Pining over someone?

Someone giving you mixed signals? Lower the value you place on them. Start dating other people again. Distract yourself with lots of activities you have never tried before. Four months is too long to wait for someone to ask you out. And if you can't ask them out yourself it is probably because you're unsure of how they feel about you and if you're unsure about how they feel about you and they're not giving clear indication that they like you. So go back to rule number one lower their value and date other people. Just my thought for the day.

Yeah 4 months is way to long, more than likely he has a woman.

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Posted by ladylibra21
Someone giving you mixed signals? Lower the value you place on them. Start dating other people again. Distract yourself with lots of activities you have never tried before. Four months is too long to wait for someone to ask you out. And if you can't ask them out yourself it is probably because you're unsure of how they feel about you and if you're unsure about how they feel about you and they're not giving clear indication that they like you. So go back to rule number one lower their value and date other people. Just my thought for the day.

Doesn't that apply both ways?

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What do you mean?

Posted by librawomen7
Yeah 4 months is way to long, more than likely he has a woman.

I thought he was pretty single until this morning when I passed him speeding late to work on the highway. This Cap is never late and he played it off like he had been sitting at work for a while when I got there and he has been weird lately I definitely think there is someone else I gotta let go but everytime I try pull away he spots on that I am putting up a wall.

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Posted by ladylibra21
Someone giving you mixed signals? Lower the value you place on them. Start dating other people again. Distract yourself with lots of activities you have never tried before. Four months is too long to wait for someone to ask you out. And if you can't ask them out yourself it is probably because you're unsure of how they feel about you and if you're unsure about how they feel about you and they're not giving clear indication that they like you. So go back to rule number one lower their value and date other people. Just my thought for the day.

Doesn't that apply both ways?

What do you mean?

I mean this part

"And if you can't ask them out yourself it is probably because you're unsure of how they feel about you and if you're unsure about how they feel about you and they're not giving clear indication that they like you."

Don't they also deserve to take the benefit of the doubt?

Overall though, I agree with you. Lower the value of the attraction. It sounds like two people who are attracted but just don't have the spark. Sometimes it's just timing.

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Whatever it is I am to the point I want to leave my job because I am afraid I will spew out how I feel to him one day and he won't feel the same

Posted by strawberrykush
Don't leave your job over a guy

I want something differs anyway. It would be different if we weren't in the same department but being hat close to someone you love everyday and not being able to tell them is quite painful.

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Posted by strawberrykush
Don't leave your job over a guy

I want something differs anyway. It would be different if we weren't in the same department but being hat close to someone you love everyday and not being able to tell them is quite painful.

Yeah you're right.

How long have you known him?

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For a year he would flirt with another co worker at first and k even tried to get her to go after him because I told myself I am his admin if someone else has him that will help me move on she fell in love with someone else and then we started getting closer talking a lot and learning a lot about each other he has a big heart although he tries to hide it and he can read me like a book I hate it I have never had a man read me so clearly and he is just a real stand up guy he gives a damn about people so maybe I've misinterpreted this as interest but he mostly keeps to himself but we have lots of laughs and some seriousl conversations too about our families and things we like to do, but it has been about a good 6 months that people around us started noticing the connection and he still hasn't done anything so he must not be interested.

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Posted by strawberrykush
Don't leave your job over a guy

I want something differs anyway. It would be different if we weren't in the same department but being hat close to someone you love everyday and not being able to tell them is quite painful.

Yeah you're right.

How long have you known him?

For a year he would flirt with another co worker at first and k even tried to get her to go after him because I told myself I am his admin if someone else has him that will help me move on she fell in love with someone else and then we started getting closer talking a lot and learning a lot about each other he has a big heart although he tries to hide it and he can read me like a book I hate it I have never had a man read me so clearly and he is just a real stand up guy he gives a damn about people so maybe I've misinterpreted this as interest but he mostly keeps to himself but we have lots of laughs and some seriousl conversations too about our families and things we like to do, but it has been about a good 6 months that people around us started noticing the connection and he still hasn't done anything so he must not be interested.

Have you two spent any time together outside of work?

Maybe he's thinking you're the one not interested. Is there a chance he couldve tried to make you jealous with the other girl?

You both have Sagittarius Venus right?

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No and I have simply asked him To go places before once I out right ask him and said hey if you really want to do yoga I can teach you some things we can go to the park Layout to Matt and he said that sounds really good I really need to do it for my back pain or whatever then I say what do you want to go today and he was like I guess I have to do it one of these days and I said oh so that means no LOL And he didn't respond to that text but that next couple days and weeks so we started talking about personal things And I felt like he was tested me out of it maybe I failed I don't know I

Yo you both have Sag Venus

Disregard my last message I didn't know you made the first move already. I would prefer distancing yourself from him at work as much as you can. After asking him out and him not taking you up on your offer I would take that as someone who is not interested or already involved with someone else as well.

Posted by dontwant2fitinn
Disregard my last message I didn't know you made the first move already. I would prefer distancing yourself from him at work as much as you can. After asking him out and him not taking you up on your offer I would take that as someone who is not interested or already involved with someone else as well.

You are probably right sigh