Moving on

This is a closure email I sent to my Libra friend today. Come what may...

Email:

Okay obviously I am in a talkative mood today. Since I haven't really heard from you I will write. Just fishing around as I normally do with you when I don't know what is going on with you.

I hope I didn't scare you with our last conversation, however, I need to let some things out and as I know you don't do talks well in person? I appreciate you listening to me when I really needed an ear. You are such a good friend and it is nice to finally be on the other side of listening and supporting for a change/being listened to and supported?

As I explained previously, I am at a different place in my life as far as being involved with someone right now. I think I am ready to start going on dates again. Maybe not in a serious relationship right away, but seriously getting to know someone in a dating perspective. As I have also mentioned that you would be a great candidate :-) however, I knowing what you have been going through understand that even if you wanted to, you might not be able to right now. I understand that it might not be about me either it is just the place you are in right now. Because in the time that we have known each other my understanding of you have gotten clearer, I get you in a weird way. If I am totally wrong on these points let me know.

Just wanted you to know that I do care about you and am attracted to you and think you are an awesome person, however timing sucks sometimes. Wanted it to be said though, so that there will never be a question in your head about it (me and my bluntness). I still cherish you as a great friend regardless of anything else and don't want us to get all weird about this because of my sudden feelings. If we didn't have this friendship initially, then things would be a lot different for me between us right now.

Know that I am here and that I care. Don't shut down on me or run away. Remember I understand you and will accept you for who you are and whatever space you are in right now. I don't know if you will find many or any who are able to do that without the extra drama. Especially female. Still buddies— I know my honesty can bite me in the ass sometimes. I hope this isn't one of those times.


Hopefully he won't run and never speak to me again. I just think we will remain buddies and I have made peace with that because I do care about him lots.

Comments, insite anyone?

Kris, why do you feel sad— I don't...

QS that is a BEAUTIFUL email and he can only take it as you wrote it.....very thoughtful and sweet and honest. I don't think he'll run, he'll appreciate it very much 🙂

what's up Kris??

Thanks chatz, maybe you should try it, if you can do it in person it would be better.

That was exactly what I was going to do....I've been thinking about it all week and may do it tomorrow - in fact, I NEED to do it tomorrow when I see him....let him think about it

Queen, you are awesome. THANK YOU from the general male population for making yourself CLEAR to a male. It will probably make him think and think and think. IF he's wise he will latch on to you as the dearest friend he has. IF he's screwed-up it will probably scare him away. BUT he can't argue that he doesn't know where you stand. And, GOLLY, girl! Now I want to ask you out for sure!

😉

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I don't know what happened, but as I was trying to say... Atom thanks as usual. I do what I can do... ask me out?.. Haha.. very funny

Wow! Awesome e-mail! Very articulate and direct, but not pointed... If it causes any problems with your relationship / friendship, well, then he just needs to be beaten with a stick... All things considered, I do not think the e-mail could have come out better, and if he has a problem with it...pfft!

Let us know what you hear back!!

see there ya go Atom....another offer!!! sheesh you are popular 🙂

Chatz, just trying to keep up with you POPULAR women!

QS, I would be curious to find out how / if he responds.

OK. guys, I might have messed up here. Blame the alcohol... I went out last night to a friends home coming party got kind of tipsy, and horney, which for me go hand in hand... So I did the unthinkable.... Something I definitely wouldn't have had the courage to do sober...

I drive over to my Libra friend's house and walk right up and ring the bell at 2am. Just was lonely didn't want to be home alone and just wanted to be with him. His roomate opened the door and let me in. I walked straight to his room and opened the door (a little nervous as he could have had someone in there). He and his roomate have two separate entrances... I didnt' care er alcohol level and horniness. He jumped rolled over and exclaimed "who is that!" Then he looked at me and said, hey.

I silently striped and got in bed with him without a word.. I laid on his chest he rubbed my hair, still we didn't speak. He just sai good morning... I said nothing, then you know the rest. Afterward I told him," I am a littl intoxicated, I know it is inappropriate to just pop up, but I wanted to be with him and I couldn't help it. He sighed and said... "It is OK" We slept we woke in th morning together, showered and went on about our separate days....

awwww that's beautiful and gutsy!!!

OK, so I sent hiim a text message later inviiting him to see this movie I had been wanting to see. He texted back... " I have plans today, so I won't be able to go, but thanks though."

A little disappointed, I replied " That is OK I am going with someone else, thanks for the response though" -- That was true, after texting him and being sure I wouldn't get a response back from him another I guy I had just met called and asked if I wanted to do lunch or a movie... So I accepted.

I don't know if that was the best response to give him... I will try to give him some space now, as I think he will need some....

Just can't tell exactly what is going through his mind right now. He probably doesn't know either.

What do you guys think—

s-p-a-c-e

then he'll know what he thinks.

He'd be a little floored with what happened no doubt so space? definitely!! I would have probably texted back "perhaps another time" but then again, at least he knows you have somebody else to take to the movie 🙂 So did you have lunch and did you see the movie??

They're polite aren't they??

lol Atom!!! You've got this space thing all worked out haven't you??

lol is right, Chatz, because I DON'T have this space thing all worked out! You are STILL my example---I'm just pulling back and watching how all of this (my life / relationship with this girl!) unfolds.

Chatz, I did and the guy was nice. A cancer!!! I dunno though... Lunch and movie. I had fun, but no real attraction there.

lol@being an example....well your example is going through the same excruciating stuff but must admit IM on cloud 9 today for obvious reasons but yeah, I know how fast I can fall from there too - been around for a while now LOL.....but I'll be sure to keep you informed 😛

QS....well its nice to get out regardless and you'll be ever so much more sexier to your Libran man knowing that you have another man in the wings!!! Think about it...play it up, see where it goes....oh and you can never have too many male friends either 🙂

I must admit, I cannot bond with anybody under the Cancer sign at all...my mum is one and we don't quite hit it off - quite the opposite...she irritates me with her moods...very much like a Capricorn to me but as you are a Scorpio? Im not sure how that goes.

But regardless, you went out, you did something different and its brought a smile to your face and OMG at your guts with your 2.00am date 😛

Hey, Queen, 'been busy lately? Ha! Wow. I think a Scorpio must have invented the roller coaster and bungie jumping and sky diving and laying on honey-laden red ant hills. Yow, you keep the world spinning!

Anyway, Cancer guy is a jelly fish to your sting ray. You'll eat him up and spit him out before he knows it. Then he'll cry. MAYBE a good friend. But, baby, you're gonna get bored FAST. Too much mush and not enough action of the type you're used to (INTENSITY, you-know-what-I-mean). BUT you are WISE to keep doing your thing intriguing ALL the guys around you. Mr. Libra is probably thinking he had a most wonderful dream in Fantasy Land early this morning---probably still clarifying whether it was reality or not.

SO, what I'm saying here is, IF you go away for awhile he'll be drooling. When you come back later he'll still be pinching himself because you are so UNREAL. (WOW! THAT type of woman exists? OMG!---yeah, that's what Scorp chicks do to us "innocent" men, ALL the male population).

lol

Atom, you keep laying on this charm boyyyeee... You will get it 🙂 Yeah I know cancers dont do antything for me. My last cancer boyfriend I left for the exact same reasons you are describing. Boring.... He then became a stalker... Grose... Anyway, I don't mind having male friends, I have always had more male friends than female anyway. So, chatz I get it about the Cancer. Just getting out an doing some things...

Atom, I don't know how effective my actions are on my libra friend these days.. I dunno anymore... I just have to do what I feel sometime.

Well, QS, you DEFINITELY do what you feel!

I had a Cancer chick interested in me. She wanted me to ride those waves of her emotions and time travel back to the age of Clarissa. Yow. Never felt more smothered in my life. NICE girl. Needed a much more effeminate man.

I'd be happy to introduce her to my ex Gemini!!! They could both get in touch with their emotions but she'd have to be in touch with his more LOL

QS - that was an awesome letter but was wondering why you chose to invite your Libra to the movies without waiting for his response to your letter. Just trying to understand. Did you want to see if he would accept and then everything would be ok? will you ask him later about the letter or what do you all think he is thinking about it? Did your libra call you regularly before the letter?

Because she was clear in that if he wasn't up for a relationship she still wanted to be friends. they are used to hanging out together and she was never intent on changing that.

Shirley, What Nic said. The email was to just let him know where I stand, wether he wants to respond to that or not is up to him. Also, my little brave stunt was just me acting on my emotions and not caring either way what the outcome was in that moment. (you know how we scorps can be) thank goodness it was in my favor... 🙂 I am just giving him some space now. He will either come back to me and respond to my feelings or not. All up to him. In the meantime, I have a couple of projects I am working on for myself and getting back focused on me and have fun with whomever while doing that. He now knows I am interested and it is up to him to either still be friends only or explore the possibility of something further...

I still think its gutsy and wish I could do it (not care either way coz I do damnit LOL)....good on ya QS....Im sure you'll keep us posted and it will be interesting to see how it does go.....Im still tossing up as to whether I should send an email also as I clearly couldn't talk to him on Sunday *shrugs*....still worry about that singles site stuff 😢

QS, you're one STRONG lady! *admiration*

Chatz, the singles site stuff has GOT to go! You are so worth his full and only attention. I've got gut feeling you'll handle it in a purrfect way.

(GUYS need to get clue, dang it!).

Well Atom, as the heading of this post says "moving on", I think I have to write that email afterall.....I don't think I can take another night knowing he's chatting to all and sundry....I know not much, if anything comes of it, but he's blatantly obvious about it and its starting to hurt (and it just shouldnt do that)...and all the signs were there and he's so damned wonderful to be around but still he does this every night. I know he cares about me but not enough to start pulling down the wall he has around his heart for me. Again, after 4 months and having been so patient and doing the waiting and the quiet times, it hasn't done me any good....all the signs which were pointing towards me continuing this way have now turned around and tells me to just let him go 😢

Chatz, aren't the two of you scheduled for another date? Talk to him then, tell him how you feel and tell him that the site thing bothers you. However, when you do that you must be prepared for whatever he says.

I emailed my friend, because we haven't scheduled anything or barely spoken since I told him how I felt the first time, except the V-day text. So, I don't know when I will see him. I don't plan on doing anymore gutsy stunts. The next morning although it was wonderful being with him. I knew this wasn't enough and I was a little fed up... Not angry but felt like this would be the last time I desire to be with him without any clarity from him.

I dunno, it might change the next time I am drunk. We will see. However, my emotions are turning and not for the best. Not hurt or angry, but becoming less interested...

Scorps can't chase long, we show you and tell you how we feel we wait awhile and then we leave. If you come around and we are still interested then maybe...

So, talk to him, because you know when you will see him again...

Atommy, life experiences have made me strong. I am also a woman who knows her worth. Therefore I don't wait around for anyone long at all.

Thanks QS....as I posted on the other thingy...I was called away to a couple of meetings so I've had a few hours to "cool off" and re-read the draft email and yikes...thank goodness I didn't have the opportunity to hit the "send" button LOL....phew!!!

I will wait until I see him again later in the week....and yes, at least I do have that much going for me - another date!! Maybe he's just so totally bored but I dunno, I could be thinking of other things to do with my time than what he does but yeah, I will talk to him. Hope he remembers to bring his DVD's so we can just sit and watch for a while rather than talk so much....I might bring it up lightly before we watch and he can think about it while we just sit saying nothing 🙂

Gawd, its been just over a day since I've seen him and he's got me in a tailspin so early on this time!!! Usually it takes 3-4 days...dunno what's wrong with me this time!! Guess we just have such a great time that I can't understand the moment he walks away to go to work he forgets about me/us whereas I don't. I do have to wonder how much thought he does give me when we are apart - probably not much LOL...me?? all freaking day!!