Unsatisfied Libra...

I'm a libra and when it comes to relationships I wonder if maybe i'm expecting too much? The man is always happy in my relationships and i'm always the one left unsatisfied. Most of the time I just feel like the romance factor is missing. I expect a guy to go out of his way to do romantic things for me. Its the quickest way to my heart. Is it so wrong to want to be swept off my feet?

Do you fellow libras ever feel like you can't be satisfied in relationships after you get passed a certain point? Are we libras too hard to please, or have i just not found the right one? Please let me know your thoughts everyone!

Without trying to upset any Librans....YES you do expect too much and most of the time us other poor signs havent a clue that you want romance, yada yada because you spend so much time pushing us away, distancing yourselves and sitting on the fence.

We are left wondering what it was that we were meant to do.....and yes I have met and know quite a few Librans....NONE have a rewarding and fulfilling relationship as they all admit they are waiting for "the one"...."the one" isnt out there, its a fantasy you have in your heads - sorry, but there is NO perfect one person for you.

You need to learn to forego your ideals of perfection and accept and deal with somebody's flaws....afterall, Librans have many flaws themselves.

Librans also tend to miss out on somebody ideal due to their constant seeking of looking for somebody better........seriously there isnt anybody better than the person who truly loves you, wants to be there for and with you......you look for imperfections so you can toss them aside.

Sorry but you only JUST cemented my theory!!!

No offence intended, just an observation.....let go of your idealism or it will destroy you and any hope of happiness.

Ditto to the statement made by Chatz. I was with my ex-Libra for 7 years. We've been friends now for years, and he continues his pattern. He can never be satisfied, so now he's getting a divorce and having to split custody for his two children. I don't know what he's looking for, and he's said that to me too. He can charm the pants off of anybody, and is engaging and nice, but he can not sustain a monogamous relationship at all. All the Libras I know, male or female can NOT be alone. They always have someone "waiting in the wings." And I can say that for the female Libras that are my friends and in my family too.

Um yeah, chatz is spot on. And it's funny cause usually the ones they push away are the ones who could give that core-shaking love you seek, if you would only let them. But most don't..

Yeah thats what I also found with my Libra ex....I know he loved me, he sure as hell knew I loved him - I showed him more than he even lifted a finger to show me but he also said to me...."Im not ready for a committed relationship, I dont even know when I will be"....he said that when I finally took things to a serious level and made him tell me where we were going - we were going nowhere fast.

At the end of the day he was sitting online on 3 singles sites (that I know of) checking out copious amounts of women.....never meeting them, just chatting and checking out.....I couldnt compete with that but NOW, yep now he STILL sits online each and every night....he knew he had me, he let me go but he hasnt replaced me....go figure!!!

Now its all too late, I wouldnt take him back if he was on his hands and knees.....he knows it.....I wish him the best because he's wasted 4 years of his life on these sites....4 years with no luck!!! Ridiculous.

BUT the point is again, Librans should let go of the fantasy that just exists in their own mind.....it will bring you old age and loneliness....sad but true.

OH and you hurt so many people along the way, people who love/d you.

LOL....I certainly cant be considered a Libra basher....my ex libra had been married before, most of the LIbras I know have been married so nup the good ones arent all married LOL....or maybe their partner turned them bad— LOL

I love my Libra friends but I can also see past the B.S. and hey Im a Leo, I see my own faults and admit them....in other posts on here? sure there's been some Libra bashing, well ok a lot LOL....you get that but this isnt a Libra bashing, this is just the truth 😛

Im also consistantly unsatisified in my relationships, for the same reasons Libralove says. It?s like i want a lifelong honeymoon period, I can be serious and get in deep but i still want to maintain a happy-go-lucky attitude or else i just get bored or suffocated. Its like my partner becomes like a member of my family and i take them for granted or feel taken for granted. For those of other signs, we cant really explain this, and its absolutely nothing to do with fantasy. We give 100% o why should we accept less??

Right now im love with an aqua man, i love him til it hurts but i just cant show it. I try, so hard, but then i start to choke and i get so scared that im going to screw it up. I have what ive been looking for and now i cant even fully enjoy it..whats that about??

No she isn't. She knows what she is talking about.

I only know one satisfied libra. And that's my friend ben. He is the sweetest kid I have ever know. And some girl did break his heart but I have not seen one thing of that shit get in the way of his life. They were together for a year too and it was his "first love". He's over it and his heart is still open to everyone and everything. These are the only kinda of libra's that surivie in the world lol.

Sola

How are you giving 100 % , if you take someone for granted or you can't show them your feelings...Allow yourself to be a little vulnerable to let him in..

I'm not Libra bashing. I actually like them. My ex was the ONLY man I would have ever married. He was kind, generous, loving, spoiled me and was a "mans man" too. Howvever, since they are natural charmers, this seems to resonate everywhere, and it attracted a lot of women to him. Unfortunately, my ex felt he needed to "spread his charms" to others. LOL!

How old are you chatz? "LOL"

...Sola, I can totally relate to how you are feeling. Part of me thinks its because I'm still young that I am so unsatisfied, and also that I just haven't found the right one. I DO NOT however believe that libras are doomed to face unsatisfaction in all of their romantic relationships. My step father is a libra and has been happily married for 15 years to my mom, both of my grandmothers are libras and yet again happily married for many many years and never once divorced.

I'm just wondering if there are any older libras out there or more experienced libras that have felt this in their younger years? How did you cope with it?

You sound just like my ex, that must suck...

Maybe you should try having a good, honest relationship with yourself instead of getting in a relationship and excepting the other person to make you feel good about yourself and show you a fake reality. Thats no one else job but your own. The "one" your looking for is yourself cause your not being honest. Relationships aren't perfect and you need to realize that and embrace it anyway. Faults are some of the most beautfiul things in life because your seeing the truth.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be swept off your feet but maybe you should think about how lucky you are someone is willing to commit to you and have you by there side. How romantic is that? It's the little things that are the biggest things.

I?m not taking this one for granted, not now anyway..we had a rocky start and no way in hell im risking him!!! I?m only 26, but i have had so much experience (not all of it good either) that i feel like by giving 100% , if it goes wrong its like losing my very own soul, because that?s how important the other person becomes. Its too scary!! And sometimes, and this is the worst part, i only do what i think i should do, not really what i feel, because i never know what i really feel about anything, because i waste so much time thinking about e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g. Can you see why we?re so fucked up?? Pity us, dont hate us, lol!!

Haha Pity yes, that's what it is. YOU DERSEVER TO BE HAPPY lol

sola: the things you say about your relationships literally scares me because you sound so much like me. i always end up doing what i think i should do and not what i truly want. and i over think EVERYTHING. but i'm really really working on it.

sag89: i really appreciate your advice. no one has ever really put it to me like that before but it definitely makes sense. i had a big talk with my boyfriend about everything today and it helped so much. i realize maybe I really am overlooking all the good things in our relationship and not even noticing all the wonderful small things. I think a lot of it really does have to do more with me than him and i am going to try to work on this and try fighting some of these unfavorable libra characteristics. thanks for the input guys!

Good to hear LOlibraVE🙂

Sola

Everybody is afraid to get hurt and have their relationship go wrong..But you cannot love and trust another person unless you trust yourself to be able to handle it if the relationship goes wrong..Too much thinking will drive u nuts and the person your with..This just happened to me and Libra, he was always back and forth, which led me to question everything about him and it did not end good..We had a big fight and finally he told me after a year that he has no interest in me...A year !!! I was really mean to him and I do regret that but it seems like it was the only way to end the misery..

Trust yourself Sola..To handle any situation that may happen..

Sorry posted twice..

Chatz how did you figure me out?! yes yes im busted!

lol

MY EX LIBRA IS A PIECE OF WORK . BUT ITS OKAY. HE HAS ACCEPTED WRONG HAS A WAY OF LIFE. AND HE GETS MAD WHEN i REFUSE TO ACCEPT WRONG AS A WAY OF LIFE.. HE SAYS i THINK I AM BETTER THEN EVERY1. BUT ITS NOT THAT . JUST REFUSE TO DROWN MYSELF IN WRONG... pEOPLE WILL MISTAKES ALONG THE WAY BUT U HAVE TO ACCEPT YOUR MISTAKES AND MOVE ON AND LIVE LIFE. AND LEARN FORM IT.. WHY KEEP BEATING YOURSELF UP FOR MAKING A MISTAKE.. U WILL END UP HURTING OTHERS BECAUSE U STAY DROWNED IN YOUR MISTAKES ITS NOT RIGHT .. BUT HE LIVES IT OVER AND OVER AND IT DRAINS ME BECAUSE . I WANT HIM TO KNOW HE DOESNT HAVE TO LIVE IN WRONG. HE DOESNT HAVE TO ACEPT WRONG HAS LIFE.... BUT I GUESS HE WILL GET IT ONE DAY.

well thats our problem for the most part. we focus on everything that sombody isnt and not what they are. we want the best. but cant give the best half us dont even know what the best is.. some people are just selfish and make everything about them and thier wants.. Love is not about wants. its about giving. its about laying yourself down to help sum1 else do better. stop looking to get stuff back in return. or people will always be dissapointed. cuz they might not give u what u thought u deserve. then now u all mad and upset and u just stop giving all together..

MY libra always had these very high expectations... he wanted stuffhe wasnt even willing to give.. I would try to pls him but some stuff i couldnt give because I didnt know how. some people just dont know how to love u the way u want them 2. love has to be taught. you cant just have sum fairy tale it has to be taught!

hahaha I adore my LIbra friends and still love my LIbra ex very much (probably always will) but I can also see the ugly side of their view on perfection and how they fantasize of something they will never find and lose so much in the process....not to mention play games (unintentionally I am totally sure of but regardless others do get hurt)....

Im sure there are many LIbras out there who have made a real go of their lives and r/ships as is the case with all other starsigns out there. I think there are so many factors as to why a LIbra or any sign for that matter would be unsatisfied.

I think we could argue the various points to death and still not ever know why/how others tick.....thats life 🙂 Makes it interesting....wouldnt life be boring if we were all the same?

and you are a joke - get over yourself

well said virgo_lib!

keep smelling, maybe you'll smell your own crap for a moment....have you read some of the bull you've written on here?

You're doing the bashing..you know NOTHING about me nor will you ever....people like you think you know everything when the truth be known, you hide behind the internet and get pleasure out of acting all high and mighty...."smell it through the net" please!!!

again, you are a joke and not once did I point a finger at you or any other person on this site....and yes I do care for my Libra friends but as a typical Libra and/or Virgo you cant take the truth....grow the hell up

LOLibraVE you just continue to feed my feelings about it all too....you write this subject up - the name "Unsatisfied LIbra" says it all doesnt it? You dont like the answers you get so you start insulting? Oh how true to form.

Im done, had enough and yes, am quite happy with any further abuse you might like to hurl in the shit pit....because that is exactly what this site has become....

yes dear, whatever you say dear.

Hmmm not once did i criticize actually, chatz.

in fact, everything i've said here has been postive, so maybe you should check again 🙂

If you want romance just take the initiative , you are a cardinal sign ffs 😉