I'm a capricorn male who's in love with my libra ex, who is also male. We'll call him D1. I met D1 through a mutual friend, October, 2014 while I was visiting Los Angeles. We became buddies instantly! While I was there, our mutual friend (We'll call him A1) was trying to convince me to move there, to Los Angeles... over the course of the next few months I saved my money while A1 conjured up a plan for the both of us to move to LA. A1 ended up asking D1 was it cool if we came to stay with him for a few months, while we looked for our own place. He was cool with it. So the last week in January 2015, we both moved in with D1. A1 was very promiscuous & had a crush on D1, even though he was already in a relationship AND cheating on the person he was in a relationship with. They once slept together but D1 told me that he's not interested in a relationship with A1 because he's a liar and a cheater. A1 traveled often, so he was only with D1 and I on occasion. But I was always there. I had no job and was living off of the money I saved. As the weeks rolled by, D1 and I noticed we had a really deep connection. He became one of my closest friends. There was some physical attraction but it was his spirit that attracted me to him and vice versa. I didn't really understand this attraction, so I kind've ignored it. Each day, our connection grew stronger and stronger. We even slept in the same bed everyday, even though our relationship was platonic. Until one day, he was sleep & I tried to tell him to move over & he woke up out of his sleep and took off all my clothes. We made love for the first time. The next week was so weird to me. I felt bad because I knew A1 liked him, even though he was somewhere sleeping around. I felt uncomfortable because I never really felt this way about a guy before. I could tell he liked me a lot. He would kiss me every day before he went to work & I would never initiate the kisses because I was nervous. I wasn't ready for all of this. And mind you, a week before I moved to LA, I broke off my long distance relationship with another Libra male that I had talked to for 2 years, because he wasn't sure of what he wanted. D1 was there to keep me comfort during my breakup, so I got over my ex very quickly. But once I started falling for D1, it was a very fearful thing. We jumped into the relationship really fast. We made it official on June 11th, 2015. I was traveling often, in and out of LA, for side gigs but every time I was gone, our relationship was fearful. D1 had trust issues from previous relationships. And I was hanging around A1 a lot & didn't give D1 a whole lot of a attention. And ultimately, hanging with A1 all the time led to me cheating on D1 & messing around with other guys. He found out and we decided to take things slower. I found out about stuff he was doing behind my back as well but he puts most of the blame on me, for our relationship going sour. We stayed together until Nov 24th, 2016... (story will continue..)
My Libra Ex
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After the breakup, I went into the darkest stage of my life. I moved back home to NY, with my parents. I contemplated suicide at once point. I believe our relationship is a Twin Flame relationship because of how connected we are & all the synchronicities that happen between us. But today, 7 months later... we are both still in love. We talk almost every day & have helped each other heal the wounds we inflicted on each other. But we're so far apart now & he doesn't want a long distance relationship. And he's still struggling with completely forgiving me. And even though he has trust issues, he tells me he completely trusts me and that he would let me all the way back in. But he can't be with me because he wants to be able to come home to me at night.
He also tells me that he's not looking for anyone else or sleeping around because no one can fullfill him in the ways that I can.
My question is... what should I do— We're both still in love but so far a part & idk where our lives are going to take us from here, but we have such an intimate relationship and we're not even together. I'm afraid that one day he'll find someone and drop me. But I do know that no one will ever be able to connect with him the way I did. I just don't know what do... I love him so much. He loves me so much. But he's on the path of finding himself & I'm over here hung up on him all the time... wishing there was a way for us to work this out.
After the breakup, I went into the darkest stage of my life. I moved back home to NY, with my parents. I contemplated suicide at once point. I believe our relationship is a Twin Flame relationship because of how connected we are & all the synchronicities that happen between us. But today, 7 months later... we are both still in love. We talk almost every day & have helped each other heal the wounds we inflicted on each other. But we're so far apart now & he doesn't want a long distance relationship. And he's still struggling with completely forgiving me. And even though he has trust issues, he tells me he completely trusts me and that he would let me all the way back in. But he can't be with me because he wants to be able to come home to me at night.
He also tells me that he's not looking for anyone else or sleeping around because no one can fullfill him in the ways that I can.
My question is... what should I do— We're both still in love but so far a part & idk where our lives are going to take us from here, but we have such an intimate relationship and we're not even together. I'm afraid that one day he'll find someone and drop me. But I do know that no one will ever be able to connect with him the way I did. I just don't know what do... I love him so much. He loves me so much. But he's on the path of finding himself & I'm over here hung up on him all the time... wishing there was a way for us to work this out.
You are right. Even though he told me he's not looking for someone else, he probably does want to date around but I know he's afraid to. He told me last night that he would feel like he's cheating on me if he did something with someone else. And it's the same with me. We've both been celibate since we broke up. And it's kind've hard to think of dating without being tempted turn it into a sexual relationship. And we both have been saving ourselves for when we see each other again, sometime this summer. Maybe after that I'll be able to get some real closure & then start dating. It's just hard going from living with the person I was in love with, to back in my room at my parents house, with no one to vent to about my relationship. Thanks for your advice though. I do want us to work together so we can help each other get to that point of moving on and dating again. But til then, I guess it's just best I focus on myself
So tonight I called D1 & I told him everything I needed to get off my chest. I was very emotional and crying but I found the courage to tell him that if he ever decides that he wants to start dating, that it's okay with me. I told him that I don't want anything coming in between our relationship & I don't ever want him to feel guilty for being interested in someone else. I want him to be able to talk to me about any and everything. We had a really long talk. We were on the phone for a couple hours & we were both able to get clarity on a lot of things.
He thanked me for saying everything I needed to say because none of his 4 exes have ever done that before. They all kept their claims on him, after each of their breakups & he eventually had to block communication & move on. I'm so glad our connection is real & our love is unconditional. We're now stronger than ever & even if we never get back together, I'm glad he knows where his heart is. Thanks so much brandyp for your advice!! You really helped me today!
He thanked me for saying everything I needed to say because none of his 4 exes have ever done that before. They all kept their claims on him, after each of their breakups & he eventually had to block communication & move on. I'm so glad our connection is real & our love is unconditional. We're now stronger than ever & even if we never get back together, I'm glad he knows where his heart is. Thanks so much brandyp for your advice!! You really helped me today!

Gay boy drama is so exhausting.
Tl:dr.
Tl:dr.
Well u should've stopped reading after the first sentence. U chose to be exhausted. Take a nap.
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