Help from the flirting gods please

Okay. Im a wonderful flirt, I like flirting and never fail...but

I have an issue when guys start to make moves first. Or if they do it stupily I beome really awkward. I neve get nervous i never hv n never will so tht snt the problem..

like an hour ago i wa in cvs getting tylenol, and in line i waited when three guys came to stand next to me.
The one closest looked like a pkthead type of guy. They were all cute but ive never gotten myself a pothead nd i wonder deeply what that life is like so i was interested.
Well...I would glanc at him andnotice him and his friends kept lookin at me too, then i notice he looke everywher i did, if i turned around so did he. Anyways that was my clue he was noticing me....so i looked at him and smiled. And so he said "Hows your night going" and wnna kno what i did? I looke forward away from him and said "good" and turned away like A BITCH. I dont knw why i do this guys.

I get really incomfortable n have no idea how to respond to gettin hit on if i dont hit on someone first.
If i woul hve said "nice shirt" and THEN he said that, there woul be no problm.....what do i do when someon hirs on me first?

Thank you oh mighty flirting Gods.

Don't bother with them.
If you don't know how to respond to someone's weird overtures, it is nature's w ay of telling you "NEXT!"

Posted by GuardianAnu
Don't bother with them.
If you don't know how to respond to someone's weird overtures, it is nature's w ay of telling you "NEXT!"

its everyonw hough. even my first love.
outside in th rain on first date "are you cold" said no an walked away s tht he couldnt ome los n kss me...but i wnte him to.

or onth airplane a guyinthe army and i started chatting kn the airport nd deided to sit together. We tled for three hours about deep shit (he was cappy) and o damn did ilike him! thn he started complimenting me sayin im amazing and tht hes in awe andtht im beutiful....And i turned to look outside and stayed like ht unti we landed.
ts very bad.

my best frend...him and i loved eachother ince we were 9. I NEVERdated him when he asked me. an he aske alot. why? Idfk. But i stil aske him. n only thn ould i take it there.

its bad

I am still going to go with nature telling you that this isn't right for you. Of course, I am a slow mover when it comes to trusting someone enough to let them in.

Trust yourself.

Flirting is a game, and means nothing, except sexual interest... which is fine, if you are the type of person who can deal with frivolous things, but I have a feeling you are not that kind of person.

A lot of people communicate in this way, now. I find that this era is totally messed up for dating. We have things like Tinder, which I have never used and never will, but it is just another device which allows people to feel like window shopping for sex and treating each other like objects is normal. I mean really, swipe? I had to look that up to find out what it means, and it is totally irreverent. This is seeping into the real world so much now, too, it's quite disconcerting.

Well serious relationships are one thing...but flings...i dont mind 🙂 Thats hy i say i fine if i do fhe flirting.

I hope your flirting is better than your spelling. 😉

Sadly, my flirting is not better than my spelling, which isn't that great to begin with. 😭

Yeah, when you can do things on your own terms, things are a lot more comfortable.
Maybe take these as a challenge? Shit, you are built for it!
Pisces are so wise, and yet shroud themselves in denial, your aries must be dying to burst.

One of my best friends is a Pisces sun and Aries moon, so maybe I am stepping out of line, too confident saying this. I hope I do not offend.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
I hope your flirting is better than your spelling. 😉

Sadly, my flirting is not better than my spelling, which isn't that great to begin with. 😭

God dmn. My lelling would be good if my internet wasnt so god dmn slow

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
I hope your flirting is better than your spelling. 😉

Sadly, my flirting is not better than my spelling, which isn't that great to begin with. 😭

+1

Op, I don't care if you're writing from your phone or what your age is.

In the real world, you look like you're mentally retarded when you write like that. Please stop doing that stupid shit for your own sake.

Posted by GuardianAnu
Yeah, when you can do things on your own terms, things are a lot more comfortable.
Maybe take these as a challenge? Shit, you are built for it!
Pisces are so wise, and yet shroud themselves in denial, your aries must be dying to burst.

One of my best friends is a Pisces sun and Aries moon, so maybe I am stepping out of line, too confident saying this. I hope I do not offend.

You could call me a fat pimply bimbo and i wouldnt get offended.
This seems pretty true. I feel mor though like i realy hate guys trying to take th lead...like the aires wont except it.
whereas as a pisces, itsprecisey what i want and need. will look at it as challenge.most girls are nervous and awkward at flirting...fo m its the opposite. we al need weak spots i suppose.

Oh, look. It's the fun police.

Posted by SuperMissMan

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
I hope your flirting is better than your spelling. 😉

Sadly, my flirting is not better than my spelling, which isn't that great to begin with. 😭

God dmn. My lelling would be good if my internet wasnt so god dmn slow

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Slow internet has nothing to do with it.

Maybe your computer/phone is slow to type, but it's not the internet.

If it's the case of lag on the phone/computer, I feel for you. That shit's annoying.

Sorry, my previous post was about Aries Introvert and rockyroad. Not you (fun police)

Those two remind me of these chickens.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by SuperMissMan

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
I hope your flirting is better than your spelling. 😉

Sadly, my flirting is not better than my spelling, which isn't that great to begin with. 😭

God dmn. My lelling would be good if my internet wasnt so god dmn slow

Slow internet has nothing to do with it.

Maybe your computer/phone is slow to type, but it's not the internet.

If it's the case of lag on the phone/computer, I feel for you. That shit's annoying.

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Or maybe it is the weekend and she is letting loose, maybe had a drink or something. Or is lying in bed, wondering.

Lighten up. Jesus.

Oh shut it, moron. This has been addressed in other threads and it's not just us bringing it up. Stfu until you know the whole story, sweetcheeks.

OP, in regard to your flirting issue, it sounds like maybe a control thing. You're more comfortable when you have control of the reigns in the situation. If it's out of your control, you're not sure how to respond or deal with it.

...which is understandable. If you don't see a situation as something to pursue, and someone turns it into that situation, it throws you off guard. It went from friendly to some sort of interest and you're not expecting that.

Do you have to flirt in return? No. You just need some time to warm up to the situation is all.

Overall, it's nothing to stress over. So you can be a bit shy about it. Nothing wrong with that.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh shut it, moron. This has been addressed in other threads and it's not just us bringing it up. Stfu until you know the whole story, sweetcheeks.

BAWWWWK!

You're obviously a chaser, not an attractor. Being actively pursued doesn't seem to be your natural ground. Don't try to go against your nature, just make sure to strike first in these situations, you seem to be comfortable with that.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by SuperMissMan

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
I hope your flirting is better than your spelling. 😉

Sadly, my flirting is not better than my spelling, which isn't that great to begin with. 😭

God dmn. My lelling would be good if my internet wasnt so god dmn slow

Slow internet has nothing to do with it.

Maybe your computer/phone is slow to type, but it's not the internet.

If it's the case of lag on the phone/computer, I feel for you. That shit's annoying.

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It seriously is. But it only does this onlin. in my notes and things like that it isnt so slow.

Posted by GuardianAnu

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by SuperMissMan

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
I hope your flirting is better than your spelling. 😉

Sadly, my flirting is not better than my spelling, which isn't that great to begin with. 😭

God dmn. My lelling would be good if my internet wasnt so god dmn slow

Slow internet has nothing to do with it.

Maybe your computer/phone is slow to type, but it's not the internet.

If it's the case of lag on the phone/computer, I feel for you. That shit's annoying.

Or maybe it is the weekend and she is letting loose, maybe had a drink or something. Or is lying in bed, wondering.

Lighten up. Jesus.

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LOL mybe 😉

Posted by Theatrum
You're obviously a chaser, not an attractor. Being actively pursued doesn't seem to be your natural ground. Don't try to go against your nature, just make sure to strike first in these situations, you seem to be comfortable with that.

I am a chaser. I literaly used to chase boys on the playground and kss them from first to ourh grade LOL. I dont like being chased.

Posted by GuardianAnu
Sorry, my previous post was about Aries Introvert and rockyroad. Not you (fun police)

Those two remind me of these chickens.

pewby part poopers

Posted by Ssupes
Yup tiz, that is good advice!

What's wrong with rockys humor? She's nowhere near as funny as me but she has her dry humor moments!

😉

We all know im the funniest: 🙂

Posted by Sugarfoot
But you did initiate. You looked at him and smiled (basically inviting him to speak to you). I don't know what you tell you. Just try to be polite.

On a sidenote

Why do people in your age group write like you do? Is it because your spelling and grammar is really that bad? Or, is it because it's a fad to appear as if you don't care about that? Or is it because it's a fad to write everything in text speak?? It's really annoying and hard to read. Not making fun of you, I've really been wondering the cause of this epidemic.

Twelve year olds....maybe, but no one in my age group that i knw types badly. My phome is slow and i really dom want o tke ten seconds to writ one word.

Posted by Curiousram
Cant give you advice the only time im good at "flirting" is when im comfortable around friends platonically. It gets confused with being flirty haha..

Goodness aries. u need to get out!! take some lesons from libras.

i don't know...is this really a problem?

Posted by 4ND5
i got 99 problems but venus in aries ain't 1. 😛

Ugh

Posted by jeane
i don't know...is this really a problem?

Yes. I basically tkin th job guys want. it almost feels lik it turns m off wen soeon make any moves.

Posted by SuperMissMan

Posted by jeane
i don't know...is this really a problem?

Yes. I basically tkin th job guys want. it almost feels lik it turns m off wen soeon make any moves.

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and so? what would you like us to advise?

you like a submissive man...and then?

yes but i like get bored of them.

Posted by SuperMissMan
yes but i like get bored of them.

give it time. you're young. the guys you are mixing with are young too. let this be learning period in your life.

Posted by jeane

Posted by SuperMissMan
yes but i like get bored of them.

give it time. you're young. the guys you are mixing with are young too. let this be learning period in your life.

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+1

I really don't see what the issue is here.