No sex for 3 weeks

grrr.....

I couldn't handle it. Wow.

Now you feel me HP. What happened with the Libra since the Lexus thing? Have you heard from him since? I am going to assume there hasn't been anymore encounters... Sorry, I haven't been on this site in a few days.

Thats rough.

QS, I had surgery Friday. Mr. Libra and I have been in touch, but we both decided (mainly me) that we coudln't do anymore late-night BMW romps. He called me today to check up on me.

Oh that is right. HP I hope everything is well after surgery. I know you will be fine. So did you and the Libra deside to stop with the bene's in general?

yes we stopped. i finally let loose of my dry spell of 6 months and my darn conscience kicks in.

If it was great, why stop, I thought you didn't mine the friends with bene's with him. Is it too much? Feelings get more envolved?

feelings were already involved. i couldn't fool myself. but it's for the best, right?

Try no sex, like, ever!

yay hp you made it out the other side 🙂...3 weeks isn't THAT long 😛

HP.. How are you doing?? Must be okay if you're already thinking about sex...
three-weeks, three-weeks... I can not feel sympathetic for you.. try 6 months and no prospects.. but actually, I don't even want to have sex.. too many complications.. I just have fun daydreaming about the possibilities...

Hi aquarianbrat!

"try 6 months and no prospects.. but actually, I don't even want to have sex.. too many complications.. I just have fun daydreaming about the possibilities..."

Yes that's the spirit. D'you know, I felt better about myself and more balanced a few months ago before I started hanging out with my cancerguy. Cos I was content without having a sex life. Now he's screwing with my head as well as my body!! I say to you aquarianbrat, you're not missing out on much unless the sex is high class and has sinecerity and affection, you're better of celibate. So enjoy!

Aquarianbrat,

That does help straiten things out a bit, I did a celebacy stint of 11 months with only one "accident" and it helped me sort out a lot of stuff regarding relationships and sex.

like i said, i went 6 months before that late night romp. so i know i can go 3 weeks. i'm sure i'll go longer...but it was just one of the things on the "Do Not Do" list that sticks out.

Brat surgery went well - still taking some pain meds, but should be back to my ol' self in about a week. thanks for asking. 🙂

Yeah HP, that is the best choice overall. Good that you guys can still be friends. That is a libra for you. It is easy to transfer a relationship from one thing to a next without too much drama.

Hmmm, it has been about 6 weeks for me but I do have my battery operating partners... Hehehee...

Thanks, Ms. Leebra. Here's hoping you all have a grand 2007! 🙂

Thanks HP and same to you. 🙂

** I did have casual sex, but I just wanted them to leave after the act.

I am kind of the same. There is the door, don't let it hit you on the way out!

I think mixing friendship with sex and you are attracted to the person is just a slow way to torture yourself. If you aren't attracted to them, then go for it.

Ya know?

KennyG

If you see this, how many years were you single for?

I can certainly second the slow torture thing by mixing f/ship and sex.....I think its pretty much impossible for one if not both people to get attached after a while and this mostly causes pain damnit

Im there!!

esp. for the girl...why is that? grrr

coz men don't feel the way we do....we seem to get attached when they can remain detached and just go for the physical side even when you think all the signs are there that they might be into you. Sad but true. Women aren't wired the same way!! But having said that, I believe in many cases the guy might get attached too but won't act on it for many reasons...could be shy, fear of rejection (not knowing what the other feels), etc.....loads of reasons I guess.

I think there is a fine line which gets crossed many times causing a great deal of pain....FWB? How on earth you can't get attached if you're friends and talk, laugh, share your life in many ways plus the sex is beyond me. Personally if you want to have a casual relationship its best to do the deed and not spend the night together cuddling, talking yada yada yada...its just a recipe for pain unless you are that good at keeping emotions out of it....Id find that difficult and not a man LOL

Thanks for getting back to me KennyG.

🙂

That is why it has to be a friend you wouldn't date. Otherwise you are deluding yourself and will be crushed when he shows up at a party with a date.

Friends with benefits is not dating.