Libra isn't seeing us working out, but wants to catch up?

Another day another debacle.

I've been getting into astrology again and FINALLY had a nice date with someone who can communicate and whose values seem to align with mine.

First was coffee then a week later we did drinks/dinner. Very charming, lots of sexual chemistry, lots of banter, laughs, we are both quite witty and love a good time, he seems to go out more than i do which is fine, we seem very sexually compatible, from what has been discussed etc. Date ended really well and he popped me on the train home etc. He mentioned we should hang next week all good all well.

Few days go by and i'm waiting for that follow up text to lock something in and decided to send "really enjoyed seeing you, hope you had a nice weekend" text.

That prompted him saying he really likes me physically but unsure if there's any real compatibility so wants to be upfront that he would love to see me again but it may be casual. I said i really want something meaningful (so did he) so we ended on him saying im great but if he is unsure this early on it's prob not meant to be, which is sad but fine. Then he goes ahead and says we should get coffee even though i said it'd be hard for me. He said it would be nice to still catch up.

Is this him trying to friendzone me after steamy make out sessions or sussing me out because i really don't want to make up something in my head here. Halp.

Posted by emeraldgem

I don't discuss sexual compatibility on a first date. Get to know the guy a little first. Steamy makeout sessions? Things were moving fast and it's not surprising he sees you as a casual hookup. Don't know if you can pull this back and see where you are otherwise compatible.

Thank you for your opinion, i don't think there is anything wrong with talking sexual things when the time is right, everyone is different. If that's what turned him off then he's not the guy for me, i'm just wondering why he would want to catch up after he said he doesn't see proper compatibility and i said i don't want casual.

Posted by emeraldgem

I don't discuss sexual compatibility on a first date. Get to know the guy a little first. Steamy makeout sessions? Things were moving fast and it's not surprising he sees you as a casual hookup. Ok Don't know if you can pull this back and see where you are otherwise compatible.

We don’t ‘discuss’ sexual compatibility...do we?

Unless after we tested it and IF there is anything to discuss - it means we aren’t compatible...

Simple.

Why people don’t get THAT? 🤦‍♀️

Posted by Gemsgem

Another day another debacle.

I've been getting into astrology again and FINALLY had a nice date with someone who can communicate and whose values seem to align with mine.

First was coffee then a week later we did drinks/dinner. Very charming, lots of sexual chemistry, lots of banter, laughs, we are both quite witty and love a good time, he seems to go out more than i do which is fine, we seem very sexually compatible, from what has been discussed etc. Date ended really well and he popped me on the train home etc. He mentioned we should hang next week all good all well.

Few days go by and i'm waiting for that follow up text to lock something in and decided to send "really enjoyed seeing you, hope you had a nice weekend" text.

That prompted him saying he really likes me physically but unsure if there's any real compatibility so wants to be upfront that he would love to see me again but it may be casual. I said i really want something meaningful (so did he) so we ended on him saying im great but if he is unsure this early on it's prob not meant to be, which is sad but fine. Then he goes ahead and says we should get coffee even though i said it'd be hard for me. He said it would be nice to still catch up.

Is this him trying to friendzone me after steamy make out sessions or sussing me out because i really don't want to make up something in my head here. Halp.

Ok. Men! All of you!!!

Can you please tell women you don’t want to fuck anymore...

I don’t want to fuck you anymore!!!

And coffee date is my sorry for

I don’t want to fuck you anymore...

Sorry.

Fuck! 🤦‍♀️

Posted by Gemitati

Ok. Men! All of you!!!

Can you please tell women you don’t want to fuck anymore...

I don’t want to fuck you anymore!!!

And coffee date is my sorry for

I don’t want to fuck you anymore...

Sorry.

Fuck! 🤦‍♀️

Literally all he had to say lol and he was very good at communicating what he was thinking and i said i understand, all good, not compatible and then lets get coffee. To which i said i don't know, i'm feeling pretty raw and i would think there's something there if we did, and he's like well i'd like to catch up and chat if you change your mind later. smh. just let me loose, don't confuse.

Posted by emeraldgem

It was actually nice of him to express his doubts rather than just go in for the kill. I'll give him that!

Man had done a good job!

But nobody appreciate it...so next post will be about his ducking cheating lying ass...just wait...

Posted by emeraldgem

Lol! Ok look - don't go into instant defensive mode. I am not judging your life. You started out with lots of sex talk and whatever without letting him get a better sense of who you are. He is still after the punani. This is not surprising given the behavior he has seen because you say you don't want casual but your actions tell him you want to fuck.

He was after her pikachoo.

Wait...I’ve lost my train of thoughts...

alright guys i get it although i don't agree with it. i am a sexual person in nature but i am looking for the real deal to have my perfect sex life with. Btw steamy makeout sessions were just a lot of kissing and light leg touching, we didn't get it on in the nearby bush, it was sweet. I thought it was perfect, chemistry is very important to me that's why i like to see what it's like early on. i didn't plan to hook up with him the next day, we ended the date with another kiss and that's all.

I see what you're saying but i think it's bullshit to say my actions didn't align with my words, i can be a sexual being and want something serious. Whatever he thought is his problem, not mine.

So i appreciate you telling me what his train of thought was but honestly upsets me how we live in 2019 and think someone being sexual must only want a hook up or be good for one.

In agreement w Emeraldgem all the way.

OP, he's feeling you out as FWBs type. Why can't you see that? SMH

Posted by Gemsgem

alright guys i get it although i don't agree with it. i am a sexual person in nature but i am looking for the real deal to have my perfect sex life with. Btw steamy makeout sessions were just a lot of kissing and light leg touching, we didn't get it on in the nearby bush, it was sweet. I thought it was perfect, chemistry is very important to me that's why i like to see what it's like early on. i didn't plan to hook up with him the next day, we ended the date with another kiss and that's all.

I see what you're saying but i think it's bullshit to say my actions didn't align with my words, i can be a sexual being and want something serious. Whatever he thought is his problem, not mine.

So i appreciate you telling me what his train of thought was but honestly upsets me how we live in 2019 and think someone being sexual must only want a hook up or be good for one.

He said no. Only coffee.

What would you prefer? Ghosting?

THATS exactly why people ghost!

There is NO way out of a date without ghosting or lying or being rude...

Yes this Libra has friend zoned you. He didn't feel the chemistry you did when you made out so he let you go. Libra men have lots of female friends and he is offering you a friendship position. They normally don't have a shortage of interested women. It is your choice whether to meet him to "catch up" and get on the friendship train. Personally I would move on if I were you unless of course you are looking for new friends.

Men will take ur pussy if u offer it, even if they know u are having misleading thoughts. Dick mode overrides morality