Not sure

I will go to the beginning

Met a guy on a dating site, we hit it off and saw each other for a couple months. I never knew where I stood with him and I pulled away and we staopped talking. He contacted me again a few months later nd we talked and I asked him what he wanted from me, he said "to hang out" I told him that was not waht I wanted and I stopped talking to him again. One day he contacted me again on the dating site, not knowing it was me and all he said is "well this is the 3rd time, must be the charm". We started talking and he told me that he was lost the last time I stopped talking to him, he said "when you said we shouldnt talk anymore I was not sure what to do to fix it" instead he opted to just fade away. about 2-3 weeks later I get a txt from him and he says "do you like seeing me" I answered Yes I do but I do not care for this hot/cold game we have going on. He said he understood. He opened up to me more than he ever has during that conversation and I said to him Do you realize this is the mosxt open you have ever ben with me? He said "Yes I do". I asked him what he wanted, he said "you on my lap kissing me" Then he said "that is my fasntasy of you, well and other things too". Then he said "I see you laying beside me and I am holding you, then I wake up and you are not there, this happens a lot, what does that even mean?" I said oh so I guess you think about me too, he said Yes I do. I asked him again what he wanted from me and he said to take it day by day and see what happens, so I said ok.

Then my daughter was in a near fatal wreck and I had to leave the country to be with her, he understood and kept in touch asking how she was etc. I came back and I felt he was distant again, well I flat out asked him what he wanted, he got silent. A couple days later we were talking again, and we made plans to se each other and they fell thru because something unexpected came up with h is daughter I understand that. I have to admit I was feeling very emotional and since my daughters accident had adopted the thought of "you have to tell others how you feel beause you may not get another chance"....so I we were talking and I asked him if I was ever going to get past the wall he has up he said "time will tell". I got upset and told him that I felt like he did not want to be with me and I would leave him alone and not bother him anymore....that fell thru a couple days later, when I misssed him so much I coulnt stand it so I texted I mis

I sent him a text saying "I miss you" he replied and we started talking again. Last night I asked him if he still wanted the "fantasy" he had.....I never got a reply and his son started txting me from his phone about a job opening I have, so I figured he did not see it, so I asked him again later if he had missed my question or just did not want to answer it.....I did not hear from him. I asked him to meet me after work this morning for 5 monutes, he works nights and I was on my way to work when he got off, I got no reply. So i sent him a message which I now think maybe was abig mistake....I said that I was sorry for being emotional but since my daughters accident (3 weeks ago now) I have been a little emotional and just feel I want to know what others are feeling because basically I have faced my own mortality seeing my daughter struggle to survive. Told him I was sorry if I appeared to be pushing him, it wasnt meant to be pushing, I just wanted to know what was going on. Told him if he wanted to talk to let me know, but that I was done trying to be with him and never knowing where I stood. I also told him it was not that I did not want to be with him because I did, just that was done chasing him. I have not heard anything back.....

I also told him we have been doing this hot/;cold thing for 6 months now and to me that is long enough to decide if you want to be with someone or not, no?

Did I make a big mistake saying that too him? Like I said I know I may have pushed him or made him feel like I was pushing, I really wasnt. My emotions are just not all back in check yet......I exxplained that too.

How do I make this right?? Please help, I have really fallen for him.

Oh and we have not slept together, everytime we seem to get close we dont for a number of reasons, but it also seems like everytime we get close like that we fall apart again....I just do not get it

Glad your daughter was okay!

Since he's not responding, I would just leave it be. Honestly, if he was into you, you wouldn't be having these questions/feelings/thoughts.

Truecap, that is waht I would think too, but then he comes back and wants to try again. Said he is just trying not to get hurt.

My daughter, has almost the entire left side of her body broken, she has her jaw wired shut and has had surgery on a badly broken p[elvis and back. Every bone in the left side of her face is broken, most of her ribs, her arm, leg and had a ruptured spleen and lacerated liver. She is out of the woods now, but still has a long way to go. She is only 21

He is fine until I ask him about his feelings, then he clams up

He's not into you and the only reason he keeps coming back is because he hasn't "conquered" this situation and made it his. Libra guys tend to come back into situations over and over until THEY think it's done. If they aren't the one making that choice, they'll just keep coming back until they're in a spot to make that choice that it's all DONE.

Then they're done, and *poof*

You already pointed out the obvious. SIX MONTHS of hot and cold? Seriously? I would have dropped that ages ago. What a waste of time and energy. Move on, chica. When you're tied up with this bullshit you could be missing out on someone who won't do this to you. I dunno about you, but I'd rather have someone that didn't jerk me around.

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Truecap, that is waht I would think too, but then he comes back and wants to try again. Said he is just trying not to get hurt.

My daughter, has almost the entire left side of her body broken, she has her jaw wired shut and has had surgery on a badly broken p[elvis and back. Every bone in the left side of her face is broken, most of her ribs, her arm, leg and had a ruptured spleen and lacerated liver. She is out of the woods now, but still has a long way to go. She is only 21

Wow!!! She's lucky to be alive! But oh, what a slow, painful, healing process. Sending prayers!

Actually I did not ask him anything about where we stood till about 4 months into it. By then I figured I deserved to know.

thank you for the prayer and good thoughts for my daughter. I have a good support system so I dont believe that is it. Really not sure what it is, never in my life have I put up with shit like this from anyone!! But something about him is different. It is funny about 10 minutes after I posted this thread he texted, and then called later last evening. He has a wall up that is clear, not sure if it will ever be gone. His ex wife hurt him very bad. Now he is afraid