How can I find the one?

This topic was created in the Libra forum by aroolibra on Monday, May 14, 2018 and has 30 replies.

How to Find Your True Partner Based on Astrology

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@aroolibra
8 Years

I was crazy about this cancer girl but she was always acting casual and then she would disappear for some time, and then come back again. It wasn't stable.

I messed up with an Aries girl too. I have a system where I intentionally ghost a person, just to see if they would voluntarily message me and start a conversation. I think maybe I did that too soon and we just drifted apart. I'm still regretting it every day.

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@Dolluxxe
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Posted by aroolibra
I was crazy about this cancer girl but she was always acting casual and then she would disappear for some time, and then come back again. It wasn't stable.

I messed up with an Aries girl too. I have a system where I intentionally ghost a person, just to see if they would voluntarily message me and start a conversation. I think maybe I did that too soon and we just drifted apart. I'm still regretting it every day.

This is exactly why I have no patience with dating these days. Gameplaying can make me lose interest FAST.

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@aroolibra
8 Years

"This is exactly why I have no patience with dating these days. Gameplaying can make me lose interest FAST. "

Believe me even I hate it too. I understand where you're coming from. I've just used it because I had run into so many fake people. It helped filter the real ones from the fakes.

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@Dolluxxe
9 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by aroolibra
"This is exactly why I have no patience with dating these days. Gameplaying can make me lose interest FAST. "

Believe me even I hate it too. I understand where you're coming from. I've just used it because I had run into so many fake people. It helped filter the real ones from the fakes.

So manipulation is your way to filter women? You hate it yet still doing it.

JFC

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@aroolibra
8 Years

Lol yes I still do it ocassionally. But not like before. Learned from my mistakes.

In no way am I gonna say I'm amazingly attractive but I'd say I've received compliments. I look at it this way too. I'm someone's cup of tea, and not to others. But I have had pretty girls attracted to me. I know that was a complicated answer. Maybe cuz I'm not conceited.

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@aroolibra
8 Years

Honest to god I hate games.

I'll say this. I showed her I cared a lot. But it always felt like I was the one initiating conversations. So to test it, I did the ghosting thing. Otherwise, if I liked someone, I'd be stupid to not see/talk to her.

Stupidly enough, being with someone makes me feel whole. Which at times isn't a good thing.

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@aroolibra
8 Years

Posted by Timon
I get where you're coming from. I'm a libra too and I love sharing a connection with someone. The only problem is that it is really hard to find someone that I connect with physically, emotionally and mentally. There is usually one part or more that is missing. You also need to make sure that the other person feels the same about you. I think I might end up alone which I don't really want to but I don't want to be with someone just for the sake of being with someone. I need to feel that connection in all levels or it will be difficult for me to be happy with that person.

I completely get you. At this point, I'm willing to look past some issues

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@aroolibra
8 Years

When I say tough, I mean too nice. I am tough but when it comes to relationships, and because I care about the other person, I might seem too nice. But yeah I'm not a pushover. If I don't agree with something I'll let her know.

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@aroolibra
8 Years

Lol. Well I am and its boring. Its fun to share memories with someone. I love inside jokes

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@aroolibra
8 Years

Posted by Timon

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Posted by Timon
I get where you're coming from. I'm a libra too and I love sharing a connection with someone. The only problem is that it is really hard to find someone that I connect with physically, emotionally and mentally. There is usually one part or more that is missing. You also need to make sure that the other person feels the same about you. I think I might end up alone which I don't really want to but I don't want to be with someone just for the sake of being with someone. I need to feel that connection in all levels or it will be difficult for me to be happy with that person.

I completely get you. At this point, I'm willing to look past some issues click to expand

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Well I don't mean my core values. But I mean in other aspects. If we don't see eye to eye on some things, I can look past it. I mean, I do understand she is another person and will have her own view. Just important that each other's views don't get pushed onto the other.

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@aroolibra
8 Years

Zodiac : Tropical Placidus Orb : 0
Sun Libra 23°55' Ascendant Scorpio 25°06'
Moon Aries 21°17' II Sagittarius 25°28'
Mercury Scorpio 17°51' III Capricorn 29°51'
Venus Scorpio 20°20' R IV Pisces 5°20'
Mars Aquarius 4°50' V Aries 7°03'
Jupiter Pisces 13°47' R VI Taurus 3°12'
Saturn Sagittarius 6°52' VII Taurus 25°06'
Uranus Sagittarius 19°26' VIII Gemini 25°28'
Neptune Capricorn 3°21' IX Cancer 29°51'
Pluto Scorpio 6°46' Midheaven Virgo 5°20'
Lilith Gemini 25°57' XI Libra 7°03'
Asc node Aries 20°46' XII Scorpio 3°12'

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@aroolibra
8 Years

When I would ghost, it would only start out at about half a day. Then it would go to the next stage which would be a day, then a few days, then a week. I feel like if she doesn't even wanna initiate one of the conversations, then she isn't so interested. Am I wrong?

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@aroolibra
8 Years

Here it is again

Zodiac : Tropical Placidus Orb : 0

Sun Libra 23°55' Ascendant Scorpio 25°06'

Moon Aries 21°17' II Sagittarius 25°28'

Mercury Scorpio 17°51' III Capricorn 29°51'

Venus Scorpio 20°20' R IV Pisces 5°20'

Mars Aquarius 4°50' V Aries 7°03'

Jupiter Pisces 13°47' R VI Taurus 3°12'

Saturn Sagittarius 6°52' VII Taurus 25°06'

Uranus Sagittarius 19°26' VIII Gemini 25°28'

Neptune Capricorn 3°21' IX Cancer 29°51'

Pluto Scorpio 6°46' Midheaven Virgo 5°20'

Lilith Gemini 25°57' XI Libra 7°03'

Asc node Aries 20°46' XII Scorpio 3°12'

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@PoseidonGodofWar
8 Years

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I was crazy about this cancer girl but she was always acting casual and then she would disappear for some time, and then come back again. It wasn't stable.

I messed up with an Aries girl too. I have a system where I intentionally ghost a person, just to see if they would voluntarily message me and start a conversation. I think maybe I did that too soon and we just drifted apart. I'm still regretting it every day.

Posted by aroolibra
As a libra guy, do I need to act more "tough"? Because we're kind and caring, do girls see that as soft? click to expandclick to expandclick to expand

No you just need to stop playing these games if you want to be in a relationship with Gemini/Aries sun. I dont know how it feels to chase a man who doesnt show me he likes me equally or a tad bit more. Mind games mostly work on Water signs and sometimes Leos click to expand

and Capricorns too.. click to expand

Hmm no disagreed, Capricorn women just like a challenge. The people they set their heart on are in some way difficult, inaccessible or unrequited. The more unattainable, the better. Theyll become obsessive and will tear their way into their interest's life no matter the cost. They keep tabs on them, but their high level of patience gives them the ability to wait for the right time to strike. Thats what makes it seem like games, but their ambitious nature just loves to succeed at things including relationships. Getting what they want easily, takes the glamour off of succeeding. Once they get what they want, theyll create something to fix or improve to get their high of succeeding again click to expand

looks like they are always in their head... playing with their own minds. click to expand

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I have a couple caps in my chart. From Saturn to neptune and they are all in the 7th house. However, I am a Pisces-Aries Cusp with the sun in Pisces, Moon in Leo and Ascendant in Gemini.

This kind of describes my behavior. I always go for the impossible ones. Either they are out of my league or its just a unique personality that attracts me. But one I get hold of them I start to lose interest. Same with my career, hobbies, other interest etc.

I lose interest easily but I regain it again after its too late. Mostly, when I run out of options. Must be my Gemini rising effect because my mars is in Gemini as well. I have also noticed this with air signs especially Gemini and Libras. Except for aqua, probably because they are a fixed sign.

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@aroolibra
8 Years

So I have a habit of reaching out of my league?

I do know I have a habit of going all in and forever if I like a girl and she likes me back. But if I like her and she doesn't like me, but likes me much later on, its not the same. Dumb personality trait lol

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@PoseidonGodofWar
8 Years

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I was crazy about this cancer girl but she was always acting casual and then she would disappear for some time, and then come back again. It wasn't stable.

I messed up with an Aries girl too. I have a system where I intentionally ghost a person, just to see if they would voluntarily message me and start a conversation. I think maybe I did that too soon and we just drifted apart. I'm still regretting it every day.

Posted by aroolibra
As a libra guy, do I need to act more "tough"? Because we're kind and caring, do girls see that as soft? click to expandclick to expandclick to expand

No you just need to stop playing these games if you want to be in a relationship with Gemini/Aries sun. I dont know how it feels to chase a man who doesnt show me he likes me equally or a tad bit more. Mind games mostly work on Water signs and sometimes Leos click to expand

and Capricorns too.. click to expand

Hmm no disagreed, Capricorn women just like a challenge. The people they set their heart on are in some way difficult, inaccessible or unrequited. The more unattainable, the better. Theyll become obsessive and will tear their way into their interest's life no matter the cost. They keep tabs on them, but their high level of patience gives them the ability to wait for the right time to strike. Thats what makes it seem like games, but their ambitious nature just loves to succeed at things including relationships. Getting what they want easily, takes the glamour off of succeeding. Once they get what they want, theyll create something to fix or improve to get their high of succeeding again click to expand

looks like they are always in their head... playing with their own minds. click to expand

I have a couple caps in my chart. From Saturn to neptune and they are all in the 7th house. However, I am a Pisces-Aries Cusp with the sun in Pisces, Moon in Leo and Ascendant in Gemini.

This kind of describes my behavior. I always go for the impossible ones. Either they are out of my league or its just a unique personality that attracts me. But one I get hold of them I start to lose interest. Same with my career, hobbies, other interest etc.

I lose interest easily but I regain it again after its too late. Mostly, when I run out of options. Must be my Gemini rising effect because my mars is in Gemini as well. I have also noticed this with air signs especially Gemini and Libras. Except for aqua, probably because they are a fixed sign. click to expand

I have a CAP friend who is more like this... I would call this a self-sabotage kind of a thing... Air signs can be like that too... Here is what a CAP posted on whatsapp status "When I get there, there is no there there" lol
For me once I set my targets then I dont change my mind... I do have a bad habit of procastination lol but once I set my eyes on the prize I dont change the prize.. or get bored once I have it.. click to expand

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That's the best part about caps they will always be by your side but they tend to start to control you when they get you. They will stick around until you get bored and call it quits. They are caring but I find it annoying at times.

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@aroolibra
8 Years

Lol. They're brown.

I'm not controlling at all. I'm a libra so we understand both sides of an argument. She can do what she wants. And I'll be clear. I'm caring, but not a kiss ass

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@aroolibra
8 Years

No. But I also knew a Scorpio. But she was kinda secretive. Closed off.

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@LadyNeptune
10 Years25,000+ Posts

#1 Start going on dates. Gotta go through quantity before you find quality.

#2 Don’t get emotionally or physically involved with someone who isn’t looking for a relationship

#3 Pre-qualify the person. Aka find out if their end game matches yours, i.e. relationship.

#4 Repeat as needed

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@aroolibra
8 Years

I'd say my biggest problem is initiating the relationship. Otherwise I'm really good during the relationship longterm.

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@Kittykitkat
8 Years

Posted by aroolibra
I'd say my biggest problem is initiating the relationship. Otherwise I'm really good during the relationship longterm.

Maybe we are match..😊

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@aroolibra
8 Years

Lol it's weird. With some girls, I'm smooth as hell. With some, as much as i try, I can't think of anything to say.

My biggest weakness is just overthinking. I messed up 2 cases like that. It's funny cuz when I have a couple of drinks, I don't give a shit and can get any girl's number.

I do believe you on a sagittarius because my ex was a sagittarius and we were good with each other. There were more of family issues that screwed it up.

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