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Does anyone else feel like they go through their physical daily lives as a fake person?

I feel guilty that it might seem I'm putting on a show at work and such. I do want to be friends with these people, but I come on too fake I think. When people share things with me I don't think I give the reactions people expect, or that I'm being ingenuine. It could totally be in my head. I guess everyone puts a show on at work. Espesh for the first few months.

Anyone else feel like they're putting on a face all the time?

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Does anyone else feel like they go through their physical daily lives as a fake person?

I feel guilty that it might seem I'm putting on a show at work and such. I do want to be friends with these people, but I come on too fake I think. When people share things with me I don't think I give the reactions people expect, or that I'm being ingenuine. It could totally be in my head. I guess everyone puts a show on at work. Espesh for the first few months.

Anyone else feel like they're putting on a face all the time?

How do you come off fake? Do you mean you're trying hard to fit in?

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Yeah I guess I do. I just get excited to be around people because when I'm not at work I'm with my boyfriend. So I am a bit of a try hard I guess. I need to tone it down!

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Does anyone else feel like they go through their physical daily lives as a fake person?

I feel guilty that it might seem I'm putting on a show at work and such. I do want to be friends with these people, but I come on too fake I think. When people share things with me I don't think I give the reactions people expect, or that I'm being ingenuine. It could totally be in my head. I guess everyone puts a show on at work. Espesh for the first few months.

Anyone else feel like they're putting on a face all the time?

Well you could be real and be disliked like me haha. People love to hear the good stuff. Read up on dale Carnegie how to win friends and influence people

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I will look into it lol.

And that's my fear for sure. Being disliked right off the bat without getting a chance.

Posted by tiziani
Well you're in a relatively new-ish country still. If there's one context where trying hard is (temporarily) understandable, it is that one.

Thanks for that. Yeah. I can't use it as an excuse forever. I am a lot better than when i first got here. I'm not as vulnerable and have a few people ive made acquintances with. It all just takes time. But when I think how friendly and cheesy I am at work I get embarrassed about it for sure.

Public speaking? On here you seem like you would do really well at it. You'll probably be just as eloquent as you are on here 🙂

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Does anyone else feel like they go through their physical daily lives as a fake person?

I feel guilty that it might seem I'm putting on a show at work and such. I do want to be friends with these people, but I come on too fake I think. When people share things with me I don't think I give the reactions people expect, or that I'm being ingenuine. It could totally be in my head. I guess everyone puts a show on at work. Espesh for the first few months.

Anyone else feel like they're putting on a face all the time?

How do you come off fake? Do you mean you're trying hard to fit in?

Yeah I guess I do. I just get excited to be around people because when I'm not at work I'm with my boyfriend. So I am a bit of a try hard I guess. I need to tone it down!

I don't think that's fake.

I think you're new and you're finding your place.

Once that phase is through you'll be comfortable and relaxed enough to be more yourself.

I can be really quiet @work...I like to keep it professional... I had / have to try more sometimes with coworkers because otherwise I know I could come off antisocial.... Eh.

Irl I'm social and talkative. I just keep those two worlds separate.

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Yeah. It makes sense that peoples work and social lives are kept seperate. As a friend of mine says, "dont poop where you eat." It's probably not a good idea to get too close to these people right away.

I believe that is listed under the descriptions of being a bit of an introvert - the exhaustion of being around so many people and trying to make sure you are doing/saying the right things - then when you get time alone it's like "yes!" ... that for me has also gotten better over the years plus from what I understand you are in a new place so yeah, that is understandable - it's not a fake you, you are just trying to overcompensate for all your new surroundings. Hopefully that will calm down for you at some point once routine sets in and you feel more comfortable with the crowd you are working with ...

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I believe that is listed under the descriptions of being a bit of an introvert - the exhaustion of being around so many people and trying to make sure you are doing/saying the right things - then when you get time alone it's like "yes!" ... that for me has also gotten better over the years plus from what I understand you are in a new place so yeah, that is understandable - it's not a fake you, you are just trying to overcompensate for all your new surroundings. Hopefully that will calm down for you at some point once routine sets in and you feel more comfortable with the crowd you are working with ...

Thanks!

I totally get the introvert thing. As badly as I'd like to make friends, I do find trying to get along with people exhausting. So i secretly just want to be alone all of the ttiiiime haha. But unfortunately life isn't like that..we are thrown into the world with a whole mixed bag of people that we have to get along with.

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Does anyone else feel like they go through their physical daily lives as a fake person?

I feel guilty that it might seem I'm putting on a show at work and such. I do want to be friends with these people, but I come on too fake I think. When people share things with me I don't think I give the reactions people expect, or that I'm being ingenuine. It could totally be in my head. I guess everyone puts a show on at work. Espesh for the first few months.

Anyone else feel like they're putting on a face all the time?

Well you could be real and be disliked like me haha. People love to hear the good stuff. Read up on dale Carnegie how to win friends and influence people

I will look into it lol.

And that's my fear for sure. Being disliked right off the bat without getting a chance.

Why the fuck do u care if people dislike you? The number fucking one rule is to be happy first dude. The right people will come to you trust me. Stop people pleasing but please yourself first. There's too many things in life to give a fuck about then people liking you. Just think why are you here on earth in the first place? It is to pursue your purpose and make yourself happy not for others!

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I guess I care because I don't have much to fall back on here. Well, I do. But I'd like to build relationships and make my life a little more comfortable and flexible. I just want connections. And also, I am hyper aware of how I come across in a foreign land so it's made me semi cray cray. Haha that part isn't so healthy. ?

Never !



what you see is exactly what you get from me in all aspects of my life, with every person in every situation.



be real or stfu is my motto

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Never !



what you see is exactly what you get from me in all aspects of my life, with every person in every situation.



be real or stfu is my motto

But you're p angel. You have to say that. 😉

Thanks!

I totally get the introvert thing. As badly as I'd like to make friends, I do find trying to get along with people exhausting. So i secretly just want to be alone all of the ttiiiime haha. But unfortunately life isn't like that..we are thrown into the world with a whole mixed bag of people that we have to get along with.



Yes we sure do and it's all in how we manage to be as comfortable as possible without totally alienating from society in itself. As I get older, I have found that too much solitude can also be detrimental to my mental health. I live in the country which I love but it is getting to me now that my BF is all but gone, and my BFF has moved to another state. I have to find new friends locally. I have nice neighbors and friends that I speak to and write to but none close to me now. It's very difficult. So I am selling my house and moving back near town. I used to manage by doing and being all that I could be when I had friends over or if we went to their place. Then when I returned home it was heaven. Entertaining is good if it's in your home - at least it was for me - because it was there that I felt most cozy and could be more of my laid back self - I would just put out this big spread of home-cooked food and say hey, the beers' in the fridge and please eat all this food and then we could all just hang out and relax by the fire or on the front porch watching for wildlife to come strolling by.

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Lol I wouldn't call it being fake but acting accordingly depending of your surroundings. I act differently with different people & that's just because there's a time & a place for different types of behaviors.

I agree. OP If you don't feel your reactions are quite fitting, try mirroring. an almost fake it til ya make it. I felt very awkward with others when I was younger bc well i am different from everyone else and had a hard time connecting. I have watched others to learn responses and reactions to those responses to decide how I'd like to approach someone or a situation. I think my "always want to get along with everyone" comes from my Gemini moon. Geminis are adaptable so I appreciate this harmonious side of myself. be genuine with your emotions so as not to feel fake, but it's ok to discern your reactions.

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Does anyone else feel like they go through their physical daily lives as a fake person?

I feel guilty that it might seem I'm putting on a show at work and such. I do want to be friends with these people, but I come on too fake I think. When people share things with me I don't think I give the reactions people expect, or that I'm being ingenuine. It could totally be in my head. I guess everyone puts a show on at work. Espesh for the first few months.

Anyone else feel like they're putting on a face all the time?

How do you come off fake? Do you mean you're trying hard to fit in?

Yeah I guess I do. I just get excited to be around people because when I'm not at work I'm with my boyfriend. So I am a bit of a try hard I guess. I need to tone it down!

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ay. You sound like a young me lol it gets easier with time. the more you watch, learn, and practice, the more fluid/natural it will become.

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Does anyone else feel like they go through their physical daily lives as a fake person?

I feel guilty that it might seem I'm putting on a show at work and such. I do want to be friends with these people, but I come on too fake I think. When people share things with me I don't think I give the reactions people expect, or that I'm being ingenuine. It could totally be in my head. I guess everyone puts a show on at work. Espesh for the first few months.

Anyone else feel like they're putting on a face all the time?

Well you could be real and be disliked like me haha. People love to hear the good stuff. Read up on dale Carnegie how to win friends and influence people

I will look into it lol.

And that's my fear for sure. Being disliked right off the bat without getting a chance.

Why the fuck do u care if people dislike you? The number fucking one rule is to be happy first dude. The right people will come to you trust me. Stop people pleasing but please yourself first. There's too many things in life to give a fuck about then people liking you. Just think why are you here on earth in the first place? It is to pursue your purpose and make yourself happy not for others!

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I dont think it's about being unhappy at all. She sounds happy with herself just not with her approaches with others. It's ok to want to be liked and accepted. It doesn't mean you are an unhappy, unfulfilled person. It just means you desire peaceful coexistance. Just dont be a doormat bc you want to be liked. It's ok to be disliked too. and that's something you will have to learn to accept as well. let it roll off when someone doesnt like you for no reason. THEIR LOSS!

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I believe that is listed under the descriptions of being a bit of an introvert - the exhaustion of being around so many people and trying to make sure you are doing/saying the right things - then when you get time alone it's like "yes!" ... that for me has also gotten better over the years plus from what I understand you are in a new place so yeah, that is understandable - it's not a fake you, you are just trying to overcompensate for all your new surroundings. Hopefully that will calm down for you at some point once routine sets in and you feel more comfortable with the crowd you are working with ...

Thanks!

I totally get the introvert thing. As badly as I'd like to make friends, I do find trying to get along with people exhausting. So i secretly just want to be alone all of the ttiiiime haha. But unfortunately life isn't like that..we are thrown into the world with a whole mixed bag of people that we have to get along with.

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... This is getting weird ... I can relate a lot to you in these aspects...

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Thanks!

I totally get the introvert thing. As badly as I'd like to make friends, I do find trying to get along with people exhausting. So i secretly just want to be alone all of the ttiiiime haha. But unfortunately life isn't like that..we are thrown into the world with a whole mixed bag of people that we have to get along with.



Yes we sure do and it's all in how we manage to be as comfortable as possible without totally alienating from society in itself. As I get older, I have found that too much solitude can also be detrimental to my mental health. I live in the country which I love but it is getting to me now that my BF is all but gone, and my BFF has moved to another state. I have to find new friends locally. I have nice neighbors and friends that I speak to and write to but none close to me now. It's very difficult. So I am selling my house and moving back near town. I used to manage by doing and being all that I could be when I had friends over or if we went to their place. Then when I returned home it was heaven. Entertaining is good if it's in your home - at least it was for me - because it was there that I felt most cozy and could be more of my laid back self - I would just put out this big spread of home-cooked food and say hey, the beers' in the fridge and please eat all this food and then we could all just hang out and relax by the fire or on the front porch watching for wildlife to come strolling by.







I totally get all of that. I used to be the same back home.. I held so many get togethers, would make food or order everyone pizza. We'd have youtube connected to big speakers and everyone would get to play the songs they'd like. And always beer in the fridge!!

And I also agree with you about spending too much time alone.. too much time to think about things and get paranoid. Its good to constantly put yourself in social situations.

Hopefully you moving back home will make you less disconnected from people. Home is where the heart is 🙂

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Never !



what you see is exactly what you get from me in all aspects of my life, with every person in every situation.



be real or stfu is my motto

But you're p angel. You have to say that. 😉

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I'm not P-Angle and I do the same.

In my experience I lose nothing with being myself.

People are more awsome than you think. at least when Venus is in Libra or Taurus. peace!

not, really, it's exhausting people's reality to want them to be always nice to you. directly or behind you. there are always chances that we do or say things that turn off somebody. they have other problems and could project it to us.

As real person they feel at least secure with you. be you. it's a success story.

I'm the craziest person one could imagine. still I have enough success to lean on.

the idea that being fake is needed may come from a wrong lesson in the past.

(if we let astrology out of it)

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Does anyone else feel like they go through their physical daily lives as a fake person?

I feel guilty that it might seem I'm putting on a show at work and such. I do want to be friends with these people, but I come on too fake I think. When people share things with me I don't think I give the reactions people expect, or that I'm being ingenuine. It could totally be in my head. I guess everyone puts a show on at work. Espesh for the first few months.

Anyone else feel like they're putting on a face all the time?

Well you could be real and be disliked like me haha. People love to hear the good stuff. Read up on dale Carnegie how to win friends and influence people

I will look into it lol.

And that's my fear for sure. Being disliked right off the bat without getting a chance.

Why the fuck do u care if people dislike you? The number fucking one rule is to be happy first dude. The right people will come to you trust me. Stop people pleasing but please yourself first. There's too many things in life to give a fuck about then people liking you. Just think why are you here on earth in the first place? It is to pursue your purpose and make yourself happy not for others!

I dont think it's about being unhappy at all. She sounds happy with herself just not with her approaches with others. It's ok to want to be liked and accepted. It doesn't mean you are an unhappy, unfulfilled person. It just means you desire peaceful coexistance. Just dont be a doormat bc you want to be liked. It's ok to be disliked too. and that's something you will have to learn to accept as well. let it roll off when someone doesnt like you for no reason. THEIR LOSS!

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Thanks for your replies. I don't think I'm a doormat. Of course I have to be somewhat agreeable at work.. but that's just with any job.

I do desire peaceful coexistence with everyone right now! And you're right, the more you mirror the easier it is. I need to become more relaxed and fluid... I think in time it will all be alright. As you have said, you've gotten better at it with time.