Are Relationships Like Closing a Sale...?

I have heard people compare relationships to negotiating a sale. For example, the first person to speak/respond, loses the deal or puts themselves in a compromising position down the road. I approach relationships very differently from this perspective, but when I think about it, relationships are a series of transactions and negotiations.

What do y'all think?

Posted by Koniucha
I sure hope not. I am a terrible salesperson

Lol. You and I both.

Posted by tiziani
Everyone has a selling style at the beginning, yes. I can see that much. Not sure about the rest of the time though.

Well I suppose thats just it... From the beginning, there are sales transactions taking place. Whether it be selling ourselves or deciding if we want to "purchase" (i.e. commit to the other person).

I used to be obsessed with this Chinese TV dating show called "if you are the one" when you watch it you kind of see the psyche behind the contestants dating criteria and most traditional types see relationships as a business deal......instead of seeing someone who is hot and their jaw drops to the floor they look for merits in the other person whether they would raise the household well or if they cook well....I think it's smart to approach relationships as a business deal because you want to know what you're investing your time and energy on

Especially when it comes to the future of your offspring....

Posted by natural25
I have heard people compare relationships to negotiating a sale. For example, the first person to speak/respond, loses the deal or puts themselves in a compromising position down the road. I approach relationships very differently from this perspective, but when I think about it, relationships are a series of transactions and negotiations.

What do y'all think?

In business, its called a relationship too.

Posted by tiziani
Everyone has a selling style at the beginning, yes. I can see that much. Not sure about the rest of the time though.

This. It can't continue to be a win or lose, acquire or retire interaction once you've decided to move forward. This is why many relationships don't work out. People still see their "mate" as someone who should continue to impress them. That's tiring. I think of the phase after you truly get together as taking it to a more established institution like a school or hospital or church or other civic place of service. You go in together, get your shit done...doesn't really matter who does what....you just get shit done. You go out for some hours and do it all over again. That's why looks and sex can't be the foundation of the relationship.

If the person has impressed you enough to move beyond the dating phase and you end up disappointed with what you got, either you don't view relationships the same way (this is a vital convo to have as boring as it might sound) or you were too easy to impress.

Posted by 037

Posted by natural25
I have heard people compare relationships to negotiating a sale. For example, the first person to speak/respond, loses the deal or puts themselves in a compromising position down the road. I approach relationships very differently from this perspective, but when I think about it, relationships are a series of transactions and negotiations.

What do y'all think?

In business, its called a relationship too.

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