My Libra girl pulled away on me. I need help! (Page 2)

Ok so big update.

We talked before Christmas and she came to see me! She's visiting for 10 days and leaving this wknd. She spent Xmas with my family and I met some of hers, including her father. All has been great so far.

She said she pulled away bc she wasn't sure what decision was right. Which is what you all told me. So we're gonna go with it and try to make it work.

Of course, maybe she'll change her mind again but she would not spend 10 days with me and my family if there were not any true feelings.

I'll keep you posted on the latest but so far everything has been great. But now I know to keep a little space when she is stressed and give her breathing room to recharge.

In the end, as much as the libra talk is relevant, I was just myself and never gave up my love for her.

Hopefully there is a happy ending ever after.

Happy Holidays to all and thanks for listening to my insanity. The love, conversation, and sex has been all good 😉

Good to know! Good luck to both of you aqualicous! 🙂

If libra girl tells you she doesn't have any feeling or don't contact her... she means it 😢
Sorry, aqua.

My advice is leaving her alone for now. Let her decide and solve things by herself. She will miss you and the time you guys were together (talking).
And she will come back if she likes you.

Anyway... I have a crush on aqua guy right now too. Hopefully he's like you 🙂

OH... I just read your updating... GREAT! You're special for sure if she spend time with you and your family for 10 days!!

So we had a fallout. She got the flu while staying with me. I took care of her all week. We had plans for NYE. She told me it's ok if I go out bc she'll be sleeping anyway. I was "tested". I told her I'll stay with her and she said again it's ok to go out. So I trusted our feelings and went out with my brother. Was texting her throughout the night to keep in contact. I told her I'd be back soon but I got back later than I told her. She got really pissed after. I told her I just figured she'd be sleeping and I didn't think much of it. I had confidence in us. She told me she was "testing" me and I failed. Anyway, became a whole scene about how I ditched her and she left with not wanting anything to do with me. Again....

We had a great time together. Met each other's families. I was really good to her. Even with the flu, I read her bedtime stories, just was really sweet. This came out of left field.

So now back to square one.

I don't know if I can recover from this

She sounds like an arsehole, sorry!! Nobody needs anybody treating them like that. Disappear on her and see how she feels.

Thanks Sola. Yea it sucks. I acted on her words and got slammed for it. This after all the work I put in to get her back. Her family structure is all messed up and she has some deep issues.

She got real nasty too verbally. Taunting me about the "child" I am etc.

Anyway, it's hurtful but maybe for the best in the end. I'm stronger now. I'm not contacting her.

You should thank all the encouraging asshats in this thread for encouraging you to chase such a cunt bag.

Go ahead. Thank them. You're clearly happy and enjoying life at the moment due to her very telling actions.

Next time, listen to logic and do NOT act on words. ACTIONS.

Sorry to get so bitchy, but it seriously pisses me off when people encourage someone to chase after something that will clearly do them some sort of harm. It indicates some pretty moronic mindsets.

Glad you're taking it as a learning experience, because now you know what to avoid/not bother with in the future. Sometimes it just takes experience to go "holy crap, they aren't joking" when it comes to some of the "rules" of dating.

Chicks like this Libra need to be cunt punched. That shit pisses me off too. Women have to fight off a lot of retarded stereotypes and bitches like her make it hard to move away from that shit. Hope she contracts crotch rot.

Lol thanks. I'm not without fault though. I did leave her and didn't communicate properly. But what I tried to explain was it was late anyway (2am). I figured she was sleeping anyway and trusted her words.

It sucks. We had a great 8 days together and it blew up over spilled milk. She has abandonment issues though. I believe. But she should have seen all the good too.

Plus I paid for everything too, flight included! Lol

The only blame you should be taking is that you decided to give her a chance despite all the red flags. She just proved that she wasn't worth the chase, tbh.

The rest is on her. She basically was setting you up, which is manipulative and ridiculous. "Testing?" Puhlease. Regardless of choice, she would have found something wrong with whatever you'd decided.

I'm sure if you'd stayed, she would have found a way to spin it so you were to blame for making her feel bad for ruining your NYE.

Yes I feel I was totally setup! her family loved me too. But even her brother told me be careful bc she is a flake.

And this was the first time I did something like this. Actually when we last met in Florida all my friends and brother were there and we stayed in on 2 nights alone while they all went out and partied etc.

She used it as a way out and was able to see her family bc of me. And I was an awesome host. Even with the flu I was at her side 24/7 except that night.

She complained I was too needy then I wasn't there for her lol

But I'll be honest. I feel bad for her. I think she has major issues and no one to help guide her. I still love her very much. I would have stuck it out long term

Yea it's crazy. I mean I get it. I told her I'd be back and came back late without texting. But she really flipped. She was sleeping and my parents were home bc they're visiting too. It wasn't like l left her on the street corner and never picked her up. She's bipolar. It explains her mood swings and constant back and forth.

Posted by Aqualicous
Yes I feel I was totally setup! her family loved me too. But even her brother told me be careful bc she is a flake.

And this was the first time I did something like this. Actually when we last met in Florida all my friends and brother were there and we stayed in on 2 nights alone while they all went out and partied etc.

She used it as a way out and was able to see her family bc of me. And I was an awesome host. Even with the flu I was at her side 24/7 except that night.

Wait, so you paying for her plane ticket to come see you for the holidays also enabled her to see her own family as well since she was in the area?

Yes. Her father and brother are here near me. She had no plans for holidays. She was gonna be alone. I went out, called her at midnight to wish her happy new year and told her I would be home soon. but I ended up staying out bc i left late from my friends and just figured she'd be sleeping anyway. I didn't tell her I would be late. So after I got back she told me I ditched her and I chose friends over her and that I'm too committed to my social life for her. This is so not true.

Anyway, we had made plans to hang nxt wknd too. So now I'm left here alone trying to make sense of it all. Oh, during our argument, she also packed her bag and stormed out of our house bc I wouldn't "leave" her alone.

Crazy no?

Dude, she only did it to use you. That "test" was just her get out of jail free card. You got played.

Again, what a cunt. Be done with that nonsense.

I don't believe it though bc the flight wasn't cheap and she even told me we can do another time so not to pay so much. It's hard to read

No, it's not.

You only have one life, would you not rather be happy in it than destroy yourself with this crap? Somebody amazing is out there who will fit you properly..It isn't her.

I know you are all right. But don't forget my own sign. Aquarians want to save the world. I feel like I "triggered" some deep emotions. I know I am not the cause.

It just pains me to see someone I care for hurt. I'm hurt too but I understand it better now. But I know I'm putting too much pressure on myself.

I know she's a good person deep down. Although her episodes bring out a very dark and nasty person

Sucks

I talked to her last night. First time in 2 weeks. It started out pleasant but then it got ugly in that she was still adamant about not getting back together.

She said there were other things that she didn't like as well. But when I asked for specifics she wouldn't tell me. It wasn't worth her time.

Then she goes on about how she needs someone who already has a foundation and that I'm too old to change. And that my communication is poor bc I don't listen to her. Which is so not true.

What's going thru her mind at this point? Why so much intense anger at me? I don't know why I still bother. She told me to let her go and don't contact her again.

All because I made a series of "bad judgement" calls in her mind.

Nvm, I forgot that Aquas are a fixed sign.

You're an absolute lost cause and I suggest you stop wasting everyone's time asking for advice.