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Child Abuse PREVENTION Month
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Child Abuse Hotlines:
US or Canada: 1-800-422-4453 (Childhelp)
UK: 0800 1111 (NSPCC Childline)
Australia: 1800 688 009 (CAPS)
New Zealand: 0800-543-754 (Kidsline)
Other international helplines: ChiWorld.org
10 Reasons NOT to Hit Your Kids:
1. Hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. Extensive research data is now available to support a direct correlation between corporal punishment in childhood and aggressive or violent behavior in the teenage and adult years. Virtually all of the most dangerous criminals were regularly threatened and punished in childhood. It is nature's plan that children learn attitudes and behaviors through observation and imitation of their parents' actions, for good or ill. Thus it is the responsibility of parents to set an example of empathy and wisdom.
2. In many cases of so-called "bad behavior", the child is simply responding in the only way he can, given his age and experience, to neglect of basic needs. Among these needs are: proper sleep and nutrition, treatment of hidden allergy, fresh air, exercise, and sufficient freedom to explore the world around him. But his greatest need is for his parents' undivided attention. In these busy times, few children receive sufficient time and attention from their parents, who are often too distracted by their own problems and worries to treat their children with patience and empathy. It is surely wrong and unfair to punish a child for responding in a natural way to having important needs neglected. For this reason, punishment is not only ineffective in the long run, it is also clearly unjust.
3. Punishment distracts the child from learning how to resolve conflict in an effective and humane way. As the educator John Holt wrote, "When we make a child afraid, we stop learning dead in its tracks." A punished child becomes preoccupied with feelings of anger and fantasies of revenge, and is thus deprived of the opportunity to learn more effective methods of solving the problem at hand. Thus, a punished child learns little about how to handle or prevent similar situations in the future.
4. The phrase "Spare the rod and spoil the child" is not from the Bible but from Samuel Butler's "Hudibras", a 17th Century satirical poem. The poem, like his novel, The Way of All Flesh, was written to expose and denounce violence against children. Ironically, this phrase is now used to justify corporal punishment and other punitive actions against children.
1. Hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. Extensive research data is now available to support a direct correlation between corporal punishment in childhood and aggressive or violent behavior in the teenage and adult years. Virtually all of the most dangerous criminals were regularly threatened and punished in childhood. It is nature's plan that children learn attitudes and behaviors through observation and imitation of their parents' actions, for good or ill. Thus it is the responsibility of parents to set an example of empathy and wisdom.
2. In many cases of so-called "bad behavior", the child is simply responding in the only way he can, given his age and experience, to neglect of basic needs. Among these needs are: proper sleep and nutrition, treatment of hidden allergy, fresh air, exercise, and sufficient freedom to explore the world around him. But his greatest need is for his parents' undivided attention. In these busy times, few children receive sufficient time and attention from their parents, who are often too distracted by their own problems and worries to treat their children with patience and empathy. It is surely wrong and unfair to punish a child for responding in a natural way to having important needs neglected. For this reason, punishment is not only ineffective in the long run, it is also clearly unjust.
3. Punishment distracts the child from learning how to resolve conflict in an effective and humane way. As the educator John Holt wrote, "When we make a child afraid, we stop learning dead in its tracks." A punished child becomes preoccupied with feelings of anger and fantasies of revenge, and is thus deprived of the opportunity to learn more effective methods of solving the problem at hand. Thus, a punished child learns little about how to handle or prevent similar situations in the future.
4. The phrase "Spare the rod and spoil the child" is not from the Bible but from Samuel Butler's "Hudibras", a 17th Century satirical poem. The poem, like his novel, The Way of All Flesh, was written to expose and denounce violence against children. Ironically, this phrase is now used to justify corporal punishment and other punitive actions against children.
5. Punishment interferes with the bond between parent and child, as it is not human nature to feel loving toward someone who hurts us. The true spirit of cooperation which every parent desires can arise only through a strong bond based on mutual feelings of love and respect. Punishment, even when it appears to work, can produce only superficially good behavior based on fear, which can only take place until the child is old enough to resist. In contrast, cooperation based on respect will last permanently, bringing many years of mutual happiness as the child and parent grow older.
6. Many parents never learned in their own childhood that there are positive ways of relating to children. When punishment does not accomplish the desired goals, and if the parent is unaware of alternative methods, punishment can escalate to more frequent and dangerous actions against the child.
7. Anger and frustration which cannot be safely expressed by a child become stored inside; angry teenagers do not fall from the sky. Anger that has been accumulating for many years can come as a shock to parents whose child now feels strong enough to express this rage. Punishment may appear to produce "good behavior" in the early years, but always at a high price, paid by parents and by society as a whole, as the child enters adolescence and early adulthood.
8. Spanking on the buttocks, an erogenous zone in childhood, can create in the child's mind an association between pain and sexual pleasure, and lead to difficulties in adulthood. "Spanking wanted" ads in alternative newspapers attest to the sad consequences of this confusion of pain and pleasure. If a child receives little parental attention except when being punished, this will further merge the concepts of pain and pleasure in the child's mind. A child in this situation will have little self-esteem, believing he deserves nothing better. For more on this topic, see "The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children" (also in French).
Even relatively moderate spanking can be physically dangerous. Blows to the lower end of the spinal column send shock waves along the length of the spine, and may injure the child. The prevalence of lower back pain among adults in our society may well have its origins in childhood punishment. Some children have become paralyzed through nerve damage from spanking, and some have died after mild paddlings, due to undiagnosed medical complications.
6. Many parents never learned in their own childhood that there are positive ways of relating to children. When punishment does not accomplish the desired goals, and if the parent is unaware of alternative methods, punishment can escalate to more frequent and dangerous actions against the child.
7. Anger and frustration which cannot be safely expressed by a child become stored inside; angry teenagers do not fall from the sky. Anger that has been accumulating for many years can come as a shock to parents whose child now feels strong enough to express this rage. Punishment may appear to produce "good behavior" in the early years, but always at a high price, paid by parents and by society as a whole, as the child enters adolescence and early adulthood.
8. Spanking on the buttocks, an erogenous zone in childhood, can create in the child's mind an association between pain and sexual pleasure, and lead to difficulties in adulthood. "Spanking wanted" ads in alternative newspapers attest to the sad consequences of this confusion of pain and pleasure. If a child receives little parental attention except when being punished, this will further merge the concepts of pain and pleasure in the child's mind. A child in this situation will have little self-esteem, believing he deserves nothing better. For more on this topic, see "The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children" (also in French).
Even relatively moderate spanking can be physically dangerous. Blows to the lower end of the spinal column send shock waves along the length of the spine, and may injure the child. The prevalence of lower back pain among adults in our society may well have its origins in childhood punishment. Some children have become paralyzed through nerve damage from spanking, and some have died after mild paddlings, due to undiagnosed medical complications.
9. Physical punishment gives the dangerous and unfair message that "might makes right", that it is permissible to hurt someone else, provided they are smaller and less powerful than you are. The child then concludes that it is permissible to mistreat younger or smaller children. When he becomes an adult, he can feel little compassion for those less fortunate than he is, and fears those who are more powerful. This will hinder the establishment of meaningful relationships so essential to an emotionally fulfilling life.
10. Because children learn through parental modeling, physical punishment gives the message that hitting is an appropriate way to express feelings and to solve problems. If a child does not observe a parent solving problems in a creative and humane way, it can be difficult for him to learn to do this himself. For this reason, unskilled parenting often continues into the next generation.
Gentle instruction, supported by a strong foundation of love and respect, is the only truly effective way to bring about commendable behavior based on strong inner values, instead of superficially "good" behavior based only on fear.
10. Because children learn through parental modeling, physical punishment gives the message that hitting is an appropriate way to express feelings and to solve problems. If a child does not observe a parent solving problems in a creative and humane way, it can be difficult for him to learn to do this himself. For this reason, unskilled parenting often continues into the next generation.
Gentle instruction, supported by a strong foundation of love and respect, is the only truly effective way to bring about commendable behavior based on strong inner values, instead of superficially "good" behavior based only on fear.
I'll be adding all month..all other info/comments welcome.
I don't understand it either..at all.
I just saw this yesterday. Apparently if you are a billionaire and rape your own three year old child you only get probation...this judge needs to be hunted down imo.
Du Pont Heir Gets Probation After Raping Three-Year-Old
Robert H. Richards IV
Another case of affluenza? A judge has ruled that Robert H. Richards IV, an heir to the du Pont fortune, should not face jail time after raping his three-year-old daughter. The reason Judge Jan Jurden gave for sentencing Richards to probation was that he —would not fare well in prison.??
Richards is six foot four and weighs roughly 250 lbs and has no physical disabilities. Presumably the judge meant he was temperamentally not suited for prison, though who is?
Judge Jan Jurden??s sentencing order for Robert H. Richards IV suggested that she considered unique circumstances when deciding his punishment for fourth-degree rape. Her observation that prison life would adversely affect Richards was a rare and puzzling rationale, several criminal justice authorities in Delaware said. Some also said her view that treatment was a better idea than prison is a justification typically used when sentencing drug addicts, not child rapists.
If child rape is not a crime worthy of prison then we might want to reconsider the idea of imprisonment. Richards?? crime is heinous by any moral standard and he certainly has demonstrated an inclination to harm others.
The lax sentence for the du Pont heir calls to mind the affluenza defense that allowed a Texas teenager who killed four people while drunk driving to escape prison. Experts for the defense argued that the Texas teen was spoiled by his parents or suffered from —affluenza?? and therefore did not belong in prison.
The fact that Jurden expressed concern that prison wasn't right for Richards came as a surprise to defense lawyers and prosecutors who consider her a tough sentencing judge. Several noted that prison officials can put inmates in protective custody if they are worried about their safety, noting that child abusers are sometimes targeted by other inmates.
—It's an extremely rare circumstance that prison serves the inmate well,?? said Delaware Public Defender Brendan J. O??Neill, whose office represents defendants who cannot afford a lawyer. —Prison is to punish, to segregate the offender from society, and the notion that prison serves people well hasn't proven to be true in most circumstances.??
That is a
Du Pont Heir Gets Probation After Raping Three-Year-Old
Robert H. Richards IV
Another case of affluenza? A judge has ruled that Robert H. Richards IV, an heir to the du Pont fortune, should not face jail time after raping his three-year-old daughter. The reason Judge Jan Jurden gave for sentencing Richards to probation was that he —would not fare well in prison.??
Richards is six foot four and weighs roughly 250 lbs and has no physical disabilities. Presumably the judge meant he was temperamentally not suited for prison, though who is?
Judge Jan Jurden??s sentencing order for Robert H. Richards IV suggested that she considered unique circumstances when deciding his punishment for fourth-degree rape. Her observation that prison life would adversely affect Richards was a rare and puzzling rationale, several criminal justice authorities in Delaware said. Some also said her view that treatment was a better idea than prison is a justification typically used when sentencing drug addicts, not child rapists.
If child rape is not a crime worthy of prison then we might want to reconsider the idea of imprisonment. Richards?? crime is heinous by any moral standard and he certainly has demonstrated an inclination to harm others.
The lax sentence for the du Pont heir calls to mind the affluenza defense that allowed a Texas teenager who killed four people while drunk driving to escape prison. Experts for the defense argued that the Texas teen was spoiled by his parents or suffered from —affluenza?? and therefore did not belong in prison.
The fact that Jurden expressed concern that prison wasn't right for Richards came as a surprise to defense lawyers and prosecutors who consider her a tough sentencing judge. Several noted that prison officials can put inmates in protective custody if they are worried about their safety, noting that child abusers are sometimes targeted by other inmates.
—It's an extremely rare circumstance that prison serves the inmate well,?? said Delaware Public Defender Brendan J. O??Neill, whose office represents defendants who cannot afford a lawyer. —Prison is to punish, to segregate the offender from society, and the notion that prison serves people well hasn't proven to be true in most circumstances.??
That is a
That is a rather odd statement from a judge, that Richards should not go to prison because he will not —fare well.?? Does Judge Jurden think prison serves people well most of the time? Rehabilitation has been thrown out for the most part in American correctional policy now it's all about incapacitation — which is a good rationale for putting a child rapist in jail, it stops him from doing it again
Iif we, as a society, are going to move away from incapacitation towards rehabilitation of convicts, fine by me. But I have that sneaking suspicion that this sentence has a lot more to do with what Richards?? inherited than what he did.
....and here he is folks..what a guy
Iif we, as a society, are going to move away from incapacitation towards rehabilitation of convicts, fine by me. But I have that sneaking suspicion that this sentence has a lot more to do with what Richards?? inherited than what he did.
....and here he is folks..what a guy
"I fuck toddlers and get away with it."
pics aren't working today I guess...sigh
Posted by Nemesis
it's really sad to say that youtube has a whole section of memento mori dedications to children/infants killed (brutally) by the hands of their parents, step-parents, boyfriends of mothers, other extended family or other "care-takers".
i can't understand how anybody could do this. it boggles my mind.
Sickening especially when it's the child's own parents that are involved. 9 months of pregnancy followed by painful hours of labour. How can you allow something bad to happen to your child after going through all that? It's unbelievable how heartless & cruel some "mothers" are. Some even look the other way & let the man they are with sexually abuse her own children just because he puts food on the table. That is disgusting.
A story broke in one of our magazines where a mother & her 13 year-old daughter were both impregnated by the same man. The stepfather. When the community found out, they stoned him to death. All the mother could think about was the loss of the breadwinner, her man. Never mind that he took a young girl's innocence & did it right infront of her since they were all sharing a single room shack. It made so angry that a MOTHER could love a man more than she does her own flesh & blood. Disgusting.
Mothers who stand by in cases like this for the "bread/money" need to do life in prison or the death penalty..doesn't matter to me.
In THIS case, the mother is accusing him of raping the infant son too and JUST SUING him.
Nice huh?
In THIS case, the mother is accusing him of raping the infant son too and JUST SUING him.
Nice huh?
Wow. Sad
I fully support anti child abuse whatever (how could you not?) but discipline is not a bad thing. There's no real way to argue with someone who takes such absolute stances as this post and I don't really want to because the core message is good but Damn. Beating your kid and spanking them are very different things.
I spank my kids when they need it. That's hasn't happened for quite a while actually and I take no pleasure from it but get lost if you think it wasnt effective. I am also a loving father and my kids have always known they can talk to me even if I'm upset at something they did.
I was spanked as a child and endured various other creative punishments, I was never abused by my parents. I did learn that actions have consequences. Sometimes we may think those consequences are too severe but guess what, that's life. Children don't make the rules outside the home and shouldn't be allowed to do it inside the home.
The whole thing about the button being an erogenous zone...come on. Now a spanking isn't just abuse, it's molestation? Get real, my kids has never taken a spanking then given me a coy smile and asked for another. Are you really trying to say that every woman who likes a smack on the ass while you're getting down has some discipline fetishes because daddy spanked her?
This whole thing is wrong because like I said, I support the message. People who really abuse kids should face SEVERE punishments...or can we not discipline them either? We should get rid of jails and institute the "time out system" huh?
I spank my kids when they need it. That's hasn't happened for quite a while actually and I take no pleasure from it but get lost if you think it wasnt effective. I am also a loving father and my kids have always known they can talk to me even if I'm upset at something they did.
I was spanked as a child and endured various other creative punishments, I was never abused by my parents. I did learn that actions have consequences. Sometimes we may think those consequences are too severe but guess what, that's life. Children don't make the rules outside the home and shouldn't be allowed to do it inside the home.
The whole thing about the button being an erogenous zone...come on. Now a spanking isn't just abuse, it's molestation? Get real, my kids has never taken a spanking then given me a coy smile and asked for another. Are you really trying to say that every woman who likes a smack on the ass while you're getting down has some discipline fetishes because daddy spanked her?
This whole thing is wrong because like I said, I support the message. People who really abuse kids should face SEVERE punishments...or can we not discipline them either? We should get rid of jails and institute the "time out system" huh?
How does parallel get drawn between discipline and the rape and murder of a child?
I can't even imagine how anyone could hurt or neglect a child. This topic is nauseating.
Posted by TMV
How does parallel get drawn between discipline and the rape and murder of a child?
It's point 8 in that rant. Well, what I was talking about anyway...
Posted by LetltB
8. Spanking on the buttocks, an erogenous zone in childhood, can create in the child's mind an association between pain and sexual pleasure, and lead to difficulties in adulthood.
Eh... This sounds like some Freudian leap to explain why human sexuality isn't always black and white.
At any rate there's a hell of a difference between a swat on the butt and this...
Posted by Nemesis
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Whatever hidden agenda there may or may not be, this is still a positive message overall. People should be encouraged to speak up if they have legitimate concerns about a child's welfare.
^^Notice use of the word legitimate.^^
^^Notice use of the word legitimate.^^
The risks are higher, I don't know by much, by a step parent.
Posted by LetltB
That is a rather odd statement from a judge, that Richards should not go to prison because he will not —fare well.?? Does Judge Jurden think prison serves people well most of the time? Rehabilitation has been thrown out for the most part in American correctional policy now it's all about incapacitation — which is a good rationale for putting a child rapist in jail, it stops him from doing it again
Iif we, as a society, are going to move away from incapacitation towards rehabilitation of convicts, fine by me. But I have that sneaking suspicion that this sentence has a lot more to do with what Richards?? inherited than what he did.
....and here he is folks..what a guy
What the FUCK?
Does that crook of a judge think that the 3 yr old fared well being raped? Or that she'll continue to? Because by not locking him up, he will not only continue to be able to be near her, he'll also know that he'll get away with it, since the "poor" "little" rich boy would not be comfy in a prison cell! :,(
ugh
Posted by GetMisted
TMV, LIB spews out nothing more than agenda based propaganda.
She only presents on side of a story in order to suit her agenda.
In this case, it's to cause harm to a DXP user she does not like e.g. FixedWater
That is not what child abuse procedures are set up to do. And unfortunately, the way they are setup fails to protect against the abuse of the system.
Abusing the system is child abuse in itself.
smfh....if I wanted to resurrect that thread I would if I was looking for trouble... So you know what fuckhead? I SHOULD JUST SO YOU CAN BE RIGHT...how's that? Would that make you feel better? What's the matter? Is scorch crawling up your crotch again and getting your panties all in a wad again?
Posted by GetMisted
TMV, LIB spews out nothing more than agenda based propaganda.
She only presents on side of a story in order to suit her agenda.
In this case, it's to cause harm to a DXP user she does not like e.g. FixedWater
That is not what child abuse procedures are set up to do. And unfortunately, the way they are setup fails to protect against the abuse of the system.
Abusing the system is child abuse in itself.
You are ABSOLUTELY correct! Women who can't move on with their lives after a divorce/custody, who are spiteful do this all the time. My ex boyfriend and I won in court against his ex and put her ass in jail for doing this. Spiteful men do this as well. However...this thread is about ACTUAL child abuse. So go start another thread and stop derailing!
Here ya go...you have at it and pull it back up.. may it excite you for lubrication of scorches next entry..
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/recognizing-child-abuse-and-doing-something-4712523/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/recognizing-child-abuse-and-doing-something-4712523/
Also, remember that things like neglect and emotional abuse are very common types of child abuse. So, don't forget to keep an eye out for other signs along with the physical ones! (I remember learning that neglect is actually the most common type of child abuse, but I don't have the statistics/data anymore to reassure myself on that)
Posted by GetMisted
All I see is opinions, accusations with no evidence, and a severe dislike for the user you are targeting.
Way to go 😉
Go back and read..there's evidence with links. Did you bump the link up?
Posted by Scenic
Also, remember that things like neglect and emotional abuse are very common types of child abuse. So, don't forget to keep an eye out for other signs along with the physical ones! (I remember learning that neglect is actually the most common type of child abuse, but I don't have the statistics/data anymore to reassure myself on that)
People do forget that^^^neglect is by far the most common.
Posted by duchessedenemours
Whatever the motivation, thank you LIB.
It's my PASSION, it's what I witness weekly, and it's way over looked imo.
..and your welcome
Yea..you are just here to derail. Got it.
Whatever lube it takes eh? Fucking nut job.
Whatever lube it takes eh? Fucking nut job.
That's apparent.
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