Indecision or Divine Timing

Libras have a great sense of timing. We just know when the time is right. I highly suspect we have already made up our mind but are doing little mental activities to entertain ourselves, recheck logic, and pass the time till the timing is right. A lot of our indecision is just waiting.

When it comes to our preferences, a lot of our apparent indecisive is actually a need to please our partner. A Libra will sacrifice self for a partner. We are the great chameleon of the zodiac. We leave a lot of decisions to our partners because we want them to be happy.

We also place a lot of value on other people's opinions. My best friend always chooses the wine when we go out because she knows much more about it than I do. I also let her choose the restaurant because dining out is one of her favorite hobbies and she has wonderful taste. A lot of times I simply don't care what we do, as long as we spend time together.

I think this is what people don't get about our indecisiveness.

If you are going to laugh, shouldn't you explain why?

I don't have alot of personal experiences with Libra, but I think they are nice people. Though, I'm not sure how well they can handle harshness.

Do you handle it well?

Libras have a great sense of timing. We just know when the time is right.

No pun intended. And I don't generalise. There is a Libra woman I know, she's 40 and never been married. That's definetly NOT a sign of good timing though.

How so Haffo? Not everyone wants to get married. My roommate definitely does not. She is 37 and doesn't even believe in serious relationships. I was a firm batchelorette for a long, LONG time.

If I don't get married, it won't be the end of me as I am very happy and balanced on my own.

What is that? A technique to freely screw around?

what is what?

meaning what is a technique to screw around?

When I asked her why she isn't married, she couldn't answer it to me (indecisiviness?). She either couldn't find a person who she could be attracted to, or she didn't accept anyone. I don't really know. But I don't think it is because she doesn't belive into marriage. And I don't think she's a happy person either.

I don't know what's wrong with her. It looks like she expects someone else to come and make decitions for her.

Strange...

Well if you were married, then you can't screw around with men alot. Maybe you don't want to get involved because it limits your freedom?

I know I tend to be very private about certain things, especially to do with my private life. In my book, indiscretion is a bigger crime than infidelity because indiscretion is a true betrayal. She probably didn't want to tell you why.

Well if you were married, then you can't screw around with men a lot.

Says who? Monogamy can be negotiated.

Besides, I do want a partner but I don't find one it won't be the death of me. I feel like I have already done that.

I once heard Libran women described as "actively waiting", kind of like a spider in its web. They need the many gnats (casual relationships) they catch to survive, but they're really waiting for the big dragonfly (marriage material) that they can sink their teeth into, and presumably gradually suck the life out of, to truly be fat and happy.

lol!

Okay. If that is what you think.

I don't have casual relationships. I may date someone a few times and find us incompatible, but then I release them back to the wild. I only date men who I could settle down with.

You and Prime should get along well.

You think she didn't tell it to me because she want to keep out indiscretion?

You see it this way?

You think telling this is indiscretion?

What about sharing?

You think it also indiscretion?

Nothing bad gonna happen if you share this kind of information.

Sparrow, all you write is incredibly true.

I don't sit on decisions for a very long time. Does it FEEL ok or not and that's what I'll go with e.g. the scales seem in balance? Then fine. Gut reaction, not necessarily a lot of analysis. Probably based on life's experiences.

But with matters of the heart, lots of analyses and a lot of doubt (do I like you, are you gonna go my way?) until I have decided you are the one e.g. all the criteria were met. All I want is to please and whoever you are becomes almost unimportant. You're it and that's it.

I often find myself making a decision with my head then waiting to see how the decision 'feels' in my body. Whether it makes me sad or happy. It's like I cannot foresee the consequences.

So on one hand my day-to-day decisions are based on feelings but actual love relationships are based on what my head tells me to do. So very complex and ideally this should be the other way around.

Anybody recognise this?

I was more of a horsefly in that scenario, but I finally got the strength to fly away.

I don't truly think that Libran women are bad people, I'll always love my ex. They just have unrealistic expectations of life and love.

Think about this way LS.

When you share, people learn to trust you.

*** It looks like she expects someone else to come and make decisions for her.

It could be that she needs a partner to live her life for. I know I will do way more for a partner, even a friend, than I will for myself.

If you told others, it would be a HUGE indiscretion. Why would she share with you? You are not part of her inner circle. And yes, sharing that kind of information IS a big deal! It is a HUGE deal.

I am very controlling about who knows what about me.

LS

I think you are TOO hard on yourself.

Sharing such information will make others think that you are also a HUMAN. And make them trust you. You know, people listen to you not because you talk wise, but because they trust you.

Not really Prime, but you are welcome to think what you will.

Deep down I know what I am going to do, even if it looks like I am on the fence. I wait until I feel the time is right, then I act. That is how I broke-up with my ex. If you look back over any writings I did for the year prior, I knew I would break-up with him before August. Even though, to the outside, it didn't appear that way.

You can't take if you not give.

Haffo

People trust me because I am discrete. 🙂

Never worked for me.

Maybe you are missing something that you never experienced?😉

Or lets say,

Discretion is good. But discretion by itself is not enough.

Haffo

I am not hard on myself at all. That is why I am so happy. 🙂

little_sparrow
Deep down I know what I am going to do, even if it looks like I am on the fence. I wait until I feel the time is right, then I act. That is how I broke-up with my ex. If you look back over any writings I did for the year prior, I knew I would break-up with him before August. Even though, to the outside, it didn't appear that way.

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Why did you wait a year to break up with him? Was it Libra's need for companionship that kept you in the relationship until you acquired the next target? That sounds very selfish, to string him along for a year when you know the relationship isn't going anywhere. Who knows, maybe he missed the chance to meet his soulmate.

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little_sparrow
I am not hard on myself at all. That is why I am so happy.
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So it's true, (emotional) ignorance is bliss...

No. I didn't have a next target. I still don't have a "next target".

I didn't "string him along". It was a desire for things to be different so we would both be happy. I wanted it to work. I still do. I knew deep down that they wouldn't, but not on the surface. On the surface, I kept trying and thinking it over. It just didn't work because right now, we want different things and are incompatible. Incompatibility in no way suggests a lack of love.

You and your lady are incompatible on some level and want different things.

He did meet his soulmate, the night that he met me. (He doesn't believe in soulmates, but he isn't interested in dating anyone else or meeting anyone. I am the person he loves.)

I have no regrets. I did the right thing. On some level, I waited till it was right for both of us so we could leave easier. I am seeing him tonight. There is no hard feelings on either side. We still love each other. We just wanted different things.

One thing about me, I always do the right thing. I think things over from all angles. I have very, very few regrets.

Why did you string along the Libra for three years without marrying her?

Also you said you didn't consider her marriage material so why do you care that she is gone?

That doesn't make sense to me.

It isn't a prediction Prime. It is timing NOT future telling. It is knowing when to act, and when you finally do, several thing miraculously fall into place.

It is about timing not divining.

little_sparrow
Also you said you didn't consider her marriage material so why do you care that she is gone?

That doesn't make sense to me.
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I considered her marriage material when we met, but knew after 6 months that our inability to communicate was a sign that we weren't meant for the long run. Unfortunately, she had a life-altering accident around the same time and I stayed out of obligation (or foolish pride). I didn't want her family to think that I was running scared. Life gets complicated sometimes...

ahhhh okay! Now this all makes sense.

FWIW, you did the right thing. With all the good karma headed your way, I am sure you will meet the right person for you soon! (If you choose too.) I am glad you are free of an obligation you didn't really want. Great things are coming.

🙂

Prime

You and me do not communicate well. You aren't hearing what I am saying. It is instinctual timing that we feel in the body.

I know wat you mean ls. Its same trouble with me. No matter how long i stay away from taking a decision and what all goes wrong around me, I get everything back in the very moment I need it. Always surprises me with that timing and have always felt its divine. It was and still a miracle for me. Seriously I have no clue how well everything gets timed. I have blogged about such incidents many times.

Exactly.

Had you made the decision sooner or later than you did, nothing would have fallen into place the way it did. It is a really strange thing.

I normally used to freak out when things go wrong and didnt happen as per my wish. But then I started seeing these miracles around. This is something which made me think deep about the matter of God as explained in Starwars. Force interconnecting every living non living organisms, flowing through us, penetrates us. All we need to do is to learn to listen to our instincts. May be it sounds a lot childish to others. But am sure LS gets what i mean. There are even more funny things happening like I hardly have to wait to cross the road. It seems like all the traffic makes space for me to cross roads whenever I want to. Signals change for me. Its weird and funny but I am enjoying it to the maximum. Everything looks like so precisely planned in day to day life and all i do is to walk and act.

Seriously this is one of my top 10 questions to ask God when I meet him. May be we already know the answer.

But aren't you two actually talking about the point where the scales find themselves again? Things falling into place. That I have very strongly. Nothing I can do to make that happen quicky or speed up, it is a time thing that takes place in parallel to living my life, where two roads meet.