Interesting Libra Man - Just Started Dating

Hello! I am somewhat new to the Libra board but not new to DXP. I just met a Libra man about a month ago and we have been spending a good deal of time together. A little back story, when him and I (a Scorpio) met I considered him as just a friend. At the time, I was dating a Virgo male and was not interested in dating anyone else. Well, things cooled down between the Virgo and I and we are no longer together. Since then, (the last month or so) the Libra and I have been hanging out. Going out to dinner, movies, etc. The first night we kissed he told me that he wanted to pursue a relaitonship with me. I told him that I wanted to slow things down a bit and take our time to get to know one another. We have still been hanging out and get along well. We both have very strong personalities and opinions. As a result, we often get into debates/intense conversations about various issues relating to everything from politics to pop culture. It appears as though, if it were up to him, he would spend everyday with me. When we first met he told me that he was not into public displays of affection. However, now when we go out he holds my hand gives me kisses and hugs in public.

I have done a little reading on Libra men. I have read some posts that suggest that Scorpio/Libra matches are not good and others that have stated the opposite. Just wanted to get your input. Also, I have read that Libras move from one person to the next very easily. Do Libra men typically start off very strong (like this) and then move on to the next?

Thanks!

I think I can shed some light into this especially as I'm Libra male 32yo and had at least 5 scorpio females in my life...

i get easily attracted to Scorpios, my ex-g/f of 3 1/2 years was a Scorpio.. I met her her right after I came out of a 6 month long distance relationship... Your comment about Libras bouncing from person to person is largely accurate. I can't remember being alone more than 2 months or cumulatively 6 months since I was 21 LOL....

It just happens, or I chase it I'm not sure but it's the sad truth but seem to be back-in-back in relationships and rarely do I do the typical rebound move....... Libras are very affectionate and yes we start extremely strong (at least I do, my ex-g/f moved in with me within 3 weeks, and I love spending 24/7 with them).

For me to move to the next person something major has to happen... it's almost like I have a switch and when I get hurt or don't see potential I just switch off and move on.... there's never coming back unless I really like the other person...

hope it helps!

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I think I can shed some light into this especially as I'm Libra male 32yo and had at least 5 scorpio females in my life...

i get easily attracted to Scorpios, my ex-g/f of 3 1/2 years was a Scorpio.. I met her her right after I came out of a 6 month long distance relationship... Your comment about Libras bouncing from person to person is largely accurate. I can't remember being alone more than 2 months or cumulatively 6 months since I was 21 LOL....

It just happens, or I chase it I'm not sure but it's the sad truth but seem to be back-in-back in relationships and rarely do I do the typical rebound move....... Libras are very affectionate and yes we start extremely strong (at least I do, my ex-g/f moved in with me within 3 weeks, and I love spending 24/7 with them).

For me to move to the next person something major has to happen... it's almost like I have a switch and when I get hurt or don't see potential I just switch off and move on.... there's never coming back unless I really like the other person...

hope it helps!

Yes this does help. What about the Scorprio women did you find attractive? Did you ever find their intensity to be over powering?

Lol. The Libra was talking about him and I moving in together. Lol. Umm not happening! I told him to pump his brakes and slllooooowwww waaayyy down. Lol. Too funny.

He seems like the type that can switch off and on too. He has an underline non chalantness about himself. I dont know how I feel about that. Us scorps love intensity! Lol.

"Yes this does help. What about the Scorprio women did you find attractive? Did you ever find their intensity to be over powering?"


As a Libra male with a lot of scorpio experience I would like to answer this.

What I found most attractive about them is their emotional resolve. Once a Scorpio decides she loves you, you will never feel like she is having second thoughts. Nothing short of completely disrespecting their love or commitment will result in a change of heart. Also a Scorpio's consistent drive to please in all areas is flattering and endearing.

No, the intensity is not over-powering, it is actually fun because scorps have thick skin and as long as you are respectful you can get away with a lot of honesty with a scorpio woman. Scorpio women are not as over-powering as they are used to when they experience a Libra man. Actually, quite the opposite. In my experience when with a Libra man Scorpio women willfully submit themselves to the Libras wants and needs and sometimes goes as far as putting the libra man on a pedestal which un-intentionally builds pressure on the Libra. If there is an intensity issue it is actually in this light, all scorps I know have been so focused on me that it was easily to feel suffocated and this eventually builds an awkward and volatile tension because the Libra on one hand feels the need to compel the Scorp woman to tone it back but feels cold hearted in doing so because the scorpio genuinely just wants what's best for you.

This is the biggest issue in my experience that eventually builds resentment and contempt between the way that the other displays their thoughts and feelings. If this can be avoided...I think it is the single biggest threat to this match.

Prepare to feel out of control at times because that nonchalantness you referred to is so foreign to Scorp women when it comes to feelings and love that it can create a lot of insecurity.

With Libra men the proof is in the pudding so to speak. If we are always there and always putting the relationship first than we think this consistent display of companionship is the evidence of our love.

Nico - Thanks for the insight!!! Sometimes it also feels like he is picking my brain just to see what I will say or how I will react. I guess i iwll just continue to take it slow and see what happens. Take it one day at a time! 🙂 these men.. Sesh

You don't know the half of it.

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yeah, libra man/scorp woman is actually a pretty good match from what i've seen. as long as the libra man is really the one the scorpio wants. libra female/scorpio man is the combo that's best to be avoided. scorpio women are intense, but also independent. scorpio men are possessive and insane. lol.

Oh natty...Libra men oooooze charm. All I will say is that no Libra's in my life - male or female are without companionship for any length of time. I'm not saying it's a good or bad thing...just saying. I was with a Libra man for shy of 8 years (all through college) and was engaged. I can fill you in off line, but all I will say is that there is an expression, "As quick as they fall in love, is as quick as they fall out of love." Be careful, but do what you feel you have to do; regardless of astrology, etc. My Libra and I are still very close, and he's ALWAYS been there for me, even after we broke up, and that's been a long minute. If you want any in depth details, I can peep you offline.
Take care, and sad to hear about you and Virgo, BUT, I'm glad you are doin' YOU - first and foremost!

The problem can sometimes be that until a Scorpio is fully interested, invested in & commited to someone, it's very common for a Scorpio to feel that they don't like their partner nearly half as much as their partner likes them. While yes, you probably enjoy the fact that this Libra is opening up to you & obviously breaking down his walls for you, you're still a Scorpio, very suspicious & careful in love. The crazy thing is, once a Scorpio gives in, feels they know everything they need to know & feels that they can fully trust the other person, Scorpios & Libras have very wonderful relationships b/c they both share the same amount of passion for things. They both fully invest themselves into whatever/whoever they're involved with. It's just that Libra isn't as cautious & as supsicious of everything. Libra is quicker to let their walls down & to expose certain parts of their personalities that Scorpios like to wait before they show. Libra doesn't hold back as much as Scorpio does so it's quite common for the Scorpio in the beginning to often almost be supsicious that their Libra is getting a little too comfortable a little too quick. It's true that once a Libra likes something, they jump head in to whoever they are dating. They'll want to hang around you, talk all the time & you'll have their full undivided attention. To some signs, this is perfect! But to others who are more fixed & more cautious in who they give all their energy to up front, this can almost be a turn off, even though Scorpio might have the same level of passion & desire to be just as close in the back of their minds.

Libras have been known to jump from one thing to the next, but they don't do this for the means of being "players." They are constantly seeking a companion & they don't waste any time. If they're not feeling someone or if things just aren't working out, they don't sit around, stall & "hope" things will get better, unless of course they are madly in love with that person. So it's very common for other people dating Libras to feel that their Libra seems to be almost a little TOO into them too quickly. Libras also have been known to make everyone they come in contact with feel as if they are the world to them (Libra). Libras are good at making everyone they deal with feel like they are special & like they are the "only one." It's not that they do this to be fake or to lead others on, BUT Libras like to make a good impression & not hold back just in case it actually goes further than friendship. They hate to hold back only to later regret that they lost out on a good thing. So when they see something they like (and they are VERY picky) they can jump right in. BUT unless a Libra is completely in love with you, don't be suprised if one minute he's acting like he can't live w/o you & the next minute (let's say after you dump him or move on) he's seen with another girl 2 days later. They waste no time.

USC- Hey girl!!! Yes, I am not worried about Virgo. Life is made of composed of seasons. That season is over! Yea I will talk with you off line! 🙂

krysrenee7 - Thank you for the insight. He is still coming on strong. I thought he would cool down a bit, but still wanting to be with me all the time. Of course, I do not allow this to happen, but he tries. To me, it's scary b/c I feel that if he would do this with me, would he latch onto ANY other woman like this. Hmm...