Libras: Clingy or not? (Page 2)

Posted by Brickhouse27

Just wanted to get some feedback, that is all...

Sure, I can be a little clingy...



If I´m clingy, it´s not in the dating stages, at all. It´s when I´m in a relationship and only when in the company of the person I have feelings for, not when he is spending time on his individual pursuits. You´ll never catch me blowing up someones phone.

When I´m in the company of the person I like, that person gets my full, undivided attention. I love the togetherness. My love-language is quality time for sure. I´m enthusiastic about spending uninterrupted time and experiencing new things about and with that person. To explore and connect emotionally and celebrate the joy that gives me. When I like someone, I have a strong need and desire for emotional intimacy, and I deepen my connection with others through sharing time together. I´m also pretty affectionate.



However, that doesn´t mean that I don´t also, periodically, need my personal space and alone-time / time out. I gasp for air quickly if this need for alone-time is not respected. You need to balance the intense emotional involvement with someone with some independence, - so to not lose your individuality in the relationship, right?

I´m cool when we´re apart, because I still feel connected to the person. I´m unquestionably "his woman" and he is unquestionably "my man", so it´s fine to need some space and freedom to explore the world alone, as well as with each other. It´s all about the coming together again, after some individual time apart, being that a few hours or a few days, and then bringing back the excitement to the relationship when you "return" to it.



I don´t believe in spending long stretches of time apart though, then it gets unbalanced. If you allow that to happen you´re not taking care of the relationship, and you´re not valuing the relationship enough. You have to put in the time with each other. You have to dare to maybe be perceived as a little "clingy". Better to have to ask for some me-time, than having an aloof partner.

It´s all about balance. You need to put in the time with each other, building the emotional sanctuary together, at the same time as it´s also vital to honor each other's individual empowerment. You were drawn to each other for each others unique individuality, so if you do not maintain a sense of your own individuality in a relationship, you lose yourself and you´re no longer the person your partner fell in love with in the first place and vice versa.

You also need to balance in work and the mundane aspects and realities of adult-life, and children if you have them. So to me it often seems like a lot of couples today don´t prioritize enough, spending time together to nurture the relationship.

To sum up what constitutes for a Libra enough room and time for individual pursuits to balance the emotional involvement with someone, compared to other zodiac signs - I personally feel like I need a lot of _periodical_ alone-time and therefore understand and respect it in others = not clingy. But I definitely love on my partner and need my partner to put in the time = so maybe a little clingy? 😉

I´ve also had an other Libra say to me "Wow! You disappeared into thin air for a while there!" So looking at other placements in someones chart is always needed I think.

By personal experience, I find that Cancer and Taurus need the least alone-time, and hence feel the most clingy to me as a Libra. I understand that to them it can feel very confusing and a cold gust of wind after all the warm attention they received when we were hanging out, - but now I´m off somewhere with no phone reception. (Mostly in my head and in my feelings or daydreaming) 😉



Taurus is possibly the one who is the most perplexed by the mere mention of needing some alone-time? An opinion based on subjective, personal experiences of course, I´ve had my share of Taurus temper-tantrums: with text-messages reading "Where are you—?" and "I haven´t seen you in aaaaaages!!!" And I´m like, "hold up, it´s only been three days??" The dramatics of Taurus is unprecedented. 😉

I feel as though Aquarius and Sagittarius is the least clingy?

I just feel like Sagittarius are just too preoccupied with "living their best life!" to be clingy. 😉

Aquas might need the most alone time, and will happily potter about on their own "planet" for ages, and uninterrupted if in a relationship with understanding Libra. But oddly enough, my personal experience is that Aquas feel like it´s one rule for them and one rule for everyone else. When they want alone-time, everything is fine. But if they don´t at that moment and say, the Libra does, they misinterpret it and are also deceptively jealous. They don´t like it when others drop of the face of the earth for a period of time. Idk. Aquas are bonkers in my opinion. 😉

Overall, I think Sagittarius and the air-signs Aqua, Libra and Gemini are the least clingy signs of the zodiac. Aqua being the least clingy. I would maybe say that Libra is the most clingy of the air-sign, but I find Geminis to be deceptively dependent on the person of their affection?

From my experience Gemini always want to know what you´re up to and always want to hang out. I don´t know why though, but somehow Geminis don´t feel clingy, only slightly annoying. 😉 It might be because they overall are so likeable, they just come across as insatiably curious and enthusiastic to be with you. This absorbing curiosity I relate to. Maybe Gemini can get away with being dependent on you, and don´t feel as suffocating and clingy as (sorry) Cancer or controlling as (sorry) Taurus, - because they give you a lot of freedom to just be yourself around them?

Idk. Maybe I´m being unfair to Cancer and Taurus grouping them as the most clingy zodiac signs, since I actually know a Cancer with Taurus Moon who sometimes feels that her Gemini with Libra Moon is too clingy! Imagine that! 😉

Posted by UrsaMediocre

If you're clingy, we're definitely not. If you're not clingy, we'll pull to a certain extent then push when it's too clingy. We're not water sign level clingy though.

Hah! The compulsive balancing act of Libra.

I´ll wear that hat, it fits. 😉

Posted by Brickhouse27

Just wanted to get some feedback, that is all...

what is your definition of clingy? I think the word "clingy" is used here in a quite broad way.... and everybody imagines something else, depending on their own definition

so define

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by Brickhouse27

Just wanted to get some feedback, that is all...

what is your definition of clingy? I think the word "clingy" is used here in a quite broad way.... and everybody imagines something else, depending on their own definition

so define

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My definition clingy a person wanting you in their presence all the time. There may be distance from each other for a few hours then right back together for hours at a time. No room to breathe really, smothering in a sense.

Yes, dated 3 different libra women and they were all clingy. I kind of liked it but it was kind of annoying too.

Posted by 4reefer2man0

Yes, dated 3 different libra women and they were all clingy. I kind of liked it but it was kind of annoying too.

Interesting, so what was the deal breaker between the 3, if you dont mind me asking?

Posted by OCJack

No but seriously I'm in the neither camp here. It's always never made sense to me why for some people it's an explicit need to be away from the other person. To me that suggests that you really aren't into that person like you claim. Otherwise, I'm just very /indifferent/ to people's presences within my life. I'm on my own track and whether or not you're right beside me when I do what I do, is up to you.

I need alone time to do the things I want to do, to feel free and this doesn't mean going out with other guys. I have many interests and I just want to be able to get up and go with the flow and do what I want to do every second of the day. It's hard to do this with another person because they will feel I'm selfish which may be true; so it's best that I'm by myself at those times. I wish I weren't this way sometimes.