My Libra

is so NEEDY. I thought Cancers were the needy ones? (Lack of neediness is probably due to my Cappy moon and Sag ascendant) I totally love him, he's totally amazing to me! The problem I am having here is I work full-time and have school full-time. I am constantly busy, and he isn't in school right now (I'm not sure when he's going to decide to finish his degree) and works part-time so he wants to be together like every second of everyday, and even though I love being with him it's really hard to get homework done when he just wants to cuddle and be right next to me the entire time!

Sigh. It's just hard. I am like the opposite of co-dependent, he is like the definition of it.

What exactly do you imagine strangers can help you with on this matter? If it bothers you that he is "needy" then ditch him. You obviously have not told him that or do not know how. What is the motive behind this thread? You appear to be fed up and at a crossroads with your Libra over this issue so just simply leave. I gave you one choice which is to leave the guy because I know how hard it is for you women to make decisions.

You're totally right! What I am trying to say here is how do I approach this situation without hurting him? I feel like I've already tried and he gives me space for about a day, and then it starts all over again...



I love him. I just don't have all the time in the world for him. I have so much going on all the time.

Posted by Luxhc
You're totally right! What I am trying to say here is how do I approach this situation without hurting him? I feel like I've already tried and he gives me space for about a day, and then it starts all over again...



I love him. I just don't have all the time in the world for him. I have so much going on all the time.

I'm not an expert on relationships nor do I really care for them, but if I was unhappy about something I'd tell the person and if they cannot rectify the situation, adiós.

what's his moon and venus ?

Venus is Libra, Moon is Taurus and Ascendant is Scorpio.

Posted by Luxhc
Venus is Libra, Moon is Taurus and Ascendant is Scorpio.

All of that Venus made me throw up a bit. ? We share the same sun and ascendant but if his moon is Taurus then there is a strong possibility it's placed in the 7th house which SCREAMS co-dependent lol. ? Run! While you can. I wouldn't even worry about the Venus placement as it is mostly likely in 11th or 12th which 11th isn't going to be very attached like that and a 12th house is going to desire some seclusion. Taurus moon may be the culprit.

Libras can be needy. What the eff does needy have to do with a Cancer placement? You're cool but need to chill on the cat lady astrology. Maybe he thinks that's normal. Most women love a needy person instead of a ghost. He probably thinks this is a way to be attentive to YOUR needs. You should really talk with him. While snuggling on of course.

Lol Meanwhile my Taurus best friend complains that her Virgo boyfriend is not sweet to her and never wants to cuddle or hang out with her.

I'm not judging you, it's just that is what I thought of when I read this.

You love him, which is great and he loves you. He is obviously into you so I'm not going to say just leave him. Maybe try to encourage him to continue his degree, fulfill his dreams etc. Be supportive as well. He will then be more busy and you won't be his only focus. See where his head is at with that stuff. I can get clingy when I only have my partner to focus on. Lol But luckily, my Sag (surprisingly) is like that with me. We love cuddling. He actually helped me see that it was ok to be who I am. That man will hold me ALL night. Lol But telling him to stop wanting to be around you may back fire.. He may end up finding something else to focus on when he feels rejected (this is not a threat of finding someone else..I just started to hang out with friends more and travel more by myself) so be careful what you ask for. I never cuddled with my ex because he wasn't as affectionate and he started to feel like I never needed him. And in a way...I didn't. I started to do my own thing, I became super independent. (and my ex was super possessive so he hated it.) So it helped me grow, but it also helped us grow apart. Spending time together is my thing. I don't need it all the time though, but it does help me feel closer to you.

If it ends up being too much, then maybe this guy is not for you. Just let him go and find someone who is more like you and he can find someone who is more like him.

I understand you are stressed with work and school. Hopefully he can get up and get himself together too so like I said he has something positive to focus on. Just be clear about what it is you want, don't push him away unless that is your true intention.

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Posted by Luxhc
Venus is Libra, Moon is Taurus and Ascendant is Scorpio.

All of that Venus made me throw up a bit. ? We share the same sun and ascendant but if his moon is Taurus then there is a strong possibility it's placed in the 7th house which SCREAMS co-dependent lol. ? Run! While you can. I wouldn't even worry about the Venus placement as it is mostly likely in 11th or 12th which 11th isn't going to be very attached like that and a 12th house is going to desire some seclusion. Taurus moon may be the culprit.

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Haha oh man! You are right. I forgot Taurus is affiliated with Venus as well. This isn't something I am going to run from but it totally makes more sense now that I am thinking about it. That is a lot of Venus...

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Posted by Luxhc
Venus is Libra, Moon is Taurus and Ascendant is Scorpio.

All of that Venus made me throw up a bit. ? We share the same sun and ascendant but if his moon is Taurus then there is a strong possibility it's placed in the 7th house which SCREAMS co-dependent lol. ? Run! While you can. I wouldn't even worry about the Venus placement as it is mostly likely in 11th or 12th which 11th isn't going to be very attached like that and a 12th house is going to desire some seclusion. Taurus moon may be the culprit.

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Very insightful! Very helpful! Thank you!

Posted by younowho
Is he insecure about something ? Like other competitors ? Guys can be clingy sometimes esp if their gf is hot and pushing them away only makes heart go fonder.... been there done that! Sorry no solution, After a while you guys might have fight , keep some distance and he might learn to give space hard way ,

You're right. School is so important to me. I know who I am and what I want to do with my life and I've read over and over Taurus moon's love people who are stable in themselves. He is going to have to be patient with me, or he's going to lose me, even though I really hope that doesn't happen. Because there are also so many good things about my Libra, he is amazing when he isn't getting mad at me for having a life outside of him.

Posted by jane84
Lol Meanwhile my Taurus best friend complains that her Virgo boyfriend is not sweet to her and never wants to cuddle or hang out with her.

I'm not judging you, it's just that is what I thought of when I read this.

You love him, which is great and he loves you. He is obviously into you so I'm not going to say just leave him. Maybe try to encourage him to continue his degree, fulfill his dreams etc. Be supportive as well. He will then be more busy and you won't be his only focus. See where his head is at with that stuff. I can get clingy when I only have my partner to focus on. Lol But luckily, my Sag (surprisingly) is like that with me. We love cuddling. He actually helped me see that it was ok to be who I am. That man will hold me ALL night. Lol But telling him to stop wanting to be around you may back fire.. He may end up finding something else to focus on when he feels rejected (this is not a threat of finding someone else..I just started to hang out with friends more and travel more by myself) so be careful what you ask for. I never cuddled with my ex because he wasn't as affectionate and he started to feel like I never needed him. And in a way...I didn't. I started to do my own thing, I became super independent. (and my ex was super possessive so he hated it.) So it helped me grow, but it also helped us grow apart. Spending time together is my thing. I don't need it all the time though, but it does help me feel closer to you.

If it ends up being too much, then maybe this guy is not for you. Just let him go and find someone who is more like you and he can find someone who is more like him.

I understand you are stressed with work and school. Hopefully he can get up and get himself together too so like I said he has something positive to focus on. Just be clear about what it is you want, don't push him away unless that is your true intention.

Great ideas! I know there is something with Taurus that can be a little bit smothering apparently. Still, I don't hate it, it's just I need him to learn to give me space and time to finish other things or spend time with other people. My best friend is currently mad at me because she thinks I ditched her yesterday (although that's not what happened). So I'm really just trying my hardest to establish a balance here with everything!

He is very cuddly, I love it. It sounds like you and your Sag have a great relationship! I think my Sag ascendant works well with my Libra. 😉

Posted by kissmygrits
Libras can be needy. What the eff does needy have to do with a Cancer placement? You're cool but need to chill on the cat lady astrology. Maybe he thinks that's normal. Most women love a needy person instead of a ghost. He probably thinks this is a way to be attentive to YOUR needs. You should really talk with him. While snuggling on of course.

Ha, I was just trying to say that word in the astrology world is Cancers are like the most clingy of the signs. I am a Cancer, he's totally more clingy than I am. I was just having fun with it, I wasn't trying to offend anyone. I love Libra's! 🙂 He's the first one I've dated but my best friend is a Libra female. I don't feel like I have very many of them in my life but the ones I do have, I cherish! 😉

Posted by SensitiveBlues
Yuck..WTF tell him to get a life and a job

i cant' date a guy without ambition

+1

My ex libra BF was super needy as well and turns out because not only was he jobless but he was also not finishing up his degree. People who are idle usually have very shitty self esteem and they need someone by their useless side 24/7 to sweet talk them and validate their existence because their family members sure as hell aren't doing it since they probably know what a useless POS they are.

lol reading your post it's the same with my cancer gf , I'm the ambition one and all she want is to be a good house wife later in life hahaha. We both are needy but we also know that our career is important as well .Talk to him he will understand. A good woman keep there man in check and give him a little push to be successful .

Cece, why can't I see your post. I didn't even see you posted on this thread until someone else re-posted what you said.

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Posted by SensitiveBlues
Yuck..WTF tell him to get a life and a job

i cant' date a guy without ambition

+1

My ex libra BF was super needy as well and turns out because not only was he jobless but he was also not finishing up his degree. People who are idle usually have very shitty self esteem and they need someone by their useless side 24/7 to sweet talk them and validate their existence because their family members sure as hell aren't doing it since they probably know what a useless POS they are.

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Well he works part time because he doesn't need to work full-time with how much money he makes working part time. He is incredibly smart. However, yes the degree thing is quite annoying and I haven't mustered up the courage to have that talk with him just yet. I hate telling other people how to live their life...

Posted by Luxhc

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by SensitiveBlues
Yuck..WTF tell him to get a life and a job

i cant' date a guy without ambition

+1

My ex libra BF was super needy as well and turns out because not only was he jobless but he was also not finishing up his degree. People who are idle usually have very shitty self esteem and they need someone by their useless side 24/7 to sweet talk them and validate their existence because their family members sure as hell aren't doing it since they probably know what a useless POS they are.

Well he works part time because he doesn't need to work full-time with how much money he makes working part time. He is incredibly smart. However, yes the degree thing is quite annoying and I haven't mustered up the courage to have that talk with him just yet. I hate telling other people how to live their life...

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Being smart on its own isn't sufficient. What is he doing about his "smartness"? Is he putting it to good use like starting his own business or making good money. How old are you guys?

Posted by Luxhc
is so NEEDY. I thought Cancers were the needy ones? (Lack of neediness is probably due to my Cappy moon and Sag ascendant) I totally love him, he's totally amazing to me! The problem I am having here is I work full-time and have school full-time. I am constantly busy, and he isn't in school right now (I'm not sure when he's going to decide to finish his degree) and works part-time so he wants to be together like every second of everyday, and even though I love being with him it's really hard to get homework done when he just wants to cuddle and be right next to me the entire time!

Sigh. It's just hard. I am like the opposite of co-dependent, he is like the definition of it.

?

I'll say it.

Finish school. Despite him

He will show up later

Dont you dare do it.



I did it. I gave it all up for love. And it was my fault it didn't happen

You can have both.

Libras will stay. Just follow your dreams despite them

Stay independent

Why are you in a relationship with a full time job while you are in full time school? You go to work full time, and school full time, then what little time you have available you are doing your homework. Why would you want to subject someone to a relationship that you are NOT IN!!.

Who wants to be in some junk like that?

You dish out crumbs then call him needy? If he had any redeeming self respect he would remove himself out of this unfulfilling relationship. But don't worry if he's a real Libra, with all that Venusian charm he will tire of this relationship very soon, and he will bounce. That will be good because with your schedule, you have nothing to offer.

I really don't think you have too much to worry about; many Libras cheat when we aren't getting attention, sooner or later he will start slowly backing up. I wouldn't be surprised if he's checking out other women as we speak. It doesn't appear you two are too compatible, this is exactly why air should stick with air and fire.

Your independence is fine, but it's not for us. Libras rule the house of marriage, and we absolutely need an available partner. I wouldn't worry tooo much about it, he will slowly break free and trust and believe other women are becoming more and more interesting. Within a short period of time, you won't have to worry about your Libra's neediness at all. I promise. 🙂

Posted by Goldigold
Libras are cuddle bugs and happiest when in love. Maybe a Virgo would be better suited for you. If a Libra loves you that much it should be flattering because we usually don't let anyone in that deep. Especially a Libra male. He is really trying to work things out with but his needs are real and important, a talk could be in order so he isn't hurt. If he knew you were complaining of his affections he'd probably walk. Sorry I know that's how it is for me.

I actually love it. Still, sometimes I need to do my thing. We can't always be right next to each other all the time. Still, I appricate the honesty! 🙂

Posted by Faiyaz
Libras will stay. Just follow your dreams despite them

You think so? I hope so.

Posted by librawomen7
I really don't think you have too much to worry about; many Libras cheat when we aren't getting attention, sooner or later he will start slowly backing up. I wouldn't be surprised if he's checking out other women as we speak. It doesn't appear you two are too compatible, this is exactly why air should stick with air and fire.

Your independence is fine, but it's not for us. Libras rule the house of marriage, and we absolutely need an available partner. I wouldn't worry tooo much about it, he will slowly break free and trust and believe other women are becoming more and more interesting. Within a short period of time, you won't have to worry about your Libra's neediness at all. I promise. 🙂

Lol, don't hold any of that bitterness back despite of me. This post feels incredibly needy to me... "How dare you have your own life!" -LibraLady7

Please, learn to get constructive, and perhaps polite?

Awkward. You know, I could just sit on my ass and do nothing all the time, have no goals or ambition, but I doubt he'd like me then... So, pretty certian I'm doing it right. Thanks!

Posted by librawomen7
I really don't think you have too much to worry about; many Libras cheat when we aren't getting attention, sooner or later he will start slowly backing up. I wouldn't be surprised if he's checking out other women as we speak. It doesn't appear you two are too compatible, this is exactly why air should stick with air and fire.

Your independence is fine, but it's not for us. Libras rule the house of marriage, and we absolutely need an available partner. I wouldn't worry tooo much about it, he will slowly break free and trust and believe other women are becoming more and more interesting. Within a short period of time, you won't have to worry about your Libra's neediness at all. I promise. 🙂

Right, if Libra is the sign of the scales, or so-called, balance, then you'd think one would learn to balance love and life. Perhaps, this is where YOU are doing it wrong. Anyways, thanks for your input... not 😉

Girl, LOL, I wish I wasn't so dependent on a spouse or a significant other to flourish but that's how it is. In a relationship where me and my significant other are spending the majority of our time together, I soar; I make a ton of money, get my business up and jumping, lose weight.

Libras rule the 7th house of marriage & partnerships. As rulers of Love and Marriage many Libras crave romantic relationships above all else. You are right; many of us need our partners to be near us and with us the majority of the time to do as much as possible together. It's a voracious desire!

In your opinion this desire is "neediness" In my fiancée's opinion, this desire is "sexy". It's a matter of preference, life style choices, and compatibility.

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Posted by librawomen7
I really don't think you have too much to worry about; many Libras cheat when we aren't getting attention, sooner or later he will start slowly backing up. I wouldn't be surprised if he's checking out other women as we speak. It doesn't appear you two are too compatible, this is exactly why air should stick with air and fire.

Your independence is fine, but it's not for us. Libras rule the house of marriage, and we absolutely need an available partner. I wouldn't worry tooo much about it, he will slowly break free and trust and believe other women are becoming more and more interesting. Within a short period of time, you won't have to worry about your Libra's neediness at all. I promise. 🙂

Right, if Libra is the sign of the scales, or so-called, balance, then you'd think one would learn to balance love and life. Perhaps, this is where YOU are doing it wrong. Anyways, thanks for your input... not 😉

L7 does have a point.. Why would a young ambitious person as yourself work full time and study full time and try and squeeze in a relationship? As "squeezing" him in is exactly what you are doing... Perhaps your best bet is to talk to him and severe the relationship and become friends until your studies are over..

You could even persuade him to finish his degree. So instead of being squeezed into your life, your needs and wants, to perhaps get a life of his own..

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I understand what your saying, I guess because life happens and if you meet the right person, you tend to want to make that work, regardless of everything else going on.