My Libra Ex

I'm a Cancer woman who dated a Libra woman. We were together for 4 years. We were on and off after our 2nd year, and then finally I broke up with her early this year. We still continued seeing each other "as friends" because she was the one who wanted to remain friends. I don't feel we were just friendly to each tother though. We didn't kiss and al but we took care of each other, buy each other things, text everyday. Coupley stuff minus the physical. However, there was a time when I started declining her invites cause I was seeing someone new already. She still continued being sweet with me, invited me for my birthday (July) and treated me lunch even though she was sick and I even had gifts from her. Just two weeks ago she invited me out again and I gave her gifts from my recent trip. Whenever we saw each other, I felt she wanted to fix things but she never vocalized it. I on the other hand but stop things when she would act like a girlfriend. I'd decline discreetly. Last week, she told me shes with someone already, a man. Which caught me off guard cause she normally just dates women. Apparently shes been dating men ever since after me. We still talk everyday--ask each other's opinion about things, random thoughts, etc.

Do you think she is still interested? I am asking because I think I still am. I'm ok with her being with someone now maybe we need to date other people for us to appreciate each other more. Maybe we still have a future together. But I can't really tell.. She said she loves the man already, but I don't feel that she is completely happy.

You're an asshole.

I don't want to be with her: Libra stays friendly (avoiding confrontation)

I don't want to be with her, but I buy her things: Libra continues to buy things just like you.

I don't want to be with her so I start dating someone else: Libra starts dating

Libra begins to really fall for someone else: You want to be with her.

I think she was just being friendly and depending on how long you were together if there was a friendship before hand, it's a possibility she just wanted to be a friend again. Some are really able to just be friends with exes...

But to want her now after saying the whole time you didn't want her? Just let her move on.

Sorry, quite hard to explain my side in detail.

I felt I was loving her more and it hurt so much loving her when we were together, cause I was giving my 100% and she was giving maybe 50% when she's in a good mood. When I left, I felt she wanted to try harder, but I felt her efforts weren't enough.

I am letting her move on. I never asked for her back. I'm just curious if she is happy being with her new person or if she wanted to fix things. She's a person with high pride and she never says those things to me--if she wants me back, if she wants to try again, etc.

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Posted by allyouneedisloveandwine
I'm a Cancer woman who dated a Libra woman. We were together for 4 years. We were on and off after our 2nd year, and then finally I broke up with her early this year. We still continued seeing each other "as friends" because she was the one who wanted to remain friends. I don't feel we were just friendly to each tother though. We didn't kiss and al but we took care of each other, buy each other things, text everyday. Coupley stuff minus the physical. However, there was a time when I started declining her invites cause I was seeing someone new already. She still continued being sweet with me, invited me for my birthday (July) and treated me lunch even though she was sick and I even had gifts from her. Just two weeks ago she invited me out again and I gave her gifts from my recent trip. Whenever we saw each other, I felt she wanted to fix things but she never vocalized it. I on the other hand but stop things when she would act like a girlfriend. I'd decline discreetly. Last week, she told me shes with someone already, a man. Which caught me off guard cause she normally just dates women. Apparently shes been dating men ever since after me. We still talk everyday--ask each other's opinion about things, random thoughts, etc.

Do you think she is still interested? I am asking because I think I still am. I'm ok with her being with someone now maybe we need to date other people for us to appreciate each other more. Maybe we still have a future together. But I can't really tell.. She said she loves the man already, but I don't feel that she is completely happy.

You sound like you only want your own wants and not her, it's why you want to remain friends, do you ever step up to the platye and ask her out? have her feelings in your own mind?

Sure i'm a Cancer i understand we need to be cautious, but i am no user.

Sort your shit out.



You are in it for the emotional stability, she wants a friend.

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She was the one who asked for the friendship, not me. I've always wanted us to work it out, but working it out was one sided. Always me working for both of us to be fixed.. I guess it is hard to explain to others when you're not in my position. You didn't experience how selfish she was to me. I didn't complain about any of the efforts I made for her, until now that we have been broken up. I started understanding what my friends were saying about her and I kept defending her when I was still in love. Anyway, typing all this down made me more sure I was in the wrong relationship and just back away. Thanks everyone for your effort replying.

Posted by allyouneedisloveandwine

Posted by NINETYNINE

Posted by allyouneedisloveandwine
I'm a Cancer woman who dated a Libra woman. We were together for 4 years. We were on and off after our 2nd year, and then finally I broke up with her early this year. We still continued seeing each other "as friends" because she was the one who wanted to remain friends. I don't feel we were just friendly to each tother though. We didn't kiss and al but we took care of each other, buy each other things, text everyday. Coupley stuff minus the physical. However, there was a time when I started declining her invites cause I was seeing someone new already. She still continued being sweet with me, invited me for my birthday (July) and treated me lunch even though she was sick and I even had gifts from her. Just two weeks ago she invited me out again and I gave her gifts from my recent trip. Whenever we saw each other, I felt she wanted to fix things but she never vocalized it. I on the other hand but stop things when she would act like a girlfriend. I'd decline discreetly. Last week, she told me shes with someone already, a man. Which caught me off guard cause she normally just dates women. Apparently shes been dating men ever since after me. We still talk everyday--ask each other's opinion about things, random thoughts, etc.

Do you think she is still interested? I am asking because I think I still am. I'm ok with her being with someone now maybe we need to date other people for us to appreciate each other more. Maybe we still have a future together. But I can't really tell.. She said she loves the man already, but I don't feel that she is completely happy.

You sound like you only want your own wants and not her, it's why you want to remain friends, do you ever step up to the platye and ask her out? have her feelings in your own mind?

Sure i'm a Cancer i understand we need to be cautious, but i am no user.

Sort your shit out.



You are in it for the emotional stability, she wants a friend.

She was the one who asked for the friendship, not me. I've always wanted us to work it out, but working it out was one sided. Always me working for both of us to be fixed.. I guess it is hard to explain to others when you're not in my position. You didn't experience how selfish she was to me. I didn't complain about any of the efforts I made for her, until now that we have been broken up. I started understanding what my friends were saying about her and I kept defending her when I was still in love. Anyway, typing all this down made me more sure I was in the wrong relationship and just back away. Thanks everyone for your effort replying.

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Unfortunately, some Libras are notorious users. They view people as commodities that serve them and not as individuals with feelings. Those are the ones to keep at arm's length.