http://ilyke.co/u4770p6168/7-signs-you-grew-up-with-a-toxic-parent--didn-t-know-it/76920/?pid=1 🙂
7 Signs You Grew Up With A Toxic Parent & Didn't Know It
Posted by FoxNot completely (there's other factors as well - in case you were born with a mental deficiency... then there's the entourage) - but they're representative for a big part. And here's why:
A parent aren't responsible for all of those things imo.
"The first five years of a child's life are fundamentally important. They are the foundation that shapes children's future health, happiness, growth, development and learning achievement at school, in the family and community, and in life in general. Recent research confirms that the first five years are particularly important for the development of the child's brain, and the first three years are the most critical in shaping the child's brain architecture. Early experiences provide the base for the brain's organizational development and functioning throughout life. They have a direct impact on how children develop learning skills as well as social and emotional abilities.
Children learn more quickly during their early years than at any other time in life. They need love and nurturing to develop a sense of trust and security that turns into confidence as they grow.Babies and young children grow, learn and develop rapidly when they receive love and affection, attention, encouragement and mental stimulation, as well as nutritious meals and good health care.Understanding the stages of child development helps parents know what to expect and how to best support the child as she or he grows and develops."
...there's more if you're interested:
http://www.factsforlifeglobal.org/03/ 😛
Posted by mrpepperidgeYou poor thing... 😢
i was my mom's psychology thesis for her masters. le sigh i feel used. let me read that article again maybe i'll identify with 1 of them now.
SO MANY CREEPY photos on that site! I can't view it on my phone without having to scroll passed them. >_
Posted by LillyPetalFair enough. 🙂
SO MANY CREEPY photos on that site! I can't view it on my phone without having to scroll passed them. >_
As for toxic parents, I'm at the stage where I am owning my path. I am not interested in looking back. God bless my parents, they did their best, and when they didn't, they showed they are flawed as all humans are. I am on my journey to finding complete forgiveness. They taught me many important things, including the love of reading, not fearing being an individual, treating the help with respect and greeting them kindly, giving to those who don't have, doing my best... I hope to pass that on to my children.
For some of us (hopefully - more than just a few), it's not about our toxic parents anymore - but the lesson we've learned (if and how much we've learned). Cause if we try to move forward without actually learning from the past - those mistakes will follow us in the future. Also, we live in the age of information - so - we have less excuses than they did. As for forgiveness... that's the easy part, it's easy to forgive as an adult (someone who's owning his path - as you phrased it).
Posted by nevesI can only speak for myself. For me personally, forgiveness has not come easily. I am still in the process. But we're not here to compare journeys.Posted by LillyPetalFair enough. 🙂
SO MANY CREEPY photos on that site! I can't view it on my phone without having to scroll passed them. >_
As for toxic parents, I'm at the stage where I am owning my path. I am not interested in looking back. God bless my parents, they did their best, and when they didn't, they showed they are flawed as all humans are. I am on my journey to finding complete forgiveness. They taught me many important things, including the love of reading, not fearing being an individual, treating the help with respect and greeting them kindly, giving to those who don't have, doing my best... I hope to pass that on to my children.
For some of us (hopefully - more than just a few), it's not about our toxic parents anymore - but the lesson we've learned (if and how much we've learned). Cause if we try to move forward without actually learning from the past - those mistakes will follow us in the future. Also, we live in the age of information - so - we have less excuses than they did. As for forgiveness... that's the easy part, it's easy to forgive as an adult (someone who's owning his path - as you phrased it).click to expand
Posted by LillyPetalAgain, fair enough (that's a good point). 🙂 We're pretty different after all (different individuals on different paths through life), even worlds apart - in some cases... to different to compliment each other. Even so, there are some proven healthy models (general models) - on how to raise a child - on its healthy development as an individual, which seem to work for every child. It's those models - that define - child abuse or irresponsible parents (if you go against the book - so to speak), which in turn can lead to - more dysfunctional individuals.
I can only speak for myself. For me personally, forgiveness has not come easily. I am still in the process. But we're not here to compare journeys.click to expand
EVERYONE has some of these issues. It's part of growing up and learning to take responsibility for yourself. Parents do the best they can. Most of us just wing it and all of you will too when you have kids. No parent is perfect. No matter what you do, something will be wrong. Working mom could equal abandonment/neglect issues yet teaches independence and self sufficiency. Stay at home mom could equal smothering and helicoptering yet instills a sense of love and security.
We all have issues to deal with. We all have to find ourselves. However, it's always the parents that get blamed.
We all have issues to deal with. We all have to find ourselves. However, it's always the parents that get blamed.
Of course, I'm not talking about truly toxic parents - alcholics, drug users, parents leaving their children home alone overnight, parents who are abusive. Those parents definitely cause a lot of problems.
Most parents aren't all that bad. We will all be happier if we look for the POSITIVE things our parents taught us and appreciate learning those things. Forgive the unintentional negatives and focus on the positive That is the true route to happiness and finding peace from your childhood.
Most parents aren't all that bad. We will all be happier if we look for the POSITIVE things our parents taught us and appreciate learning those things. Forgive the unintentional negatives and focus on the positive That is the true route to happiness and finding peace from your childhood.
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