Libra guy disappeared

I was dating this libra guy for about a month now. We live 3 hours apart. Talked everyday, had an amazing time together. Went as far as saying he "liked me a lot". He's been having a hard time with work and began pulling away a little bit. I decided to give him some space. The other day I texted him and told him that while I knew he was occupied, if there was someone else in the picture or if he was treating me like a second choice, that perhaps he needed to find someone a bit better suited for that. I only said that because I just wanted to let him know that while I'd love to be there for him, I won't accept being second choice to someone else. He replied with "unbelievable". To which I said I was sorry and I wasn't trying to question his morals or character or even start a fight (I know they hate confrontation) but merely trying to kind of put my foot down and let him know how I feel. Then he answered "goodnight".
I haven't heard from him since and it's been about 5 days. I texted him again saying I was sorry. But no answer.
Why did he disappear? Is he mad? I didn't feel like I was being clingy or naggy but his lack of response is very concerning.
I'm a sagittarius. Leo ascendant. Moon in cancer. He's a libra. Sagg ascendant. Moon in cancer. Venus in scorpio.

Girl you honestly did the right thing & should not have apologized. Granted there may not be anyone else, but if there is you let him know where you stand. Don't apologize for standing your ground EVER!

Honestly don't text him anymore. Leave it be. If he's interested he will come back around. There may be someone else, bc even when people are busy they make time for what they want. But if there isn't he knows from here on out that you won't settle for second place.

DO NOT apologize to him anymore.

It doesn't matter what he thinks or doesn't think. Let's talk about you!

You should or rather any woman/man should stick to your standards (whatever they are).
How I see it is that he was not treating you how you would like to be treated and hence you reacted the way you did. Some people may see this as impulsiveness, insecurity or whatever fancies them. However, the point is you reacted the way you did because that's how you are and act when someone does what this guy did. I'm not gonna get into the emotions of it all because we all are different in our reactions and perceptions. I'm not like you so there is no point in giving you advice on what you did wrong or right. The point like I said is that you behaved how you are when someone treats you like that, be it whoever.

Should you apologize profusely and wonder where you went wrong? Yes, it's human to wonder where you went wrong with a guy you like. However, don't be desperate enough to apologize profusely if te other person is evasive, no matter what kind of non confrontational coward they are. You can apologize and rectify if the other party communicates with you about what you did wrong. This guy is a special breed of coward who didn't communicate with you about what upsets him about your reaction and nor did he explain the unusual aloofness that you experienced from him. The mere fact that you are confused about his disappearance indicates that a communication breakdown happened here, which is more from his end than yours. Anyways, you shouldn't have to ask where you went wrong on dxp. What you should be doing is asking him and if he doesn't respond, then you have to ask yourself if that's the kind of guy you want who will leave you with questions in your head everything you both face a conflict.

Posted by JBG
Girl you honestly did the right thing & should not have apologized. Granted there may not be anyone else, but if there is you let him know where you stand. Don't apologize for standing your ground EVER!

Honestly don't text him anymore. Leave it be. If he's interested he will come back around. There may be someone else, bc even when people are busy they make time for what they want. But if there isn't he knows from here on out that you won't settle for second place.

DO NOT apologize to him anymore.

Oh my! You perceived this exactly how I did! +1

Aquarius09 I was thinking the same thing reading your response! Lol

I agree with the first two posters. You didn't do anything wrong you were drawing your boundaries. Sounds like he has some issues. Trust me it's better you move on to someone else, someone that won't throw a hissy fit over something so stupid. He's a Libra sun/ Cancer moon thats a squared aspect right there lots of conflict and bad juju.

I wonder how many threads in the Libra forum are titled with something to the extent of "he disappeared."

Posted by rockyroadicecream
I wonder how many threads in the Libra forum are titled with something to the extent of "he disappeared."

From now on I want a dime for every time there's a sentence that has "libra man" and "disappear" together. Lol. Rocky, estimate my wealth. Lol

Lust went a little too hard on you. Clearly he's having a bad day, or maybe just a naturally pessimistic/negative person. This his response reflects that.

Tbh, texting him more than once to apologize was too much. Howevwr, that doesn't make you crazy & it doesn't maw he will never talk to you again. He just needs space & time, give him these things. Even if it takes a few months for him to get back with you, let HIM get back to you. You don't do A THING!

You are not crazy you're a woman & when men pull back we naturally wonder what went wrong and immediately try to fix it. You tried, he's not being responsive...yet! I promise if you give him the space he will come back around, bc honestly nothing really that bad happened between the two.

I'm sure women have been WAY more clingy on him than just sending a couple apology texts.

Be cool, you got this 🙂

"The other day I texted him and told him that while I knew he was occupied, if there was someone else in the picture or if he was treating me like a second choice, that perhaps he needed to find someone a bit better suited for that. I only said that because I just wanted to let him know that while I'd love to be there for him, I won't accept being second choice to someone else,,"
Why dramatic text? This is a big turn off. No one likes to be in a relationship with some one who is insecure, and start threatening. "

^Exactly, there was no need for that text. His absence was his answer. The problem is, some women just can't accept the truth :/


Also, why send such a text, and than say you are sorry. You just looked a bit unstable and insecure, another turn off

The reality of the situation is, he is not that into you... unless he proves to you otherwise

I agree with Lust. I think you overreacted and created drama. Quit being a silly bitch. It's only been a month, for Christ's sake. The second he needs a little space, you flip out and pull that crap.

Are you under the age of 25?

Disappearing act is not so uncommon with libras (prob more libra men) when they are not into someone...One libra once told me... "If I just disappear, she will get it after a while, no need to create awkward situations" smh

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by rockyroadicecream
I wonder how many threads in the Libra forum are titled with something to the extent of "he disappeared."

From now on I want a dime for every time there's a sentence that has "libra man" and "disappear" together. Lol. Rocky, estimate my wealth. Lol

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$ 15,805




Bwahahaha. I seriously loled when I saw this.

I know it's skewed because it looks for single words in other posts as well, but damn. High-larious.

He may not be that into her, but y'all dont know that. Many men disappear not just libras, bc men process thoughts and emotions differently than women do. Men need SPACE, time to think and reevaluate sometimes.

He may very well like her, but for some reason be unsure. Or if other things in his life aren't stable he could be working that out. Or maybe he's into her but not quite ready for a relationship. It maybe he's NOT into her, but that's not certain by the little info she gave.

I do agree that her text and apologies turned him off. But an unforvigable offense??!!! HARDLY. If a man quit a woman EVERYTIME she overstepped her boundries or pressed an issue he wasn't redy to talk about, no one would be with anyone. & if EVERYTIME a man needed space a woman thought "he's just not that into me" and moved on completely and never talked to him again, no one would be with anyone.

Like I said, leave him alone. Time will tell if he's feeling you. If not no harm dine bc you didn't harass him about it.

Goodluck girl!

Sorry about all the misspelling, doing this on a phone is kinda hard 😢

Leo women are incredibly high maintenance, so of course you'd be on board with this behavior.

You're right, she gave us very LITTLE information. Based on her side of the story, she freaked out for no reason. All she said was the he started to get a little distant and claimed being busy.

She did not give a time frame. We do not know if this is days or weeks.

She did not specify how he pulled away. Did he flake on a date? Did he ditch plans under the guise of being busy? How many times has this happened?

None of that information was given, and your crazy ass jumped on board that "she's merely putting her foot down over "bad" behavior" train. There was not enough evidence or information to jump to such insecure bitch conclusions, which seem to be rampant in some of these responses.

What we DO know is that her responses were drama stirring and that would make any guy head for the hills.

So for the time being, the only thing we can conclude at the moment is that she overreacted. His response is kind of telling too.

Now unless she provides better examples of why she felt she had to assert some sort of intolerance for bullshit, she's in the wrong here, nutso estrogen brigade, sorry.

I have no problem with her asserting that she will not be one of many, but the basis in why she decided to assert that is shaky at best.

I agreed that it was much. But if that's how she feels, why should she apologize for it?

I'm glad she told him that. Now he knows. No surprises later down the line bc she's made it clear she won't play second string to anyone. She will be the starting QB! I like the assertiveness, I don't like the way she back tracked, bc now she looks weak and insecure. Like she's scared she upset him so now she's gonna take it back.

I wouldn't have went the route of telling him I won't be second in that manner, but that's me. If that was the right move for her you've gotta respect her feelings and he should too. Was it warranted? Maybe not, but if it was on her chest, she did right to get it off.

Again, not an unforgivable offense by far.

"I do agree that her text and apologies turned him off. But an unforvigable offense??!!! HARDLY. If a man quit a woman EVERYTIME she overstepped her boundries or pressed an issue he wasn't redy to talk about, no one would be with anyone. & if EVERYTIME a man needed space a woman thought "he's just not that into me" and moved on completely and never talked to him again, no one would be with anyone"

It is more than possible to pick up on those small social cues when someone is trying to tell/show you they are not into you. Some women just don't know how to read them. The only legit exception I can find for guy's disappearance is that something happened to him. I don't believe in "he is into her, but is not ready for a relationship". What do you mean by that? If the guy is into her, he will try his best to make it work, even if he is incapable (e.g. immature).

Posted by JBG
Sorry about all the misspelling, doing this on a phone is kinda hard 😢

Man, I keep hearing that lately. I don't even bother posting on this site from my phone. The last thing I want to do is take this stupid site with me when I'm out and about being productive.

Besides, it looks like a mess from mobile. I dunno how you all do it.

Also nobody said her action is offense, but it is a turn off - especially when you don't know someone that well :/

I think that sometimes the "not ready for a relationship" is bs. But sometimes it's is really all about timing. My college beau told me he WOULD NOT make me his official gf until he had an engineering job. He said he didn't feel like "a man" if he wasn't doing well for himself as far as his career goes.

If I would have asked y'all about it you would hve said "dump him he's not into you". He got the engineering job making 90k & guess what? He made it official & began talking marriage. If a man needs to work on things in his life to feel stable, he may delay a relationship. Especially if he has an old school view of relationships & truly wants to be a povider.

This may not be the case, but I'm just saying we don't know. Now if she had been hanging on for 8 months and he was pulling this and they weren't yet official, if be singing a different tune.

I'd love to hear what willynilly thinks of the advice she's gotten so far and what she thinks her next move should be. She's quiet! Lol

Posted by JBG
I agreed that it was much. But if that's how she feels, why should she apologize for it?

I'm glad she told him that. Now he knows. No surprises later down the line bc she's made it clear she won't play second string to anyone. She will be the starting QB! I like the assertiveness, I don't like the way she back tracked, bc now she looks weak and insecure. Like she's scared she upset him so now she's gonna take it back.

I wouldn't have went the route of telling him I won't be second in that manner, but that's me. If that was the right move for her you've gotta respect her feelings and he should too. Was it warranted? Maybe not, but if it was on her chest, she did right to get it off.

Again, not an unforgivable offense by far.

...no.

Let's not enable and go on about some hippy bullshit about her feelings.

One, again, we do not have enough information to know what's going on from him.

Two, regardless of feelings, what was it that triggered those feelings? Insecurity? Assumptions?

If insecurity or assumptions is why she jumped to the conclusions she did, I'm sorry, what she feels isn't exactly right or valid. Say, if this guy is actually going through something briefly and separates for a short time, not only is her reaction not warranted, but her feelings as well since they're stemmed in insecurity and assumptions. She's getting upset over an imaginary problem when he's merely living a life outside of her.

OMG HE DIDN'T TEXT ME TODAY. HE MUST BE SEEING OTHER WOMEN. OMG END OF THE WORLD!!!

Come on now. If this is a case, hypothetically, yes it warrants an apology.

"Sorry I flipped out. I'm insecure and assume you're seeing other people."

However, if he's been flaky on plans and the like and claiming busy, by all means. Eff that noise and drop the douche.

Don't get me wrong, I kinda don't blame her because if it hasn't been made clear what's going on between them, one can't help but wonder if there ARE others in the picture. She probably could have better approached this by talking to him about it the next time she sees him, not freaking texting. In her intial OP, she's coming off as the crazy, clingy type.

Fuck texting that shit.

Rocky, that is a very mature and emotionless way of analyzing that situation.

Emotions are rarely rational and she may not be as emotionally mature as you. When you're young or have a new relationship, you are not stable in it bc y'all haven't built a strong foundation yet.

Anything is liable to make you feel insecure in it bc you don't know the persons habits/ways. Maybe he doesn't feel the need to be in touch everyday. She may not know that yet.

It's easy for you bc you're on the outside, so of course your response is reasonable & well thought out. She was in a state of panic "the guy I really like and who said he really likes me hasn't called & he usually does! What does this mean?!?!"

Any woman would feel like this. Especially if there's a shift in his behavior.

"But sometimes it's is really all about timing"

I agree with this! But you are talking about a man who was very honest with you; you accepted his reasoning, and u both decided to work on your relationship. Not really related to OP's situation

"If that was the right move for her you've gotta respect her feelings and he should too"

If she sent him that message, she should have never apologized after that if she thought it was a right thing to do. Deep inside she knew she overreacted as soon as she did it

"Emotions are rarely rational and she may not be as emotionally mature as you."

^ That's true. I forgot that she may be very young :/

1 month = 4 weeks = 28 days

In such a short period if someone came on to me like that with accusations and demands for me to explain why I haven't contacted them, I'd think they were expecting a lot more than I was willing to give and No I wouldn't answer to them!

It maybe what you want for yourself and that is your prerogative but it will scare the majority of men away especially when they have only said they "like you a lot"

Posted by sweethearts
1 month = 4 weeks = 28 days

In such a short period if someone came on to me like that with accusations and demands for me to explain why I haven't contacted them, I'd think they were expecting a lot more than I was willing to give and No I wouldn't answer to them!

It maybe what you want for yourself and that is your prerogative but it will scare the majority of men away especially when they have only said they "like you a lot"

I don't know. When I was single and dating, the guy always asked for us to be official within a month...as far as I know, that's normal.

So if this dude can't even be a decent candidate because he's now flaking, blowing her off, and ignoring her completely for days on end, that's not ok.

To me, her text was totally warranted, except it should have been intended as a goodbye text....sans apology.

Because fact is, he wasn't into her, and he's so incredibly self-entitled, he's outraged that she won't accept being one of his mere options.

Good. Let him be outraged. He needs to learn that he's not so special that he can expect people to wait around for him.

—The other day I texted him and told him that while I knew he was occupied, if there was someone else in the picture or if he was treating me like a second choice, that perhaps he needed to find someone a bit better suited for that.??

I stopped reading after this point. Because bottom line, this right here is why he disappeared. I can almost bet my last, that this turned him off. Especially if he was busy and consumed with work, and you KNEW it and still decided to text him this garbage. Ugh, I know I would??ve dipped too. I don't know if I??d be mad, that's a bit much, but I??d darn sure be irritated as hell. I??d feel like if you have not seen me flirting or dating someone else, or anything like that then why throw this text out there.

In my opinion you wanted to see what was up with him, and instead of coming at him sideways you should??ve just asked —Hey what's up? How are you— Now if he didn't respond then I can understand you wondering what's going on. But I still wouldn't assume, or seemingly accuse him of being interested in another woman. I hate to say it, but whether you meant to or not, you do seem insecure and needy, which are two very huge turn offs to a Libra man, whom craves a sexy, independent, funny and witty woman; a woman that has a life outside of him. If he disappeared, you should??ve left his ass in the dust, and checked on him when he crossed your mind, when YOU had time. If he acted like a douche and didn't respond, well then you need to re-evaluate if you even want to be in your feelings over someone like that, personally I would think it's unhealthy.

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Nonetheless, I'm sure you would like to know what you need to do now. You need to let him see you again. Plan to look simple but at your best. If it were me, I??d pop up casually whether it's at a party, a common place I know he hangs at, or a hallway whatever. I??d show up with maybe a friend or two, and have the time of my life, looking gorgeous. If it's a hallway I??d most likely be with one person having small talk (did this to hook a Taurus in college, showed up in his hallway every day, my class was in another building and not for a few hours.lol. BUT it worked. He found me on facebook and 5 years later still a part of my life. Just friends now though.) There are going to be people that tell you this doesn't work, but it's worked like a charm for me not just on Libra men, but all sorts. When you show up reminding them of the woman they once felt like they just had to have, they get wrapped up again (especially if this is only your first offense), and suddenly they start to think —Dang she's beautiful, why did I stop talking to her— lol. Now the key, is IF he does give you another shot, keep the drama and accusations to yourself please mam, at least until you have hardcore proof, or until your fully committed and he gives you a valid reason to pop off. Geesh.

Same here Tiz 🙂

Ok, I LOVE PinkLibras advice! She is like a "man mistake eraser". She will tell you how to correct any mistake you've made with a man.

Although my view of whether the text was right/wrong remains the same. (I don't think it was wrong) I do TOTALLY agree with her resolution! The only thing I would say is, wait 30-45 days before doing so. This will give him time to cool off so it won't be in the front if his mind when he sees you again.

Our brains are programmed to fade out negative memories, so after awile they don't seem so bad although we still remember the event. We seem to remember positive memories & usually regard them as much more positive than they actually were. It's how humans are built. So give him some time, then show up looking FAB!

Gosh. Thanks for the constructive and not so constructive criticism. At the end of the day, it's all appreciated. I'm a little baffled to be honest and the fact I couldn't get a straight answer may have put me on over load crazy woman syndrome. I have since left him alone. And to be honest I don't think he's coming back. Which is ok. I can't be everyone's cup of tea.
And to rockyroadicecream, I'm 24. He's 27.

I guess I skipped a page on this thing. You guys are right the phone version is total crap.
Anyways am I insecure? Probably. Aren't we all in some way? Should I have voiced it? No. Looking back I regret it but honestly it would've came out at some point or another and I'm assuming I would've gotten the same response from him. I can't keep things in. It's not who I am.
If voicing my opinions, beliefs or "feelings" is a cause for whatever it was that we had to end, then so be it. Even if I did come across as super needy, pre menstrual, crazy Hispanic (cus I'm Hispanic), at the end of the day a response is all I was looking for. Positive or negative. Yes or no. And that's what I'm mostly upset about. The silence. I figure at 27, you're kinda too old to be playing games and too old to be pulling those kind of stunts. Grow some cojones. Tell me I'm crazy like I've been told in the past. And we can move on and be friends.
Like I said. I miss him. I messed up. Oh well.
Prior to this event, we were good. And the events leading up to this were only for about 3 days or so. To be honest I was impatient. To his feelings. The stuff going on in his life. And totally selfish. Which is why I snapped. But aren't libras supposed to be forgiving?

Posted by Willyynillyy
Gosh. Thanks for the constructive and not so constructive criticism. At the end of the day, it's all appreciated. I'm a little baffled to be honest and the fact I couldn't get a straight answer may have put me on over load crazy woman syndrome. I have since left him alone. And to be honest I don't think he's coming back. Which is ok. I can't be everyone's cup of tea.
And to rockyroadicecream, I'm 24. He's 27.

Lol. We gave you a straight answer. He disappeared because he was turned off by your text. It most likely made him feel like you were accusing him, and being insecure and just needed attention, yet you went about it in an immature fashion in my opinion. Not cute.
However if you??d like to come back it from I told you how. If your waiting on him, then yes you will be waiting because I can bet he doesn't feel he did anything wrong, and has every right to leave. I wouldn't say you??re not his cup of tea, unless you??re like this all the time, if you are then no I don't suggest a Libra male is the one for you, especially not one with a Cancer moon. They always feel attacked if you don't approach them carefully and correctly. Anytime I called a Cancer on their shyt, they always tried to play victim because they just simply didn't like being called out. He has that cancer moon, so his emotions are similar to theirs. Anyways, if your throwing in the towel well then.. good luck with the next one girly 🙂

Posted by Willyynillyy
I guess I skipped a page on this thing. You guys are right the phone version is total crap.
Anyways am I insecure? Probably. Aren't we all in some way? Should I have voiced it? No. Looking back I regret it but honestly it would've came out at some point or another and I'm assuming I would've gotten the same response from him. I can't keep things in. It's not who I am.
If voicing my opinions, beliefs or "feelings" is a cause for whatever it was that we had to end, then so be it. Even if I did come across as super needy, pre menstrual, crazy Hispanic (cus I'm Hispanic), at the end of the day a response is all I was looking for. Positive or negative. Yes or no. And that's what I'm mostly upset about. The silence. I figure at 27, you're kinda too old to be playing games and too old to be pulling those kind of stunts. Grow some cojones. Tell me I'm crazy like I've been told in the past. And we can move on and be friends.
Like I said. I miss him. I messed up. Oh well.
Prior to this event, we were good. And the events leading up to this were only for about 3 days or so. To be honest I was impatient. To his feelings. The stuff going on in his life. And totally selfish. Which is why I snapped. But aren't libras supposed to be forgiving?

Lol. Yes, yes we can forgive. That's what I'm telling you. This is minor. He can get over it, if you can help him remember why he went after you in the first place. There's nothing wrong with voicing how you feel, but you are coming off as if you are accusing him of dating someone else, because he hadn't text or called you even though you knew he was preoccupied with work or whatever. All you had to do was call him and say whats up. You bringing up an imaginary girl, made you look psyco and if you want it to work you need to leave that attitude in the dust and grow some confidence, because let the truth be told until a man claims you as his own then he is intitled to date others, and so are you. If you want something exclusive with him then you should have offered to go out to eat or drink in a calm private setting to discuss it with him. The other girls shouldn't be your concern, he is. If you want him for yourself tell him that, and let him decide. If he decides he still wants to play the field THEN you can be like that's not what I want so I'm out. Get it?

Tiziani. Agreed. I can't let stuff bottle up. It's not good for anyone.

Pinklibra
Totally understand. Problem is I know you told me to show up at some party looking hot and all but we live 3 hours away. And believe it or not, I'm not that crazy of a stalker to figure out where he's gonna be at, at any given night. So the apology from my part and the trying to win him back is gonna have to come another way. Any ideas? I'd really rather not lose him.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by rockyroadicecream
I wonder how many threads in the Libra forum are titled with something to the extent of "he disappeared."

From now on I want a dime for every time there's a sentence that has "libra man" and "disappear" together. Lol. Rocky, estimate my wealth. Lol

$ 15,805




Bwahahaha. I seriously loled when I saw this.

I know it's skewed because it looks for single words in other posts as well, but damn. High-larious.

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LMAO! Hilarious!

I get what everyone is saying, but fact of the matter is that how you behave in moments of adversity shows how you are when the going gets tough. JBG or whatever revealed herself because he disappeared or neglected her or she felt unwanted. Whatever th case may be, she is and reacts the way she did and now the onus is on her to find a guy that better deals with a reaction like hers. Cowards aka libra men are not suited for reactions like this. Fire sign and even aqua or gem men are well suited for this, but NOT a water sign or libra. This guy happens to be double sensitive/coward. Libra sun and cancer moon. Wow! I would just never get with this placement! That's like walking on eggshells 24/7. I dealt with this placement recently and within a day after a three hr convo I bounced. Women need to realize from situations like this who and how they really are (weaknesses and strengths) and find a man that complements them.

AQUA! YOU ARE SO RUDE FOR THAT.LOL. Glad i'm not a libra dude i might be a tad embarassed. lol. That really is a shame.

And Willynilly, totally forgot you said you stay 3 hrs away. shoot! lol. I'm sure that would've worked. Well does he follow you on any social media or things like that? I dont know. When i left college, the Taurus and i had lost touch because he was still up there, so one time a group of me and my friends went up there to a party, i honestly didn't expect to see him because he didn't do partys but i ran into him, and there you have it. I understand you not wanting to come off stalkerish, if that's the case then i suggest you just chalk it up and try a differnt approach of expressing yourself when the next guy comes.
He's not the only fish in the sea, and hey who know's if it's meant then he may come back 😉
I'll try to think of other way to help, but damn that 3 hrs is killing my techniques! lol

Posted by sweethearts
1 month = 4 weeks = 28 days

In such a short period if someone came on to me like that with accusations and demands for me to explain why I haven't contacted them, I'd think they were expecting a lot more than I was willing to give and No I wouldn't answer to them!

It maybe what you want for yourself and that is your prerogative but it will scare the majority of men away especially when they have only said they "like you a lot"

Thank god someone else saw this. I don't know how I avoided this gem of a thread for this long. Not only has it only been a month, you live 3 hours away...how many times in that month did you even see each other?

Asking if he is seeing someone is one thing, randomly stating you won't be his second choice is something else. It's one month, he hasn't made a first choice yet...did everyone forget this guy is libra? That's why he replied "unbelievable" and just dismissed you when you kept on with it.

Posted by tiziani
I answered in your other thread and this is probably the first time in ages I see things differently from Libra 911.

Would you care to elaborate?

Also Aqua, if you gonna out the Leeb men, lol don't leave out that they are very indecisive and change their minds like they changes their underwear which causes them to randomly re-appear.

Pinklibra I know. I've racked my brain as well. And no he doesn't follow me on anything. I guess snapchat. But what are the odds he'll answer a snap. 0.

LibraSid.... Yes. I reacted badly. What can I say? I'm trying to make amends which I can't do when I'm being ignored. Weird but I actually have a lot of friends where he lives so in that month I was there about 3 days a week for 3 weeks. And I saw him when I was there. Still. I know I overreacted.

Guess I should have read all the way through, my aries moon got ahead. I kept seeing everyone cheer her on and I'm thinking I'd have not taken those texts well either. Glad to see this was addressed.

One thing that stood out in one of the OPs responses was that she just wanted a relationship, good or bad. This is a terrible mindset if you were with me. Libra's generally dislike drama. Your indifference to attention being good or bad tells me you'd be a lot of drama...forget the message of the texts, you sent them for drama.

Posted by Willyynillyy
Pinklibra I know. I've racked my brain as well. And no he doesn't follow me on anything. I guess snapchat. But what are the odds he'll answer a snap. 0.

LibraSid.... Yes. I reacted badly. What can I say? I'm trying to make amends which I can't do when I'm being ignored. Weird but I actually have a lot of friends where he lives so in that month I was there about 3 days a week for 3 weeks. And I saw him when I was there. Still. I know I overreacted.

Have you spoken to him and apologized since then or just stopped?

Posted by Willyynillyy
Pinklibra I know. I've racked my brain as well. And no he doesn't follow me on anything. I guess snapchat. But what are the odds he'll answer a snap. 0.

LibraSid.... Yes. I reacted badly. What can I say? I'm trying to make amends which I can't do when I'm being ignored. Weird but I actually have a lot of friends where he lives so in that month I was there about 3 days a week for 3 weeks. And I saw him when I was there. Still. I know I overreacted.

BINGO! Girl, if you dont want to walk away from this one your gonna have to get creative. Time to reconnect with those friends, and make a visit. How did the two of you meet?

But aren't libras supposed to be forgiving?

So you still believe that you did something that he needs to forgive you for?

You didn't do anything bad and you didn't insult him, you just turned him off - two different things

Posted by LibraSid
Guess I should have read all the way through, my aries moon got ahead. I kept seeing everyone cheer her on and I'm thinking I'd have not taken those texts well either. Glad to see this was addressed.

One thing that stood out in one of the OPs responses was that she just wanted a relationship, good or bad. This is a terrible mindset if you were with me. Libra's generally dislike drama. Your indifference to attention being good or bad tells me you'd be a lot of drama...forget the message of the texts, you sent them for drama.

No. You misread, she said she just wanted a —response?? good or bad.

LibraSid
I sent a text a day after this debacle and all I said was I'm sorry. It went unanswered. I figured to keep pushing would be a bad idea.

Pinklibra
We met at a bar. Where I tried to talk to him but he was too drunk so I left. He tracked me down a few days later saying I was the girl from the bar and to forgive him for being so wasted. The rest is history.

And I thought there is no need to repeat the advice, because it was already given. There is nothing you should do except back off and do your thing. Maybe he will surprise you and come back