Help we with my old love

I met this guy - Libra in 2010 Jan for a brief 2 hrs with families & I really started liking him, Our families made us meet so we could see if we can get hooked up together. After talking to me for a few times on phone he said No "Our thoughts didn't match". Later the same year he contacted me again when i moved to a location near him & we were friends for approximately 10 months. In those 10 months i fell in love with him, i didnt have the guts to express myself directly so I just said " You know we gel so well together. do you think we can have a future together ?" he said No again & said " Out thoughts dont match" I stopped all contact with him & in the last 2.5 years he got married & got a kid. 2013 April he started talking to me again & we became friends again. I still have feelings for him. The only change is he confessed having feelings for me a couple of days back. (he started talking to me coz i met with an accident & had to go into surgery). A week back when we were talking i confessed to him about my feelings for him in 2010 - 2011. i have suddenly drawn very close to him again. I do like it that he feels the same about me, but i m not sure what & why is this happening ? i also know this will not last long since his wife is visiting her family & will be back next month.

i find it very difficult to go away from him & resist him specially when i see him feeling the same about it.

i am not sure if I know what i should do or may be I am just venting this out. he and i have no intentions of having sex but we did make out once & we enjoy each other's company.

Is this right to even be in the first place ?? can people have feelings even after having a happy family ?

Why are you trying to be that whore that splits up a family?

To answer your first question, hell no it is not right. And you are dead wrong, and so is he.

To your second question, yes people have feelings for other people outside of the happy family married life all the time. I like to call those people greedy and never satisfied. Those type of people will end up alone, and they will never be happy because don't know how to respect, cherish, and enjoy what they have. They are always thinking somewhere over the rainbow there are greener pastures when the truth is, it don't get no greener until you get to heaven.

I won't be as harsh as Rocky, but I suggest you get your own man, and cut this one off. You are a grown ass woman, get a grip on your emotions and act like it. Think better of yourself. You shouldn't even think twice about a man that's willing to cross his wife, and the mother of kids like that. You think he won't do it to you if he got the chance, especially sense he knows how you feel about him? What makes you so special? Men like him prey on the weak minded woman that's not smart enough to demand more. She's very easy to play with. Dont be a fool. Wake up.

Posted by pinklibra
To answer your first question, hell no it is not right. And you are dead wrong, and so is he.

To your second question, yes people have feelings for other people outside of the happy family married life all the time. I like to call those people greedy and never satisfied. Those type of people will end up alone, and they will never be happy because don't know how to respect, cherish, and enjoy what they have. They are always thinking somewhere over the rainbow there are greener pastures when the truth is, it don't get no greener until you get to heaven.

I won't be as harsh as Rocky, but I suggest you get your own man, and cut this one off. You are a grown ass woman, get a grip on your emotions and act like it. Think better of yourself. You shouldn't even think twice about a man that's willing to cross his wife, and the mother of kids like that. You think he won't do it to you if he got the chance, especially sense he knows how you feel about him? What makes you so special? Men like him prey on the weak minded woman that's not smart enough to demand more. She's very easy to play with. Dont be a fool. Wake up.

That's why I just love Rocky and Pinklibra 🙂

Well shit, I don't get it when we get women like this here, asking such STUPID questions.

"Is it okay for me to chase a married/taken man?"

"So I'm stepping in between a guy and his S/O, blah blah there are issues, woe is me and pity me!"

"There are feelings involved, so it's okay, right??"

Wtf is wrong with people? They're taken, you desperate bitch, gawd. It's all so incredibly sad and pathetic. Feelings or not, you're being selfish and absolutely inconsiderate of others.

OP, just because you had a temporary tickle in your lady bits over this man, BRIEFLY, forever ago, does not give you the green light to go chase him.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Well .

OP, just because you had a temporary tickle in your lady bits ,.

LMAO!!!

@TAURUSNIKKI

LUV YA BACK MISSY! LOL

@ROCKY I'm so stealing that "lady bits" quoute. lmao

Haha, it's true. All terrible decisions are made by our nether regions- male and female.

And the sad part is that it's kinda obvious that the guy wasn't interested in her like that. The only reason he's entertaining her now is for his ego. "I'm married and have women chasing me, lol. I'm the shit."

I highly doubt he's truly interested. He just wants to jerk her around for his own selfish needs.

OP, repeat to yourself- men do a lot of fucked up things "because they can." Their raging egos are inherently selfish and there's not THAT much grey or "mystery" area involved when it comes to situations like this.

*cranks up Iron Maiden on ipod*

"Run TO the HILLLLLS
Run FOR your LIIIIFE..."