Libra & Loyalty - Is it possible?

Does a Libra Male go from being a player to being a loyal and faithful partner for the right girl?

I have a friend who is a Libra male, we're just friends and nothing sexual has ever occured between us we just tease each other and flirt with the idea. He is the ultimate player so I reject him alot on that basis. He is currently "dating" 2 girls but has made it clear to both that they're not exclusive. He's honest enough to tell me everything he gets up to and he has been trying to get me to date him for over a year now. I told him that I like that he is honest and easy to talk to but I don't wan't to be someones F**k buddy. And he said that he really likes me and wouldn't do that to me so I asked him why he wouldn't do that to me and he said because he respects me too much.

He has never lied or hidden anything from me and I tell him everything too, so the question is- do I believe him and give him a chance to be loyal with me or will I find myself in the same position these other girls are in?

From what you said here, he's doing nothing wrong. Yes, he's seeing more than one person but they both know and are okay with it. He isn't breaking the rules of his relationship. He may or may not be able to do an exclusive relationship but he isn't trying to right now.

His logic makes sense to me. And his saying he respects you too much to do an fbuddy thing is good. It means you are special to him and he might be willing/able to do exclusive with you. That or he's just saying what you want to hear, some of us are liars like that.

Give it a shot...however, dont give up the sex til you are certain that he will be faithful. So date him for a period, let him know clearly that it has to be exclusive and that you aren't into a sexual relationship at first as you would with any other guy and test the waters...

A player will look and find it elsewhere if you arent giving up...

I guess I need to have a talk to him about what he wants and to be clear we're on the same page before i let my guard down. I have dated a couple of libras in the past and they were from one extreme to the other and I am not sure if there is balance with these scales or if they're always tipped to one side and i cannot help but form a judgement based on past experiences. The first Libra was obsessive and possessive and wanted to marry me after a week and would not let me leave his side and i felt smothered and the other Libra said he wasn't ready to commit to a relationship with me and left me feeling confused about the situation because the way he acted the opposite of what he was saying. I have a soft spot for this sign though, and the chemistry is always steaming hot! But i'm getting older and I need more than that now.

Your right there isnt a definite way to gain certainty but as a player that is always on the prowl there would be temptation to wander, however if he was suppose to be exclusive with someone and says he would change his ways for her then I would definitely hold back a while to make sure I was making the right move trusting him...

It's an easy thing for a guy to tell you how different you are when they haven't explored that territory...unfortunetly especially the Libras who have openly confessed to little white lies being a regular occurance!

As with most of the mature women on this board, holding back is not a game but a reassurance that they aren't setting themselves up for a fall!

Yeh i think i'll maintain my distance for a while and see what happens. I don't want to get caught up in some stupid fantacy i have created in my head.

Talk to him and be honest about your fears. I suspect because you have known each other for so long, his behaviour in this relationship will be very different from the ones he is casually dating. He already knows you, likes you, and respects you. He has just as much to lose as you do.

Talk to him. Maybe he will surprise you. 🙂

nah, he just wants a crack at your squish mitten

So he's dumping the other two girls for you?? Have you talked about that? I'm a Libra that loves my cake and eat it to, so if he gives that up, then you are really special to him. While letting your guard down, let your panties stay up. He will test you, so you must test him. I'm a BIG player so I speak from experience, but the right one changes it all.

i used to be a whore once upon a time. I ended up being clean and loyal after i met my aries gal.

He said he'd dump the others for me, never cheat or be unfaithful and sees me as wife material. It's unexpected and a little confronting but a comfort at the same time.

I have a few offers on the table which i find rather flattering... when it rain it pours!! maybe it's this venus retrograde, who knows. So I have this libra, an ex-libra (who im steering clear of), a leo, a taurus and some guy (dont know his sign)i work with but i wouldn't touch him with a 10 foot pole. It's a toss up between libra and leo though. I don't really know this Leo well enough to know if it will work but he is a little possessive and although i know i would never feel insecure or have to look over my shoulder if it does work out, i am very independant and hate being chained down. Libra would give me the freedom but probably not enough of the attention i crave. It's a tough call.

Posted by QLIbraMale
it depends does he get nervous when you try to touch him sexual? if he kinda does it would mean he seriously doesn't want to disrespect you. as for being non-exclusive both parties know and are aware of his circumstances. so technically he's keeping it real with you. You say he hasn't lied to you, but you seem uncertain about his motivates. try to do something classy yet sexual like running finger thru hair or holding hands if he's eyes open wide and he gets nervous, i'd say he truly does respect you. but that how i would respond.

call me naive but is that really true for all men? or just speaking from a libran POV? (on the nervousness equates to respecting a girl) What if a guy is always nervous everytime a girl touches him, be it in a lustful way or a loving/respectful way? 🙂

Sounds like both of you are players.... end it all and get married. 😛

Posted by QLIbraMale
Love makes you do crazy things lol. even players succumb to its power lol.

lol.. am not in love. never was. i found what i was looking for and she ended up being a good friend. very rarely i get emotional.

Posted by QLIbraMale
i'm just speaking from my personal view. lol why i put it in my last sentence.

oppssy, sorry didn't catch the last one. 🙂

Fair call JOJOJO 😉