Well this pisces girl initiated contact with Libra

After my last message, all of you were saying ok just ask him out again, after our first date, he said, "if you would like a rematch and like to be shown around my area let me know and I would gladly show you around!" to which I replied, that would be nice!

Nothing since then last Sunday text suggestion from him, so now being Friday night, I ask him how he is, he humours back that I am glad I suggested this gym he is now going to and how have I been...I then mention things are good, would love to show him London....he said he would love that and I mentioned it would be good to see him again. Then text gone dead again, this is the similar pattern last time...nothing is mentioned or dates set. I just don't feel he is into me, otherwise he would be setting dates and as we met online he is back on there today/very early this morning....and late last night.

So perhaps it was just him being polite and seeing what else is out there etc....thats fair enough but would rather he didn't suggest meeting up and do nothing about it.........its killing me......I cant carry this on, its like pulling string!!! arghhh!!! damn this libran man, he is 22nd October, I am 26th Feb!

ok saturday morning rant over...I even did the whole humour thing with him, tried loads of things, but feeling deflated again....!!

Posted by feby
Be confident and don't be afraid of him. That confidence and going for what you want plus a little bit of mystery and knowing when it's too much will make most air men bubble. 🙂

God this feels like hard work lol, thank you....he is intimidating.....you have it right there....

Maybe he was in a bad relationship and doesnt want to rush. May not be because he isnt into you

i agree with tiz. i think this horse has bolted. he may come back. he may not. until then, i would call time on this.

Oh for god's sake, he's not into you. Drop it already.

Thanks guys, well weirdly after I sent the text saying be good to see you again on Friday, Saturday night at 8pm in comes the text saying I am free next Saturday Jo and the following weekend all weekend. So I thought, ok lets leave this a few hours and don't reply, 4 hours later I did and there is something very vague about him, he texts Sunday afternoon, saying London is good but he has never been and needs to be shown around. Thats fair enough but in-between there is no way I am chasing him ever....period, but like "going Dutch" mentioned I will make him chase and let it be a challenge more. Thank you for your replies.

Posted by jojo35
Thanks guys, well weirdly after I sent the text saying be good to see you again on Friday, Saturday night at 8pm in comes the text saying I am free next Saturday Jo and the following weekend all weekend. So I thought, ok lets leave this a few hours and don't reply, 4 hours later I did and there is something very vague about him, he texts Sunday afternoon, saying London is good but he has never been and needs to be shown around. Thats fair enough but in-between there is no way I am chasing him ever....period, but like "going Dutch" mentioned I will make him chase and let it be a challenge more. Thank you for your replies.

jesus you sound like hard work.

OMG with the games. Go away. You are not allowed to post here any more.

AND DON'T TAKE THAT DUTCH CHICK'S ADVICE. Christ. She has no idea wtf she's talking about. She can barely string a sentence together, let alone give proper advice about guys. And THAT'S the advice you took from this thread?

no I am definitely not hard work lol quite the opposite, just like to take my time, typical aquarius in mercury, I will analyse, not rush and I do like someone to initiate contact not chase hugely just seem interested, if not I leave well alone. Its very slow at the moment and know librans take their time to get to know someone so would like to see if we can get to know each other better, he is still texting...doesnt seem painful or frustrating as it was last week. He wants to meet tomorrow night, which I will do after work....will see what happens...but thank you for your replies!

what you are saying is very true GoingDutch....he seems hard work, maybe this chasing as in letting him chase me may pay off. I have just never dated a Libran before so havent a clue how they will be, just showing interest then leaving it with him!! looks like you know them well.....my dad is a libran, mum taurus and he took ages to woo her and now married 50 years with us two!! so you are right in what you are saying, he is on the cusp though, 22nd october a lot of scorpio in him too, so deep, intense and doesnt give too much away about himself either....but I wonder what the girl with the guys of 10 years chased to what she was like with him, elusive perhaps or didn't like him.....!!

I agree with tiz. I don't chase. I will take the lead and make plans and suggestions. For me to chase, you have to run away. If I think you're running from me, I'm gonna let you go.

When it's good, it's always been a more natural flow. You like someone, you hang out, you hang out more and more, all the sudden you're just always together. I'm not gonna push or try to convince someone to be with me.

Dutchess examples of extreme libra's are also after long relationships. We can have trouble letting go once we latch on. That's not new woman type stuff though. That dude isn't climbing the balcony of someone he went on one date with...

Damn auto correct...

Dutchess...lol

Posted by tiziani
For the record, you should never chase Libra men either.


People who need to be chased have self-esteem issues, I agree. That goes for men and women.

I don't know Tiz. Sometimes the chase is necessary. Perhaps chase it too strong a word, gentle reminder of your presence may be more accurate? I certainly like to flit and float in the vicinity and not give up easily. My scorpio venus could be to blame though.

I agree though that when you have to convince someone with a reasoned argument, then that is going too far.

Posted by tiziani
We could be splitting hairs over the words used to describe it, true. But I see it exactly as how LibraSid worded it.


If you end up in any situation where chasing involves "no" really secretly meaning "yes", you're likely dealing with someone who has issues spelling out what the want. And that happens a lot with young Pisces/water signs.


"I didn't get in touch with you because I wanted you to..."


The only reason why it's never a good idea to feed this is because it never stops. Once someone learns that pushing you away is what it takes to give them attention, that's it. It doesn't magically get simpler when you get into a relationship with them, it doesn't magically end when you get married. Nothing is ever good enough for them to feel satisfied that you both enjoy each other's company.


You're facing that "no really means yes, more" scenario for life. I think a sign like Aries and Leo can deal with that, not Libra.

Just what I've observed. Libras are much better in the long term when they're involved in reciprocal relationships.

Agreed. This whole "I didn't get in touch with you because I wanted you to..." is horse shit. Either you are interested and you get in touch or you don't and you walk away. Pining from the sidelines while double guessing is just boring. Enduring all the game playing and trying to guess what the other means is more trouble than it is worth.

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Posted by tiziani
For the record, you should never chase Libra men either.


People who need to be chased have self-esteem issues, I agree. That goes for men and women.

I don't know Tiz. Sometimes the chase is necessary. Perhaps chase it too strong a word, gentle reminder of your presence may be more accurate? I certainly like to flit and float in the vicinity and not give up easily. My scorpio venus could be to blame though.

I agree though that when you have to convince someone with a reasoned argument, then that is going too far.

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Thats what I was talking about with taking initiative and making plans. Yes I'll make large efforts to show my interest, but not if I think they're unwelcome or unwanted. Like I said, me chasing implies you're running away. That offends my romantic nature. I'll only stalk you if you think it's cute 😛

Posted by jojo35
After my last message, all of you were saying ok just ask him out again, after our first date, he said, "if you would like a rematch and like to be shown around my area let me know and I would gladly show you around!" to which I replied, that would be nice!

Nothing since then last Sunday text suggestion from him, so now being Friday night, I ask him how he is, he humours back that I am glad I suggested this gym he is now going to and how have I been...I then mention things are good, would love to show him London....he said he would love that and I mentioned it would be good to see him again. Then text gone dead again, this is the similar pattern last time...nothing is mentioned or dates set. I just don't feel he is into me, otherwise he would be setting dates and as we met online he is back on there today/very early this morning....and late last night.

So perhaps it was just him being polite and seeing what else is out there etc....thats fair enough but would rather he didn't suggest meeting up and do nothing about it.........its killing me......I cant carry this on, its like pulling string!!! arghhh!!! damn this libran man, he is 22nd October, I am 26th Feb!

ok saturday morning rant over...I even did the whole humour thing with him, tried loads of things, but feeling deflated again....!!

No offense but he doesnt seem as interested. He may be dating other women and picking them because he's more involved.

Posted by LibraSid
I agree with tiz. I don't chase. I will take the lead and make plans and suggestions. For me to chase, you have to run away. If I think you're running from me, I'm gonna let you go.

When it's good, it's always been a more natural flow. You like someone, you hang out, you hang out more and more, all the sudden you're just always together. I'm not gonna push or try to convince someone to be with me.

Dutchess examples of extreme libra's are also after long relationships. We can have trouble letting go once we latch on. That's not new woman type stuff though. That dude isn't climbing the balcony of someone he went on one date with...

110% in agreement with Librasid..either you like me or you don't! All relationships have challenges, but chasing after someone that clearly shows disregard for you and your time after you've obviously made it clear that you're interested is just plain rude and disrespectful. What I'm not going to do is run behind someone or force them to be with me. It doesn't take all that to be in a relationship..especially if you are supposed to be two mature adults. If it doesn't flow naturally, then why waste your time. As the saying goes...if you have to constantly question if someone likes you, then you're already in the red. Tricks are for kids silly wabit.

Posted by tiziani
I don't think Libras like a challenge or like chasing. But happy to hear you got your peace of mind.

I have never known a Libra man to like being chased, they also don't like working super hard for some either. lol They get tired!! 😛

I do agree with what everyone is saying. Since the weekend, receiving more texts from him, one was last night saying he has had a nightmare week, as he is a deputy head teacher and he is coming home just flaking out on the sofa and looking forward to seeing me this weekend! Unfortunately I was on a late night shift last night and don't have my phone one me as we aren't allowed to due to the nature of our work, so replied this morning at 11am, wouldn't have been earlier as I didn't get in til 4am.

So its hard to read, I guess for me there is another one interested in me another Scorpio male who is just easier to get on with. He just naturally texts everyday and so do I, there isn't the same (for me) physical attraction but he is just hilarious and keeps me interested. This one I have known for years.

The libran one just appears every few days with a text, then a full on day then nothing....and I just keep it flowing, show my interest say and he keeps on saying he is looking forward to seeing me this weekend, at the same time I am dating too, so if it doesnt go anywhere thats ok, I am not going to stalk him or follow his every word as thats just not me....

so will see if this weekend happens, he seems eager as he is always going on about Saturday and going to London, he also works 12 hours shifts, not far off me at times as mine is odd hours.....

This is definitely a first for me with a libran, I dated one years ago and he was the opposite quite full on. This one I don't know enough about to judge whether he is into me, not or has just come out of a relationship, those questions i will ask when the time is right...in the meantime enjoying the process and keeping options open too....but not not showing interest with him so he knows I like him, but not overly in his face!!!

will keep you posted!

I have to agree with Tiz and Librasid. The one Libra I dated was my heart. He was beautiful but he refused to chase, commit or even fight for me. When I was available he wasn't. When he was ready he did not say a word so I never knew. We hung out quite a bit though. Did everything as if we were together.

He did nothing but watch me from afar until I moved away then he came clean saying he wanted to marry me. It was all he wanted. All he had to do was say that when I was with him. He said he never fought for anyone he never saw a need. He just goes with the flow of things. A baffling thought pattern to say the least.

To this day we are friends and he still wants something with me. He gets jealous of me dating yet will make no move to make more of things. I gave up on the whole thing and know it just wasn't meant to be and enjoy what was and our friendship.

The Libra Moon I'm dating now..Venus in Libra as well he is not into me chasing him at all. I mean the whole relationship flows nicely. No effort. It's just there. I enjoy that type of relationship. The games everyone can keep.

Posted by jojo35
what you are saying is very true GoingDutch....he seems hard work, maybe this chasing as in letting him chase me may pay off. I have just never dated a Libran before so havent a clue how they will be, just showing interest then leaving it with him!! looks like you know them well.....my dad is a libran, mum taurus and he took ages to woo her and now married 50 years with us two!! so you are right in what you are saying, he is on the cusp though, 22nd october a lot of scorpio in him too, so deep, intense and doesnt give too much away about himself either....but I wonder what the girl with the guys of 10 years chased to what she was like with him, elusive perhaps or didn't like him.....!!

You are going to take advise from a female that isn't even dating a libra and knows jack shit about them over several libra males? You are an idiot and seeking to get what you want from responses... This dude is NOT into you.

ahh jojo, relax! let things happen the way it's supposed to. stop analyzing everything too much. if you like being chased, you'd be disappointed. libras can or may initiate but you gotta play your part in it too. we prefer for things to happen naturally and spontaneously. dating isn't supposed to be this complicated. it's great that you initiated. hopefully you guys can find time to go on a date soon. just be yourself and live in the moment.

I agree with Tiz too, libra men don't have the tendency to chase. The ones that chase stalkerish style are usually unstable - at least that's what I saw

I didn't read this entire thread.. What I can say ladies if you want a Libra man to really want you, live your life. Keep dating other people until the relationship is really established. Every Libra that has liked me b/c I get into them and I disappear, I do my own thing. I don't obsess about them calling me, or when we will hang out. It's pretty simple with them, if they like your company they will want to be around you. If you try to push yourself onto them, they will push you out. They from what I have seen and experienced can't stand clingy women. I took/take a genuine interest, I ask a ton of questions to really see who they are, about their life and so on.

They don't like drama if they do, something is unstable with them. They are extremely sensitive in a way that you will not see, they are insecure. They are very sweet in nature even the ones that put their foot in their mouth have good intentions most of the time. They like to have a good time with the people they are with..

I have seen the charmers, the playboys, the guys guy, the quiet guy, the one that needs someone by his side, the loners. When I say I attract Libras I am not kidding.

I don't know, Tiz am I way off base here? I have literally had 4 guys with the exact same birthday all really like me, two of them so much I was a bit weirded out b/c I didn't feel the same. lol

I think you guys over think it and question so much b/c he isn't sweating you in the beginning. I wouldn't think it was genuine if a guy was telling me sweet nothings and I didn't know him. Anything with them takes a bit of time.

Heck, my own ex wants to try to reconcile and that may change every other day depending on if I tick him off. lol

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Posted by jojo35
what you are saying is very true GoingDutch....he seems hard work, maybe this chasing as in letting him chase me may pay off. I have just never dated a Libran before so havent a clue how they will be, just showing interest then leaving it with him!! looks like you know them well.....my dad is a libran, mum taurus and he took ages to woo her and now married 50 years with us two!! so you are right in what you are saying, he is on the cusp though, 22nd october a lot of scorpio in him too, so deep, intense and doesnt give too much away about himself either....but I wonder what the girl with the guys of 10 years chased to what she was like with him, elusive perhaps or didn't like him.....!!

You are going to take advise from a female that isn't even dating a libra and knows jack shit about them over several libra males? You are an idiot and seeking to get what you want from responses... This dude is NOT into you.

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i hear what you are saying justagirl....but hey I disagree, he is now chasing and arranged this weekend in London, I havent done anything, I havent chased, been busy with work and being open to seeing him so we will see, I wouldn't say he is NOT that into me if he texts asking how I am, hows my day, look forward to seeing you this weekend and organised an event in London....whereas after our first date he was dead quiet for a good 4/5 days. I am not analysing anymore because I have an active life, I was just asking about peope's views on libras....thank you for your positive repose and calling me an idiot lol...charming!! do you call everyone that..... I am not taking advice from anyone and totally analysing it, I am just asking people's opinions and keeping updating....thats all! I get a good feeling now about him but not thinking oh yeah this is the one - who knows what will happen, in the meantime I am enjoying seeing/speaking to another Scorpio and seeing friends! ....anyway Justagirl.....justchill!! lol

Posted by GoingDutch
jojo35, please read this article, i think it helpful to you on how to deal with your Libra.
this is for the Girls that have Libra who Disappearing Reappearing, pleaes read this link

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html?commentPage=13<BR>
someone share this link, and i thought it really helpful, so i reshare, it apply to all men that tends to disappear and reappear, in and out of your life. It nice to read, as it also touches on the topic of 'chasing", and have lots of comments too.

if all else fail, cook late dinner for your Libra, let him have dinner to eat after he get off work. I do that to my Libra, and sure keeps him around.
Or maybe because his Taurus Rising always at work, which make him the stubborn, persistent, stable affection freak.

Also remember this, his upbringing, childhood, environment, education, parents, life experience, will also change how he is, can't just based on his sun sign.
NOT all Libra are the same. Because no one have the same experience in life.

And jojo35,. there are Libra who do chase. There are 7 billions people in the world, and only 12 zodiac, what make you think NO Libra chase? lmfao

i know there are libran's who chase.....and some who don't, like any sign....but enjoying how he is now....but also enjoying talking to another scorpio too, just enjoying what happens...but thanks will have a read!!! this post has been interesting...lol!

its funny because there is this Scorpio I know of say 15 years and he is born 16th Nov, his million questions are sooooo intense....I have to back off to take time to answer them as sometimes I feel like I am being interviewed 24/7 by him as he can fire 10 intense questions a day, trust me he doesnt stop...but in some way he is very sweet and very interested to get to know me as a person as we havent spoken in years after him being abroad etc....whatever happens between these two men, at least its fun...and I do find when I analyse nothing flows lol!!!

Posted by jojo35

You are going to take advise from a female that isn't even dating a libra and knows jack shit about them over several libra males? You are an idiot and seeking to get what you want from responses... This dude is NOT into you.

i hear what you are saying justagirl....but hey I disagree, he is now chasing and arranged this weekend in London, I havent done anything, I havent chased, been busy with work and being open to seeing him so we will see, I wouldn't say he is NOT that into me if he texts asking how I am, hows my day, look forward to seeing you this weekend and organised an event in London....whereas after our first date he was dead quiet for a good 4/5 days. I am not analysing anymore because I have an active life, I was just asking about peope's views on libras....thank you for your positive repose and calling me an idiot lol...charming!! do you call everyone that..... I am not taking advice from anyone and totally analysing it, I am just asking people's opinions and keeping updating....thats all! I get a good feeling now about him but not thinking oh yeah this is the one - who knows what will happen, in the meantime I am enjoying seeing/speaking to another Scorpio and seeing friends! ....anyway Justagirl.....justchill!! lol

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Glad things seem to be working out... just from your prior posts, it doesn't seem like he is as into you as you are into him . i'm just saying be wary of taking some peoples advise on here, look at their post history and understand where it is really coming from. Yes, if you take her words over an actual Libra, sorry you would be an idiot in my book, sorry if my opinion offends.

justagirl, no don't worry not offended, and no don't take everything literally...just keeping options open and its been great to hear on here other people's thoughts, which is what I was after really. i have been single only a few months so I am still seeing whats going on!

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Posted by WateryGem
I didn't read this entire thread.. What I can say ladies if you want a Libra man to really want you, live your life. Keep dating other people until the relationship is really established. Every Libra that has liked me b/c I get into them and I disappear, I do my own thing. I don't obsess about them calling me, or when we will hang out. It's pretty simple with them, if they like your company they will want to be around you. If you try to push yourself onto them, they will push you out. They from what I have seen and experienced can't stand clingy women. I took/take a genuine interest, I ask a ton of questions to really see who they are, about their life and so on.

They don't like drama if they do, something is unstable with them. They are extremely sensitive in a way that you will not see, they are insecure. They are very sweet in nature even the ones that put their foot in their mouth have good intentions most of the time. They like to have a good time with the people they are with..

I have seen the charmers, the playboys, the guys guy, the quiet guy, the one that needs someone by his side, the loners. When I say I attract Libras I am not kidding.

I don't know, Tiz am I way off base here? I have literally had 4 guys with the exact same birthday all really like me, two of them so much I was a bit weirded out b/c I didn't feel the same. lol
lol

Not off base at all. That was very close to home indeed 😄

The combination of having an independent streak + taking a genuine interest is irresistible. Independence not meaning being unavailable, being cold, deliberately ignoring but just... living your life as you said.

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I mean, I have a lot of experience with libra men. lol 😛 If only I wanted you guys!! lol