All that cheating talk

has me thinking about this :: don't you know when you're with a cheater?

Something must be off if you don't know --right?

For example I knew when this happened to me. I sensed it right away.

LOL

I didn't. I would've known probably but he told me 1 week in his affair.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
For example I knew when this happened to me. I sensed it right away.

that damn dean cain! 😛

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😉

Posted by Damnata
I didn't. I would've known probably but he told me 1 week in his affair.

I knew the instant I saw him (after the fact). A gut feeling is all I can chalk it up to.

The stories that fascinate me are the ones that the cheating goes on for long periods of time.

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pisces women are the last to know ime lol. shit i don't even know if anyone told em. i didn't.

Agreed. Why do you think that is?

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Very trusting?

or better yet, IN DENIAL

Told one of my Pisces gfs her bf was cheating on her.

She had this distant look in her eyes "I see..". I felt like shaking her.

Posted by tiziani
Maybe they're happy with how things are

Afraid of change?

Posted by Damnata
Told one of my Pisces gfs her bf was cheating on her.

She had this distant look in her eyes "I see..". I felt like shaking her.

Did she believe you?

I should've known before he started the affair.

I remember once incident..I was coming home from a treasure hunting contest, really happy with myself but tired. He didn't even raise his eyes from the monitor "Can you get me a beer?"

My mom told me I probably knew he was up to something but in denial. She came to visit it and when she left she remarked "You're always, always in someone's corner when you love them. This time I said shit about your bf and you didn't react. Why is that?"

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Posted by Damnata
Told one of my Pisces gfs her bf was cheating on her.

She had this distant look in her eyes "I see..". I felt like shaking her.

Did she believe you?

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Yes. She was so dettached from everything in that moment. Like I was discussing some newspaper article with her.

This is why Pisces-Pisces pairings are the best.

I''ll buy you a bigger aquarium 😄.

I think with same sign pairings Libra-Libra wins all...and Virgo-Virgo inspires horror stories.

My Libra friend sent me a huge chart from the statistics department at Facebook. They compiled ALL the data from all the people who are in a relationship on facebook and determined 25% of the users are in same sign pairings, which is huge.

I know a Pisces - Pisces couple in real life. Going on that I can bet 3 kids:

Aries Scorpio Sagittarius

In that order 😄

I'm trying to cram as many Pisces as I can in my mental aquarium so I say go for it.

Same Tiz, we are truly delusional.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
has me thinking about this :: don't you know when you're with a cheater?

Something must be off if you don't know --right?

my philosophy is, I dont wanna know. Do your business, and if you love me, stay loyal and true.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
For example I knew when this happened to me. I sensed it right away.

Most do have that instinct (both male and female).

I have a rule with a man I'm with (beyond dating) and it's worked. I've only had to say it once.

If you find yourself getting past the point of curiosity with someone outside this relationship (emotional flirting etc..), please just tell me because I respect this friendship and you too much and will respect you more if you walk away first. If you choose to go behind my back, you will be dead and non-existent to me.

Only one guy in the graveyard, but I saw it coming and waited around only to see if he took me seriously.

..and for the Pisces bashers..I have a Pisces Moon and Rising with three asteroids in Pisces. I have never thought about and never have cheated on anyone I've been in a relationship with.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
or better yet, IN DENIAL

To be in denial means the person has an idea it's happening and is mentally sweeping under the rug... that's a whole different issue than what Nads brought up though. He worded it that Pisces women have no clue.

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From what I understand, denial is a defence mechanism that is "subconsciously" activated when someone is unable to face reality or admit an obvious truth.

Posted by MissFisk
So, from what I gather according to this site (because DXP is a holy testament of relationships... El-Oh-EL)... Pisces men are notorious cheaters and Pisces women are oblivious to being cheated on.

Uhm, I have known a few Piscean ladies be the cheaters and they're damn good at it too 😉

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
has me thinking about this :: don't you know when you're with a cheater?

Something must be off if you don't know --right?

my philosophy is, I dont wanna know. Do your business, and if you love me, stay loyal and true.

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You don't want to know if your husband is cheating?

Posted by duchessedenemours
I feel it's easy to tell on an instinctual level. Just the persons interactions and reactions overcompensate in either direction. I felt it when I was given a lot of material affection but emotional detach ment at the same time.

I think so too.

What's also strange is I can spot it in other couples. If one is straying. I can't very well suggest it as I do not have proof but it usually ends up being true.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
For example I knew when this happened to me. I sensed it right away.

Most do have that instinct (both male and female).

I have a rule with a man I'm with (beyond dating) and it's worked. I've only had to say it once.

If you find yourself getting past the point of curiosity with someone outside this relationship (emotional flirting etc..), please just tell me because I respect this friendship and you too much and will respect you more if you walk away first. If you choose to go behind my back, you will be dead and non-existent to me.

Only one guy in the graveyard, but I saw it coming and waited around only to see if he took me seriously.

..and for the Pisces bashers..I have a Pisces Moon and Rising with three asteroids in Pisces. I have never thought about and never have cheated on anyone I've been in a relationship with.

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I believe so too about having the instinct. I think some refuse to listen to it for whatever reasons. They're insecure and would rather stay?

BTW, this thread was not about Pisces and cheating LOL

Posted by JenLove
Of course not, that's a huge and incorrect assumption. I do agree there are usually signs that someone is cheating and some thing is usually off but, they're not always that obvious and not everyone notices them due to several different factors.

Some people are just more intuitive and some pay much more attention to details than others, so those people might notice things are off right away while it takes other people longer. Some people just never notice things, ever lol It all just depends on the people involved and the situation in which the cheating is occurring.

I wasn't assuming anything.

Just wondering if anyone else has that gut reaction to cheaters. In my experience I knew the next day I saw "him" that something was wrong and I couldn't put my finger on it. But I knew right there and then there was someone else. It was just a matter of time after that.

Cheating is different for women and men.

As a Pisces, cheating doesn't mean the same to me, as it does the other 11 signs ...

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Cheating is different for women and men.

As a Pisces, cheating doesn't mean the same to me, as it does the other 11 signs ...

Please elaborate, I am curious at to your point of view.

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Posted by P-Angel

Cheating is different for women and men.

As a Pisces, cheating doesn't mean the same to me, as it does the other 11 signs ...

Please elaborate, I am curious at to your point of view.

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Me too. I was married to a serial cheating Pisces.

Please, let me in on the secret.

Look around at these women in your life .... just one look from the man and the woman wants "Love", she wants emotions ... it's NOT sex she is wanting from him. She will use sex to get him, but, the moment she gives it to him .. she wants/expects him to reciprocate with emotions.

So, why then should females be so stupid to this, to her own motivations that she cannot grasp that cheating to her is .........

.. if her man LOVES someone else?


If her man got caught fucking another woman, the first words out of her mouth is ... do you love her?


This is a man's world. As much as females would like to protest against that, it's true. And in this world, built for men .... all sex is on his terms, or more accurately, it's according to his definition.

Just like cheating ... because the bond of a relationship is built around the male, it is defined by the physical connection. His connection - sexual.

when in reality, for the females ... it's not physical at all. She will enjoy the physical, she might even love sex so much that she thinks about it all day ... but, the connection she wants with a man is NOT physical - it's emotional.

So, since she lives in this physical world that the man has built ... she will automatically believe that love is sex.

Just look in here at all the women who fuck the man .. and then can't grasp why he isn't loving her. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why this concept escapes people.

If a guy is giving his woman everything she needs to feel like a special, cared for woman, who is the light of her life ..... is that what makes her happy?


Or, is where his dick is dipping what makes her happy?

I'm not condoning cheating by any means ... I'm simply expressing how cheating isn't the same for men and women ... though women have no clue to this because she cannot discern the difference between physical and emotional - she thinks it's one in the same.


Here's a situation:

A man tells another woman he loves her

A man gets a blow job from another woman


Which one do you think the woman is going to lose her mind over?

Posted by P-Angel

If a guy is giving his woman everything she needs to feel like a special, cared for woman, who is the light of her life ..... is that what makes her happy?


Or, is where his dick is dipping what makes her happy?

Sounds like you're saying if this is true:

"a guy is giving his woman everything she needs to feel like a special, cared for woman, who is the light of her life"


Then this shouldn't matter:

"where his dick is dipping ..."


lol

Are you?

People in here talk about Pisces .... what they don't realize is that when you tell a Pisces her man has cheated on her, she thinks about if she's provided for emotionally.

she's not recalling the same moments as the rest of you, to wonder if he's fucking someone else ... she's thinking about if she's being neglected by him emotionally.

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Posted by P-Angel

Cheating is different for women and men.

As a Pisces, cheating doesn't mean the same to me, as it does the other 11 signs ...

Please elaborate, I am curious at to your point of view.

Me too. I was married to a serial cheating Pisces.

Please, let me in on the secret.

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Yikes, sorry to hear that. I saw a very close friend of mine marry a "Pisces lady" that we all thought was a cheater. How could we possibly tell him that based on our gut feelings? Anyway, not less than a year she left him and shacked up with the other guy she had been seeing on the side for the last year. Awful, it killed him. Libra.

Most of the Pisces people I know ... don't hold as much stock in physical as much as they do emotional.

Most of the Pisces I know regard cheating as taking something away from them.

I think women cheat more than men.

I get what you are saying P-Angel.


A woman would never cheat if her emotional needs were met.

A woman will lose her mind if a man emotionally bonds with another person. The female expects her man to give all of his feelings to her, whatever is bothering him, whatever he is thinking, whatever he needs emotionally .... the females believes that he is obligated to share this with her.


Yet, she will bond emotionally with other people all the time.

Posted by P-Angel

A woman will lose her mind if a man emotionally bonds with another person. The female expects her man to give all of his feelings to her, whatever is bothering him, whatever he is thinking, whatever he needs emotionally .... the females believes that he is obligated to share this with her.


Yet, she will bond emotionally with other people all the time.

That is why women will ask the question --do you love her or was it just physical. He damn better well answer NO.

Sex is not love.

Sex is an expression of love.

So, cheating cannot be physical ... it can only be the expression.


If a person cheats on you, then to the emotional bond is where you have to look .... not where his dick is dipping. Half the time, he doesn't even know the bitch's name.


If I was told that my man was cheating .... I'd look at my emotional connection with him. I wouldn't look at sex, at all ... because sex an expression of the cheater, and not the condition in which lead him there.

I have no idea that I'm with a cheater I over look so much when i'm with my boyfriends its not funny??_..

It was only when I walked in on my piscean ex making out with a tranny on my couch in our apartment that I got the clue??_..it was crazy, I was a wreck and he had the nerve to say "you knew this was coming" umm excuse me? no I didn't fucking know??_..and the first thing I thought was - this is how it happens on jerry springer??_I walked away from that relationship thinking that I must be so emotionally unevolved and he was was much more emotionally superior to me to be able love multiple people, unlike me who only focused on one person??_.and its taken me all these years to realise nah he's just an asshole.

Posted by P-Angel


Sex is not love.

Sex is an expression of love.

So, cheating cannot be physical ... it can only be the expression.


If a person cheats on you, then to the emotional bond is where you have to look .... not where his dick is dipping. Half the time, he doesn't even know the bitch's name.


If I was told that my man was cheating .... I'd look at my emotional connection with him. I wouldn't look at sex, at all ... because sex an expression of the cheater, and not the condition in which lead him there.

I agree...

Interesting thread 🙂

P-Angel, this leads back to what I was originally thinking. If you are truly connected emotionally with your partner, you would know when something would be off.

I guess women are the biggest EMOTIONAL cheaters hmm

Posted by aquapiscescusp

I get what you are saying P-Angel.

A woman would never cheat if her emotional needs were met.

But, because the female cannot discern the difference between emotional and physical .... she also believes that the guy shouldn't cheat if she is meeting his emotional needs.

And that is in error.

His emotional needs don't guide his sexuality.

It's obvious ... just look around here in dxp .... for the most part, women are quite clueless and cannot grasp why her man isn't behaving according to her loving him. That is because she doesn't know that he isn't connected to his emotions.

She says she gets it ... but, she doesn't. In reality, most women have no clue that men aren't female.