Libra ex advice

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Kristenxxx
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I'm an Aquarius. So my Libra ex boyfriend broke up with me around 2 weeks ago. We had been dating for about 3 months, and honestly it was amazing. We really connected well and we told each other everything. I'm not sure why he broke up with me exactly. I know that during the few days before he broke up with me he was quiet distant and didn't want to kiss as much as he used to or do anything physical.

The day after we broke up he was back flirting with his ex a Virgo (they had been dating for a year and a half) he broke up with her to be with me. So now him and his ex have been talking everyday. I don't understand this because during our relationship he would say how much better it was with me and more exciting. So now he's going back to this girl who is so dull. Yeah I don't get it. Anyway, I see him looking at me from across class sometimes. We haven't spoken since the break up. Tbh I want him back. And this is going to sound petty but I've been flirting with his best friend to try and make him jealous. All I want to know is 1. if I have a chance again with him? 2. Why he broke up with me? 3. Why is he going back to this girl who hardly has a personality?
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I don't think any one of us can give you definitive answers to those questions.

I think there's always a chance, no matter what you're talking about, but I'm not sure you should want to get back with him. Looks like he was just playing around with his newfound freedom and decided the grass wasn't greener.

He put the girl down while he was chatting you up in bed. You don't know if he was telling the truth. Obviously, he liked something about her.

He wasn't with you for long, dumped you abruptly and went back to his ex. He could be talking the same trash about you to her in bed right now.
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Posted by Kristenxxx
I guess I should clear something up. We did not sleep together. So it wasn't just for sex. Another thing that confuses me is he told me personal things that he has never told anyone and only his mom knows about it. So I don't understand why he would throw that away if he's found someone he feels comfortable talking to.
Talking is rarely the top priority for a guy. Sex usually is.

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Best case scenario: he took a stinger when he broke up with the other girl and he thought you made a good sounding board. He was pissed and hurt, possibly, and wanted to vent. Maybe he even does like you, but I think he likes the other girl more.

Even if the other girl isn't very exciting and he was telling the truth about that, not everybody wants excitement all the time. Excitement could've been fun in the short-term, but not what he wanted out of a long-term relationship.

I've noticed when someone complains about someone else's lack of personality, it's usually because they don't appreciate people who express themselves with subtlety. The personality is there, but takes some effort to draw out.

Bottom line is you don't really know the girl. She could actually be a great girl. The guy was careless with you. I think you should let them have each other. You'll meet someone else.

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Posted by Kristenxxx
I guess I should clear something up. We did not sleep together. So it wasn't just for sex. Another thing that confuses me is he told me personal things that he has never told anyone and only his mom knows about it. So I don't understand why he would throw that away if he's found someone he feels comfortable talking to.
Talking is rarely the top priority for a guy. Sex usually is.



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If I'm attracted to a girl, even if I know sex is not a possibility, I'm suddenly able to hold a conversation. So I'd say that's mostly true, at least in my case. Attraction activates my verbal skills.
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Kristenxxx
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Posted by Bricks195
Posted by Kristenxxx
So what I'm getting from this is that he never liked me to begin with. Libras tend to go back to people who have hurt them, which makes sense because him and his ex fought all the time. And that he considers me to be shit compared to his ex. Which idk... makes me feel bad. But I guess that's just the way it's going.

You're getting that from what we're saying?

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Part of from what LadyJuicy said about Libras going back to people who have who them. And then others saying I was bassically the rebound. But I mean I figured that out before this I was just hoping he would've genuinely cared about me. I saw your second message just now and mostly everything that you have said does make sense and all. I do know this girl better than it may have sounded as I used to be friends with her. Not close. But enough to know what she's like. I suppose maybe my personality was too um eccentric, I suppose, for him maybe. And that's why he went back to her. Honestly I'm just trying to figure this out.

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Kristenxxx
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Posted by Kristenxxx
So what I'm getting from this is that he never liked me to begin with. Libras tend to go back to people who have hurt them, which makes sense because him and his ex fought all the time. And that he considers me to be shit compared to his ex. Which idk... makes me feel bad. But I guess that's just the way it's going.
That sounds like your ego talking, because you're upset and we get it. Nothing else we can say is going to help right now. But if you look back at it in a couple of days you'll probably see it differently.
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You're right. Honestly I'm jealous right now so I'm not thinking too clearly. I am grateful for the help though.

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Oh honey, you're a dumb ass. He broke up with her to be with you?

HELLO? Are you new to life?? I wouldn't be shocked if I were you. If he's willing to ditch a current relationship with someone, what the fuck makes you think you're so damned special that he wouldn't do it to you? Come on.

All that flowery shit he said? It's bullshit. Libras are great at painting pretty pictures with words, but their actions rarely follow through.

I doubt you were the only one who knew those things. He sounds like he has no idea and is a moronic beaten wife. It blows, but you need to realize he was likely full of shit and nothing he said was genuine. Let him run back to a toxic relationship. Just proves to you how fucked up in the head he is. You dodged a bullet.