come to such a good place in our relationship. For the first time, I fully trust and deeply love. Actually, sometimes I feel it coming, like i wanna create a test... But I back down and let it go. I still do it quite silently at work or with some family lol
And now I sound like a crazy woman.

Posted by TheLibraMudraThat Scorp influence, yo.
My name is LibraMudra.
I am a LibraScorpio.
And I test people like a mother fucker.
Posted by littlesparrowThat is different I am the same way I will poker face it all day and wait for someone to tell me something private. I only really stalk people who are trying to get close to me because I want to know if they are genuine, but I will pretend I don't know anything until they really lay on the act and I have tons of proof then I lay it out there for them to see. Playing dumb is one of my best talents and it is funny to see the shock when people realize I wasn't fooled.
Not really. I take people as they present themselves. I figure that is who they want to be and I honour that. I don't pry because I figure if you want me to know, you will tell me.
For example, let's say you are a coworker and I hear a rumour that you were just diagnosed with cancer. I would never, ever let on unless you were the one that told me. Furthermore, I would never, ever tell unless you wanted me to. I am extremely private and really, deeply respect other people's privacy.
In the case of having cancer, I think it is essential that you have people in your life who just treat you as the person you were before you got the diagnosis. Who talk about things other than the illness. Just seems respectful.
So yeah. I don't really test. I just accept and once betrayed remember.



Posted by TheLibraMudraIt really is damaging. I have seen Leo and Scorp women do this garbage and they end up sabotaging their relationships with that neurotic crap. Calm the fuck down ladies, haha.
Do you ever feel that these tests create more problems at times? I got to this point with my man where I was like... "Right, I'm gonna lose him" because I keep doing this to see if he will pass and he passes. There's absolutely nothing to test. Can't test just to test. That's exhausting for both parties lol. But it's so hard with all the past hurts and with situations like FWBs, not wanting to have someone else's dude get it.
This was actually good for me to read today!! When it feels like things go a bit silent between my man and I, I feel this urge to create something he needs to pass, especially because we live so far apart. Different countries. We see each other every few months for about a month. But then I remember, oh, yea, he's not a loser like the rest of your boyfriends. He's doing homework, working to save money to have trips out here and spending every minute of free time with me on skype and put a beautiful ring on it lol

Posted by lovinglibraThis is my first. And I don't think I would be testing him if he didn't act like he wanted more and I didn't see a red flag.
Never had a fwb. I'm to chicken, blah

Posted by TheLibraMudraWould you say you picked this up from dating the ScorpPosted by rockyroadicecreamlol when I start getting that feeling... I ask myself "wtf are you doing? Just stop" you are totally right, though. Some silly shit. 5 years ago, I would have never admitted to even doing this. But 5 years ago I was with a Scorpio and the games back and forth were a total mind fuck. Fuck.Posted by TheLibraMudraIt really is damaging. I have seen Leo and Scorp women do this garbage and they end up sabotaging their relationships with that neurotic crap. Calm the fuck down ladies, haha.
Do you ever feel that these tests create more problems at times? I got to this point with my man where I was like... "Right, I'm gonna lose him" because I keep doing this to see if he will pass and he passes. There's absolutely nothing to test. Can't test just to test. That's exhausting for both parties lol. But it's so hard with all the past hurts and with situations like FWBs, not wanting to have someone else's dude get it.
This was actually good for me to read today!! When it feels like things go a bit silent between my man and I, I feel this urge to create something he needs to pass, especially because we live so far apart. Different countries. We see each other every few months for about a month. But then I remember, oh, yea, he's not a loser like the rest of your boyfriends. He's doing homework, working to save money to have trips out here and spending every minute of free time with me on skype and put a beautiful ring on it lol
Anyone who has high enough self esteem and can see that shit from a mile away will grow tired of it really quickly and/or drop it. I've dealt with a few Pisces guys who tried this bullshit with me, except I saw right through it and didn't even give them the response they were "testing" for. I ignored that shit and continued on like nothing had happened. It did grow tiring after awhile and I had to distance myself because it's just ridiculous constantly being manipulated and fucked with like that. If someone has to constantly "test" the object of their affection, maybe they need to work on themselves a bit before attempting to date again. You can't go through life being paranoid as fuck, thinking everyone is out to fuck you over, so you end up doing silly shit like this. It's immature and childish.
Not a shot at you specifically, but a general "you."click to expand

Posted by ladylibra21Be wary for sure. I had a fwb who was struggling with whatever the hell feelings it was that he had. It got obnoxious.Posted by lovinglibraThis is my first. And I don't think I would be testing him if he didn't act like he wanted more and I didn't see a red flag.
Never had a fwb. I'm to chicken, blah
Posted by TheLibraMudraYeeeah, some Scorps are fucking psycho in relationships. That "control freak" bit some have is just out of control.
lol when I start getting that feeling... I ask myself "wtf are you doing? Just stop" you are totally right, though. Some silly shit. 5 years ago, I would have never admitted to even doing this. But 5 years ago I was with a Scorpio and the games back and forth were a total mind fuck. Fuck.click to expand

Posted by VanillaExtI can relate to an extent- my Venus is in Taurus- fixed. It annoys the shit out of me. Logic is always kicking the Taurus in the nuts to calm the hell down haha.Posted by rockyroadicecreamScorpio in Venus and Mercury...Posted by ladylibra21Be wary for sure. I had a fwb who was struggling with whatever the hell feelings it was that he had. It got obnoxious.Posted by lovinglibraThis is my first. And I don't think I would be testing him if he didn't act like he wanted more and I didn't see a red flag.
Never had a fwb. I'm to chicken, blah
Posted by TheLibraMudraYeeeah, some Scorps are fucking psycho in relationships. That "control freak" bit some have is just out of control.
lol when I start getting that feeling... I ask myself "wtf are you doing? Just stop" you are totally right, though. Some silly shit. 5 years ago, I would have never admitted to even doing this. But 5 years ago I was with a Scorpio and the games back and forth were a total mind fuck. Fuck.
Fun stuff.click to expand

Posted by leeberated...more like stomped into the ground ugh
Ahahaha. Yes he actually did open my eyes to being more empathetic to people. I always thought I was an understanding person, but apparently I wasn't doing it right. Thanks, Pisces, for that at least grounding me a bit, pffft.

Posted by rockyroadicecreamSo is it a Scorpio-influence thing? I have Scorpio venus and mars (and possibly rising). But I don't test people, at least not knowingly or intentionally, that I can recall. I take people at face value. In fact I'm quite naive and can fall for other people's lies. I don't have a good lie detector. I really want one though...Posted by TheLibraMudraThat Scorp influence, yo.
My name is LibraMudra.
I am a LibraScorpio.
And I test people like a mother fucker.click to expand

Posted by letterbox10Realistically, it depends on the individual and how mature they are. Insecure, immature people "test." Stupid, naive bitches use "testing" as a valid excuse for shitty behavior.Posted by rockyroadicecreamSo is it a Scorpio-influence thing? I have Scorpio venus and mars (and possibly rising). But I don't test people, at least not knowingly or intentionally, that I can recall. I take people at face value. In fact I'm quite naive and can fall for other people's lies. I don't have a good lie detector. I really want one though...Posted by TheLibraMudraThat Scorp influence, yo.
My name is LibraMudra.
I am a LibraScorpio.
And I test people like a mother fucker.
Is this testing thing also something that people learn because they've been fucked over one too many times in prior relationships? They then bring their trust issues into the current one and thus the testing begins...?
I'm trying to understand this because I've never felt the need to test in my relationships, be it romantic, familial, friends, work, etc.click to expand
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Do you guys do this? I give stupid little test all the time.