Ha! Libra Women are no help!

No one responded to my first post on this Message Board! Wow. I'm starting to believe a lot of the other postings about Libra women not caring. Too bad. Anyway, it would be nice to know if you gals really mean what you say, or always leave options open, make definitive decisions or like playing games. Maybe it's just taking a (typical) L-O-N-G time to decide whether to even answer a post or not. Decisions, decisions! (Do beautiful indecisive Libras ever figure out they might be missing out on some incredible things?). Love ya, but you can be so frustrating!

I agree about us not caring, sometimes I can't be bothered to care and its not like me to pretend or it'll come off so fake. I know sometimes its good to just put a BIT of effort into what somebody is saying because when the time comes I'll want someone to listen to my problems. I'm seeing alot of myself in another person and I personally don't like it. It's good to meet people who are alot like you so you can realize what you like about yourself and what you don't, its so much easier to see yourself from a third person point of view and we don't get to see that often. I'm starting to hate the basis of the libras too and I'm starting to move away from it. At least I'm trying to. They're too, whats the word, fake?

Libras are going through the full moon phase. many are busy mixing up with friends. I cannot answer for libra women .. sorry. gotta wait till ladies are back.

Hey, crudemood, I appreciate your comments. I find my Libra girl REALLY fake at times---which seems weird to me because at other times she times like the most genuine person I know! (Maybe it's a scales thing). And thanks for letting me about not being bothered to care. It certainly makes sense with the girl I'm talking about. Probably something I just have to accept.

Hey, thelibran, thanks for reminding me of the full moon. Yow! I'll try to be patient and see if Libra girls resond.

Lesson #1: we don't look like to be told what to do...

Now, what is it that you want to know?

See Atom, you posted on the 5th, a Friday and then on Saturday you complain that you've not had a response. Had your post been written on a Monday you would have been inundated.

Lesson #2: Never judge a libra out loud, for she will never really judge you out loud. You get what you ask for but it's iron fist in velvet glove...

I just went back to your original post and it's a nice story that you shared. But on Friday and Saturday we're all out & about (or not e.g. me at the moment). Patience dear boy.

Ah, all these free insights...

Thank you for your comments one and all! I'm soaking them in and learning. TRYING to be patient. 'Chewing on these insights. Good stuff.

Atom, I lived with a male Libra for 3 years . . and even after all those years, he was still trying to decide whether we were actually a couple, or not . .

I'm like, MY GOD . . we're sleeping together EVERY night, sharing our world, but, whether we're a union is questionable ——??

I think it's just they way they are . . like, if a decision is made then someone's gonna put a gun to their heads and make them live it forever. Nothing is forever and maybe that is a lesson they need to learn to help them to realize that decisions don't have to be that hard . . a mind can be changed.

Also, you said that all women want you, even the beautiful ones . . so, don't you think it's possible that you're not as head-over-heels with this woman as much as it's just someone who isn't drooling over you? Meaning, if she DID show the same interest as other women, would this really be bothering you so much? Or, would you have just turned the Aries ice on once you got the "usual" attention?

Perhaps, she realizes this and is like "no thank you" . . I know, I would be. If I came across a man who thought that he was "all that" . . I'd be turned-off. I might want to hang out with him and take whatever things he gives me, like attention or dinners . . but, not a relationship . . he would seem too concieted for my tastes and perhaps this is the case with this woman . . not every woman is gonna fall on her face for you . . some women don't like concieted men.

There's a difference between conciet and confidence,lol

Libra lass is here to help!!

Tip****of course we care, but how much we show it depends entirely on how much we like you. Sorry, it sounds shallow, but for us it isnt..its just how we?re made.

P-Angel, it's so bizarre to think you can be in a relationship and they don't know it! I've got a feeling it's already this way with this Libra girl. I truly believe nothing is forever also (you better enjoy what you have!) AND you can change your mind any time, as well as the interesting phenomenom of others changing their minds!

And, yeah, I do get that kind of attention from other women. So I am glad Libra girl and I have fun friendship as a basis. And I'm doing my best not to get in that "not interested" mode if all of a sudden she, ha, changes her mind. She really has all the qualities I like in a woman so I don't think that will happen (but thank you for the heads up insight).

The conceit thing? THAT's pretty interesting! I know I can be conceited and hate myself when I am. It is an Aries weakness in a lot of ways. We don't even know we're coming off conceited or arrogant until later. Then, "Oops." In a lot of ways we're real knuckleheads because we think everyone SHOULD

(messed up) continued to P-Angel: love us! And we can't understand why they don't! SURE SOUNDS CONCEITED TO ME! Ha! Thanks for letting me know I'm not just in La-La Land with this girl!

Sola, Thanks for being here to help! I had been holding my breath for awhile to get a response. But 'just anxious, nothing more. You bring up an interesting point: How does a Libra girl show you she likes you? I have an old adage for my girl friends that goes like this, "How do you know if a guy likes you?" Answer: "He shows up." It certainly isn't that easy with women. I'd like your answer but I'd also like to take a stab at how Libra girls in particular show they like you (please let me know if I'm way off or kinda close, okay?). They show you they like you when:

*They talk and talk and talk with you all the time.

*They give you that whimsical smile and sparkling eyes without saying a word.

*They suddenly rush around to get you something they think you would like (like a cushion to make you comfortable while sitting).

*They offer to do some work with you.

*They tell you EVERYTHING about the people they know, good and bad.

Well, am I close? Is that a good start? Am I missing something HUGE? Do you have some ideas to add to this?

'Appreciate your comments!

After 3 years, I bailed . . I believed that was long enough to decide. In that time, we were very close. He talked about everything . . he's feelings. We shared a lot together. We loved each other very much . . but, I think it's a commitment issue. It was like, if he admitted something, then there was no going back. He'd tell me he loved me all the time and he did. It's wierd, trying to understand.

Once I worked with a Libra woman who referred to her husband as her "roommate". They had been married for over ten years.

Go figure . . I don't get it, either.

Atom, sounds like you?ve hit the Libra spot!!

I would add that Libra women are flirtatious by nature, very much so. But if she?s like reeeally into you, she?ll try and touch you in a non-invasive way, just being generally playful and smiley. Touch her a little bit, like stroke her hair (only once), or put your arm round her for a little minute..she?ll like it. Then try and arrange to be alone with her somewhere..not too intimate, like the park or something? Im sooo excited for you..good luck!!

Sounds like a game to me . . if a person is into another and really wants to have a mature relationship . . why play this?

Just go for each other and enjoy every moment that's shared . . love is hard to find in this world . . silly games are easy to find . . if you two love each other . . then be REAL in how you feel . .

If she wants you, she would have taken you into her heart and bed . . if what she wants is to play for your attention, but, not really WANT your attention . . then she's NOT really feeling you . . is that what you want? A player?

Then what? Once she tires of you . . off to a new man who will chase her?

Fuck that . .

*** Libra women not caring. Too bad.

Ahh yes, There it is. Passive aggressive hosility and lurking beneathe an overbearing sense of self-entitlement. I guess it never occured to you other people are busy doing other things and that behaving in a polite manner would serve you well since you are asking for OUR help?

We really owe you nothing and if you want someone to do something nice for you appreciate them and respect them.

* Lesson #1: we don't look like to be told what to do...

Right on sisters!

* can walk into a room, stomach doing flips and next thing you know I am engaging everyone in conversation, on most topics, however I know a little bit about nothing

Agreed! I do it all the time.

* Lesson #2: Never judge a libra out loud, for she will never really judge you out loud. You get what you ask for but it's iron fist in velvet glove...

Fuck it. I am annoyed. He obviously just came him for a pity party and didn't bother to read the countless hours we have spent guiding people. And lets face it, we are WAY more honest than other members on this board. But obviously that doesn't matter. He is so important that when he calls, we should beck.

** Atom, I lived with a male Libra for 3 years . . and even after all those years, he was still trying to decide whether we were actually a couple, or not . .

P-Angel, you were not his mate. You were someone that he probably loved and admired but never were the person he could truly be himself with.

** Nothing is forever and maybe that is a lesson they need to learn to help them to realize that decisions don't have to be that hard . . a mind can be changed.

No. The lesson of Libra is that by making this choice, that choice must be sacraficed. Indecision is basically a mental act we do until the time feels right. We actually already know the truth of what we want and what we will do, we are just biding our time with mental exercise.

Howdy. I've been busy working, so didn't get back to the Libra Board as soon as I wanted to. I appreciate ALL your comments! Sola, your answers mirror exactly what's been going on with the Libra girl I've mentioned. I do wonder if she's just scared of commitment and I believe Libras, as a whole, have good hearts; so I don't think she's playing any games, just being herself.

I took her to a museum and they had an exhibit on Figure Skating. We also toured a restored mansion---she seemed to really enjoy "date" that wasn't a date together.

The thing I'm a little concerned about is that I don't pick up too many "being subtle" traits. That always seems to imply to me that things are cooling off---and I don't want to communicate that to her!

So at this junction, in your opinion (especially those of you with STRONG opinions), HOW LONG does it take for a Libra Girl to show she cares without a doubt?

(P-Angel, I'm with you: 3 YEARS—?)

And, BTW, Libra Women are a GREAT HELP!

Atom

The more serious we get about someone the less risky we get. So our behaviour becomes more serious and the flirting stops until it is safe again to pick that up, occasionally. We don't want to mess anything up, so we don't do anything at all. Then it cannot go wrong either. When we know how we feel we stop being spontaneous.

I get really boring/quiet in fact and just drewl when I see you (with happiness, of course). Then when I get the green light (e.g. you like me too) I just get devoted and give a fair amount of unsolicited attention. But I continuously keep assessing how you feel (has anything changed? should I be worried or can I still 'feel' happy?).

"Sounds like a game to me . . if a person is into another and really wants to have a mature relationship . . why play this?"

Because, life is a game. We are looking for someone who understands this, and can play it with us.

Nope Atom..dont listen to the others, listen to me..i?ll get you the girl!

If you think that things are cooling and you dont want them to, then the chances are that she?s feeling worried that you?re not that into her. You?ve done the casual date and the flirtations, now its time to get in there full throttle!! Dont be scary, just say (however you prefer, eg by phone or to her face) that you enjoy her company a lot, and you?d like it if you could spend more time together. She?ll act all surprised i bet and flattered, and then you?ll never be rid of her!! Honestly, trust me..it works!

They aren't dating. She has said that point blank. Anything beyond that is a moot point. She also doesn't want to kiss him, hold his hand, etc. She is not that into him.

Sola, that's my style . I'm also keeping my eyes open on her reactions. She SEEMS to be moving in closer. I think Libra's post was very accurate too. (I saw another Libra woman act that way when she was serious about a guy). I think we're in observing mode---she's observing me, I'm observing her. I'd like action RIGHT NOW---knowing it's an Aries thing---and I don't want to scare her. Just so you all know, I have NOT mentioned ANY future possibilites with her to her (not mentioning ANY plans---I did once and I think it spooked her, so 'have been sensitive about that since), checking to see if SHE would. Sure enough, today we drove past a restaurant that she likes for breakfast and SHE is the one who said, "We'll have to eat breakfast there sometime." So I think she's really THINKING and, to me, that kind of comment from a Libra is a strong imply of wanting me to be around. I'm not trying to read anything into it. It just seems to be her style . AND all of a sudden she is MUCH MORE available during the week. Well, I'm a musician, so I'm used to playing by ear. Ha!

She fucking wants you mate!

whats hilarious is im readin these but then everything applies to me and i kinda just zone out and think about me and my problems and how this applies to ofcourse ME! omg........ this just made me realize how self absorbed i am HOLLLY SORRRRRRRY

wait wasnt done yet...so to answer ur question.... we do care A LOT at that moment when ur actually in our space....but then i tend to move on to the next order of business ME.....we care very deeply on a very external level.....make sense?