'Thinking Of. . .

just walking away. . .

its tough to do Atom 😢 Really tough

This really sucks!!!!! Librans sure know how to miss out on good things with all of their sill analyzing and indecisiveness. We are way too grown for that. Night, night...

You guys better not disappear....

Atom, maybe we should hook up? Loneliness is a bitch and disappointment suxxx.

:-)

Couldn't agree more.

But, I thought everything was going good (good for a Libra relationship, but still good is good)... What sparked your thoughts towards a change of heart?!?

alcheme, I hadn't seen her for a week and, yes, she had legitimate excuses but didn't even act like she wanted to get together. Then I had a piano concert that was important to me and she never showed up or called to let me know why. It's like she fell off the face of the earth---which is typical for Libran. I felt very LONELY at a concert I did a pretty good job on---everyone else was a casual acquaintance and none of my family is around, so it would have been NICE for her to attend---and most of the people there have seen me with her at times and probably wondered where she was---so I was hit on by a couple girls there simply because Libra Girl was not there!

Well, I had commited over a week ago to a lunch with her today, but, as written on other posts, I just didn't really want to see her AT ALL. I get tired of her not "getting it" that a relationship should be nurtured and you should share in things that are important to you as individuals also.

So for all you wonderful curious people, here's an UPDATE. Yes I had lunch with her. Didn't mention the concert at all until SHE brought it up and asked how it went. I went into great detail about the entire concert---including getting hit on---and told her "it would have been nice" if she had been there---and she gave me a look like, "Oops, I blew it" and seemed to tear up a little, asked more details about the girls who seemed interested and I just kept it general (AS IN: I'm not interested in them, you Silly Girl!). HER EXCUSE? Was that she got busy doing her paperwork supposably lost track of time and managed to go to an office supply store to pick up items to store files in her office, etc. I didn't react one way or another.

BUT I took her to the nicest steak house in town and LISTENED to her talk about her goals, ideas, etc. She mentioned a few "we should" ideas, but frankly I feel far less emotion for this girl now. Yes, she's beautiful and nice company but now I feel I'm wasting my time if I make too much of an investment. I took her home---DIDN'T TOUCH HER---she acted like she wanted me to kiss her--and I just smiled and took off. SHE said she would like me to call her tomorrow. I may. Libras always have these GREAT excuses why they didn't show up, why they didn't do this or that, why they can't do this or that.

MEANWHILE, Aquarius Girl is getting closer---longer conversations, pressing herself against me and I'm playing it cool with her, BUT she is sure showing interest!

'We should' is either a test or a Freudian slip...

Think she is in test mode. And a very slow and no-risk mover in the love department.
And one that 'feels her emotions' better when there is space between two people than when there is none. More clarity.

But we like the conquering of you so gentle competition is recommendable.

Never forget that when YOU are playing the piano or driving the car or preparing supper or watching the news or wondering what to wear that day, she is still analysing...

Go with her slow flow and see where it takes you. She obviously has a plan...

It's like some of us wrote on another thread, we know beforehand who we're going to be with and if you give her space (on dxp advice, I know), she will take it. Space = time.

Just ride it out...

Thank you, Libra. Mantra: slow flow, slow flow, slow flow. Well, the way it is set up right now, I won't see until at least Wednesday. And, 'cause I get emotionally drained from this strain, HAVE to pull back, pull back, pull back.

She came over for dinner tonight after we worked together during the day. After dinner we watched a movie and she held my hand during the WHOLE movie---I'm talking a GRIP on that girl! And I really felt the emotion going between us.

SO are you saying she's made up her mind and she's just taking it slow to double-check or still figuring it out?

How old is this girl?

I don't know how you are dealing with this as I have no patience for her and I am not even involved in the situation. lol!

little sparrow, she's older than you are. LOL about your patience. Hey, I'm an Aries! This seems impossible for me!

how old do you think I am? It isn't in my profile.

😉

LS, wild guess.

Wow, truly a vexing and heart wrenching situation... How are you hanging in there now? Going to decide to keep trying for a while, or going to give Aqua Girl a try?

Wish I had some words of wisdom, words of ignorance, words of hope, or words of nonsense to offer up, but this has extended too far outside the level of comprehesion and empathy I am capable of to even try to find words at all...

kennyg, you are wonderful. I would have played for YOU and your friends. Some of the audience members told a few friends of mind, "He really burned up the place Friday night." Ha!

Alcheme, any words are GREAT words at this point. Funny thing, I don't have to try with Aqua Girl---she comes running to me, chatting up a storm, batting her lovely green eyes, pressing herself against me. (Hmmmm. I wonder what cologne I'm wearing today?).

Libra Girl IS vexing and confusing and charming and frustrating and magnetic. I do sometimes think she is too selfish or self-centered. Other times, I can't believe how she's let everything go just to spend time with me. MY PROBLEM is I don't know how to read her and sometimes I want a STRAIGHT ANSWER. I'll pour out my heart and then ask, "What do you think?" And she'll say, "I think I'm tired." So is that avoidance? Playing a Game? Too scared to answer? Just her reality? Plain ol' non-commitment?

For all of you to know, I told her the only day I have open this week is Wednesday and asked what time would be best to see her. She said she'd have to check her schedule. So I'm taking the approach that she should call me by Wednesday IF she really wants to get together. Because she KNOWS that's the only time we'll have. I figure if she doesn't call by then I should just let time go by. Yeah, I'd like to call her and set it up---and some on the Libra Board here give me a bad time about "being the boy---you need to call her"---but, MAN, I'm just WORKING all the time just to get together with her! And I'm thinking it will be a clear sign if I don't hear from her.

Do Libras ever get it in their minds that, "Ooops, if I don't act on this NOW to let this guy know he's the one and only one, I'm going to lose him!" ? Or do they really care?---do they think instead, "Someone else will come around. Oh well." I hope not---because I do not admire that in a person at all. What do you think?

Ummmmmm....I think they care, and forgive me, dear Librans, but they are so self-absorbed, they don't consider what the other person is going through, well not much anyway...all in good time from what I can see. Problem is, somebody else usually does come around and they too can enjoy another rollercoaster ride.

Go with the aqua girl and keep the Libra on the backburner I say 😛....yup Im hardening up now LOL

Chatz, THAT may be the best technique. After all, from what ALL of you have told me here, once I put Libra Girl on the backburner she'll come running to me. And Aqua Girl NEEDS the attention (see how I justify it?).

As long as you don't hurt Aqua girl and she realises this might not be a long term thing all is good - don't do the Libra thing ok?? LOL

Im pretty sure my little friend KNOWS Im stewing, that Im spending so much time dwelling...that's how he works, he knows I'll be vulnerable in the next few days/week!!! I just gotta be strong so that I don't become his puppet 😛

Atom, have fun - you have it all in front of you and you don't owe Libra a single thing if she won't give you anything back for all your hard work 😉

Chatz, I'll try to remember that: "have fun - you have it all in front of you and you don't owe Libra a single thing if she won't give you anything back for all your hard work."

You always manage to put a smile on my face and say things that make sense to me. And I certainly will not hurt Aqua Girl---she is a wonderful person. I think she just wants to play.

("Don't do the Libra thing ok?" OMG! How hysterical is THAT!!! I'm crying here! TOO funny!).

well that's what I do...I make people smile - that makes me happy 🙂