what do you do when....

Someone calls the person you are hanging out with your man/girl. What do you do, correct them or let it go? If you let it go, why?

I usually always correct them, even if I am dating the person, but not "official".

There has been a few times I have gone with it because the person was trying to hit on me and asked if the male friend I came with was my man.

I just smile & keep it moving because what's the point of a correction? We both know that we aren't an item so whatever. Some people still don't get that people of the opposite sex can be just friends without any romantic interest whatsoever so if you correct every person that makes that mistake, then you'll be doing a whole lot of talking...to A LOT of people. Just smile & let them reach whatever conclusion their imagination allows them.

If there is a gracious or comfortable way to make the correction and joke it off, I will. But if doing so brings more attention to the subject, or seem insulting I'd rather smile wisely and change the topic.

I get that scorchedearth.I don't like the confusion. What is your sun and whatever placements that matter (if any lol)?

Water cup, what if the situation is different? You guys do care about each other but aren't officially dating or a friends with benefits situation? Does that change your reaction?

Why? Because it doesn't really matter, the person making that assumption is someone who really doesn't know me. And with any assumption like that, I just don't give a fuck. Think of me what you will, those opinion of me have little to no importance.

Posted by christinelovessnickers
I get that scorchedearth.I don't like the confusion. What is your sun and whatever placements that matter (if any lol)?

Water cup, what if the situation is different? You guys do care about each other but aren't officially dating or a friends with benefits situation? Does that change your reaction?

I'd smile again because it makes things less awkward. So much better than going into an essay about the true nature of your relationship. Not saying anything also gives you an opportunity to glance into the mind of the other person. Will they protest/go along with the "joke"? That should make you guys come out of the closet so to speak, that's if you haven't decided already.

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I just smile & keep it moving because what's the point of a correction? We both know that we aren't an item so whatever. Some people still don't get that people of the opposite sex can be just friends without any romantic interest whatsoever so if you correct every person that makes that mistake, then you'll be doing a whole lot of talking...to A LOT of people. Just smile & let them reach whatever conclusion their imagination allows them.

My knee-jerk reaction has been to correct them, and in some instances, the other party cleared up the misconception before I got the air-time.
TBH I wasn't the least bit offended when the platonic friend in question beat me to it by saying "we're not an item" or something to that effect.

Personally, I don't find it the least bit insulting--as if to suggest "EW! You think I'M with THEM?!"--obviously, being that we're platonic friends it's also fair to assume I do not, in fact, have a low opinion of the other party(and vice-versa).

Changing the subject, to me, just implies you're a couple mutually ashamed of their relationship & uncomfortable admitting the fact, or awkwardly uncertain...it's a simple question that warrants a one-word response.

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Not ashamed, it's just that with some people, that "one-word response" leads to a 101 other questions like, "Why not?". Blah blah blah. Making the whole situation a bit uncomfortable, especially if the other person is already in a relationship or you just never saw them like that. I hate intrusive questioning so a smile is the best response I can give when I don't feel like being rude to a nosy person.

Posted by christinelovessnickers
Someone calls the person you are hanging out with your man/girl. What do you do, correct them or let it go? If you let it go, why?

I would probably get cheeky and throw my arm around them and start calling them babe or something. But I can get away with that sort of thing because the people I generally hang out with would play along and banter.

Why? Because life is too short to take everything so seriously. It's not that big of a deal.

It'd depend on the situation. If a group of us was out, she was new, and someone said "hey, ask your girl..." I'd let it slide. If the next day my buddy comes over and says, "hey, your girl was...", I'd correct them.

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Someone calls the person you are hanging out with your man/girl. What do you do, correct them or let it go? If you let it go, why?

I would probably get cheeky and throw my arm around them and start calling them babe or something. But I can get away with that sort of thing because the people I generally hang out with would play along and banter.

Why? Because life is too short to take everything so seriously. It's not that big of a deal.

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I've done similar to this before when the person being called my girl was a friend and the other person didn't really know us. Reactions can be varied and fun.

I had it happened to me not too long ago. I didn't know the guy, but the guy I was with did. The guy kept saying "you and your girl" to the guy I was hanging with. I didn't say anything expecting him to say no or give a look, but didn't. I was surprised because i figured my friend as the type to let someone know, especially since he claims everyone is "just a friend".

Posted by christinelovessnickers
Someone calls the person you are hanging out with your man/girl. What do you do, correct them or let it go? If you let it go, why?

Um, depending on the person saying it, I'd most likely correct it.

I believe in opposite sex friendships so if I was out with a male friend & someone assumed we were together, I'd have no business not correcting that assumption since I'm actually married.

I've never understood why people are afraid to correct it. Perhaps they're afraid doing so is rude? If anything, it's just as rude for a person to automatically assume vs. just f'ing asking first! I thought the person making automatic assumptions was usually the azz?!

Look, if I'm not personally claiming someone myself, then I don't want others thinking I am claiming that person either.

If someone assumed I was single, I'd def. correct them & tell them I'm actually married, so what's the difference? How would you feel if a woman approached your man assuming he was single...wouldn't you expect him to correct her?!

Why is setting the record straight suddenly a bad or rude thing?! It's not what you say, it's how you say it. As long as it's polite, there shouldn't be a problem.

All you gotta do is politely say, "No, I'm sorry but we're not together."

It's not like you have to say EWWW HELL NO! & scrunch up your face! lolol

Plus, people talk & gossip too much. Refuse to correct them if you want. Next thing you know, the town thinks you're in a relationship with 2 people or someone you're not with at all

Size zero, that's true about the definitions. I guess I really don't know for sure how he had meant it. Most people I know don't use those terms for anything other than being together. Unless for same sex/ hetero & homosexual friendships (that sounds wrong, but I just have a specific gay man in mind that calls the ladies girl).

Rita: "I want you to meet my girl, Tanya"

Dan: " This is my main man Jon"

Ignore them.

If they ask, politely tell them to piss off thanks.

You guys are making something extremely simple, unnecessarily complicated.

You def. know the difference b/w "Hi, meet my girl Ashley" vs. "Heeey this is Ashley. She's my girrrrrrl man!" I mean come on. Demeanor, tone & body posture b/w 2 people speaks volumes & tells the true story if you're paying attention.

If there's no excuse to play it off like you're single if you're really not, then there's no excuse for acting too prideful or embarrassed to admit that the person you're with is not your partner if they truly aren't.

It seems that the real reason some people don't correct others in these situations sometimes is b/c they hate the empty pit in their stomach when they have to remind folks that nope, this amazing hot person next to them is not their partner. Some people hate the single life so much that they kinda enjoy the feeling when others think they're taken although they're not. This can be especially true if the person they're assumed to be with is popular, sexy, has status, is someone everybody wants or someone they'd love to be with anyways.

Again it's not what you say, it's how you say it. Plus, you might as well correct them for their wrong assumption since your body language & shifting eyes at that very moment probably told on you & gave it away!

I wasn't either. To be honest, I had just explained what I have noticed and so did Size zero. I wasn't taking any of this super serious; thought we were just conversating.

Dang I have crap service lol