Lock the Bedroom Door? (Page 2)

Now you're scaring us oh.. mighty one.. WHAT??

Have we been wasting out time trying to let these libra's know how we feel.. Trying to be sincere and upfront?? Maybe that is why we are getting the cold shoulder... and it's really cold over here..

(kidding) Sorta. Does anyone say "sike" anymore.. I am thinking about bringing it back, what do you all think..

uuhh! Chatz hun..

I have no idea who Robbie Williams is.. bring me into the loop.. who is this cat?

bring it on Brat!!! bring it on....be a trend setter 🙂

Oh God is that what Im doing wrong— was I meant to actually tell him how I felt— I can't do that - might unbalance him!!! LOL....all I can say is if he doesnt know by the way I talk/react, blah, blah, blah he is DEFINITELY blind as a bat~!

and yes thelibran is really scaring us!!! still love ya work though - you are full of information 🙂

Wait! Were we not talking about the bedroom, here?!?! Just kidding, with all the air and fire signs, I would expect nothing less than for this thread to take off!

Its told in some book that when you need a libra, all you have to do is to sit next to him and help him make up his mind on taking a decision. Slowly push him. very slowly. convince him that it will be interesting to be with you.

I'm totally bold, and I don't think I have to work at making anyone think I am interesting. I think I'm pretty interesting as I am...and if you don't think so, oh well!

Maybe this is one of the things that makes the Libra/Gemini combo so volatile?

ammorocks.. i'm with you lets get back to the bedroom thing.. (sike!) That didn't really fit there.. maybe I should have said (kidding) okay so I guess I will have to give "sike" up for a while..

thelibran.. the whole point of this board is HOW TO SPEED THIS LOVE UP, we need to make this a HOW TO section. By Thelibran. Nobody has that much time in a day to do all that waiting. Everyone is stir crazy can't you tell.. You're the only one not going mad... But I can tell you have had your day.. on the gem board..😉

Dear thelibran,

I had so much fun in the bedroom last night. You bring about the playful side in me and I like that, I just hope next time you will allow me to unzip it...quickly.

I am looking forward to doing it again and promise not to use victoria secret again.

Love,

Gem

hahaha! 😉

I am on the 21-23

its a bit true...


i just hope I change/become a libra when i turn 26...lol

lol.. there is no way to speed up a libra. I do few things to speed up myselfs but tats just me. I think on black and white when i need to make a decision. But even that cannot help me when it comes to matters of romance. We stick back to what LS once reffered to as "divine timing" when it comes to romance. 😉

of course you take it SLOW!!! Don't forget though, that the prize might have been awarded to another in the meantime!!! LOL......nah its worth the wait I guess *scratches head and wonders*

Hmmmm well I've just come home from a lovely night out with friends from work - and for the first time in weeks I've not had to think of my lovely Libran......oh how great it was too - laughed so much, drank not enough but had a grand time and its now been 5 long days since I've heard from him - grrrrrrrrr I hate that so much. He'd better get in contact before Xmas or else that's it....grrrrr again.

Well... I know how you feel Chatz.. but we may have to move off the libra board, cuz in a minute I am not going to have one to talk about... then where will us girlz go? To the relationship board.. no, that's not appropriate.. to the astrology board.. well I am not well versed in that topic, may make me feel inferior... Maybe we will have to go to the writing or travel board and hang with the people over there who go to bed around 8:30PM. Ya know cuz they have to get up early and travel.. or write something...

I actually do my best writing when I am in a restless state... and that would be right.. 'bout.. now. Maybe I could get something published.. that would be a great reward... considering the year I've had.. *aqua sighs*

What's happened Brat?

Nothing.. absolutely nothing. No libra, no love, no friend... and that's what you get when you are assertive with your libra best-friend.. nothing. well for me anyway. I guess I was wrong about everything. But it happens sometimes, big girlz don't cry.. they get on DXP 🙂

awwww brat....join the club.....Im so frustrated with mine its not funny anymore......talk about bashing (not just hitting) your head against the wall....Might become a nun!!! LOL

Chatz.."Might become a nun!!!"

WOW are you sure we are not related.. been thinkin' the same thing myself..🙂
(playin') My mind does too many crazy things without me.. I could never handle the pressure of nunship...(pure thoughts ALL the time) any more good suggestions?? I like the one about bashing your head.. but that may hurt after a while and we like having you here at DXP..maybe we should digress for a moment.. Maybe do some deep breathing and chanting positive things to come our way... what do you think? Helping??

oh yeah I guess breathing would help LOL.....hmmmm leave it with me, I will try to think up some other masochism *laffs*

I just wanted to chime in and add that I fit the Libra male description from the original poster quite well. In day to day relationship life I will act more masculine or feminine depending on what the situation dictates. When the bedroom door is locked though, I take a dominate side. Never forceful but my whole goal there is to please the one I am with and that requires a bit of taking the lead.

I also noticed in myself, and I dunno what other guy Libras think but in day to day life I am a big picture thinker, often missing many details. I tend to have an idea and shoot from the hip but when it is one on one no detail goes unnoticed weather it be communication or the "'ol in out" as my Virgo ex used to put it. The knowing what you are thinking thing is big to us, there were several times during silence this same ex would outright tell me to stop reading her mind. Also when we were discussing heavy stuff regarding us I would ask her a question, she would answer and I would just look at her and tell her "this is what your really thinking." She was always floored by this. While it is true that we have a knack for reading between the lines, we still like to hear you say it as there is an inherant danger in always operating on what you think you know. Communication is key.

It's funny, I used to try and convince people that we are simple creatures and I don't know why, were actually rather complicated. The only sign that ever has any luck in simplifying me are Sag women, and boy do I like it.

I've noticed that you can read our minds and I for one give hints left right and centre and he ALWAYS wants me to say it or write what the hints are but then he cuts me dead with some cynical comment which sometimes is funny but at other times it makes me feel stupid for having given in to what he wanted and that being, actually saying what he knew all along 😢

Yep, Libra men are pretty good about catching onto hints and/or finishing thoughts/sentences. It's rather freaky.

We do tend to have a cynical sense of humor and I myself am always keeping it in check. It comes from seeing every angle of whatever is on our mind and being able to make a finite remark that can either be funny or upsetting, we never know which until it comes out. It is rare that the intention was ever to upset you, though it may have been to make you instantly realize an aspect of something you weren't considering.

Honestly, the only girls that were ever comfortable with the cynical side were Cancers and Scorpios. The cancers I am not sure why but with the Scorps it is simply because they have a natural taste for the cynical.

My ex business partner was a Leo and I dropped cynical comments a lot to prod him into seeing things other ways. Because his thought process was so linear and mine all over the place it was the quickest way to get him to see something he wasn't. this might be what your Libra guy is doing.

Just last week I was hanging out with a Virgo guy and Cancer girl I just met, the guy was complaining about being sexually frustrated and I told him to just go to the bar, find a girl with low self esteem and buy her a few drinks. The cancer girl laughed immediately but I know had it been one of my female Leo friends it would not have gone over well at all. She instantly realized that the cynicism came from over analyzing society and girls in general, and that I would never do such a low thing and a Leo would have taken personal offense.

And yes with most cirtainty we know what you are thinking or want to say but we still need to hear it some times. We like having that ability and the power it comes with but we also see it as a liability so we like to look past it and hear it for real. Most people see this ability as a purely good thing but it has a sharp edge, were usually right about it but sometimes we are wrong and when we are it really bites us in the ass not to mention hurts our pride.

yes but when you start something, especially when you start getting cheeky and think better of it not to give them a bigger ego, he says "go on, you keep giving these leads but tell me" and I end up giving him what he wants by telling him exactly what was on my mind and of course his head swells and he knows Im keen to see him with what I've said, etc, etc....but he take it in but gives nothing back until of course he's bored and wants to hang out again......Im so getting over it. I think I deserve better and to me, getting stuff out of me when he knows what Im about or was about to say is kinda mean.

Im tired of "we'll catch up soon" and "I'll keep that in my memory banks" and stuff like that.....I never wanted a friends with benefits situation so I think guys and girls, Im out.....see him online chatting with others and neglects to "unblock me" to have a little chat or to send a text....he chats when HE feels like it, when HE's ready and when HE's got the time and energy.....a relationship shouldn't work like that and I think I might have been hanging out for a dud afterall....too much time, worry, waiting, thinking, wondering, stressing, trying to do the right thing, etc, etc has NOT paid off.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrr@him....I doubt he even realises that Im hanging onto every time we talk/meet, etc.....I doubt he gives me a thought during the times we are apart....so much for the thinking process - Im grumpy!!! I think I've wasted too much time on this one...up and on for me 🙂

chat,z you have mail.

ooooh my first mail~!

Chatz, I guess u need to stop worrying and thinking on your libran. Just stay calm for a while and be natural. He will come back and wont go away. I stay away from some girls when i feel they are too much into me or too little. We cannot handle both. Thats one big trouble.

Chatz,

I am always the first to stand up for my Libra brothers but this guy is treating you like crap. We do tend to play cat and mouse, lead on then pull back a little bit as a symptom of the way our minds work. But it is uncharacteristic to not be empathetic to what our partner or interrest is feeling, which is exactly what he is doing. It is that empathy and reading between the lines that allows us to maintain stability while we are still floating around on the idea but without that our behavior would be for lack of a better term, emotionally abusive.

If you really like the guy and he is a good guy (sometimes in hearing others vent we get a tainted picture) I think the best thing to do at this point is lay it all out on the table. No more reading between the lines, tell him where you stand and insist he does the same. He may sound undecided or insincere and give him a little leway on that but if it comes accross and completely detatched and made up tell him to his face. The most important thing is not to find out what he is feeling at the time of the talk but what his vision is on relationships as a whole at this point in his life. Tell him you don't know how to treat him if he doesn't tell you, he should understand this.

Libra and Leo are two signs that inherantly know how to "play the game" so to speak but they do it in such different ways that both end up unintentionally misleading each other at times. I have an ex girlfriend that was a Leo and my ex business partner was a Leo and one of the consistancies in both relationships is that if we were not blunt and open with each other, we constantly misread each other.

I feel that your biggest issue is that ther will be a good chance that you will resent his complexity and need to understand EVERYTHING on a level that surpasses necessity and he could likewise start resenting you for your clear cut outlook on life. It takes a lot of work.

thanks nic...yep I see what you mean *sigh*.....and yes I think he is treating me badly but again, you're right...we both haven't made any clear cut decisions and/or had THOSE discussions....guess its time or cut ties - another *sigh*

thelibran well ya see how we can be terribly confused then....if we can't be into them too much or too little, we have to act disinterested but keen - argghhhh too hard. I should lay it on the table yet not tell him how I feel.....double argghhh and sheesh to add to that too lol.

I know Im back to the worrying and thinking too much again - I should know better by now and know he'll be back soon enough but for Godsake!!!!! LOL

Oh you are my little angels and hope you all had a great Xmas - wooohoooo almost New Year and with that comes more partying hehhehee

Hey Chatz, I'll come sit on the Libra while you knock some sense into him. I've always wanted a REALLY good reason to visit Australia.

oooooh yeah - now that sounds like fun LOL......come on over!!!!

WOW! So much going on...

nicodemus.. pleasure to have you with us..we always love a libran male in our midst...

You bring some great insight into this mixture of feelings, perceptions and misconceptions as it relates to a libra..

You also allow me to see why the libra male and the aqua female get along so well.. As we too are very much a "big picture" thinker.. details are painful and often get overlooked with us also..

Your comment: "this is what your really thinking."

Yup! my libra best-friend does this all the time, however, he is usually wrong, and I think he knows it by my reaction.. I always say "where'd you come up with that from?" I am guessing he is probably using the same line on me, he used on the girl at the bar he met the night before.. thinking all women are the same.. but his game gets shot down when it hits my door.. that may bother him about me, or present more of a challenge.. not sure yet.

Your comment: "I dropped cynical comments a lot to prod him into seeing things other ways"

Yup.. my libra does this too.. now this is where he gets me, often, because the libran mind is quite an ingenious place, I am learning, and he does see things quite differently than I. When he realizes he's got me, (meaning asked me something I can't answer or am having trouble comprehending why the question is relevant) .. he uses these weird tactics to his advantage.... that crap gets under my skin and will bother me for days until I can come up with an answer as to why he would make whatever comment he made... Then I am forced to call him and tell him it's not fair for him to make me think so hard about something!! Why do you all do that? Is it an intellectual challenge or something?

Aquabrat, how is your Libra man doing at the moment?

Did you sent him a card?

HP and Chatz.. Ya'll are crazy.. What shall I do, hold his hands and feet!!

Libra...

Check out my thread.."Things I have leaned.."

It will let you know what happened in the past few days.. write and let me know what you think.. I will respond when I get back...

I have to run to the mall and have drinks with my best-friend (female) but will check you all out when I get back..

*hugs and luv**

I'll bring the rope and duct tape.

Brat, being crazy is an added bonus bwahahahaha.

You my dear, can bring the feather!!! He is VERY ticklish!!!! It would give me great pleasure to reduce him to fits of laughter

Oooooh more drinks— and here I am back at work - arggghhhhh....well I hope you have/had a good time out Aquabratty 🙂

"And yes with most cirtainty we know what you are thinking or want to say but we still need to hear it some times. We like having that ability and the power it comes with but we also see it as a liability so we like to look past it and hear it for real"

--- now people we are exagerating librans and relying so much on astrology. Let's us remember that we are dealing with human beings not gods! They probably do have a good analytical skills but there is no way they can read your minds or tell exactly what we are trying to imply if you play things well enough..or if tey say something...don't admit they are right..then ty will think agai and get confused..hahaha
I always tip my libras balance..and always caught him offguard and puzzled about things I am saying or doing...maybe because i am air sign too, but really we are only simple and easy to fgure out if we make ourselves that.the bootom libne is they are just like you and me and we are making such a big deal out of this. 😉

***now look who's talking...lol 😉

lol too true!!

Chatz,
I am glad that you realize it is time to clarify or ship out. A lot of Libra guys don't get that they can't play these games with everyone, it works with a lot of people but not others. I usually use my analytical abilities off the bat to first determine weather or not the other person is someone I can be subtle with or if I need to be up front and transparent. Most of us are uncomfortable doing the latter but since I have taken notice to this my life has become a lot easier with some people.

Aquabrat,
Thank you for the welcoming. Hopefully I can keep up with the boards on a regular basis, I have a habit of getting into things then back out then back in....makes me seem flakey haha! I can totally see you shutting him down on his mind reading game. My mom is an Aquarian and I must say that the female Aqua ego is almost guy like. Not up front and in your face but beneath the surface it is there and the sense of self pride is pretty strong. A true force to be reconed with. My mom used to do the same to me, your wrong blah blah but now that I have been up and out of house she usually lets the authoritarian guard down and I catch her off guard with these things a lot. The Libra male/Aqua female thing is really trippy. Most astrologers see this as an ideal match but I think the caveat is that both people being so open minded yet sure in there opinions, it is easy to get along but hard to get that last 10% connection. I imagine once it happens though it's pure magic.

gem,
No we are not gods and yes we often think of ourselves as such in the intillectual dimension but it doesn't help that everyone else including astrologers keep treating us like we are 😉

You are over looking something very subtle yet extremely important. It isn't that we are always right it is that we have a knack for saying things that aren't wrong. We know that it isn't what you say, it's how you say it 😉

nicodemus. "It isn't that we are always right it is that we have a knack for saying things that aren't wrong. We know that it isn't what you say, it's how you say it ."

Noticed this in my libra... what is up with you all and the trippy word play... he can play on words in a way that get's my head all turned around and confused which is something I pride myself on not being... confudsed.. in his sight anyway...

Like tonight, he was flirting with me in a very naughty way and I said, "You can't handle me..." who says that anymore?? that is so cliche. I would never use that normally, but I was not anticipating him flirting with me like that.. he never does that and tonight just isn't the night for innovative thinking.. I am drunk!! He is probably somewhere thinking.. "Boring" about me.. I want to call him back and say something clever.. but then that would be overkill.. what to do??

no he knows you are drunk - he'd be smiling....dont over analyse it...he'll be thinking but he won't be thinking boring....just get on the plane and make him miss you hehehehe

See what I mean, we prod you into thinking dirty and being agressive.

If you call him back to tell him anything have it be "ok, maybe you can handle me but you'd first have to find the guts to try."

you two make my head spin, I am surprised you haven't gotten randy by accident the way you play each other.

LMAO

Nicodemus.."you two make my head spin, I am surprised you haven't gotten randy by accident the way you play each other"

What is this?? Do not understand..

and Chatz.. quit using that elanguage.. what is LMAO?? Fairly new to this chatting shenanigans...

LMAO= laughed my ass off.

Aqua, it would be assumption on my part....as far as I can tell you guys seem to like each other but haven't gotten physical. That is what I was referring to. I could be horribly wrong though, and if I am.... I am even more confused by you two.

yes nic sorted the LMAO out for you 🙂

Yes there seems to be a lot of sexual tension there Brats!!! Imagine if you two did hook up!!! OMG what a night....oooops, that might get you to ring him yet again huh— LOL 😉