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he does anymore. He says hes not having this conversation and I turn around and say I always have to come to you, always have to call you, text you, come see you, cuddle up with you. Do you get off torturing me? What you did last night was unacceptable, what you've done in the past with other girls, whether you brought them home or not, I'll never know because I never seen you actually SCREW someone else but it's unacceptable. You get pissed when I act like this but how do you want me to act? I love you and care about you, if you were to see this on my computer, or see me leaving the bar holding someones hand, or see me flirting with some other dude and completely ignoring you all night HOW WOULD YOU ACT? Do you know what it's like dealing with you. He eventually says he's gonna try, and he promises...but now I can't help but wonder what he's really doing tonight. Is he going out on a date? Is he telling the truth? Are there other girls? I can't do this anymore. It's not right. I may have pulled a few stunts at his job but the things he does to me are straight wrong and I need to just walk away. It hurts so much because I do love him and I don't understand this at all. 10 months, 10 months. If you don't care why did you ever answer me after this fight? Why come back to me? I don't know what to do anymore. Any advice is appreciated although walking away probably is the smartest thing to do.

I thought distrust makes a scorp leave? I might be wrong but walking away is the best way. Can you imagine going through that negative thinking everyday, it isn't exactly a relationship per say.

I'm a Scorpio to the T except for when it comes to walking away, it's impossible for me to do. This whole relationship has been negative thinking and wondering. I really don't think he's on this "booze cruise", I left him at 9:19 when he was walking to the bar to meet up with the people. None of his coworkers are on it and none of them went to the meetings either, just the managers and upper people. He's neither, just a bartender. The more I think of it the less sense it makes. His co-workers GF (she's a bartender the boyfriends a manager) posted 3 hours ago about the cruise. Idk. Just tried calling too and no answer.

Distrust doesn't usually make a Scorp leave.. it makes them obsess. And dig for proof of their suspicions 😢

nOvbaby... you said your whole relationship has been negative thinking and wondering... that must feel just awful to you inside. And our inside feelings tend to show outside, no matter how "cool" or "understanding" we try to pretend to be. We can't PRETEND things like this, it always backfires, because it's not real, and it's not honest.

I get the feeling you think what he's doing recently with other girls (the looking and flirting) is WRONG, some kind of borderline cheating, because you're still in love with him and because your relationship issues are still not dealt with. But the truth is (as gently as possible here, I'm NOT trying to hurt you!) you two are not together right now, EVEN IF you're occasionally seeing each other. Sucks, I know. Burns you up inside. How can a man spend 9-10 mos with a woman and POOF.. a week after some fucked up version of a break up, he's chasing other girls? Cuz they can. And often do. YOU worrying and obsessing (and questioning him) about everything he's doing right now is not good FOR YOU. It's messing YOU up inside, twisting you all up, and making you feel and act like a clingy, needy, overemotional wreck, instead of the strong, powerful, beautiful, amazing woman you are.

So what can you do? First of all, get busy in YOUR life, and stop worrying and obsessing about him and what he's doing. Do things that make YOU happy and centered. Go to the beach, get a haircut or a makeover, buy those cute sandals, read a book, get a facial, whatever YOU really LIKE to do. keep doing these things. And don't call or text him, don't chase him. The happier you make you, the busier and more content you get in your life, the more he'll look and think, "Wait.. something's different.. something's changed. What is it? Why isn't she calling me? Did she get over me that quick? OMG, is there another guy??" Guys love to be with happy women who make them feel GOOD inside just being around them. Your vibe is desperately unhappy and insecure right now, and it's making things worse, and pushing him away. I'm going to mail you something to help you get off this merry-go-round of negative thinking and obsession, to help you find your center again. I think it could help you a lot.

Your completely right sweetie, thanks for that. It's 100% true too, I've never ever been like this and it's not healthy and it's not like me at all either. He has made me feel terribly insecure by his actions and it's driving me up every single wall possible. And yes, we aren't together (maybe we are right now after the talk we had today about him trying and he said he hasn't been with anyone else and he's gonna continue that) but even if we are and things go back to the way...I can't even say that. They're the same as they were before. I'm not a stupid girl in any shape or form and his dating history is like a parade of trainwrecks. Cheating, multiple girlfriends, compulsive lying etc. it just makes me even worse knowing what I know about him and than seeing the way he acts...it's very hard to believe him you know? I need to take my mind off of him somehow. I unfortunately don't have the greatest of friends who'll hang out or even meet up so that's hard also. Not much of a help in the distraction area. Also working at the bar now (not his exactly but a partner bar) I'm not working everyday. I only work the days the Mets are home! Having too much time on my hands plus being obsessive and in love with him is not a good combination at all!

Can I just add my 2 cents here....Novababy...I can't take it anymore.... There is a BIG difference between the words "then" and "than". Sorry, but I have to tell you this as it is killing me everytime you misuse this word. "Don't play childish games. Don't say one thing, THAN another and than do something else!" (you, 6/21 5:32:01 PM) Here, you should have used the word THEN, meaning next, or soon after. The word THAN is used to compare things.. i.e I'd rather eat hot dogs than hamburgers.

Ok, I haven't read your prior posts, but from the comments I have read about them, you have must have some history of causing a scene as your beau's job. Whether he sells snow cones from a stand or runs a fortune 500 company, who are YOU to determine how seriously he takes HIS job? I'm sorry, but this doesn't sound like a Libra issue. ANY man, regardless of his Zodiac sign, would cut a woman loose if she caused a scene at his job! And from the little I know about dating a Libra the past 6 months, they are private people who don't openly connect their business and personal lives. If this man stayed with you given the fact that you have make a spectical at his job, you were LUCKY. For you to engage in pattern of behavior that clearly indicates that you have little respect for his place of employment, let alone respect for yourself, probably turned him OFF. Even if this man did something to warrant such actions by you, as you say he is not innocent and has done things to embarrass you as well, one of you has to be the ADULT. I mean, I wouldn't date anyone so immature that he can't control his emotions enough to not come to my job and cause a scene. Would you— You two are not teenagers here. I can't fathom 2 adults being so out of control that one would cause the other to jeopardize his job! He'd be insane to stay in a relationship in which you continuously cause problems where he works! My advice: Leave him to himself and focus on YOU. You really need to gain control of your anger/emotions and be certain you are really ready to be dating. Seriously, you could show off at the WRONG man's job and end up paying some serious consequenecs for it...He could easily file harassment charges against you and get a restraining order. I'm sure you've given his boss/co-workers enough evidence to use against you.

And let me say, it seems you have made the decision to walk away from this situation. I applaud your strength. One thing my Libra male told me comes to mind here: If someone isn't good for you, then that person is BAD for you. There is no in between. You live once. So if a man can't bring you joy, he has to be bringing you sorrow, and why would you accept that from anyone? Trust me, I have my own issues with the Libra I was seeing, but I cut the chord and walked away. Day by day, I get a little bit more of me back...you will too. I agree with the previous person's advice about focussing on you. Your prior posts sounded border-line obsessive. You seemed irrational and like you weren't considering the consequences of your actions. That is the definition of insanity. I've been there....may years ago. NEVER give a person that much power over your life. If he is disrespecting you or you feel you can't trust him, walk away. Put the focus on YOU. He'll be back...I hear Libras always return. But the real issue is how will you deal with him when he resurfaces? Its clear that your previous actions weren't working, so what will you do now? You must protect YOU at all costs. Until he proves himself worthy of being close to you, don't allow him to be! I wish you the BEST. Take it 1 day at a time, and I promise, it gets easier. I'm just on day 4 of walking away.....Everynight when I crawl into bed I say to myself, "I'm proud of you! You made it another day without contacting him!" But he warned...once he feels your "presence, attention, energy" pulling away from him, he will surely come running back to you. But you take your power back. Don't deal with him until YOU are ready. Make it on YOUR terms. Something tells me you will realize he never deserved you anyway and you'll rebuff his attempts to get back with you by then anyway....TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR HEART!! ITS A PROCESS, NOT AN OVER-NIGHT FIX.