Are we dating the same Guy?

are you guys reading "Are we dating the same guy?" Facebook groups are my new source of entertainment. they have them for all the cities.

Basically women have figured out an efficient way to get together and fuck over the guys who fucked them over. and its beautiful. These groups are active AF and provide endless amusement.

Poor David, I'm mean sure.. he's is going to get pussy no matter what, but its even harder for him now.

The more you know, the more you can make an educated decision.

Reminds me of dontdatehimgirl.com

Posted by Eggroll
My city is UNHINGED and the reason I stopped actively dating. The guy I was talking to and getting ready to meet gave 5 women in the group an STI in the span of 3 months.

I did read how post pandemic, STIs are on the rise

When you live in Dayton, OH…. It’s not exactly a target rich environment for dating and I can conclude that before even looking at such a page 😬 but this looks interesting and funny, so I’ll look it up anyway.

I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

It’s also a good way to ruin someone’s rep assuming they're innocent and the woman is lying

Posted by roti
It’s also a good way to ruin someone’s rep assuming they're innocent and the woman is lying

Exactly. The post literally says "I think someone posted him" and is saying what they saw/heard and they don't even know the guy. It's a second hand assumption and the girl said thanks and un matched lol

What a joke

Too much drama for me.

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Posted by roti
It’s also a good way to ruin someone’s rep assuming they're innocent and the woman is lying

I don’t think one person lying would ruin someone’s entire reputation. Or even one persons experience. But if you have 6, 7, 8 women who have all had really bad experiences, I think that is worth knowing about and avoiding.

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Yes one person wouldn’t be enough but let’s say she had her friends co-sign a fake story, it’s possible if you have enough people to play along and others believing it

This is the exact reason why I think men need to put in the work and make more effort.

This lady did all this and admitted to being the pursuer and doing most of the leg work and the guy didn’t care and wasn’t interested.

She shouldn’t have told him anything or put herself out there again, asking to meet up. Just unmatch and move on.

We usually know exactly where we stand with someone but hope blurs the line.

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Posted by saggurl88
This is the exact reason why I think men need to put in the work and make more effort.

This lady did all this and admitted to being the pursuer and doing most of the leg work and the guy didn’t care and wasn’t interested.

She shouldn’t have told him anything or put herself out there again, asking to meet up. Just unmatch and move on.

We usually know exactly where we stand with someone but hope blurs they line.

The group is not just for vetting men you’ve matched with on dating sites, some women in the groups have found their boyfriends or husbands cheating.


The guy I matched with was dating another woman and sleeping with her and told her they didn’t need to use condoms because he was exclusive with her. I obviously was not heartbroken because I’d never met him but she was really hurt. He was sending us the same photos at the same time and the weekend I was supposed to meet him he told her he would be out of town.

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Those posts are valid.

I just get annoyed by women asking before they even meet a guy. I don't get it. It's like they want drama even before the first date or are looking for a reason to judge the poor guy.

Or they post that there are red flags because he stopped calling or ghosted after the first date.

If guys did this to women, we would have a fit!

Anyone cheating on dating apps will get what they deserve. They should know quickly that they will be found out and are idiots.

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Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

There's a great danger for all this to devolve into juvenile pettiness that doesn't help anyone in the long run.


As you've already stated, and a point I raised a couple of times here in the past, no-one bats an eyelid when a woman talks/flirts with several guys at a specific event but women see it as a red flag when a man does the same thing.


With that said, I wouldn't be surprised if many women in those FB groups were guilty of doing the same things themselves. We've all come across women who have been covert serial daters, playing their male suitors against each other (and in some cases, financially profiting from the experience).

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I definitely agree!

There was one guy who was a red flag because he wanted to date exclusively from the start!

There are some women who are fine with that, so why is his picture out there and being labeled as a red flag lol

It's important t date multiple people to find your person, but shading guys because they aren't a match for you is weird behavior.

If the guy was an abuser or a cheater, I could see why he would be posted, but these sites are a free for all for anyone on a dating site.

I would hate for my picture to be posted and guys to just randomly unmatch with no explanation because they got this type of info from previous people that I didn't have chemistry with.

Maybe I am just a party pooper since I don't find the humor in it.

Hysterical. Well maybe it helps with their overthinking? But reality is guys don’t treat everyone the same. Although some guys might be asses to all, some bitches are crazy lol

Oh & some guys never grow up!! 50’s and 60’s are no different.

If dating wasn’t already hard enough…. 😂

Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.


Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.


And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!


Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.


It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

Because they don't want relationships, they like the idea of one. Those groups are pointless unless you have agreed to exclusivity. Yet, women will nail you to the cross for dating multiple people, only for them to drop you or act uninterested.

Online dating and dating coaches with zero certifications have created a narrative of perfection. Most people are already in the mindset that something is wrong with you before you even exchange numbers.

There are obviously men who cheat, but this idea of group think that it applies to every male is ridiculous. Meeting someone decent is not too good to be true.

Posted by LuckyLibra7

Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

Because they don't want relationships, they like the idea of one. Those groups are pointless unless you have agreed to exclusivity. Yet, women will nail you to the cross for dating multiple people, only for them to drop you or act uninterested.


Online dating and dating coaches with zero certifications have created a narrative of perfection. Most people are already in the mindset that something is wrong with you before you even exchange numbers.


There are obviously men who cheat, but this idea of group think that it applies to every male is ridiculous. Meeting someone decent is not too good to be true.

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I agree! It's like a mob mentality for giggling, catty cat ladies!

So let them stay inside these groups and wonder why they are single, while the rest of us actually go on dates with protentional prospects!

They can take comfort in the women they are gossiping to!

Most sane people know that everyone, men and women, will date multiple people here in the states, unless its talked about otherwise.

You have to figure out what's right for you on a person to person scenario.

I've told men no I wouldn't stop dating others, and I've told men that I would. Just depends on how much I like them and am willing to try. Men have the same options.

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Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

There's a great danger for all this to devolve into juvenile pettiness that doesn't help anyone in the long run.

As you've already stated, and a point I raised a couple of times here in the past, no-one bats an eyelid when a woman talks/flirts with several guys at a specific event but women see it as a red flag when a man does the same thing.

With that said, I wouldn't be surprised if many women in those FB groups were guilty of doing the same things themselves. We've all come across women who have been covert serial daters, playing their male suitors against each other (and in some cases, financially profiting from the experience).

I definitely agree!


There was one guy who was a red flag because he wanted to date exclusively from the start!


There are some women who are fine with that, so why is his picture out there and being labeled as a red flag lol


It's important t date multiple people to find your person, but shading guys because they aren't a match for you is weird behavior.


If the guy was an abuser or a cheater, I could see why he would be posted, but these sites are a free for all for anyone on a dating site.


I would hate for my picture to be posted and guys to just randomly unmatch with no explanation because they got this type of info from previous people that I didn't have chemistry with.


Maybe I am just a party pooper since I don't find the humor in it.



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It's not just weird behaviour, but also dangerous, controlling and malicious.


As you pointed out, what's not okay for one woman may be perfectly acceptable for another. Unless there's a clear negative pattern established (and proven), no female stranger has the right fuck around with someone else's personal life.


What's really preposterous is the fact that these women act as if they (or other women) aren't guilty of having done the same things themselves.


Warning other women of taken men or serial cheaters?! As if most of these women haven't acted the same way themselves at (at least) one point in their lives. And let's not forget about the ones who deliberately broke-up healthy relationships just because they could.


The hypocrisy absolutely reeks to high heaven. I'm so fucking glad I don't live in the US, so I don't have to endure all that misandric toxicity.

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Both sexes can cheat, I agree. And it does get aired out one way or another, especially with social media.

We women are just lucky that men don't do this type of stuff- YET.

With how feminine men they are acting nowadays, I can see lots of men within the next generations taking the time out to do this, now that roles are being reversed and the women are being too independent and said to be too masculine. lol

Good luck to the future generations, It looks like a shit show in the making!

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Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

Because they don't want relationships, they like the idea of one. Those groups are pointless unless you have agreed to exclusivity. Yet, women will nail you to the cross for dating multiple people, only for them to drop you or act uninterested.


Online dating and dating coaches with zero certifications have created a narrative of perfection. Most people are already in the mindset that something is wrong with you before you even exchange numbers.


There are obviously men who cheat, but this idea of group think that it applies to every male is ridiculous. Meeting someone decent is not too good to be true.

I agree! It's like a mob mentality for giggling, catty cat ladies!

So let them stay inside these groups and wonder why they are single, while the rest of us actually go on dates with protentional prospects!

They can take comfort in the women they are gossiping to!

Most sane people know that everyone, men and women, will date multiple people here in the states, unless its talked about otherwise.
You have to figure out what's right for you on a person to person scenario.

I've told men no I wouldn't stop dating others, and I've told men that I would. Just depends on how much I like them and am willing to try. Men have the same options.

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I think we're too far gone to change this behavior. Love has become hedonistic.. me, me me. Nobody wants to water each other, just constantly taking and concerned about themselves.

Being comfortable with them dating others in the beginning phase requires an secure attachment style , which most people don't have.

Dating actively requires effort and reflection. Treating each situation unique and not bringing baggage along with you. I just don't know what men are going to do, thinking women will come over before meeting and women who are offended by drinks and coffee dates or anything that doesn't revolve around a dinner.

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Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

Because they don't want relationships, they like the idea of one. Those groups are pointless unless you have agreed to exclusivity. Yet, women will nail you to the cross for dating multiple people, only for them to drop you or act uninterested.

Online dating and dating coaches with zero certifications have created a narrative of perfection. Most people are already in the mindset that something is wrong with you before you even exchange numbers.

There are obviously men who cheat, but this idea of group think that it applies to every male is ridiculous. Meeting someone decent is not too good to be true.

I agree! It's like a mob mentality for giggling, catty cat ladies!


So let them stay inside these groups and wonder why they are single, while the rest of us actually go on dates with protentional prospects!


They can take comfort in the women they are gossiping to!


Most sane people know that everyone, men and women, will date multiple people here in the states, unless its talked about otherwise.

You have to figure out what's right for you on a person to person scenario.


I've told men no I wouldn't stop dating others, and I've told men that I would. Just depends on how much I like them and am willing to try. Men have the same options.
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I think we're too far gone to change this behavior. Love has become hedonistic.. me, me me. Nobody wants to water each other, just constantly taking and concerned about themselves.


Being comfortable with them dating others in the beginning phase requires an secure attachment style , which most people don't have.


Dating actively requires effort and reflection. Treating each situation unique and not bringing baggage along with you. I just don't know what men are going to do, thinking women will come over before meeting and women who are offended by drinks and coffee dates or anything that doesn't revolve around a dinner.

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You're being too logical here! Cut that out! 😉

Men have hang ups too when dating. I've met some who say they can't do much because they've been hurt before and choose not to be hurt again. I think it's a cop out and ask what they are even dating for.

I'll probably hurt you too, just come along for the damn ride! I promise it will be fun, while it lasts! 😄

Posted by IceStorm
This is a terrible idea lol there’s always going to be a bitter ex or jaded/rejected fling who doesn’t want a guy to be happy with someone else and will do whatever it takes to keep him single and as miserable as she is.


This is just bad karma. If women really want to heal and live happily ever after, they have to learn to let their exes do the same. And if he’s really a piece of shit, they just have to trust that the other women will find out on their own.

Women want their feelings validated. If she intuitively feels something is off with the guy or simply believes it's just too good to be true, she inquires in groups or with friends.

Then confirmation biased is used to justify anything that doesn't fit their agenda. But I suppose this can just be summed up to say "she just wasn't that into you." The complete opposite can happen as well and a woman will justify reasons to be with a dirtbag. "He's trying to get on his feet." Or "He only stepped out once."

Also, group-think doesn't help either. Women hearing stories or listening to other experiences now reformats their approach on a date. Since we're all connected, this can cause severe issues. You're hearing tons of negative experiences on a daily basis.

We see these group-think experiences all over life from work to politics. Systematic thinking.

Men are now doing the same thing with the red-pill content. Assuming every woman is out to get you and none are marriage material.

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Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

Because they don't want relationships, they like the idea of one. Those groups are pointless unless you have agreed to exclusivity. Yet, women will nail you to the cross for dating multiple people, only for them to drop you or act uninterested.

Online dating and dating coaches with zero certifications have created a narrative of perfection. Most people are already in the mindset that something is wrong with you before you even exchange numbers.

There are obviously men who cheat, but this idea of group think that it applies to every male is ridiculous. Meeting someone decent is not too good to be true.

I agree! It's like a mob mentality for giggling, catty cat ladies!

So let them stay inside these groups and wonder why they are single, while the rest of us actually go on dates with protentional prospects!

They can take comfort in the women they are gossiping to!

Most sane people know that everyone, men and women, will date multiple people here in the states, unless its talked about otherwise.

You have to figure out what's right for you on a person to person scenario.

I've told men no I wouldn't stop dating others, and I've told men that I would. Just depends on how much I like them and am willing to try. Men have the same options.
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I think we're too far gone to change this behavior. Love has become hedonistic.. me, me me. Nobody wants to water each other, just constantly taking and concerned about themselves.

Being comfortable with them dating others in the beginning phase requires an secure attachment style , which most people don't have.

Dating actively requires effort and reflection. Treating each situation unique and not bringing baggage along with you. I just don't know what men are going to do, thinking women will come over before meeting and women who are offended by drinks and coffee dates or anything that doesn't revolve around a dinner.
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You're being too logical here! Cut that out!


Men have hang ups too when dating. I've met some who say they can't do much because they've been hurt before and choose not to be hurt again. I think it's a cop out and ask what they are even dating for.


I'll probably hurt you too, just come along for the damn ride! I promise it will be fun, while it lasts!

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Attention lol.. People want pen-pals when things are on the fence with someone they like.

Yeah, everyone has a checklist and hang-ups now. A date is synonymous with a job interview at this point. You apply and they never called back!

Like damn, I thought I met the criteria that was displayed.

Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.


Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.


And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!


Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.


It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

I would say that, if the chemistry is good, you won’t go looking. Most women feel something is off and they go looking.

No different than a yelp review or looking up a company on the better business bureau

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Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

I would say that, if the chemistry is good, you won’t go looking. Most women feel something is off and they go looking.

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I hope so!

I'm an honorary red flag participant, so I wouldn't go looking. I love me a good red flag sometimes.

Wow 😯

The dating scene is at an all time low.

This is sad to read. I’m so relieved not to be part of it 😬

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Posted by DMV

Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

I would say that, if the chemistry is good, you won’t go looking. Most women feel something is off and they go looking.
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I hope so!

I'm an honorary red flag participant, so I wouldn't go looking. I love me a good red flag sometimes.

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If a guy told you that he got into a bit of trouble with the law years ago, would you look up the case?

Posted by MyStarsShine
Wow 😯

The dating scene is at an all time low.

This is sad to read. I’m so relieved not to be part of it 😬

Yeah it’s nice to not be young and dumb anymore in dating but I’m quite sure I’m failing in other parts of my life.

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Wow 😯

The dating scene is at an all time low.

This is sad to read. I’m so relieved not to be part of it 😬

It's at an alltime "high" with David. He tells you some good "lines" on a date.

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From beyond the grave?……..👻

Posted by DMV

Posted by MyStarsShine
Wow 😯

The dating scene is at an all time low.

This is sad to read. I’m so relieved not to be part of it 😬

Yeah it’s nice to not be young and dumb anymore in dating but I’m quite sure I’m failing in other parts of my life.

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In what way D?

Posted by saggurl88
I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.


Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.


And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!


Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.


It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

Yeah unless you are in an exclusive relationship with the guy what fucking business is it of yours how many other women he talks with?

As a woman you get to sleep around and "keep your options open" cuz that's what an independent woman does but if he does the same he's a douchebag?

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I have seen these groups and think they are ridiculous. Especially the one in Toronto, Canada.

Theses guys don't even have a chance, the ladies list the men even before a first date looking for red flags.

Sometimes the men find out about the posts and get upset.

I think it really takes a lot out of a first impression. A man can be totally different with you, depending on the chemistry and how attracted he is to you upon the first meet up and the women come in with loaded guns ready to uncover the red flags they've heard about.

And they wonder why they are single.

I can see questioning strange behavior and trying to find out, but before a first date—?

You have to be kidding me!

Some women even unmatch with guys if they are talking to too many females and the women talk crap about him. Whether they've met him or not. I guess they don't think that men can vet females the same way we can and choose not to meet up with them.

It's up to us as individuals to figure out if our time is being wasted. Don't get mad at a guy for keeping you inside an app and never planning a date, just stop wasting your time and unmatch!

I would say that, if the chemistry is good, you won’t go looking. Most women feel something is off and they go looking.
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I hope so!

I'm an honorary red flag participant, so I wouldn't go looking. I love me a good red flag sometimes.


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If a guy told you that he got into a bit of trouble with the law years ago, would you look up the case?

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No I wouldn't look up the case, I would let him tell me what happened and figure out if I still wanted to date him.

But I don't ever look into stuff. I'm not that inquisitive.

Now if it happened last week- Yes, but far back in the past isn't a big deal as long as he has a good career and his life is in order.

If he started showing signs of aggression or abuse, then yes, I would, just to see if he was lying about what he went in for. But I would still dump a guy that shows signs like that. I don't have the tolerance for a man putting his hands on me. I don't want to go to jail for killing him! 😅

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Wow 😯

The dating scene is at an all time low.

This is sad to read. I’m so relieved not to be part of it 😬

Yeah it’s nice to not be young and dumb anymore in dating but I’m quite sure I’m failing in other parts of my life.

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At least you are aware of what you should be focusing on to get balance! You got this! 💪

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This is a rape list a woman found on the father of her child’s phone. 20 women he kept a log of raping. Oh, and 2 consensual hookers in Mexico.


Hope he doesn’t live near the ones who like to figure things out on their own. 🤷‍♀️

It doesn't have to be one extreme or the other.

Women can get raped going on a jog in their neighborhood park or being in an Uber.

What a weird post to put up.

Megan's law is an official government website where you can look up these types, it's not a chat group.

Hopefully he is in Jail somewhere.

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This is a rape list a woman found on the father of her child’s phone. 20 women he kept a log of raping. Oh, and 2 consensual hookers in Mexico.

Hope he doesn’t live near the ones who like to figure things out on their own. 🤷‍♀️

It doesn't have to be one extreme or the other.

Women can get raped going on a jog in their neighborhood park or being in an Uber.


What a weird post to put up.


Megan's law is an official government website where you can look up these types, it's not a chat group.


Hopefully he is in Jail somewhere.
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How do you look up someone who has never been convicted? It’s weird that you’re so staunchly against women taking precautions to protect themselves. Aligning yourself with men/against women is not going to protect you from them.

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What are you talking about? Did you even read my posts? I SPECIFICALLY said what I had an issue with.

It has nothing to do with protecting themselves. Women are asking about tea and red flags, not if they are gonna go on a date with a killer.

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This is a rape list a woman found on the father of her child’s phone. 20 women he kept a log of raping. Oh, and 2 consensual hookers in Mexico.

Hope he doesn’t live near the ones who like to figure things out on their own. 🤷‍♀️

It doesn't have to be one extreme or the other.

Women can get raped going on a jog in their neighborhood park or being in an Uber.


What a weird post to put up.


Megan's law is an official government website where you can look up these types, it's not a chat group.


Hopefully he is in Jail somewhere.
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How do you look up someone who has never been convicted? It’s weird that you’re so staunchly against women taking precautions to protect themselves. Aligning yourself with men/against women is not going to protect you from them.

What are you talking about? Did you even read my posts? I SPECIFICALLY said what I had an issue with.

It has nothing to do with protecting themselves. Women are asking about tea and red flags, not if they are gonna go on a date with a killer.

I’m not arguing with you. I believe you’re an intelligent person but you’re a pick me and there are better uses of my time.

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Lol

Why don’t you stop being so passive aggressive about things then? Say it with your chest!

You are right about wasting my time though. 👋 ✌️

Had to look this up-

pick-me girl (plural pick-me girls) (slang, derogatory) A woman who asserts that she is unlike (and sometimes better than) most other women, in order to gain attention, approval, or validation from men.



Yeah right. I say things because that’s what I’m thinking at the time. I could care less about gaining approval from a man.

I talk crap about them too, when the shoe fits,

I’m an equal opportunist that just has an opinion.

its not always negative, sometimes these ladies come together and want to share....